When it comes to looking for single women today a many does not need to rely solely on the services of a dating agency or placing a personal ad. Rather what they can do instead is visit a number of different places where they live and which may well result in them meeting the woman of their dreams. The great thing about looking for single women in this way is that it does not cost you anything.
Below we take a look at the kinds of places that you may want to consider visiting in order for you to find single women that you can meet with. But even when you do get there do not think that single women are going to be falling all over themselves to be with you it is going to take time and patience on your part.
The first place you may want to try in order to meet single women is at bars and nightclubs. But if you can rather than hitting the trendiest spots in town, where the music is loud head for the much quieter ones instead. A large number of women who are intent of meeting men for a more meaningful relationship will go to these kinds of places as they know that they will be able to hold a conversation with someone without having to shout all the time.
But if you are not a night owl then another great place when it comes to looking for and meeting single women is a bookstore. If you can head for those ones that have a coffee shop inside or attached to it. Then once you have browsed the various sections of the store and met the woman who seems to have the same interests as you why not invite her to coffee.
Although it may seem like an unlikely place for a man to meet single women in but the video store is a great place as well. So next time your in picking up the latest blockbuster movie then take a few seconds to see whom else is in. You will be amazed at just how many single women there are looking for something to watch as well.
Another place that is ideal to visit when it comes to you looking to meet single women is the local Laundromat. This is a place where many bored single women will spend a few hours each week and so if you have just moved into the area it is a great way of getting to know about it as well as being able to meet single women as well.
The final place we recommend when it comes to looking for single women is the supermarket, but not the convenience store just round the corner from you. Instead, you need to head for the much larger more well known supermarkets around. In fact, today in some places they have now started having singles nights where you can stroll along the aisles and meet like minded soles if you wish.
Above we have provided some of the best places to visit when it comes to looking for single women. So why not spend some time at each one and decide upon the one you feel most comfortable in then visit it several times a week and you will soon find yourself meeting plenty of new women.
There are several different things a man can do when it comes to looking for single women to meet and date. If you would like to find out more with regards to Looking For Single Women then click on this link.
Monday, November 26, 2007
Women Can Talk, Men Just Can't Listen?
Men think that all the communication is in words that come out of his mouth. It is a fact that words only account for 7% of the communication piece. 93% of our communication is through body language and tone of voice.
Women are physically attracted to a man that walks tall, with his shoulders back and head up always. This shows a sense of confidence that have in everything they do. In fact, this is doing yourself a favour as well, by doing this you actually will feel confident and attractive. This aura of confidence is what women seek in the man the want.
Most men and women for that matter make the mistake of looking away when they suddenly realize that a person of the opposite sex is looking at them. This is good, because to set yourself apart from all the other men around, your only job is to then maintain eye contact if you sense a women looking at you. Maintaining eye contact does not mean to start at her 24/7. Its just that slight eye contact hold with a subtle smile at her. This lets her know that she is dealing with one solid, confident and powerful man that can take her and melt her. She is now attracted to you without needing to even say anything. You are no longer the chaser but the selector now. You have swapped positions.
Rejection is a powerful perception always lingering in the back of a man’s mind when it comes to women. Thus men try to fully read a woman before making his move just to be sure. This is a waste of time and energy. If a woman is friendly towards you, ask her for her contact details or even better, ask her for a date right their and then. This will show your confidence towards her and she will be naturally attracted towards you. If you are alone on a walk and you can feel there is a strong chemistry between the two of you, reach over and just give a slight peck on the forehead or cheek. This will catch her by surprise in a good way. She will feel good even though she will try her best to hold it back. Always move forward. This gradually builds up your confidence around women.
Although it was previously mentioned that words only make up a small portion of the overall communication, it is still important that we learn to use the language and talk to a woman to stimulate her imagination. Women use their imagination far more than a man does and if you can trigger her imagination of you kissing and caressing her, she cannot tell the difference between what’s real and what’s imagined. Either way, she’s feeling it and she’ll die to want that physical touch because she’s already felt it.
Combine body posture, eye contact, with words you say and tone of voice into your overall communication arsenal and you will attract all the women you can handle. Imagine the confidence you radiate within your environment!
In the mean time, Good Luck!
OR if you would like to receive a FREE copy of a limited number of the eGuide “Instant Magnetic Attraction†and discover “What do Women Really Want From Menâ€, check out www.secrets2datingsuccess.com
Terry Leslie is a successful and world renowned authority figure on creating and maintaining successful relationships. A much sought after global speaker in the areas of intimate relationships, self-improvement and human peak potential training. Terry Leslie travels the globe with the aim of sharing and empowering anyone who wishes to learn and apply the methods which has been developed through practical experience and help those who wish to lear
Women are physically attracted to a man that walks tall, with his shoulders back and head up always. This shows a sense of confidence that have in everything they do. In fact, this is doing yourself a favour as well, by doing this you actually will feel confident and attractive. This aura of confidence is what women seek in the man the want.
Most men and women for that matter make the mistake of looking away when they suddenly realize that a person of the opposite sex is looking at them. This is good, because to set yourself apart from all the other men around, your only job is to then maintain eye contact if you sense a women looking at you. Maintaining eye contact does not mean to start at her 24/7. Its just that slight eye contact hold with a subtle smile at her. This lets her know that she is dealing with one solid, confident and powerful man that can take her and melt her. She is now attracted to you without needing to even say anything. You are no longer the chaser but the selector now. You have swapped positions.
Rejection is a powerful perception always lingering in the back of a man’s mind when it comes to women. Thus men try to fully read a woman before making his move just to be sure. This is a waste of time and energy. If a woman is friendly towards you, ask her for her contact details or even better, ask her for a date right their and then. This will show your confidence towards her and she will be naturally attracted towards you. If you are alone on a walk and you can feel there is a strong chemistry between the two of you, reach over and just give a slight peck on the forehead or cheek. This will catch her by surprise in a good way. She will feel good even though she will try her best to hold it back. Always move forward. This gradually builds up your confidence around women.
Although it was previously mentioned that words only make up a small portion of the overall communication, it is still important that we learn to use the language and talk to a woman to stimulate her imagination. Women use their imagination far more than a man does and if you can trigger her imagination of you kissing and caressing her, she cannot tell the difference between what’s real and what’s imagined. Either way, she’s feeling it and she’ll die to want that physical touch because she’s already felt it.
Combine body posture, eye contact, with words you say and tone of voice into your overall communication arsenal and you will attract all the women you can handle. Imagine the confidence you radiate within your environment!
In the mean time, Good Luck!
OR if you would like to receive a FREE copy of a limited number of the eGuide “Instant Magnetic Attraction†and discover “What do Women Really Want From Menâ€, check out www.secrets2datingsuccess.com
Terry Leslie is a successful and world renowned authority figure on creating and maintaining successful relationships. A much sought after global speaker in the areas of intimate relationships, self-improvement and human peak potential training. Terry Leslie travels the globe with the aim of sharing and empowering anyone who wishes to learn and apply the methods which has been developed through practical experience and help those who wish to lear
Seducing A Woman Within Five Minutes Of Meeting Her
Are you the sort of guy who never gets lucky? It doesn't matter how romantic the restaurant or how stunning the sunset, every date you go on ends with a peck on the cheek and the news that you're “just like a brother�
You can't understand it. You meet these great girls, you pluck up the courage to ask them out and they obviously like you enough to say yes. But by the end of the evening whatever attraction they may have felt has melted down into nothing more than friendship.
You don't know where you're going wrong.
But I do.
You see, while you may instantly like the looks of someone, genuine attraction takes a little longer to form. Connections are based on more than a nice suit and some good manners, and if all you've got to offer is pleasant conversation you're never going to get a girl excited.
But I'm here to help. There are all sorts of tricks you can use to get and keep a girl's attention, and I'm about to tell you some of the best.
Remember that the first date is like an audition. Whether you're after one night of fun or something more long term, you need to convince this chick that you know how to treat her right. Hold doors open for her, take her coat, and insist upon footing the bill. Don't compliment her upon her physical attributes, but do admire her clothes, her choice of wine or her graceful way of walking.
Make your body language work for you. If you don't seem sure you deserve her attention, she'll become certain you don't. Present yourself as a calm and confident man by maintaining eye contact, resisting the urge to fiddle, and talking in a low, clear tone.
Listen to what she's saying and be genuine with your reactions. Girls can spot a fake grin a mile off, so keep your smiles and your laughter natural. Look for common interests and shared beliefs; being able to enthuse about the same films, music or sports will create an instant connection.
More importantly, keep the conversation light hearted. You want her to view you as a source of fun, not her new confidant, so if she starts to share her worries and woes with you steer the conversation back onto happier topics. Likewise, keep your own dilemmas to yourself �" neurotic men do not come across as sexy; mysterious men do.
There's little more attractive to a woman than knowing you're really into her, but rather than simply blurting it out, use a few clever body language tricks to let her know you like her. Turn your shoulders and knees so you're fully facing her, glance at her lips and, if there's a table between you, place your hands on top of it. Find excuses to reach out and touch her. Start by brushing your hand against hers when you're emphasizing a point. As the night goes on, touch her arm and, later, her knee. She'll soon start thinking about other forms of physical contact with you.
There's a fine line between friendly conversation and effective flirting. By following the tips above, you can keep on the right side of it and grab her attention. Keep the evening fun, the talk upbeat and your focus firmly upon her, and you can ensure that you need never end another date by agreeing to just be friends.
Want to learn 50 WAYS for approaching, attracting and seducing women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson's Free eBook which provides 50 tips for instant dating success.
You can't understand it. You meet these great girls, you pluck up the courage to ask them out and they obviously like you enough to say yes. But by the end of the evening whatever attraction they may have felt has melted down into nothing more than friendship.
You don't know where you're going wrong.
But I do.
You see, while you may instantly like the looks of someone, genuine attraction takes a little longer to form. Connections are based on more than a nice suit and some good manners, and if all you've got to offer is pleasant conversation you're never going to get a girl excited.
But I'm here to help. There are all sorts of tricks you can use to get and keep a girl's attention, and I'm about to tell you some of the best.
Remember that the first date is like an audition. Whether you're after one night of fun or something more long term, you need to convince this chick that you know how to treat her right. Hold doors open for her, take her coat, and insist upon footing the bill. Don't compliment her upon her physical attributes, but do admire her clothes, her choice of wine or her graceful way of walking.
Make your body language work for you. If you don't seem sure you deserve her attention, she'll become certain you don't. Present yourself as a calm and confident man by maintaining eye contact, resisting the urge to fiddle, and talking in a low, clear tone.
Listen to what she's saying and be genuine with your reactions. Girls can spot a fake grin a mile off, so keep your smiles and your laughter natural. Look for common interests and shared beliefs; being able to enthuse about the same films, music or sports will create an instant connection.
More importantly, keep the conversation light hearted. You want her to view you as a source of fun, not her new confidant, so if she starts to share her worries and woes with you steer the conversation back onto happier topics. Likewise, keep your own dilemmas to yourself �" neurotic men do not come across as sexy; mysterious men do.
There's little more attractive to a woman than knowing you're really into her, but rather than simply blurting it out, use a few clever body language tricks to let her know you like her. Turn your shoulders and knees so you're fully facing her, glance at her lips and, if there's a table between you, place your hands on top of it. Find excuses to reach out and touch her. Start by brushing your hand against hers when you're emphasizing a point. As the night goes on, touch her arm and, later, her knee. She'll soon start thinking about other forms of physical contact with you.
There's a fine line between friendly conversation and effective flirting. By following the tips above, you can keep on the right side of it and grab her attention. Keep the evening fun, the talk upbeat and your focus firmly upon her, and you can ensure that you need never end another date by agreeing to just be friends.
Want to learn 50 WAYS for approaching, attracting and seducing women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson's Free eBook which provides 50 tips for instant dating success.
She is Testing You - Retaliate Now
Women test men all the time. Even if none of men like this, we all know that we can't live without them. So, hating women or trying to live without them is not viable solution. The best thing we can do is to accept that they do and will test us.
''The test'' is that unexpected, unexplained, quirky situation inflicted on a man by a woman in a relationship. Women love to test men by throwing obscure theoretical questions, and especially to judge them. They usually like to test men, who are interested in, for whom they feel some attraction. They try to tell things about men by observing certain aspects of their behavior, or telling them things and judging them according on how they react.
Women test men because they need to quickly figure out what they're dealing with, and they can't expect a man to be straight up and honest about his strengths and weakness. Women are attention-seekers in constant need of reassurance and affirmation that someone cares for them and wants to protect them. They need to know that you'll set limits that you'll stand up for yourself, this making them feel safe. It gives them the reassurance that you are strong enough and confident enough to fight back when you are provoked and that you are capable of protecting them from danger.
They test us to see how strong emotionally we are, how smart we are, or enjoy to make men feel uncomfortable. So, even if she has a high interest in you, even she is always sweet, loving and giving person, she will always feel the need dig any question. A healthier attitude is to love and enjoy women for all their great qualities, while learning to deal with their tests.
But, from where you can know when you are tested? First you should ask yourself if the event makes sense in the context of the situation; if the answer is no, then you are probably being tested. How they do this? Here are some examples:
-she likes to flirt with another man in front of you - the best thing you can do is to ignore it when it happens; you can start by chatting evenings with other women or friends of her; this will cool her off, and she will change this habit
-she cancel your meeting in the last minute- this is very disappointing because you are ready to walk out the door and only then she tells you she is not coming anymore; you can prevent this from the beginning by telling her that you hate girls which cancel dates; but sometimes she may have a good reason to cancel the meeting
-she likes to turn you on while making out, just to see if you respect her ; best you can do is to stay calm, relax, don't sulk or push it; if she sees you are cool about it and you aren't stressed, you will see that she'll likely relaxed and you have pass the test;
-also there are times when women confuse men , act evasive and feign disinterest in order to try to communicate to men, because they don't like to be taken for granted, being scared to not have their heart broken by a man.
There are times when a woman is testing you intentionally or unintentionally. When she makes it intentionally she will do or say something as an attempt to bait man into reacting to her; she wants to find out if you have a strong reality and identity; she might be acting like ignoring you, teasing you about a flaw you have, trying to make you jealous and so on. So use your own discretion and don't react to her too quickly. She might test you unintentionally, but your reactions will be judged; she has desire to be validated for her beauty and a yearning for the rush to chasing a man who is a prize; so you have to show her you have a strong reality and identity, to not validate her too much so that she'll be satisfied; give her just enough to keep her waiting, reaching and chasing you for more of it.
Now you know that any woman will test you. All you have to do is to accept that, and learn how to deal with. For dealing with any type of test you have to have the necessary tools; if you have these, you may use all these tests to your advantage.
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''The test'' is that unexpected, unexplained, quirky situation inflicted on a man by a woman in a relationship. Women love to test men by throwing obscure theoretical questions, and especially to judge them. They usually like to test men, who are interested in, for whom they feel some attraction. They try to tell things about men by observing certain aspects of their behavior, or telling them things and judging them according on how they react.
Women test men because they need to quickly figure out what they're dealing with, and they can't expect a man to be straight up and honest about his strengths and weakness. Women are attention-seekers in constant need of reassurance and affirmation that someone cares for them and wants to protect them. They need to know that you'll set limits that you'll stand up for yourself, this making them feel safe. It gives them the reassurance that you are strong enough and confident enough to fight back when you are provoked and that you are capable of protecting them from danger.
They test us to see how strong emotionally we are, how smart we are, or enjoy to make men feel uncomfortable. So, even if she has a high interest in you, even she is always sweet, loving and giving person, she will always feel the need dig any question. A healthier attitude is to love and enjoy women for all their great qualities, while learning to deal with their tests.
But, from where you can know when you are tested? First you should ask yourself if the event makes sense in the context of the situation; if the answer is no, then you are probably being tested. How they do this? Here are some examples:
-she likes to flirt with another man in front of you - the best thing you can do is to ignore it when it happens; you can start by chatting evenings with other women or friends of her; this will cool her off, and she will change this habit
-she cancel your meeting in the last minute- this is very disappointing because you are ready to walk out the door and only then she tells you she is not coming anymore; you can prevent this from the beginning by telling her that you hate girls which cancel dates; but sometimes she may have a good reason to cancel the meeting
-she likes to turn you on while making out, just to see if you respect her ; best you can do is to stay calm, relax, don't sulk or push it; if she sees you are cool about it and you aren't stressed, you will see that she'll likely relaxed and you have pass the test;
-also there are times when women confuse men , act evasive and feign disinterest in order to try to communicate to men, because they don't like to be taken for granted, being scared to not have their heart broken by a man.
There are times when a woman is testing you intentionally or unintentionally. When she makes it intentionally she will do or say something as an attempt to bait man into reacting to her; she wants to find out if you have a strong reality and identity; she might be acting like ignoring you, teasing you about a flaw you have, trying to make you jealous and so on. So use your own discretion and don't react to her too quickly. She might test you unintentionally, but your reactions will be judged; she has desire to be validated for her beauty and a yearning for the rush to chasing a man who is a prize; so you have to show her you have a strong reality and identity, to not validate her too much so that she'll be satisfied; give her just enough to keep her waiting, reaching and chasing you for more of it.
Now you know that any woman will test you. All you have to do is to accept that, and learn how to deal with. For dealing with any type of test you have to have the necessary tools; if you have these, you may use all these tests to your advantage.
Visit the largest database of romanian women at www.eBridex.com
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Match Your Pace & How to Avoid the Big Trap - Dating Advice for Men
One of the most recurring mental blocks men face before they date is their eagerness to plunge into a deep, stable and unbreakable relationship. We must realize that men and women think, act and decide differently. Women thoroughly relish the long swelling waves of romancing that go up and down in their minds. They feel completely absorbed, engulfed and rejuvenated while going through the rigmarole of emotional upheavals. On the contrary, men like less drama, less of emotional splurge and more of stability, sailing in tranquility of a rock-steady relationship.
What is the result of this mismatch of perspectives? You rush in and latch on to the woman of your life - as if there is no tomorrow - and the woman is viewing it totally differently. She visualizes pain before pleasure. Spends time thinking of what holds in future, thereby neglecting how she can hold on to the present. Exclusivity, monogamy - women yearn for that - but all at the pace which she sets. The course and speed of the game is decided by her.
It is therefore important to appreciate that both men and women respond to different emotional clocks when it comes to developing a relationship; the sense of timing is mutually exclusive. The Big Trap is just this. You are in a hurry to grab, and eventually fall out of the race - for no fault of yours. Happening mostly to men who are a "One Woman Man" and who date infrequently, women also are frequent victims of the Big Trap, for they also wish to become a "One Man Woman" and are monogamous by nature. Yet men who are cool about meeting and dating many women - which I sincerely plead you to follow - hardly fall into the Big Trap.
Your earnest desire is to bring an end to this tempestuous "affair" associated with dating and stabilize the relationship - none of the wildness of dating makes you happy - you want to go steady with a single woman. Reasons are aplenty for such behavior from men - seeking immediate but temporary monogamy. Definitely, a faulty understanding of women and wrong assumptions of their minds and beliefs is surely one of the main ones.
One more reason why men want to move fast is their restlessness to delve into the "unknown". They hate to be kept in the dark for too long. The eternal question: will she agree to sex, won't she agree to sex, bores and irritates the man. And with every passing day, the curiosity increases. If only such men knew the pleasures of a single man, without any holdings, free of emotional baggage - they would never get so stagnated and close all doors to glorious opportunities, that lie hidden.
So what happens when you are a victim of The Big Trap? You need to have a steady and stable relationship, as discussed above. As you carry on meeting women, your adrenalin rises to a peak, you get emotionally charged, yet with the lack of proper knowledge or understanding of the woman's nature and expectations, you fall flat. You gradually start to lose ground. That affects your own sense of pride, self esteem. You start thinking romancing is a self-defeating exercise.
This is where a vicious cycle sets in. The more you lose out on women, the more you start hating not only yourself, but women too. The Loser Boy visits you often in your thoughts and dreams. It becomes impossible for you to improve upon your attitudes and behavior because remember: failure breeds failure, exactly the way success does. The miserable feeling amongst single men, is inevitable.
Or, perhaps you might date for a little while, find someone who doesn't quite enthrall you, but you settle for the "second best" so to speak. Over a period of time, you start to realize, much to your disappointment, that you have settled for mediocrity - neither did you want this kind of woman, nor did you deserve her type. She, in turn gets more and more possessive - because she is also perhaps going through the same emotional drill as you are - settling for the "second best". Physically may be together, but mentally, you are far, far apart.
This kind of negativity overwhelms you and since the very nature of such emotional upheavals is cyclical, it gets repeated over and over again. By now you would have already developed a fixed mindset: "Want to Get out of this soonest" - this very attitude destroys you further. The more you hate the concept of dating and meeting women, you are trying to evade the very process designed to improve your expertise in the area and bring about mental stability. It is time you thought like: "So many women, so little time", as the wider and broader you make your choices, the more your chances of meeting many, many women.
Unless you broaden your horizon about women and dating, falling into the Big Trap will remain inevitable. Make women an "add on" to your otherwise glorious life, rather than the "end all and be all" of it. Don't make her the reason for your existence - rather a small part of your existence. To ingratiate yourself with this kind of mental outlook is first, gather information (get empowered with knowledge), second, take the right decisions (act on the knowledge) and third, bask in the glory of your well-deserved success. Change the way you thought and acted till now, and be the man of your dreams, the man you always wanted to be.
Joshua Goh is dating & relationship expert. For more information on up-to-date dating reviews and practical online dating tips & tricks, please visit Cupidwave.com
What is the result of this mismatch of perspectives? You rush in and latch on to the woman of your life - as if there is no tomorrow - and the woman is viewing it totally differently. She visualizes pain before pleasure. Spends time thinking of what holds in future, thereby neglecting how she can hold on to the present. Exclusivity, monogamy - women yearn for that - but all at the pace which she sets. The course and speed of the game is decided by her.
It is therefore important to appreciate that both men and women respond to different emotional clocks when it comes to developing a relationship; the sense of timing is mutually exclusive. The Big Trap is just this. You are in a hurry to grab, and eventually fall out of the race - for no fault of yours. Happening mostly to men who are a "One Woman Man" and who date infrequently, women also are frequent victims of the Big Trap, for they also wish to become a "One Man Woman" and are monogamous by nature. Yet men who are cool about meeting and dating many women - which I sincerely plead you to follow - hardly fall into the Big Trap.
Your earnest desire is to bring an end to this tempestuous "affair" associated with dating and stabilize the relationship - none of the wildness of dating makes you happy - you want to go steady with a single woman. Reasons are aplenty for such behavior from men - seeking immediate but temporary monogamy. Definitely, a faulty understanding of women and wrong assumptions of their minds and beliefs is surely one of the main ones.
One more reason why men want to move fast is their restlessness to delve into the "unknown". They hate to be kept in the dark for too long. The eternal question: will she agree to sex, won't she agree to sex, bores and irritates the man. And with every passing day, the curiosity increases. If only such men knew the pleasures of a single man, without any holdings, free of emotional baggage - they would never get so stagnated and close all doors to glorious opportunities, that lie hidden.
So what happens when you are a victim of The Big Trap? You need to have a steady and stable relationship, as discussed above. As you carry on meeting women, your adrenalin rises to a peak, you get emotionally charged, yet with the lack of proper knowledge or understanding of the woman's nature and expectations, you fall flat. You gradually start to lose ground. That affects your own sense of pride, self esteem. You start thinking romancing is a self-defeating exercise.
This is where a vicious cycle sets in. The more you lose out on women, the more you start hating not only yourself, but women too. The Loser Boy visits you often in your thoughts and dreams. It becomes impossible for you to improve upon your attitudes and behavior because remember: failure breeds failure, exactly the way success does. The miserable feeling amongst single men, is inevitable.
Or, perhaps you might date for a little while, find someone who doesn't quite enthrall you, but you settle for the "second best" so to speak. Over a period of time, you start to realize, much to your disappointment, that you have settled for mediocrity - neither did you want this kind of woman, nor did you deserve her type. She, in turn gets more and more possessive - because she is also perhaps going through the same emotional drill as you are - settling for the "second best". Physically may be together, but mentally, you are far, far apart.
This kind of negativity overwhelms you and since the very nature of such emotional upheavals is cyclical, it gets repeated over and over again. By now you would have already developed a fixed mindset: "Want to Get out of this soonest" - this very attitude destroys you further. The more you hate the concept of dating and meeting women, you are trying to evade the very process designed to improve your expertise in the area and bring about mental stability. It is time you thought like: "So many women, so little time", as the wider and broader you make your choices, the more your chances of meeting many, many women.
Unless you broaden your horizon about women and dating, falling into the Big Trap will remain inevitable. Make women an "add on" to your otherwise glorious life, rather than the "end all and be all" of it. Don't make her the reason for your existence - rather a small part of your existence. To ingratiate yourself with this kind of mental outlook is first, gather information (get empowered with knowledge), second, take the right decisions (act on the knowledge) and third, bask in the glory of your well-deserved success. Change the way you thought and acted till now, and be the man of your dreams, the man you always wanted to be.
Joshua Goh is dating & relationship expert. For more information on up-to-date dating reviews and practical online dating tips & tricks, please visit Cupidwave.com
The Alluring Impression of Men's Sounds & Smells - the Naked Truth in Dating
Personal hygiene and many of our mannerisms - we somehow take these aspects too much for granted. I am including this topic here primarily because I realize that too many of us are not even aware that certain very subtle signals that we give out in terms of sounds and smells, play a very important role in making us attractive or otherwise. For instance, here are a few voluntary and involuntary sounds we make, which are terribly disgusting to women and make us very unacceptable to them:
* Burping: Yes, it happens normally after a heavy meal. But refrain, even at the most casual get-togethers. If you find it coming, excuse yourself politely and go out and release yourself.
* Snorting, snoring and other throat related noises: Control them or cure them. They act as lady-repellants.
* Farting: Disgusting, yet such a natural physiological phenomenon. And it is controllable - through proper medication and diet control. Just a wee bit of care for your health, and you can manage to evade this horrible event.
* Breath: This is important. You can check if you have bad breath just by licking your skin or smelling your saliva. Always carry mouth-fresheners or chew mint occasionally (not gum).
* Foot odor: It can be so obnoxious that you can throw an entire roomful of people out, the moment you open your shoes. Guys, change your socks regularly and use shoe deodorizers. They are easily available.
The other very successful and popular lady-repellant is your body odor (B.O in short). If you do not want ladies (except those living in underdeveloped countries) to appear within a mile radius, go ahead and stay with your B.O. Guys, have a good bath regularly. Use Deodorants for your armpits and antiperspirants, if you sweat like a horse. There are some men who are used to having a "Gypsy Bath" - meaning covering up their stinks with perfumes, colognes, body sprays and after-shaves. Remember these can never fully paralyze your own B.O.
Practice having good showers, more so, if you are living in a tropical climate. I remember working with a guy, who used to spray Brut allover his clothes - so much so every time he walked past, you would imagine a carcass van just went by. I did talk to him about improving his personal hygiene, but then, you would hardly find anyone giving you advice on these issues. Because it is such a delicate and personal subject not many people wish to discuss about it. You have to take care of it yourself.
In case you use cologne or an after-shave, use good, high-quality brands. Some perfumes suit particular bodies. Try and find out which one suit you best. And for heavens' sake use little. There are some men, who move about smelling like a room-deodorant. Calvin Klein brands are used by many men but there are many unique low-publicized brands, which are equally good and lasting. Ideally your woman should smell you when she gets close to you, not making a beeline for the door to run away from the perfume.
Joshua Goh is dating & relationship expert. For more information on up-to-date dating reviews and practical online dating tips & tricks, please visit Cupidwave.com
* Burping: Yes, it happens normally after a heavy meal. But refrain, even at the most casual get-togethers. If you find it coming, excuse yourself politely and go out and release yourself.
* Snorting, snoring and other throat related noises: Control them or cure them. They act as lady-repellants.
* Farting: Disgusting, yet such a natural physiological phenomenon. And it is controllable - through proper medication and diet control. Just a wee bit of care for your health, and you can manage to evade this horrible event.
* Breath: This is important. You can check if you have bad breath just by licking your skin or smelling your saliva. Always carry mouth-fresheners or chew mint occasionally (not gum).
* Foot odor: It can be so obnoxious that you can throw an entire roomful of people out, the moment you open your shoes. Guys, change your socks regularly and use shoe deodorizers. They are easily available.
The other very successful and popular lady-repellant is your body odor (B.O in short). If you do not want ladies (except those living in underdeveloped countries) to appear within a mile radius, go ahead and stay with your B.O. Guys, have a good bath regularly. Use Deodorants for your armpits and antiperspirants, if you sweat like a horse. There are some men who are used to having a "Gypsy Bath" - meaning covering up their stinks with perfumes, colognes, body sprays and after-shaves. Remember these can never fully paralyze your own B.O.
Practice having good showers, more so, if you are living in a tropical climate. I remember working with a guy, who used to spray Brut allover his clothes - so much so every time he walked past, you would imagine a carcass van just went by. I did talk to him about improving his personal hygiene, but then, you would hardly find anyone giving you advice on these issues. Because it is such a delicate and personal subject not many people wish to discuss about it. You have to take care of it yourself.
In case you use cologne or an after-shave, use good, high-quality brands. Some perfumes suit particular bodies. Try and find out which one suit you best. And for heavens' sake use little. There are some men, who move about smelling like a room-deodorant. Calvin Klein brands are used by many men but there are many unique low-publicized brands, which are equally good and lasting. Ideally your woman should smell you when she gets close to you, not making a beeline for the door to run away from the perfume.
Joshua Goh is dating & relationship expert. For more information on up-to-date dating reviews and practical online dating tips & tricks, please visit Cupidwave.com
Online Dating mistakes men make that put women off
In general, there are more men dating online than there are women. So if you are a man trying to find love online, you will want to make sure you're going about things the right way. Although there are no failsafe written rules for online dating, there are certain unwritten etiquette rules that are advisable to follow if you want to get the best result out of your online dating experience.
Below is a list of ten things that are likely put women off dating you online.
No picture
Women (and men, for that matter) like to know who they are talking to. Having no picture makes women think you have something to hide. This could be anything from bad looks to already being married. Don't worry about your looks, different people have different tastes. However, having no picture up would make women imagine the worst, even if, in reality, they would actually find you attractive. A clear headshot of you smiling says you are genuine, friendly and serious about finding someone.
Naked pictures
It's hard to believe that this needs saying at all, but some men choose to upload nude pictures of themselves to websites rather than headshots. This is acceptable behaviour on adult-themed dating sites where people are generally only after sex, but on all other sites this causes annoyance, if not distress. Even people who specify they are interested in casual relationships are not likely to respond favourably to naked pictures. Unless you are certain this kind of behaviour is acceptable on the site, don't do it.
Accusing tone
People who have had bad dating experience occasionally try and protect themselves from being hurt by writing a profile warning off "undesirables". Obviously, no one likes having their time wasted by the wrong kind of people, but filling large parts of your profile with references to the sort of people you don't want to meet can make you sound unapproachable, unfriendly or even paranoid. Saying things like "no time wasters" are unnecessary -- no sane woman would sit in front of the computer and think "I feel like wasting someone's time today". The only thing a statement like that would do is make you sound impatient and demanding. Phrases like "no fat chicks", "no old hags" etc. would make you sound rude and offensive and make most women stay away, regardless of their age and shape. Instead, concentrate on positive aspects of who you would like to meet.
List of demands
Be careful of turning your profile into a long list of demands. While it's good to include information about your ideal woman, don't let it turn into a ransom note. Always include information about yourself in your profile and if you have high expectations from your potential mate, it's good to complement them with details about your own qualities so that you don't come across as arrogant and fussy. For example, a phrase like "I go to the gym 4-5 times a week and take care of my body, so I want to meet women who take care of theirs" sounds much better than "I want to meet fit women".
Going on about ex
Your online dating profile is not the place to go on about your past dating failures. It's a place to show your optimistic, hopeful side that is ready to move on. Don't fill it up with details about how bad your break-up was, how nasty your ex was and how you think all women are out to get you. You won't be doing yourself any favours.
Boasting
There is a fine line between describing your finer details and showing off. Going over the top with describing how great you are will only make women think you are arrogant and full of yourself. Be particularly careful of anything sexual, including describing body parts or how good you are in bed. Most women wouldn't believe it anyway and would be immediately put off.
Asking for sex
Unless you are on an adult-themed site, you are unlikely to get anywhere by messaging women and asking for sex straight away. Obviously, there are some exceptions, such as when a woman has specified on her profile that she is looking for sex as well. Otherwise, it's best to be more polite. Depending on the site you are using, it may be acceptable to say in your profile that you are looking for sex, though different sites will have different levels of tolerance to such requests. On mainstream sites, it's best to keep such information to a minimum, without going into any graphic descriptions.
Empty profiles
Women will probably not bother contacting you if your profile contains no information about yourself. Put the effort in and make sure you say enough to make them interested. It's worth spending the time to do this properly as the amount of responses you will get will significantly rise.
Jealousy and possessiveness
When starting to communicate with women online, don't act like you're married straight away. Demanding to know where your new friend is every time she is not speaking to you is not likely to make her want to stick around. Let things develop at their natural pace without being too pushy.
Acting Desperate
It's somehow hard to gauge the different between acting cool and acting distant and the difference between being affectionate and being overly-eager. Still, sometimes it's best to err on the side of caution and not flood your new match with over the top romantic behaviour. Turning up to a casual first date with a giant bouquet of flowers is an example of over-eagerness. If you like someone, do let her know, but again, don't expect her to commit to marrying you after a single phone call or date.
Suzy Alllen works for Pocado.com - Online Dating and Chat
Below is a list of ten things that are likely put women off dating you online.
No picture
Women (and men, for that matter) like to know who they are talking to. Having no picture makes women think you have something to hide. This could be anything from bad looks to already being married. Don't worry about your looks, different people have different tastes. However, having no picture up would make women imagine the worst, even if, in reality, they would actually find you attractive. A clear headshot of you smiling says you are genuine, friendly and serious about finding someone.
Naked pictures
It's hard to believe that this needs saying at all, but some men choose to upload nude pictures of themselves to websites rather than headshots. This is acceptable behaviour on adult-themed dating sites where people are generally only after sex, but on all other sites this causes annoyance, if not distress. Even people who specify they are interested in casual relationships are not likely to respond favourably to naked pictures. Unless you are certain this kind of behaviour is acceptable on the site, don't do it.
Accusing tone
People who have had bad dating experience occasionally try and protect themselves from being hurt by writing a profile warning off "undesirables". Obviously, no one likes having their time wasted by the wrong kind of people, but filling large parts of your profile with references to the sort of people you don't want to meet can make you sound unapproachable, unfriendly or even paranoid. Saying things like "no time wasters" are unnecessary -- no sane woman would sit in front of the computer and think "I feel like wasting someone's time today". The only thing a statement like that would do is make you sound impatient and demanding. Phrases like "no fat chicks", "no old hags" etc. would make you sound rude and offensive and make most women stay away, regardless of their age and shape. Instead, concentrate on positive aspects of who you would like to meet.
List of demands
Be careful of turning your profile into a long list of demands. While it's good to include information about your ideal woman, don't let it turn into a ransom note. Always include information about yourself in your profile and if you have high expectations from your potential mate, it's good to complement them with details about your own qualities so that you don't come across as arrogant and fussy. For example, a phrase like "I go to the gym 4-5 times a week and take care of my body, so I want to meet women who take care of theirs" sounds much better than "I want to meet fit women".
Going on about ex
Your online dating profile is not the place to go on about your past dating failures. It's a place to show your optimistic, hopeful side that is ready to move on. Don't fill it up with details about how bad your break-up was, how nasty your ex was and how you think all women are out to get you. You won't be doing yourself any favours.
Boasting
There is a fine line between describing your finer details and showing off. Going over the top with describing how great you are will only make women think you are arrogant and full of yourself. Be particularly careful of anything sexual, including describing body parts or how good you are in bed. Most women wouldn't believe it anyway and would be immediately put off.
Asking for sex
Unless you are on an adult-themed site, you are unlikely to get anywhere by messaging women and asking for sex straight away. Obviously, there are some exceptions, such as when a woman has specified on her profile that she is looking for sex as well. Otherwise, it's best to be more polite. Depending on the site you are using, it may be acceptable to say in your profile that you are looking for sex, though different sites will have different levels of tolerance to such requests. On mainstream sites, it's best to keep such information to a minimum, without going into any graphic descriptions.
Empty profiles
Women will probably not bother contacting you if your profile contains no information about yourself. Put the effort in and make sure you say enough to make them interested. It's worth spending the time to do this properly as the amount of responses you will get will significantly rise.
Jealousy and possessiveness
When starting to communicate with women online, don't act like you're married straight away. Demanding to know where your new friend is every time she is not speaking to you is not likely to make her want to stick around. Let things develop at their natural pace without being too pushy.
Acting Desperate
It's somehow hard to gauge the different between acting cool and acting distant and the difference between being affectionate and being overly-eager. Still, sometimes it's best to err on the side of caution and not flood your new match with over the top romantic behaviour. Turning up to a casual first date with a giant bouquet of flowers is an example of over-eagerness. If you like someone, do let her know, but again, don't expect her to commit to marrying you after a single phone call or date.
Suzy Alllen works for Pocado.com - Online Dating and Chat
Dating - What Do Men & Women Find Irresistible in Each Other?
Women say they want to find a 'good man' they can love. This is true to some degree. Women 'Love' as the most significant need they want fulfilled in a man. However reality is different from our beliefs. Love is wonderful but women seem to be attracted to other characteristics and traits long before love develops. Basically what women want in the new millennium has not changed much from what women wanted millions of years ago. So, what is it that attracts a woman to a man?
There is no question that women respect and look for a man who works hard, more than just about any trait or characteristic. If a man is not afraid of hard work, she knows she will be always cared for. A man who is willing to work long hours is seen as tenacious and someone who is reliable. Women know at some level that a man who works long hours is a person who is able to bring stability, especially in terms of financial reward. Women on average are attracted to men who work hard. Of all the characteristics a man can have this is one of the most important that women look for consciously or unconsciously.
Some other traits and characteristics that women look in a man:
Women want commitment. They want to know that a man is interested in their future. A man with a strong sense of personal, social, and business mastery. Kindness is perceived as an almost irresistible trait An interesting comment that we hear women saying is, they like a man who is 'good with kids' How important is money? Almost all women surveyed in study after study indicates they want to be with a man who makes more money. Women thrive and enjoy life when they experience security and stability. And last but not the least, a man who cares her and her kids.
What do men find irresistible in women?
What is it that draws a man to a woman? There is little that a woman possesses that initially entices a man beyond her physical attractiveness. This does not mean that if a woman is not physically attractive that she has no opportunity to find happiness. It does mean that physical attractiveness is far and away the number one trait that men look for in women. Men are driven in large part by their desire to have sex. This surprises no one. Napoleon Hill, history's greatest success philosopher spelled out year's ago that the most successful men in history have had enormous sex desires. However, men who pursue only their sex drives rarely become successful. A significant element in the success of any man is being able to channel that sexual energy into their work.
How does we know what physical attractiveness means to a man? Men think differently than women do. Consider this amazing fact. In mathematical terms men have evolved to find a woman waist to hip ratio is about .7 as most attractive to them. In other words, divide the waist measurement by the hip measurement and the resulting number is between .6 and .8. A man will almost certainly find that woman instantly attractive. This is the bottom half of the hourglass figures. A man does not need a measuring tape to know that he is attracted someone however. He simply has a certain shape that he is designed to look for and this is part of that shape. (Women do have a filter for a man's physical appearance. Women tend to unconsciously filter out men whose waist is larger than their hips). Having said that, however, physical attractiveness is not the sole criteria to a woman being attracted to a man.
Pradeep Aggarwal is the creator of dating tantra. The website teaches you the nuances of dating, relationship with tips and tricks for successful dating that will make your date a success. Visit http://www.datingtantra.com for free 6-part mini course "Make My Love Beautiful".
There is no question that women respect and look for a man who works hard, more than just about any trait or characteristic. If a man is not afraid of hard work, she knows she will be always cared for. A man who is willing to work long hours is seen as tenacious and someone who is reliable. Women know at some level that a man who works long hours is a person who is able to bring stability, especially in terms of financial reward. Women on average are attracted to men who work hard. Of all the characteristics a man can have this is one of the most important that women look for consciously or unconsciously.
Some other traits and characteristics that women look in a man:
Women want commitment. They want to know that a man is interested in their future. A man with a strong sense of personal, social, and business mastery. Kindness is perceived as an almost irresistible trait An interesting comment that we hear women saying is, they like a man who is 'good with kids' How important is money? Almost all women surveyed in study after study indicates they want to be with a man who makes more money. Women thrive and enjoy life when they experience security and stability. And last but not the least, a man who cares her and her kids.
What do men find irresistible in women?
What is it that draws a man to a woman? There is little that a woman possesses that initially entices a man beyond her physical attractiveness. This does not mean that if a woman is not physically attractive that she has no opportunity to find happiness. It does mean that physical attractiveness is far and away the number one trait that men look for in women. Men are driven in large part by their desire to have sex. This surprises no one. Napoleon Hill, history's greatest success philosopher spelled out year's ago that the most successful men in history have had enormous sex desires. However, men who pursue only their sex drives rarely become successful. A significant element in the success of any man is being able to channel that sexual energy into their work.
How does we know what physical attractiveness means to a man? Men think differently than women do. Consider this amazing fact. In mathematical terms men have evolved to find a woman waist to hip ratio is about .7 as most attractive to them. In other words, divide the waist measurement by the hip measurement and the resulting number is between .6 and .8. A man will almost certainly find that woman instantly attractive. This is the bottom half of the hourglass figures. A man does not need a measuring tape to know that he is attracted someone however. He simply has a certain shape that he is designed to look for and this is part of that shape. (Women do have a filter for a man's physical appearance. Women tend to unconsciously filter out men whose waist is larger than their hips). Having said that, however, physical attractiveness is not the sole criteria to a woman being attracted to a man.
Pradeep Aggarwal is the creator of dating tantra. The website teaches you the nuances of dating, relationship with tips and tricks for successful dating that will make your date a success. Visit http://www.datingtantra.com for free 6-part mini course "Make My Love Beautiful".
Dating Tips For Men - What Women Really Want
Dating Tips For Men - What Women Really Want
You would think that men would have figured it out already. Is it really that hard to understand just what it is women crave from a committed relationship? Apparently so, because men are often complaining about what a mystery women are and how confusing they can be. The sad truth is that women often wear their emotions on their sleeves and it can actually be quite easy to decipher just what it is they need and want from you.
Security All women want to know that they can trust their man; after all, that is what a relationship is built upon, right? So, why act surprised when your lover gets all 'what did you do last night?' on you when she saw the way you were checking out all the girls at the grocery store yesterday morning. If you are constantly ogling other women in front of your lover, she is going to start to thinking she isn't satisfying you. Yes, it's normal to be attracted to other women, but look discreetly. It will make her feel more secure knowing that she's the centre of attention when she's with you - not the busty waitress.
Romance Oh, it's so simple, but many men continue to ignore this part of a relationship, especially when dating. Romance will make you a hero in the eyes of a woman and will improve your relationship. Women love getting flowers, love notes, cards and thoughtful gifts and they don't take much time or effort on your part. Have roses delivered to her office, order her favorite takeout and have it ready and waiting for her when she gets home at night, write her a sweet letter telling her how much she's appreciated or call her during the day to let her know you miss her. It's really that easy, and your woman will thank you in more ways than one!
Sex Sex is an important part of a relationship; it can bring a couple closer and to put it mildly - it's fun! But, if you're the type of man that focuses solely on his own enjoyment, well, don't be surprised if your woman isn't coming back for more on a regular basis. If you want women to rave to their girlfriends about your skills in the sack, it's going to take some effort from you. Foreplay is crucial, so slow yourself down and lavish attention on the woman you're with. And, when you're having sex, don't just close your eyes and think about your pleasure, look at her and figure out what she does and doesn't want more of. Trust me, she'll be more than eager to reciprocate.
Communication Women and men differ quite greatly when it comes to communication and it can cause problems in a relationship. Don't let it become an issue in yours - try listening to your woman, speaking your mind and resolving concerns before they become problems. Don't give each other the silent treatment - talk about a fight you had.
Ask her about her day and listen when she speaks. Show her that you care by talking things out with her. See how simple women are to figure out? Now, if only we women could start understanding men!
For internet dating and chat visit our Dating Directory at: http://www.SheerDate.com
You would think that men would have figured it out already. Is it really that hard to understand just what it is women crave from a committed relationship? Apparently so, because men are often complaining about what a mystery women are and how confusing they can be. The sad truth is that women often wear their emotions on their sleeves and it can actually be quite easy to decipher just what it is they need and want from you.
Security All women want to know that they can trust their man; after all, that is what a relationship is built upon, right? So, why act surprised when your lover gets all 'what did you do last night?' on you when she saw the way you were checking out all the girls at the grocery store yesterday morning. If you are constantly ogling other women in front of your lover, she is going to start to thinking she isn't satisfying you. Yes, it's normal to be attracted to other women, but look discreetly. It will make her feel more secure knowing that she's the centre of attention when she's with you - not the busty waitress.
Romance Oh, it's so simple, but many men continue to ignore this part of a relationship, especially when dating. Romance will make you a hero in the eyes of a woman and will improve your relationship. Women love getting flowers, love notes, cards and thoughtful gifts and they don't take much time or effort on your part. Have roses delivered to her office, order her favorite takeout and have it ready and waiting for her when she gets home at night, write her a sweet letter telling her how much she's appreciated or call her during the day to let her know you miss her. It's really that easy, and your woman will thank you in more ways than one!
Sex Sex is an important part of a relationship; it can bring a couple closer and to put it mildly - it's fun! But, if you're the type of man that focuses solely on his own enjoyment, well, don't be surprised if your woman isn't coming back for more on a regular basis. If you want women to rave to their girlfriends about your skills in the sack, it's going to take some effort from you. Foreplay is crucial, so slow yourself down and lavish attention on the woman you're with. And, when you're having sex, don't just close your eyes and think about your pleasure, look at her and figure out what she does and doesn't want more of. Trust me, she'll be more than eager to reciprocate.
Communication Women and men differ quite greatly when it comes to communication and it can cause problems in a relationship. Don't let it become an issue in yours - try listening to your woman, speaking your mind and resolving concerns before they become problems. Don't give each other the silent treatment - talk about a fight you had.
Ask her about her day and listen when she speaks. Show her that you care by talking things out with her. See how simple women are to figure out? Now, if only we women could start understanding men!
For internet dating and chat visit our Dating Directory at: http://www.SheerDate.com
Top 10 Mistakes Men Make When Meeting and Dating Women
1. Trying to get a woman's approval
Have you ever watched a movie or seen in real life where a guy does everything for a girl... writes her poems, gives her things, does things for her and kisses up to her all the time and she completely isn't interested in him? Well, that's real life.
Men seem to think that getting a woman's approval is going to make her attracted to him. The problem is that women won't respect you if you don't have your own ideas and beliefs. Women are not attracted to men who will change their entire lives to fit hers or are always looking for her approval.
If you're trying too hard to win a girl over, you'll do exactly the opposite.
2. Talking about Boring Guy Topics
Most guys walk up to women and if they have anything to say at all, they talk about cars, jobs, college degrees and numerous other topics that women are completely not interested in.
If you want to bore a woman to death, this is a great technique. But, I think it might do you some good to learn how to talk to a girl in a way that is interesting for the both of you... not just you.
3. Trying to Convince a Woman that She Should Like Him
When guys realize that a woman doesn't like him, he typically will try to convince her that she should. The problem is that no matter how hard he tries, it's never going to work.
A woman's either going to be attracted to you or she isn't. No amount of whining, crying, pleading or begging is ever going to change that.
You have to know how to work with a girl's emotions so that she naturally is attracted to you every time.
4. He Lets Her Lead Everything
Women hate it when guys don't take the lead. It sends shivers down my spine every time I hear a conversation where the guy won't make a decision and the girl is trying to get him to. "Whatever you want to do" is a common horrifying phrase that I seem to hear a lot of guys saying.
It's okay for you to make the plans on where to go, what to do and how to dress. Women enjoy being able to relax and know that you're going to be able to take care of everything.
5. Giving Too Many Compliments Too Early
A really attractive woman will get approached a couple times a day from different men. The reality of it is that most men, although they think they're being really clever and saying something unique, all basically say the same thing to her.
The guy walks up, pretending he's not there to talk to her, then stands there for a couple of minutes waiting to get the courage to say something to her. Then, when he gets the courage to say something, it's probably at least half of the time a compliment on some type of physical feature she has.
There's nothing that is a bigger turnoff for women than being like every single other guy out there. You need to be different and unique. You need to be interesting...
6. Using Pick Up Lines
I don't know where pickup lines came from or if they actually worked at some point in time. However, I can tell you that they don't work anymore. I actually heard a guy walk up to a girl the other day and say, "If you were a sandwich at McDonald's, you'd be a McGorgeous!"
Needless to say, that isn't exactly the best thing to say to a woman. Most girls will laugh you away if you approach using pick up lines.
You can easily learn what will work when approaching women so you don't have to settle again for saying things that aren't going to work.
7. Trying to Impress a Woman
When a guy tries to impress a woman with money, clothes, and cars, it shows that he doesn't understand anything about women and that he's needy and materialistic.
I mean, there are definitely some women who are attracted to money. But, is that the type of relationship that you want anyway?
Honestly, I don't really have enough money to be walking around trying to buy women's affection and attention anyway.
Women are much more interested in who you are than what type of car you drive. And if you know what women are looking for in men, you can easily convey that and you'll attract women like a magnet.
8. Waiting for Women to Approach Them
It takes a lot more for a guy to be rejected. A girl actually has to tell him that she's not interested or do something else very obvious that shows she isn't interested in him.
Its completely different with girls. Girls don't typically approach men. They stand there and look at a man that they like and might even smile. When the guy makes eye contact back with the girl, she thinks her job is done.
If you don't approach her, she feels rejected. That's all it takes!
Its not a woman's job to approach men and its not very likely that they will. Especially beautiful women who are approached several times a day. Why would she ever approach a guy? She already has enough guys coming up to her a day telling her how beautiful she is and telling her she's "McGorgeous"
You need to approach women and learn how to do it the right way.
9. Being Too Serious
I love going to bars and seeing guys staring at women from across the room with a really serious look on their faces. Or, when a girl is talking to him, he's really serious and doesn't convey any humor or personality.
I also like seeing guys at the bar giving off some kind of pose that I guess is supposed to attracted women to them. I can tell you right now, this doesn't work. Believe me, I've tried it.
10. Continue Doing the Same Things that Don't Work
I've heard a phrase a million times that goes, "If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got"
And what that really means is that if what you're doing right now isn't getting you the success that you want, you have to change something in order to get results that you do want.
I remember sitting in bars and clubs nights after night wishing that I could be with the women that I wanted in my life. One day, I decided that nothing was going to stop me and I was going to learn how to create successes with meeting women.
Since then, I've gone through a lot of hard work, testing things and doing stuff that doesn't work over and over again until I finally, one day, starting really seeing success with women and figured it all out.
I've gone through a lot and it took me several years to figure out. Luckily for you, you can learn the same things that I did in a fraction of the time. The information is there, you just have to go get it. Pick up a copy of my book, Date the Women of Your Dreams and get on your path to mastery with meeting and dating women.
Matt Buschbacher teaches men all across the world how to meet and date women. He offers books, audio programs, seminars and workshops where he takes people into social venues and teaches them how to meet women. Visit his site at http://www.datethewomenofyourdreams.com/ and download a free sample of his book as well as get other great information about women and dating that will cut years off of your learning process.
Have you ever watched a movie or seen in real life where a guy does everything for a girl... writes her poems, gives her things, does things for her and kisses up to her all the time and she completely isn't interested in him? Well, that's real life.
Men seem to think that getting a woman's approval is going to make her attracted to him. The problem is that women won't respect you if you don't have your own ideas and beliefs. Women are not attracted to men who will change their entire lives to fit hers or are always looking for her approval.
If you're trying too hard to win a girl over, you'll do exactly the opposite.
2. Talking about Boring Guy Topics
Most guys walk up to women and if they have anything to say at all, they talk about cars, jobs, college degrees and numerous other topics that women are completely not interested in.
If you want to bore a woman to death, this is a great technique. But, I think it might do you some good to learn how to talk to a girl in a way that is interesting for the both of you... not just you.
3. Trying to Convince a Woman that She Should Like Him
When guys realize that a woman doesn't like him, he typically will try to convince her that she should. The problem is that no matter how hard he tries, it's never going to work.
A woman's either going to be attracted to you or she isn't. No amount of whining, crying, pleading or begging is ever going to change that.
You have to know how to work with a girl's emotions so that she naturally is attracted to you every time.
4. He Lets Her Lead Everything
Women hate it when guys don't take the lead. It sends shivers down my spine every time I hear a conversation where the guy won't make a decision and the girl is trying to get him to. "Whatever you want to do" is a common horrifying phrase that I seem to hear a lot of guys saying.
It's okay for you to make the plans on where to go, what to do and how to dress. Women enjoy being able to relax and know that you're going to be able to take care of everything.
5. Giving Too Many Compliments Too Early
A really attractive woman will get approached a couple times a day from different men. The reality of it is that most men, although they think they're being really clever and saying something unique, all basically say the same thing to her.
The guy walks up, pretending he's not there to talk to her, then stands there for a couple of minutes waiting to get the courage to say something to her. Then, when he gets the courage to say something, it's probably at least half of the time a compliment on some type of physical feature she has.
There's nothing that is a bigger turnoff for women than being like every single other guy out there. You need to be different and unique. You need to be interesting...
6. Using Pick Up Lines
I don't know where pickup lines came from or if they actually worked at some point in time. However, I can tell you that they don't work anymore. I actually heard a guy walk up to a girl the other day and say, "If you were a sandwich at McDonald's, you'd be a McGorgeous!"
Needless to say, that isn't exactly the best thing to say to a woman. Most girls will laugh you away if you approach using pick up lines.
You can easily learn what will work when approaching women so you don't have to settle again for saying things that aren't going to work.
7. Trying to Impress a Woman
When a guy tries to impress a woman with money, clothes, and cars, it shows that he doesn't understand anything about women and that he's needy and materialistic.
I mean, there are definitely some women who are attracted to money. But, is that the type of relationship that you want anyway?
Honestly, I don't really have enough money to be walking around trying to buy women's affection and attention anyway.
Women are much more interested in who you are than what type of car you drive. And if you know what women are looking for in men, you can easily convey that and you'll attract women like a magnet.
8. Waiting for Women to Approach Them
It takes a lot more for a guy to be rejected. A girl actually has to tell him that she's not interested or do something else very obvious that shows she isn't interested in him.
Its completely different with girls. Girls don't typically approach men. They stand there and look at a man that they like and might even smile. When the guy makes eye contact back with the girl, she thinks her job is done.
If you don't approach her, she feels rejected. That's all it takes!
Its not a woman's job to approach men and its not very likely that they will. Especially beautiful women who are approached several times a day. Why would she ever approach a guy? She already has enough guys coming up to her a day telling her how beautiful she is and telling her she's "McGorgeous"
You need to approach women and learn how to do it the right way.
9. Being Too Serious
I love going to bars and seeing guys staring at women from across the room with a really serious look on their faces. Or, when a girl is talking to him, he's really serious and doesn't convey any humor or personality.
I also like seeing guys at the bar giving off some kind of pose that I guess is supposed to attracted women to them. I can tell you right now, this doesn't work. Believe me, I've tried it.
10. Continue Doing the Same Things that Don't Work
I've heard a phrase a million times that goes, "If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got"
And what that really means is that if what you're doing right now isn't getting you the success that you want, you have to change something in order to get results that you do want.
I remember sitting in bars and clubs nights after night wishing that I could be with the women that I wanted in my life. One day, I decided that nothing was going to stop me and I was going to learn how to create successes with meeting women.
Since then, I've gone through a lot of hard work, testing things and doing stuff that doesn't work over and over again until I finally, one day, starting really seeing success with women and figured it all out.
I've gone through a lot and it took me several years to figure out. Luckily for you, you can learn the same things that I did in a fraction of the time. The information is there, you just have to go get it. Pick up a copy of my book, Date the Women of Your Dreams and get on your path to mastery with meeting and dating women.
Matt Buschbacher teaches men all across the world how to meet and date women. He offers books, audio programs, seminars and workshops where he takes people into social venues and teaches them how to meet women. Visit his site at http://www.datethewomenofyourdreams.com/ and download a free sample of his book as well as get other great information about women and dating that will cut years off of your learning process.
Online dating tips for men
These online dating tips for men will give you that advantage you need when it comes to attracting single woman online. With men usually outnumbering the women by 2 to 1 that edge will get you noticed more, and get you more replies to your e-mails.
First thing any lady is going to see about you is your photo. This is the first point of attraction so if you get this wrong they'll just move on to the next profile. You need a the main photo on your profile to be from the shoulders up. You can get away with waist up but any further away, and it can be a struggle sometimes to see you. You want the photo to be clear as well, and not too dark or blurry. If your photo is surrounded by a bunch of other photos that are close up and in focus your photo will not get looked at. You can use other photos of you on holiday or doing an activity, but save them for the extra photos in your profile.
Your user name will be important as well. Don't pick one that women will take offence too. Anything with a sexual innuendo or something else of that nature will instantly turn them off. You need to be creative. Base it on a hobby, or a character from a film or show you like, make it stand out.
Once you have passed them tests the detail in your profile will get scrutinized. This is where you have to be 100% honest. If you're not honest you will get caught out at some point then you'll be back to square one. Then the effort you put in getting your photo and username right will have been wasted. Honesty is the best policy, and if you do it from the start you will have no worries about making any mistakes later on.
Your next move is contacting the single women. You get a few options here. If you're on your free trial period all you will be able to do is send a smile or a flirt. If a single women gets 100 flirts in her inbox every day, how many will she reply to? Probably none. If you want to impress a women you have to send her a personalized e-mail, and to do this you will have to pay for your membership. This will cost you less than a night out for a month, so you won't break the bank. It will be money well spent when a women you are attracted to replies to your e-mail. Use a spell checker if you can, and read your e-mail allowed so you can here the mistakes if you have made any. If you send an e-mail full of typos and grammatical errors it will just get deleted. Remember you want to impress her, and make your e-mail stand above the others in her inbox. Mention something you have seen in her profile so it doesn't look like something you have sent to 20 other women.
If you do happen to get women that doesn't reply to you don't start harassing her. If she doesn't reply move onto someone else. A good Online dating service will show you when a single was last online. If they have been online since you sent them an e-mail chances are they have read it, and decided not to reply.
If you're not getting the results you're after, and your missing some of the above information in your approach a few small changes will change your success rate.
For more tips, advice and online dating reviews visit - http://www.the-online-dating-reviews.com
First thing any lady is going to see about you is your photo. This is the first point of attraction so if you get this wrong they'll just move on to the next profile. You need a the main photo on your profile to be from the shoulders up. You can get away with waist up but any further away, and it can be a struggle sometimes to see you. You want the photo to be clear as well, and not too dark or blurry. If your photo is surrounded by a bunch of other photos that are close up and in focus your photo will not get looked at. You can use other photos of you on holiday or doing an activity, but save them for the extra photos in your profile.
Your user name will be important as well. Don't pick one that women will take offence too. Anything with a sexual innuendo or something else of that nature will instantly turn them off. You need to be creative. Base it on a hobby, or a character from a film or show you like, make it stand out.
Once you have passed them tests the detail in your profile will get scrutinized. This is where you have to be 100% honest. If you're not honest you will get caught out at some point then you'll be back to square one. Then the effort you put in getting your photo and username right will have been wasted. Honesty is the best policy, and if you do it from the start you will have no worries about making any mistakes later on.
Your next move is contacting the single women. You get a few options here. If you're on your free trial period all you will be able to do is send a smile or a flirt. If a single women gets 100 flirts in her inbox every day, how many will she reply to? Probably none. If you want to impress a women you have to send her a personalized e-mail, and to do this you will have to pay for your membership. This will cost you less than a night out for a month, so you won't break the bank. It will be money well spent when a women you are attracted to replies to your e-mail. Use a spell checker if you can, and read your e-mail allowed so you can here the mistakes if you have made any. If you send an e-mail full of typos and grammatical errors it will just get deleted. Remember you want to impress her, and make your e-mail stand above the others in her inbox. Mention something you have seen in her profile so it doesn't look like something you have sent to 20 other women.
If you do happen to get women that doesn't reply to you don't start harassing her. If she doesn't reply move onto someone else. A good Online dating service will show you when a single was last online. If they have been online since you sent them an e-mail chances are they have read it, and decided not to reply.
If you're not getting the results you're after, and your missing some of the above information in your approach a few small changes will change your success rate.
For more tips, advice and online dating reviews visit - http://www.the-online-dating-reviews.com
Mistakes Men Make When Online Dating
The mistakes men make when online dating are spoiling there chances dramatically. Men already outnumber women by 2 to 1 so they need every advantage they can get. With the way some men approach online dating it shouldn't be too hard to make more of an impression than the competition.
First mistake men make is with their online dating photo. Some don't even have one. This is the biggest mistake you can make. Everyone should have a photo on their profile. Admittedly women don't put as much emphasis on looks as much as men but it's nice to see what someone looks like before they're contacted. If you don't have a photo on your profile it will just get ignored. Plus it looks suspicious.
When you do upload a photo make sure it's a close up and clear one. So many men put up one with themselves so far away from the camera it's impossible to see what they look like. If women have to use their imagination about your looks they will only get disappointed when you eventually meet them. Also never put a photo on your profile of you naked. A few men still do this, and it is not the way to attract a single woman online. This will only be socially accepted on an adult online dating service where they expect it to happen.
Being negative in your online dating profile is something you shouldn't do. Some men go on about their ex girlfriends, and the things they didn't like about them. No one wants to here about anyone's ex girlfriends, and especially anything negative. That will not get you e-mailed or have any of your e-mails replied to. Single women want to read positive, active things. They want to read something that makes them want to get to know you better. Be positive, tell them about your goals in life. This will give them some idea of a future with you, and put a picture in their mind. This is how women think, it's not just about getting that first date.
Don't make a list of the type of women you don't want contacting you. This will probably make you unapproachable. If you have a preference then say the things you do like in women. Tell them you want someone who looks after her body if you want a slim girlfriend.
Put as much detail in your profile as you can. It doesn't have to be a novel just don't leave any questions unanswered. If you have an empty profile like a lot of men do then no one will ever contact you. Women like to read about men first so give them something to read.
Don't expect a free ride. If you're attracted to some of the single women, pay for a months subscription, and send them an e-mail. So many men send pre written flirts to about 30 women and then wonder why they're not getting any responses. Women like that personal touch. With an e-mail you can mention things that you liked in their profile. They will tell straight away that you haven't put any effort in and you're too tight to pay for 1 months subscription. If you can't pay for that how will they expect you to wine and dine them?
Never start getting possessive online. If you haven't seen someone you have been communicating with for a few days don't question where she has been. Most women still have a life away from an online dating service so allow them that privacy.
Acting like a creep or a stalker is a definite no no. If a woman hasn't answered your e-mail then move on to someone else. Keep sending the same woman an e-mail will not make her want to date you any more than she does already.
If you can stay away from these mistakes men make when online dating you will have a much higher strike rate when it comes to getting replies, and getting that first date.
For more online dating advice visit - http://www.the-online-dating-reviews.com
First mistake men make is with their online dating photo. Some don't even have one. This is the biggest mistake you can make. Everyone should have a photo on their profile. Admittedly women don't put as much emphasis on looks as much as men but it's nice to see what someone looks like before they're contacted. If you don't have a photo on your profile it will just get ignored. Plus it looks suspicious.
When you do upload a photo make sure it's a close up and clear one. So many men put up one with themselves so far away from the camera it's impossible to see what they look like. If women have to use their imagination about your looks they will only get disappointed when you eventually meet them. Also never put a photo on your profile of you naked. A few men still do this, and it is not the way to attract a single woman online. This will only be socially accepted on an adult online dating service where they expect it to happen.
Being negative in your online dating profile is something you shouldn't do. Some men go on about their ex girlfriends, and the things they didn't like about them. No one wants to here about anyone's ex girlfriends, and especially anything negative. That will not get you e-mailed or have any of your e-mails replied to. Single women want to read positive, active things. They want to read something that makes them want to get to know you better. Be positive, tell them about your goals in life. This will give them some idea of a future with you, and put a picture in their mind. This is how women think, it's not just about getting that first date.
Don't make a list of the type of women you don't want contacting you. This will probably make you unapproachable. If you have a preference then say the things you do like in women. Tell them you want someone who looks after her body if you want a slim girlfriend.
Put as much detail in your profile as you can. It doesn't have to be a novel just don't leave any questions unanswered. If you have an empty profile like a lot of men do then no one will ever contact you. Women like to read about men first so give them something to read.
Don't expect a free ride. If you're attracted to some of the single women, pay for a months subscription, and send them an e-mail. So many men send pre written flirts to about 30 women and then wonder why they're not getting any responses. Women like that personal touch. With an e-mail you can mention things that you liked in their profile. They will tell straight away that you haven't put any effort in and you're too tight to pay for 1 months subscription. If you can't pay for that how will they expect you to wine and dine them?
Never start getting possessive online. If you haven't seen someone you have been communicating with for a few days don't question where she has been. Most women still have a life away from an online dating service so allow them that privacy.
Acting like a creep or a stalker is a definite no no. If a woman hasn't answered your e-mail then move on to someone else. Keep sending the same woman an e-mail will not make her want to date you any more than she does already.
If you can stay away from these mistakes men make when online dating you will have a much higher strike rate when it comes to getting replies, and getting that first date.
For more online dating advice visit - http://www.the-online-dating-reviews.com
7 Quick And Easy Dating Tips For Men
Since the new millennium the dating world has gotten much more challenging for single men. Women are pickier than they've ever been before. With the Internet it has gotten easier for people to cheat and hide their tracks. It's a jungle out there. Yet time and time again men continue to make the same mistakes. These 7 quick and easy dating tips for men will make your dating life a lot less frustrating.
1. Master The Art Of Qualifying - When most men meet a woman they place too much emphasis on her beauty. The don't make the genuine effort of trying to build rapport. This usually leads to horrible pick up lines and lame routines. Anytime you approach and talk to a woman, if you can communicate to her indirectly that you are the one qualifying her, then it makes you more attractive. Don't waste your time on women that don't fit your criteria. No matter how beautiful they are.
2. Don't Engage In A One-Way Conversation - Another one of my dating tips for men that you can take to the bank is when you talk to a woman or a group of women is to not engage in a one way conversation. Most men think they have to entertain women in order to build attraction, but that is a myth. A healthy and balanced woman wants an engaging interaction. If you talk to a woman and she is not holding her end of the conversation, such as giving you one word answers, it's probably time to move on.
3. Ask With Confidence - When you're ready to ask a woman for her phone number, you should make sure that you ask with confidence. If you look her in the eye and ask with a tone of EXPECTATION in your voice, then she'll have no choice but to give you her contact information. Anytime you ask for something, ask with confidence.
4. It's Not Personal - A major reason why men do not approach women is because they fear rejection. They think if she says "no" or "I'm not interested" that it is a reflection on them and who they are. Nothing could be further from the truth. "It's seldom ever personal. Most men don't realize that roughly out of every 10 women they meet, only 2 of them are actually at that point in their life where they are ready to meet someone new," says dating coach Rod Cortez. "Women have their own lives. They might be busy with their career, schooling, or they might be involved with someone else. For whatever ever reason they are not ready to meet someone new. Besides, if even she is not interested why would anyone want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with them?"
5. Master The Art Of Leading - Women expect men to lead. If you habitually ask women "well, what do you want to do?" you'll soon find yourself single again. A great way to lead is to give a woman 2 or 3 alternatives before you make plans and if she says "you pick one", then don't hesitate, just pick it. You should lead when dating and you should lead in the bedroom. You must have sensory acuity around this and that only comes with practice.
6. Mastering Conversation Skills - A lot of men say "I don't know what to say". Since social skills are skills that any man can learn you need to hone them. When I hear a man say that, I know that he has not practiced enough. The quick solution is to begin talking to everyone you meet. You should talk to your professor after class. Talk to the person sitting next to you at the bar. You should engage in conversations with the waiter, the hostess, the cashier, the valet, and everyone you come in contact with. This includes men and women. This is one of my many dating tips that have proven themselves in the field over and over again.
7. Never Seek Her Approval - In the context of meeting and dating women as a single man, you should never seek a woman's approval because it should come naturally. This means you shouldn't buy a stranger a drink. You should never try and impress her with your job, your car, or how much money you spend. I think Mindy, a 23 year old account executive said it best, "I want a nice guy with an edge."
Scott Patterson is a master at meeting, approaching, and attracting women. To find out how you can pick-up ANY woman in 7 simple steps, check out his free ecourse
1. Master The Art Of Qualifying - When most men meet a woman they place too much emphasis on her beauty. The don't make the genuine effort of trying to build rapport. This usually leads to horrible pick up lines and lame routines. Anytime you approach and talk to a woman, if you can communicate to her indirectly that you are the one qualifying her, then it makes you more attractive. Don't waste your time on women that don't fit your criteria. No matter how beautiful they are.
2. Don't Engage In A One-Way Conversation - Another one of my dating tips for men that you can take to the bank is when you talk to a woman or a group of women is to not engage in a one way conversation. Most men think they have to entertain women in order to build attraction, but that is a myth. A healthy and balanced woman wants an engaging interaction. If you talk to a woman and she is not holding her end of the conversation, such as giving you one word answers, it's probably time to move on.
3. Ask With Confidence - When you're ready to ask a woman for her phone number, you should make sure that you ask with confidence. If you look her in the eye and ask with a tone of EXPECTATION in your voice, then she'll have no choice but to give you her contact information. Anytime you ask for something, ask with confidence.
4. It's Not Personal - A major reason why men do not approach women is because they fear rejection. They think if she says "no" or "I'm not interested" that it is a reflection on them and who they are. Nothing could be further from the truth. "It's seldom ever personal. Most men don't realize that roughly out of every 10 women they meet, only 2 of them are actually at that point in their life where they are ready to meet someone new," says dating coach Rod Cortez. "Women have their own lives. They might be busy with their career, schooling, or they might be involved with someone else. For whatever ever reason they are not ready to meet someone new. Besides, if even she is not interested why would anyone want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with them?"
5. Master The Art Of Leading - Women expect men to lead. If you habitually ask women "well, what do you want to do?" you'll soon find yourself single again. A great way to lead is to give a woman 2 or 3 alternatives before you make plans and if she says "you pick one", then don't hesitate, just pick it. You should lead when dating and you should lead in the bedroom. You must have sensory acuity around this and that only comes with practice.
6. Mastering Conversation Skills - A lot of men say "I don't know what to say". Since social skills are skills that any man can learn you need to hone them. When I hear a man say that, I know that he has not practiced enough. The quick solution is to begin talking to everyone you meet. You should talk to your professor after class. Talk to the person sitting next to you at the bar. You should engage in conversations with the waiter, the hostess, the cashier, the valet, and everyone you come in contact with. This includes men and women. This is one of my many dating tips that have proven themselves in the field over and over again.
7. Never Seek Her Approval - In the context of meeting and dating women as a single man, you should never seek a woman's approval because it should come naturally. This means you shouldn't buy a stranger a drink. You should never try and impress her with your job, your car, or how much money you spend. I think Mindy, a 23 year old account executive said it best, "I want a nice guy with an edge."
Scott Patterson is a master at meeting, approaching, and attracting women. To find out how you can pick-up ANY woman in 7 simple steps, check out his free ecourse
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
Singles Dating Online - Effective Tips For Both Men and Women
Singles dating online is a regular occurrence nowadays.
A number of singles these days has been considering online dating. Proof to that fact is the growing number of people who are into it.
As a matter of fact, in a recent survey, 26% of all internet users in the U.S. which accounts for around 39 million Americans visited personals website in December, 2003. This is according to web measurement firm comScore Media Metrix.
Singles dating online is just an application of technology in personal matters. Since in this generation, everybody has access to a computer.
It didn't take long for one to come up with the idea of merging love with technology. Thus, singles dating online came to be.
It is safe to assume that there is not one particular demographic that has access to singles dating online. As a matter of fact, everybody who's interested in finding a date can use services that allow singles dating online.
The good thing about singles dating online is it can be done at the comforts of your home or office.
Singles dating online can take time to read about someone and then get to know them well through email and phone before finally going out together.
For those singles dating online, the internet offers them an opportunity to meet and introduce herself /himself to people. And then find the woman or man of their dreams.
Singles dating online vary in their styles. For men, it is often a generic approach. They do the initiating contact and send short generic letters for, let's say, 50 people. Women on the other hand approached singles dating online by posting a picture. And wait for people to reply to her.
Singles dating online should pay particular attention to the details they post in their profile. This way they can attract the people they intend to attract. Singles dating online should avoid spelling out their negative traits and relationship experiences in their essays.
Singles dating online should keep in mind that the whole purpose of this exercise is to meet people, therefore they should not do something that will turn people away. Singles dating online should look for people who are positive, happy and confident.
Singles dating online can continue doing so even if they are not serious about the whole thing.
Singles dating online can use the online dating service for whatever purpose it may deem to serve. And maybe later singles dating online could get to meet the person of their dreams.
Dean Shainin is a successful Webmaster and publisher of Dating.MyWisdomBase.com For more articles, and valuable resources for getting effective dating tips and services, visit his site at: best dating websites
A number of singles these days has been considering online dating. Proof to that fact is the growing number of people who are into it.
As a matter of fact, in a recent survey, 26% of all internet users in the U.S. which accounts for around 39 million Americans visited personals website in December, 2003. This is according to web measurement firm comScore Media Metrix.
Singles dating online is just an application of technology in personal matters. Since in this generation, everybody has access to a computer.
It didn't take long for one to come up with the idea of merging love with technology. Thus, singles dating online came to be.
It is safe to assume that there is not one particular demographic that has access to singles dating online. As a matter of fact, everybody who's interested in finding a date can use services that allow singles dating online.
The good thing about singles dating online is it can be done at the comforts of your home or office.
Singles dating online can take time to read about someone and then get to know them well through email and phone before finally going out together.
For those singles dating online, the internet offers them an opportunity to meet and introduce herself /himself to people. And then find the woman or man of their dreams.
Singles dating online vary in their styles. For men, it is often a generic approach. They do the initiating contact and send short generic letters for, let's say, 50 people. Women on the other hand approached singles dating online by posting a picture. And wait for people to reply to her.
Singles dating online should pay particular attention to the details they post in their profile. This way they can attract the people they intend to attract. Singles dating online should avoid spelling out their negative traits and relationship experiences in their essays.
Singles dating online should keep in mind that the whole purpose of this exercise is to meet people, therefore they should not do something that will turn people away. Singles dating online should look for people who are positive, happy and confident.
Singles dating online can continue doing so even if they are not serious about the whole thing.
Singles dating online can use the online dating service for whatever purpose it may deem to serve. And maybe later singles dating online could get to meet the person of their dreams.
Dean Shainin is a successful Webmaster and publisher of Dating.MyWisdomBase.com For more articles, and valuable resources for getting effective dating tips and services, visit his site at: best dating websites
Dating Advice for Men!
You found a person that you really like trough online dating and you finally meet him in a bar. Remember that alcohol can affect your judgment. So try not to have too many alcoholic drinks.
Some might still believe in the good ol' traditional dating. Good luck to them. But not you. You are wise and savvy. You know that online dating is a better and quicker way of connecting with other people and getting to know them. You know you can't meet all the people in the world that might just be your perfect match. The Internet expands your probabilities, widening your choices to meet a mate.
A note about free sites..., REALLY FREE dating sites with lots of members, and lots of member services, and activity are pretty hard to come by. You'll understand better after you do a few searches for free dating websites.
Married Dating for true, sincere persons looking for more love.
Do you friends consider you a matchmaker? Do you have at least one couple you are friends with whom you set up? If you care about couples and are the matchmaking type, you could be next in line for your own business.
Well, you have finally made the right decision to look for a partner using a US dating service, but you don't really know anything about internet dating in USA or about offline dating service. I relate to this option as a financial one - Let's say we have two markets and you want to choose the best one for your needs.
How to have an impressive date with a woman
Asking her for a date:
* Before asking her out for a date, try to have some conversation together. This will be an opportunity for you to discover if your personalities and ideas are attuned with each other, before you do decide to ask her out for a date.
* When calling through the phone. Don't forget to mention to her the conversations you had. This will give her the impression that you do listen, making her feel important. Then if you feel that it is time to ask her, go ahead; ask gently, not in a demanding manner.
* Ask when you both are alone. Never ask a girl out on a date in front of others, like her friends. If she says no, you will both be embarrassed.
During the date:
* Look good, be neat. Put extra effort to the way you look. Take the time be well groomed, smell nice and choose your clothes well. It must correspond to the place with which your date is set. Make a good impression, so you can charm her and she can be proud of you.
* Do not be late. Prepare for the big day ahead. Make the necessary reservations and planning for your date. If you have planned for it, she will be impressed that you did put some effort on your night together. Be sure that during the big day you have no appointments so you won't be cramming and be on time.
* Be polite. Be sure to make her feel good by complementing the way she looks. And when seated at the table, turn your cell phone off. This will signal to her that you are very much interested in your moment together.
* Say her name. Make it a point to say her name every so often in your conversations, to make her feel at ease and special.
* Smile. Aside from putting up a positive attitude, your smile is an indication that you are happy to be with her.
* Have a Sense of Humor. Making a woman laugh means you have won half your battle. This means that she is having a nice time and creates a positive atmosphere. This will be an occasion she would remember, because she had fun!
Churches often stress the benefits of love, marriage, and family life, and Christians are encouraged to form relationships with others. Many Christian singles face the reality that meeting other eligible Christians can be quite difficult. Those in small churches often find it hard to meet enough single people, while singles in large church communities feel under the spotlight, or find it hard get to know people well.
In these past few years the trend in dating from all over the world has changed drastically. Individuals looking to meet people don't choose to line up in queues anymore, to try to get into the hottest places. Seldom will they be seen hanging out in pubs and bars, trying to catch a glimpse of prospective hook-ups.
If you decide to meet that special someone, always meet in a public place - NEVER meet in private for your first date! Always let someone know where you are going.
Make dating happen for yourself. People will not come and ring your bell from nowhere. Dating requires positive action so go out there and meet people, as many people as you can. Practice your chat and flirting on shop workers, bar attendants, anywhere and everywhere.
There are more than 700 dating services online in the United States alone and new sites are cropping up weekly. The huge array of dating services online can be overwhelming even for the most proactive dater. An average dating services online might demand $200 fee or less annually.
* Be attentive. Listen to what she has to say, do not interrupt. Let her finish, before you state your opinion and make eye contact.
* Be honest. Let her get to know you by telling her what you do and what interests you. If she does not like you for who you are, then she is not worth your time. Show interest in her too, by asking her about her work, hobbies and her likes. Be sensible and honest in initiating such conversations.
* Relax. Do not worry that your date is not having a good time. Go ahead and ask her. Just manage yourself well and enjoy the evening. Keep the conversations open and ask questions. Be sincere.
* Do not pretend. Be yourself. Pretending to be somebody that you're not will not work in the long run. The truth will always come out sooner or later. It is a rewarding feeling if someone is drawn to you for who you really are.
* Never compare. It will be very unfair of you if you compare your date to your past girlfriend. Keep in mind that she is a totally different person with her own personality. Take the time to discover her; you might be pleased if you do. Comparing won't get you anywhere.
* Never tell your date about the break-up of a previous relationship. Keep in mind that you asked her out so you both could have fun together. She is not your therapist, so do not recount your past relationship. Bury the past and move on. Here is a woman in front of you who is interested to know you more. Get to know her too, initiate a conversation that could lead to a common interest.
* Enjoy. Dating should be exciting and relaxing. A woman can sense if you are enjoying your time with her or not. Don't stress yourself trying so hard to make it the perfect date because it won't be. But you both can enjoy it. After all, you did invite her out because you liked her in the first place. Be spontaneous and have fun.
Make your first date simple. Prior to your date, set a dating schedule... a minimum of an hour to three hours is ideal. A failsafe dating plan will assure the both of you are not obligated or disappointed to prolong a date that may not be going well for either party. Moreover, it avoids the awkwardness of ending the date soon.
If your new to online dating you may have allot of questions going through your mind about finding a date online. You have maybe heard things like its not safe or that you wont find a long lasting relationship online. Lets look at my top 5 myths of online dating.
A cursory glance around Internet dating sites will reveal that you're much likely to be talking to someone from the other side of the world than from your own town. How many pubs and restaurants can offer such a wide variety of people who all have a similar goal on their mind? None, in fact, most places you visit are crammed to the ceiling with couples and families, any potential partners are either already involved or surrounded by hopefuls before they even make it through the door.
Christian online dating became popular in the mid eighties, when online dating web sites first hit cyberspace. Christian online dating services promised the users that they would find like-minded people and all their dreams would come true.
Now all the traditional dating rules still apply. You have to trust the person, they have to be honest about the things they are telling you, and if there is no trust things wont work. That's just the way dating is in general.
Is dating married women a problem? Get more tips and advice on married dating today.
Some might still believe in the good ol' traditional dating. Good luck to them. But not you. You are wise and savvy. You know that online dating is a better and quicker way of connecting with other people and getting to know them. You know you can't meet all the people in the world that might just be your perfect match. The Internet expands your probabilities, widening your choices to meet a mate.
A note about free sites..., REALLY FREE dating sites with lots of members, and lots of member services, and activity are pretty hard to come by. You'll understand better after you do a few searches for free dating websites.
Married Dating for true, sincere persons looking for more love.
Do you friends consider you a matchmaker? Do you have at least one couple you are friends with whom you set up? If you care about couples and are the matchmaking type, you could be next in line for your own business.
Well, you have finally made the right decision to look for a partner using a US dating service, but you don't really know anything about internet dating in USA or about offline dating service. I relate to this option as a financial one - Let's say we have two markets and you want to choose the best one for your needs.
How to have an impressive date with a woman
Asking her for a date:
* Before asking her out for a date, try to have some conversation together. This will be an opportunity for you to discover if your personalities and ideas are attuned with each other, before you do decide to ask her out for a date.
* When calling through the phone. Don't forget to mention to her the conversations you had. This will give her the impression that you do listen, making her feel important. Then if you feel that it is time to ask her, go ahead; ask gently, not in a demanding manner.
* Ask when you both are alone. Never ask a girl out on a date in front of others, like her friends. If she says no, you will both be embarrassed.
During the date:
* Look good, be neat. Put extra effort to the way you look. Take the time be well groomed, smell nice and choose your clothes well. It must correspond to the place with which your date is set. Make a good impression, so you can charm her and she can be proud of you.
* Do not be late. Prepare for the big day ahead. Make the necessary reservations and planning for your date. If you have planned for it, she will be impressed that you did put some effort on your night together. Be sure that during the big day you have no appointments so you won't be cramming and be on time.
* Be polite. Be sure to make her feel good by complementing the way she looks. And when seated at the table, turn your cell phone off. This will signal to her that you are very much interested in your moment together.
* Say her name. Make it a point to say her name every so often in your conversations, to make her feel at ease and special.
* Smile. Aside from putting up a positive attitude, your smile is an indication that you are happy to be with her.
* Have a Sense of Humor. Making a woman laugh means you have won half your battle. This means that she is having a nice time and creates a positive atmosphere. This will be an occasion she would remember, because she had fun!
Churches often stress the benefits of love, marriage, and family life, and Christians are encouraged to form relationships with others. Many Christian singles face the reality that meeting other eligible Christians can be quite difficult. Those in small churches often find it hard to meet enough single people, while singles in large church communities feel under the spotlight, or find it hard get to know people well.
In these past few years the trend in dating from all over the world has changed drastically. Individuals looking to meet people don't choose to line up in queues anymore, to try to get into the hottest places. Seldom will they be seen hanging out in pubs and bars, trying to catch a glimpse of prospective hook-ups.
If you decide to meet that special someone, always meet in a public place - NEVER meet in private for your first date! Always let someone know where you are going.
Make dating happen for yourself. People will not come and ring your bell from nowhere. Dating requires positive action so go out there and meet people, as many people as you can. Practice your chat and flirting on shop workers, bar attendants, anywhere and everywhere.
There are more than 700 dating services online in the United States alone and new sites are cropping up weekly. The huge array of dating services online can be overwhelming even for the most proactive dater. An average dating services online might demand $200 fee or less annually.
* Be attentive. Listen to what she has to say, do not interrupt. Let her finish, before you state your opinion and make eye contact.
* Be honest. Let her get to know you by telling her what you do and what interests you. If she does not like you for who you are, then she is not worth your time. Show interest in her too, by asking her about her work, hobbies and her likes. Be sensible and honest in initiating such conversations.
* Relax. Do not worry that your date is not having a good time. Go ahead and ask her. Just manage yourself well and enjoy the evening. Keep the conversations open and ask questions. Be sincere.
* Do not pretend. Be yourself. Pretending to be somebody that you're not will not work in the long run. The truth will always come out sooner or later. It is a rewarding feeling if someone is drawn to you for who you really are.
* Never compare. It will be very unfair of you if you compare your date to your past girlfriend. Keep in mind that she is a totally different person with her own personality. Take the time to discover her; you might be pleased if you do. Comparing won't get you anywhere.
* Never tell your date about the break-up of a previous relationship. Keep in mind that you asked her out so you both could have fun together. She is not your therapist, so do not recount your past relationship. Bury the past and move on. Here is a woman in front of you who is interested to know you more. Get to know her too, initiate a conversation that could lead to a common interest.
* Enjoy. Dating should be exciting and relaxing. A woman can sense if you are enjoying your time with her or not. Don't stress yourself trying so hard to make it the perfect date because it won't be. But you both can enjoy it. After all, you did invite her out because you liked her in the first place. Be spontaneous and have fun.
Make your first date simple. Prior to your date, set a dating schedule... a minimum of an hour to three hours is ideal. A failsafe dating plan will assure the both of you are not obligated or disappointed to prolong a date that may not be going well for either party. Moreover, it avoids the awkwardness of ending the date soon.
If your new to online dating you may have allot of questions going through your mind about finding a date online. You have maybe heard things like its not safe or that you wont find a long lasting relationship online. Lets look at my top 5 myths of online dating.
A cursory glance around Internet dating sites will reveal that you're much likely to be talking to someone from the other side of the world than from your own town. How many pubs and restaurants can offer such a wide variety of people who all have a similar goal on their mind? None, in fact, most places you visit are crammed to the ceiling with couples and families, any potential partners are either already involved or surrounded by hopefuls before they even make it through the door.
Christian online dating became popular in the mid eighties, when online dating web sites first hit cyberspace. Christian online dating services promised the users that they would find like-minded people and all their dreams would come true.
Now all the traditional dating rules still apply. You have to trust the person, they have to be honest about the things they are telling you, and if there is no trust things wont work. That's just the way dating is in general.
Is dating married women a problem? Get more tips and advice on married dating today.
Free Dating Advice For Men
This article contains free dating advice for men. The GuyGetsGirl dating guide is full of great dating advice for men. Great dating advice that includes the free dating advice for n men in this article. Free dating advice for men such as ALWAYS look your best. I know this sounds REALLY obvious but you'd be surprised by how many don't follow this simple free dating advice for men. You never know when the girl of your dreams will turn up, or where. And it's become a bit of a cliché because it's true -- first impressions really do count so you should pay close attention to the free dating advice for men offered here and in the GuyGetsGirl guide. Here is some free dating advice for men figures to consider from my studies.
Free dating advice for men figures...If you make a GOOD first impression on a woman, you have a 90% chance of getting with her at that point (10% of women for whatever reason will be unreachable for most men at ANY point - she might like women herself etc).
Free dating advice for men figures...If you make a BAD first impression your chances with her reduce drastically to just 20%. This means that to make her attracted to you AFTER the first 3 minutes of meeting her will be incredibly difficult if her first impressions of you were bad. It's the difference between climbing a mountain and using a helicopter to fly up one. Good first impressions means you're on your way to the top in the helicopter, bad first impressions means you have a difficult climb to success - no helicopters for you.
Honestly, I can't stress this enough - (very important free dating advice for men) always try to look your best. The 5 S's of free dating advice for men for great first impressions.
Free dating advice for men five S's - Shave. Shower. Stylish. Smell. Shoes.
Remember these 5 free dating advice for men S's and always take care of them before you go out.
Why are shoes the number 5 S of my free dating advice for men top 5? Your shoes are the FIRST thing a woman really notices about your clothing and hence your appearance. Some good free dating advice for men is for you to make sure your shoes are clean and fashionable. Free dating advice for men...Very important free dating advice for men is that you should be careful what you wear because what you wear is very important. For free dating advice for men I could try to recommend a certain look but as with all things fashionable by the time you read this it may have changed.
Free dating advice for men...Get the latest GQ magazine or other fashionable men's magazine's (they have great clothing tips) and imitate the styles you see there -- most women don't really care what labels you are wearing as long as you look good so you don't have to spend a lot on clothing.
Free dating advice for men...Many guys who read the free dating advice for men in the free dating advice for men guide I wrote (GuyGetsGirl), usually comment on how strange they feel wearing clothes they are uncomfortable in. But nine times out of 10 they start to feel natural and even confident wearing their new wardrobe within days.
Free dating advice for men...Make sure you smell good. Again this is extremely important. Remember how you feel when a woman walks by you and she smells soooo good - you feel an instant attraction even though you don't know her - well, that's how women feel too.
Free dating advice for men...Wear a good-quality cologne, but don't spray too much.
Free dating advice for men...One squirt on both sides of the neck, and one squirt on both wrists -- maximum. You don't want to smell too overpowering.
Free dating advice for men...I recommend cool water by Davidoff or John Paul Gautier for Men (often called JPG love juice because women love it) if they don't sell it where you are try to order some from abroad, this stuff is GREAT!
Free Dating Advice For Men
Tiffany Taylor is the female author of GuyGetsGirl, a special guide that reveals for the first time what goes on the minds of women AND how men can use special psychological and social techniques to attract and seduce them. Click Here! to learn more.
Free dating advice for men figures...If you make a GOOD first impression on a woman, you have a 90% chance of getting with her at that point (10% of women for whatever reason will be unreachable for most men at ANY point - she might like women herself etc).
Free dating advice for men figures...If you make a BAD first impression your chances with her reduce drastically to just 20%. This means that to make her attracted to you AFTER the first 3 minutes of meeting her will be incredibly difficult if her first impressions of you were bad. It's the difference between climbing a mountain and using a helicopter to fly up one. Good first impressions means you're on your way to the top in the helicopter, bad first impressions means you have a difficult climb to success - no helicopters for you.
Honestly, I can't stress this enough - (very important free dating advice for men) always try to look your best. The 5 S's of free dating advice for men for great first impressions.
Free dating advice for men five S's - Shave. Shower. Stylish. Smell. Shoes.
Remember these 5 free dating advice for men S's and always take care of them before you go out.
Why are shoes the number 5 S of my free dating advice for men top 5? Your shoes are the FIRST thing a woman really notices about your clothing and hence your appearance. Some good free dating advice for men is for you to make sure your shoes are clean and fashionable. Free dating advice for men...Very important free dating advice for men is that you should be careful what you wear because what you wear is very important. For free dating advice for men I could try to recommend a certain look but as with all things fashionable by the time you read this it may have changed.
Free dating advice for men...Get the latest GQ magazine or other fashionable men's magazine's (they have great clothing tips) and imitate the styles you see there -- most women don't really care what labels you are wearing as long as you look good so you don't have to spend a lot on clothing.
Free dating advice for men...Many guys who read the free dating advice for men in the free dating advice for men guide I wrote (GuyGetsGirl), usually comment on how strange they feel wearing clothes they are uncomfortable in. But nine times out of 10 they start to feel natural and even confident wearing their new wardrobe within days.
Free dating advice for men...Make sure you smell good. Again this is extremely important. Remember how you feel when a woman walks by you and she smells soooo good - you feel an instant attraction even though you don't know her - well, that's how women feel too.
Free dating advice for men...Wear a good-quality cologne, but don't spray too much.
Free dating advice for men...One squirt on both sides of the neck, and one squirt on both wrists -- maximum. You don't want to smell too overpowering.
Free dating advice for men...I recommend cool water by Davidoff or John Paul Gautier for Men (often called JPG love juice because women love it) if they don't sell it where you are try to order some from abroad, this stuff is GREAT!
Free Dating Advice For Men
Tiffany Taylor is the female author of GuyGetsGirl, a special guide that reveals for the first time what goes on the minds of women AND how men can use special psychological and social techniques to attract and seduce them. Click Here! to learn more.
Dating Advice For Men
The GuyGetsGirl dating guide is full of dating advice for men. Dating advice for men such as ALWAYS look your best. I know this sounds REALLY obvious but you'd be surprised by how many don't follow this simple dating advice for men. You never know when the girl of your dreams will turn up, or where. And it's become a bit of a cliché because it's true -- first impressions really do count so you should pay close attention to the dating advice for men offered here and in the GuyGetsGirl guide. Here is some dating advice for men figures to consider from my studies.
Dating advice for men figures...If you make a GOOD first impression on a woman, you have a 90% chance of EVER getting with her at that point (10% of women for whatever reason will be unreachable for most men at ANY point - she might like women herself etc).
Dating advice for men figures...If you make a BAD first impression your chances with her reduce drastically to just 20%. This means that to make her attracted to you AFTER the first 3 minutes of meeting her will be incredibly difficult if her first impressions of you were bad. It's the difference between climbing a mountain and using a helicopter to fly up one. Good first impressions means you're on your way to the top in the helicopter, bad first impressions means you have a difficult climb to success - no helicopters for you.
Honestly, I can't stress this enough - (very important dating advice for men) always try to look your best. The 5 S's of dating advice for men for great first impressions.
Ddating advice for men five S's - Shave. Shower. Stylish. Smell. Shoes.
Remember these 5 dating advice for men S's and always take care of them before you go out.
Why are shoes the number 5 S of my dating advice for men top 5? Your shoes are the FIRST thing a woman really notices about your clothing and hence your appearance. Some good dating advice for men is for you to make sure your shoes are clean and fashionable.
Dating advice for men...Very important dating advice for men is that you should be careful what you wear because what you wear is very important. For dating advice for men I could try to recommend a certain look but as with all things fashionable by the time you read this it may have changed.
Dating advice for men...Get the latest GQ magazine or other fashionable men's magazine's (they have great clothing first date tips) and imitate the styles you see there -- most women don't really care what labels you are wearing as long as you look good so you don't have to spend a lot on clothing.
Dating advice for men...Many guys who read the dating advice for men in the dating advice for men guide I wrote, usually comment on how strange they feel wearing clothes they are uncomfortable in. But nine times out of 10 they start to feel natural and even confident wearing their new wardrobe within days.
Dating advice for men...Make sure you smell good. Again this is extremely important. Remember how you feel when a woman walks by you and she smells soooo good - you feel an instant attraction even though you don't know her - well, that's how women feel too. Dating advice for men...Wear a good-quality cologne, but don't spray too much.
Dating advice for men...One squirt on both sides of the neck, and one squirt on both wrists -- maximum. You don't want to smell too overpowering.
Dating advice for men...I recommend cool water by Davidoff or John Paul Gautier for Men (often called JPG love juice because women love it) if they don't sell it where you are try to order some from abroad, this stuff is GREAT!
Click here Dating Advice For Men to learn more techniques and methods for attracting and communicating with women using great dating advice for men.
Tiffany Taylor is the female author of GuyGetsGirl, a special guide that reveals for the first time what goes on the minds of women. Click here Dating Advice For Men to learn more.
Dating advice for men figures...If you make a GOOD first impression on a woman, you have a 90% chance of EVER getting with her at that point (10% of women for whatever reason will be unreachable for most men at ANY point - she might like women herself etc).
Dating advice for men figures...If you make a BAD first impression your chances with her reduce drastically to just 20%. This means that to make her attracted to you AFTER the first 3 minutes of meeting her will be incredibly difficult if her first impressions of you were bad. It's the difference between climbing a mountain and using a helicopter to fly up one. Good first impressions means you're on your way to the top in the helicopter, bad first impressions means you have a difficult climb to success - no helicopters for you.
Honestly, I can't stress this enough - (very important dating advice for men) always try to look your best. The 5 S's of dating advice for men for great first impressions.
Ddating advice for men five S's - Shave. Shower. Stylish. Smell. Shoes.
Remember these 5 dating advice for men S's and always take care of them before you go out.
Why are shoes the number 5 S of my dating advice for men top 5? Your shoes are the FIRST thing a woman really notices about your clothing and hence your appearance. Some good dating advice for men is for you to make sure your shoes are clean and fashionable.
Dating advice for men...Very important dating advice for men is that you should be careful what you wear because what you wear is very important. For dating advice for men I could try to recommend a certain look but as with all things fashionable by the time you read this it may have changed.
Dating advice for men...Get the latest GQ magazine or other fashionable men's magazine's (they have great clothing first date tips) and imitate the styles you see there -- most women don't really care what labels you are wearing as long as you look good so you don't have to spend a lot on clothing.
Dating advice for men...Many guys who read the dating advice for men in the dating advice for men guide I wrote, usually comment on how strange they feel wearing clothes they are uncomfortable in. But nine times out of 10 they start to feel natural and even confident wearing their new wardrobe within days.
Dating advice for men...Make sure you smell good. Again this is extremely important. Remember how you feel when a woman walks by you and she smells soooo good - you feel an instant attraction even though you don't know her - well, that's how women feel too. Dating advice for men...Wear a good-quality cologne, but don't spray too much.
Dating advice for men...One squirt on both sides of the neck, and one squirt on both wrists -- maximum. You don't want to smell too overpowering.
Dating advice for men...I recommend cool water by Davidoff or John Paul Gautier for Men (often called JPG love juice because women love it) if they don't sell it where you are try to order some from abroad, this stuff is GREAT!
Click here Dating Advice For Men to learn more techniques and methods for attracting and communicating with women using great dating advice for men.
Tiffany Taylor is the female author of GuyGetsGirl, a special guide that reveals for the first time what goes on the minds of women. Click here Dating Advice For Men to learn more.
Men's Dating Advice: Five Crucial Mistakes Men Make When Planning Dates Online & How to Avoid Them
Meeting, flirting with, keeping the conversation going, and building attraction with datable females in person is tough enough, but the game is completely changed when meeting women online for dates and romance.
There are at least five crucial, yet very common, mistakes men make when trying to work her up for the first date. Don't make these mistakes, and you will be have more success than 95% of men playing the dating game online.
1. Not Getting Enough Pictures - A few years ago, it was more common for some poor sucker to set up an expensive dinner date based on a solitary washed out Glamour Shot from 1993, or worse, no picture at all. Many of the dating sites, and "friend" and "networking" sites (which are actually just dating sites without the stigma) have wised up and allowed users to submit up to a dozen or more photos of themselves.
Don't be fooled by a pretty face, like Kip says, you really need to get a "full body shot" before meeting. I would advise getting as many as you can get from several angles. This saves her time and you time. If she protests or calls you superficial, just say that typically you are only interested in certain body types and you don't want to waste her time. If she doesn't give up the goods, politely end the communiation exchange.
2. Waiting Too Long to Get Her Number - You only have about a three to four email exchange threshold before it is time to ask for the digits. The purpose is to actually meet in real life and decide whether it's going to work, it might work, or it won't work, not play email tag for weeks on end. Who needs another penpal? Be bold and ask for the number after you have established a bit of a rapport. Don't do it too quickly, as in the first email, but don't ask after three or four volumes of Shakespearen sonnets.
3. Telling Her Your Chat Screenname - Even if she gives you her screenname for Yahoo! IM or AOL Instant Messenger, don't exchange the favor. This, right off the bat makes you too accessible. This is a typical mistake women new to online dating make. She can't think of anything to say, so she figures the next logical step is to give up the screenname or email. This is pointless if you met her on a dating site. The beauty of the dating site is she goes away if it doesn't work.
Experienced online daters, men and women, have gotten burned by this, and don't do it anymore. Imagine, every time you logon her screenname (might as well be her standing over your shoulder) will forever be with you, watching, waiting, on your little display screen. It will feel like she is in the same room. You need your space, and so does she.
If you feel like you have to do this, because she is the "very cautious" type and wants to "get to know you better" first, before handing over the digits, create a new IM account specifically for women you meet online. You should be talking to her on the phone, and planning dates not wasting time behind the computer.
If you do give it to her, make sure you have created that new or other account and you should only do this after three or four dates have passed.
4. Not Asking "Deal Breaker" Questions Before Meeting - Once I went on a date that I had met online that I had thought I covered all the steps above. I had seen enough pictures, I asked for the number relatively quickly, and I didn't blow it with the unnecessary online chat. Take it from me, just because her profile says "Single/Never been married" and "Kids: Someday" doesn't mean it's true.
Her justification was "He doesn't live with me and I never see him." What a great mother.
If something seems fishy, it probably is, ask the deal breaker questions on the first call.
5. Putting Her on your "Top 8" on Myspace - If you met the girl on myspace, which is quite common these days, don't put her on your Top 8 thinking that that will get you booty faster.
Wait until she is your girlfriend of at least a month before turning your back on your best friend from junior high which you only talk to from time to time by booting him down with the no name bands and almost believable webcam girl profiles.
If she complains, take the whining as a challenge or test, because it is. Tell her No, not until she proves herself. She will respect you in the long run for it.
Neil Lemons represents Hot Bar Buddy, a Dallas-based wingwoman & female promotional models agency. He writes a weekly dating tips article on his site http://www.hotbarbuddy.com/.
There are at least five crucial, yet very common, mistakes men make when trying to work her up for the first date. Don't make these mistakes, and you will be have more success than 95% of men playing the dating game online.
1. Not Getting Enough Pictures - A few years ago, it was more common for some poor sucker to set up an expensive dinner date based on a solitary washed out Glamour Shot from 1993, or worse, no picture at all. Many of the dating sites, and "friend" and "networking" sites (which are actually just dating sites without the stigma) have wised up and allowed users to submit up to a dozen or more photos of themselves.
Don't be fooled by a pretty face, like Kip says, you really need to get a "full body shot" before meeting. I would advise getting as many as you can get from several angles. This saves her time and you time. If she protests or calls you superficial, just say that typically you are only interested in certain body types and you don't want to waste her time. If she doesn't give up the goods, politely end the communiation exchange.
2. Waiting Too Long to Get Her Number - You only have about a three to four email exchange threshold before it is time to ask for the digits. The purpose is to actually meet in real life and decide whether it's going to work, it might work, or it won't work, not play email tag for weeks on end. Who needs another penpal? Be bold and ask for the number after you have established a bit of a rapport. Don't do it too quickly, as in the first email, but don't ask after three or four volumes of Shakespearen sonnets.
3. Telling Her Your Chat Screenname - Even if she gives you her screenname for Yahoo! IM or AOL Instant Messenger, don't exchange the favor. This, right off the bat makes you too accessible. This is a typical mistake women new to online dating make. She can't think of anything to say, so she figures the next logical step is to give up the screenname or email. This is pointless if you met her on a dating site. The beauty of the dating site is she goes away if it doesn't work.
Experienced online daters, men and women, have gotten burned by this, and don't do it anymore. Imagine, every time you logon her screenname (might as well be her standing over your shoulder) will forever be with you, watching, waiting, on your little display screen. It will feel like she is in the same room. You need your space, and so does she.
If you feel like you have to do this, because she is the "very cautious" type and wants to "get to know you better" first, before handing over the digits, create a new IM account specifically for women you meet online. You should be talking to her on the phone, and planning dates not wasting time behind the computer.
If you do give it to her, make sure you have created that new or other account and you should only do this after three or four dates have passed.
4. Not Asking "Deal Breaker" Questions Before Meeting - Once I went on a date that I had met online that I had thought I covered all the steps above. I had seen enough pictures, I asked for the number relatively quickly, and I didn't blow it with the unnecessary online chat. Take it from me, just because her profile says "Single/Never been married" and "Kids: Someday" doesn't mean it's true.
Her justification was "He doesn't live with me and I never see him." What a great mother.
If something seems fishy, it probably is, ask the deal breaker questions on the first call.
5. Putting Her on your "Top 8" on Myspace - If you met the girl on myspace, which is quite common these days, don't put her on your Top 8 thinking that that will get you booty faster.
Wait until she is your girlfriend of at least a month before turning your back on your best friend from junior high which you only talk to from time to time by booting him down with the no name bands and almost believable webcam girl profiles.
If she complains, take the whining as a challenge or test, because it is. Tell her No, not until she proves herself. She will respect you in the long run for it.
Neil Lemons represents Hot Bar Buddy, a Dallas-based wingwoman & female promotional models agency. He writes a weekly dating tips article on his site http://www.hotbarbuddy.com/.
Online Single Dating - Top Dating Tips for Men
Look around the web and you will notice that the Online Single Dating scene is focused a lot on single women. Before meeting new single women for love and romance, take an inventory of the things that are important to you or you want from you date. It could be any of the following.
Work out what you want first from Online Single Dating is it any of the following?
* Friendship/Pen-pals
* Romance/ Companionship
* Relationship
* Activity partner in sport or hobby
* Marriage
* Sex
Some of you single men who read our dating tips may be so shy, inhibited, and psychologically blocked. That it may be very difficult attracting, dating, and seducing single women. When you play the dating game to win with single women there are rules you have to abide by. Don't allow yourself to get into this rut because it can effect your dating, relationships, meeting new single women, and scoring with single women. You must always appear positive and not negative or miserable. That is a certain turn off for any date.
Here are a few dating insights to help you to meet alluring, sensuous, sexy and beautiful single women of your dreams. The easiest and surest way of meeting eligible women is through the social activities of your local "singles" clubs. Another one of the surest places of meeting eligible women is the evening classes at your local colleges. Don't forget the numerous Online Single Dating sites on the internet simply a must to meet eligible women.
Some important dating tip for men.
1) Is don't agree to a date someone you know you won't enjoy at all.
2) Don't worry so much about how you look is another dating tip for men who can agonize over their appearance.
3) Be Yourself. Most dating tips will tell you that there are expectations that you have to live up to in order to attract and date women.
4) For instance a man who is looking to just have sex should look for women that write; that they enjoy going to the bar or club and have a laid back or easy gong attitude towards life.
5) Lastly, the third step to become successful with women is putting in some work instead of feeling sorry for yourself.
6) If you're a single man using an online dating service for the first time try and not make any of these mistakes.
7) If you are Internet Dating do not give up to much information about yourself. It could always be used against you. No home address, no home telephone number. Just be very careful like you would with any one you have not met before.
8) Stay clear of people giving you sad stories of needing money there is an alternative motive.
If you follow the common sense approach you should not go wrong. Be careful be aware of scams, cheats and liars. Be aware of you own safety and well being. Use these guide lines for Online Single Dating and they will serve you well. Good luck!
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Work out what you want first from Online Single Dating is it any of the following?
* Friendship/Pen-pals
* Romance/ Companionship
* Relationship
* Activity partner in sport or hobby
* Marriage
* Sex
Some of you single men who read our dating tips may be so shy, inhibited, and psychologically blocked. That it may be very difficult attracting, dating, and seducing single women. When you play the dating game to win with single women there are rules you have to abide by. Don't allow yourself to get into this rut because it can effect your dating, relationships, meeting new single women, and scoring with single women. You must always appear positive and not negative or miserable. That is a certain turn off for any date.
Here are a few dating insights to help you to meet alluring, sensuous, sexy and beautiful single women of your dreams. The easiest and surest way of meeting eligible women is through the social activities of your local "singles" clubs. Another one of the surest places of meeting eligible women is the evening classes at your local colleges. Don't forget the numerous Online Single Dating sites on the internet simply a must to meet eligible women.
Some important dating tip for men.
1) Is don't agree to a date someone you know you won't enjoy at all.
2) Don't worry so much about how you look is another dating tip for men who can agonize over their appearance.
3) Be Yourself. Most dating tips will tell you that there are expectations that you have to live up to in order to attract and date women.
4) For instance a man who is looking to just have sex should look for women that write; that they enjoy going to the bar or club and have a laid back or easy gong attitude towards life.
5) Lastly, the third step to become successful with women is putting in some work instead of feeling sorry for yourself.
6) If you're a single man using an online dating service for the first time try and not make any of these mistakes.
7) If you are Internet Dating do not give up to much information about yourself. It could always be used against you. No home address, no home telephone number. Just be very careful like you would with any one you have not met before.
8) Stay clear of people giving you sad stories of needing money there is an alternative motive.
If you follow the common sense approach you should not go wrong. Be careful be aware of scams, cheats and liars. Be aware of you own safety and well being. Use these guide lines for Online Single Dating and they will serve you well. Good luck!
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7 HUGE Mistakes of Dating That Most Men Commit
...not getting much action on the dating scene? ...wondering why it's so hard for you to score a second date?
I know...just when you thought you had the game figured out; here you are again alone on a Saturday night bonding with your TV. No date and no action...again!
Don't worry, you're not alone; there is hope for you yet.
Believe it or not, there are several major mistakes that you should never commit on a date that most men do. Here's a rundown of the 7 Huge Dating mistakes that you should never commit.
Huge Mistake #1: The "All About Me" Syndrome
You need to watch yourself on this one. No one knows more about you than you so it's quite natural to go on and on about who else...YOU! ...and why not? After all, you are a great guy!
That may be true but she doesn't want to hear about it. As far as you are concerned, this date is about her. If she wants to know anything about you, believe me she'll ask.
Your job, especially on the first few dates, is to ask her about her. She can't wait to tell you why she's the best thing that ever happened to you. If you talk about yourself too much, you're telling her that she's not as interesting as you are and that's why you have to be the main conversation topic. YIKES! Don't expect a second date if you were the center of attention on the first.
Huge Mistake #2: Misrepresenting Yourself
OK...I'm sure that this one is fairly self-explanatory. Don't fluff the package. She's already agreed to go out with you and that's already saying a lot. You don't need to pretend to be someone you're not.
Think about it! After you've lied about who you are, now you have to perpetuate that lie by living it or risk her finding out that you're nothing but a fraud. This type of thing will hamper any relationship...don't you agree?
If she doesn't think you are good enough to date, then she's not the one for you. Remember, it's easier to tell a lie than it is to live one.
Huge Mistake #3: Giving Up Too Much Information (T.M.I.)
Once again, you have to learn when to stop talking. She doesn't need to know your entire history, especially the parts that include other women who are not her.
Look, it's one thing to talk about your past in context of the conversation but quite another to regurgitate your whole history just for the telling. This will almost certainly kill any mystique about you. You need to leave some things to her imagination.
This is as much a turn off to a woman as it is when a woman dresses too skimpily. If you leave her with nothing to look forward to, you will become boring in a heartbeat. If she's bored of you by the end of the first date, you will be hard pressed to score a second.
Huge Mistake #4: Promising The World
Remember these words!
It is much better to under-promote and over-deliver than to over-promote and under-deliver.
Nothing could ruin a budding relationship more quickly than breaking your word. The moment this happens, she will find it hard to trust you or feel safe with you. Don't say things you don't mean and mean the things that you say.
Instead of promising her the moon and the stars, just promise her you won't settle for mediocrity. You don't need to give her the whole world, just give her the best of yours.
It's very simple...be realistic when you make promises. Make sure you actually intend to fulfill them and whenever possible, surpass her expectations. Trust me; this will be more than enough to hold her interest.
For the complete article do visit http://potsource.com/2007/02/28/7-huge-mistakes-of-dating-that-most-men-commit/
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I know...just when you thought you had the game figured out; here you are again alone on a Saturday night bonding with your TV. No date and no action...again!
Don't worry, you're not alone; there is hope for you yet.
Believe it or not, there are several major mistakes that you should never commit on a date that most men do. Here's a rundown of the 7 Huge Dating mistakes that you should never commit.
Huge Mistake #1: The "All About Me" Syndrome
You need to watch yourself on this one. No one knows more about you than you so it's quite natural to go on and on about who else...YOU! ...and why not? After all, you are a great guy!
That may be true but she doesn't want to hear about it. As far as you are concerned, this date is about her. If she wants to know anything about you, believe me she'll ask.
Your job, especially on the first few dates, is to ask her about her. She can't wait to tell you why she's the best thing that ever happened to you. If you talk about yourself too much, you're telling her that she's not as interesting as you are and that's why you have to be the main conversation topic. YIKES! Don't expect a second date if you were the center of attention on the first.
Huge Mistake #2: Misrepresenting Yourself
OK...I'm sure that this one is fairly self-explanatory. Don't fluff the package. She's already agreed to go out with you and that's already saying a lot. You don't need to pretend to be someone you're not.
Think about it! After you've lied about who you are, now you have to perpetuate that lie by living it or risk her finding out that you're nothing but a fraud. This type of thing will hamper any relationship...don't you agree?
If she doesn't think you are good enough to date, then she's not the one for you. Remember, it's easier to tell a lie than it is to live one.
Huge Mistake #3: Giving Up Too Much Information (T.M.I.)
Once again, you have to learn when to stop talking. She doesn't need to know your entire history, especially the parts that include other women who are not her.
Look, it's one thing to talk about your past in context of the conversation but quite another to regurgitate your whole history just for the telling. This will almost certainly kill any mystique about you. You need to leave some things to her imagination.
This is as much a turn off to a woman as it is when a woman dresses too skimpily. If you leave her with nothing to look forward to, you will become boring in a heartbeat. If she's bored of you by the end of the first date, you will be hard pressed to score a second.
Huge Mistake #4: Promising The World
Remember these words!
It is much better to under-promote and over-deliver than to over-promote and under-deliver.
Nothing could ruin a budding relationship more quickly than breaking your word. The moment this happens, she will find it hard to trust you or feel safe with you. Don't say things you don't mean and mean the things that you say.
Instead of promising her the moon and the stars, just promise her you won't settle for mediocrity. You don't need to give her the whole world, just give her the best of yours.
It's very simple...be realistic when you make promises. Make sure you actually intend to fulfill them and whenever possible, surpass her expectations. Trust me; this will be more than enough to hold her interest.
For the complete article do visit http://potsource.com/2007/02/28/7-huge-mistakes-of-dating-that-most-men-commit/
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Why 90% Of Men Give Up Online Dating Within 3 Months
It may sound incredible but 90% of single men give up online dating after 3 months of trying. This gives the 10% that are not actually trying, and are having a good go at it, rich pickings of all the single women available to them. So where do these single men go wrong?
A free trial is exactly that
One of the first mistakes single men make when they start online dating is treating their free trial as a lifetime membership. A free trial means a free trial. You get to try out a few of the online dating service's features to see what they offer you, but it isn't the way to get yourself on a date.
Sending flirts
The problem with a free trial is the only form of communication you can have with another member of the online dating web site is by sending them a flirt. This is a good way to show interest in another single woman, and she will take it as you are showing interest, but to get her to start replying to your interest you'll need to send her an email. Flirts and winks have a very low response rate, and is the reason why you get to send them on your free trial. If they were an excellent form of communication you would have to pay to use them.
An email shows another women that you're confident, and want to start a conversation with her. That's why she's joined the internet dating service, to communicate with other single men. If a woman sees that another man can't pay $25 for a months membership she's not going to expect to be wined and dined on her first date.
Their online dating profile
When most single men set up their free trial they treat their profile as a free trial as well. Setting up a profile to start using the online dating service takes a few minutes. Setting up a profile that is going to show another online dater that you're serious about online dating takes nearer to half an hour. The profile in a few minutes is a much easier option, and is the option that gets chosen over 90% of the time.
The easier option also includes creating a profile without a photo attached to it. Most single women won't reply to an email to someone without a photo on their profile even if the single man has paid for a membership.
Conclusion
Single men need top pay for at least one months membership to meet another women at an online dating web site. These single women are waiting to be contacted, and they want to be contacted with emails that show you have a personality.
All of the short cuts to romance mentioned above just lead to single men not getting anywhere, which makes them think online dating doesn't work then they give up.
It's the same as meeting someone in a bar. Single women want to be approached, and then spoken too. Just showing interest from the other side of the bar wouldn't get most single men a date.
At the end of the day dating will cost you money online and offline. $25 a month is a small price to pay if it means you'll meet someone to spend the rest of your life with.
Jason King is the web master at - http://www.the-online-dating-reviews.com
A free trial is exactly that
One of the first mistakes single men make when they start online dating is treating their free trial as a lifetime membership. A free trial means a free trial. You get to try out a few of the online dating service's features to see what they offer you, but it isn't the way to get yourself on a date.
Sending flirts
The problem with a free trial is the only form of communication you can have with another member of the online dating web site is by sending them a flirt. This is a good way to show interest in another single woman, and she will take it as you are showing interest, but to get her to start replying to your interest you'll need to send her an email. Flirts and winks have a very low response rate, and is the reason why you get to send them on your free trial. If they were an excellent form of communication you would have to pay to use them.
An email shows another women that you're confident, and want to start a conversation with her. That's why she's joined the internet dating service, to communicate with other single men. If a woman sees that another man can't pay $25 for a months membership she's not going to expect to be wined and dined on her first date.
Their online dating profile
When most single men set up their free trial they treat their profile as a free trial as well. Setting up a profile to start using the online dating service takes a few minutes. Setting up a profile that is going to show another online dater that you're serious about online dating takes nearer to half an hour. The profile in a few minutes is a much easier option, and is the option that gets chosen over 90% of the time.
The easier option also includes creating a profile without a photo attached to it. Most single women won't reply to an email to someone without a photo on their profile even if the single man has paid for a membership.
Conclusion
Single men need top pay for at least one months membership to meet another women at an online dating web site. These single women are waiting to be contacted, and they want to be contacted with emails that show you have a personality.
All of the short cuts to romance mentioned above just lead to single men not getting anywhere, which makes them think online dating doesn't work then they give up.
It's the same as meeting someone in a bar. Single women want to be approached, and then spoken too. Just showing interest from the other side of the bar wouldn't get most single men a date.
At the end of the day dating will cost you money online and offline. $25 a month is a small price to pay if it means you'll meet someone to spend the rest of your life with.
Jason King is the web master at - http://www.the-online-dating-reviews.com
Men- Don't Make These 4 Dangerous Dating Mistakes
Dating can be tough on many guys!
This is especially true when it comes to attracting women. The problem is guys tend to make many mistakes that they're not even aware of.
For instance, I was recently at a bar where I noticed a guy talking to an attractive woman. What's interesting was this guy was giving off confident body language, while not being aware that she was not interested in him. In essence, he was clueless about his ability to "pick-up this chick".
You could easily tell from the bored look in her eye, that she was looking for an opportunity to get away from this loser.
What's funny was he was actually a decent looking, well dressed guy. So obviously his problem wasn't his presentation. Instead he was doing a few things which were instantly turning her off and killing ANY chance of attraction
If he knew about these mistakes, and corrected them, he could have easily attracted this woman.
Now if you want to NOT be like this man, then I recommend you take a close look at these 4 MAJOR dating mistakes:
Dating Mistake #1- Not reading her body language
You can discover what a woman is feeling by observing her body language. Without saying a word, a woman will tell you when she's attracted or when she's repulsed.
Your job is to study her body language and calibrate. For instance if you see a bored look in her eye, then you know that you have to switch tactics and change the topic of conversation.
Dating Mistake #2-Buying her affections with free drinks
One of the quickest ways to show lower status is to buy a woman a drink. Let me explain...
When you buy a woman many drinks, you're showing that you need to purchase her attention in order to start a conversation. While sometimes it's polite to buy a round, don't try to please her by constantly buying her drinks.
What's interesting is lots of other guys are great for making women drunk, but they're doing nothing to attract them. By buying drinks, they're simply making it easier for some other guy approach and pick them up.
Dating Mistake #3- Acting too arrogant
One of the principles I recommend in my ebook is to act in an overconfident manner. But even though this personality trait is important, you should realize that acting TOO arrogant is just as bad.
While women love men with a good amount of confidence, having too much is an instant turn off. This means if you're dominating the conversation and bragging about your accomplishments, you're demonstrating a specific type of behavior which infuriates women.
In order to impress a woman, all you need to do is display confidence through your actions and body language. If give off a confident aura, you don't have to open your mouth to prove it.
Dating Mistake #4-Being a clown
Well know that many women are attracted to guys "with a sense of humor". However it's a mistake to act like a clown and try to do funny things around women. While it's important to be funny, it's equally vital to never look like a fool.
Being funny does nothing for building attraction.
Instead of trying to make her laugh, try using a technique which is known as "cocky/funny". This personality trait means focusing on teasing a woman with a bit of mock arrogance. Basically you're a funny guy who likes to bust a woman's chops about various things.
By being able to identify all of four of these dating mistakes, you'll be able increase your overall success with women. So your job is to quickly identify these mistakes and make a concerted effort to eradicate them!
Want to learn 50 different ways to meet, approach and attract women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson's Free eBook which provides 50 tips for approaching, attracting, and dating ANY woman.
This is especially true when it comes to attracting women. The problem is guys tend to make many mistakes that they're not even aware of.
For instance, I was recently at a bar where I noticed a guy talking to an attractive woman. What's interesting was this guy was giving off confident body language, while not being aware that she was not interested in him. In essence, he was clueless about his ability to "pick-up this chick".
You could easily tell from the bored look in her eye, that she was looking for an opportunity to get away from this loser.
What's funny was he was actually a decent looking, well dressed guy. So obviously his problem wasn't his presentation. Instead he was doing a few things which were instantly turning her off and killing ANY chance of attraction
If he knew about these mistakes, and corrected them, he could have easily attracted this woman.
Now if you want to NOT be like this man, then I recommend you take a close look at these 4 MAJOR dating mistakes:
Dating Mistake #1- Not reading her body language
You can discover what a woman is feeling by observing her body language. Without saying a word, a woman will tell you when she's attracted or when she's repulsed.
Your job is to study her body language and calibrate. For instance if you see a bored look in her eye, then you know that you have to switch tactics and change the topic of conversation.
Dating Mistake #2-Buying her affections with free drinks
One of the quickest ways to show lower status is to buy a woman a drink. Let me explain...
When you buy a woman many drinks, you're showing that you need to purchase her attention in order to start a conversation. While sometimes it's polite to buy a round, don't try to please her by constantly buying her drinks.
What's interesting is lots of other guys are great for making women drunk, but they're doing nothing to attract them. By buying drinks, they're simply making it easier for some other guy approach and pick them up.
Dating Mistake #3- Acting too arrogant
One of the principles I recommend in my ebook is to act in an overconfident manner. But even though this personality trait is important, you should realize that acting TOO arrogant is just as bad.
While women love men with a good amount of confidence, having too much is an instant turn off. This means if you're dominating the conversation and bragging about your accomplishments, you're demonstrating a specific type of behavior which infuriates women.
In order to impress a woman, all you need to do is display confidence through your actions and body language. If give off a confident aura, you don't have to open your mouth to prove it.
Dating Mistake #4-Being a clown
Well know that many women are attracted to guys "with a sense of humor". However it's a mistake to act like a clown and try to do funny things around women. While it's important to be funny, it's equally vital to never look like a fool.
Being funny does nothing for building attraction.
Instead of trying to make her laugh, try using a technique which is known as "cocky/funny". This personality trait means focusing on teasing a woman with a bit of mock arrogance. Basically you're a funny guy who likes to bust a woman's chops about various things.
By being able to identify all of four of these dating mistakes, you'll be able increase your overall success with women. So your job is to quickly identify these mistakes and make a concerted effort to eradicate them!
Want to learn 50 different ways to meet, approach and attract women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson's Free eBook which provides 50 tips for approaching, attracting, and dating ANY woman.
Online Dating Tips for Men
Online Dating Tips for Men If you want to meet women online, you need to know the basics of online dating. Here are 5 online dating tips to help you get started:
Dating Tip #1 - If you talk to a woman online who seems too good to be true, then you can assume that she is not for real. People feel like they can lie online even more so than when they are in person because they feel anonymous, but the reality is, if you plan to meet someone and have a relationship with them then you need to be honest and up front. Common sense would tell you a woman would not send a fake photograph because you will find her out when you meet in person, but that does not stop women from sending fake photos.
Try to get a woman to send you multiple photos of her and ideally see if she has a webcam. If you do not have a webcam yourself, you want to get one. A woman is more likely to let you view her on cam if she can see you as well. Web cameras are pretty inexpensive and they are a great tool to get to know someone prior to meeting them.
Now just because you see someone on video doesn't mean she won't lie to you about other details. Some people will lie about anything. Look for discrepancies in what she tells you. Pay attention! It is not difficult to catch people in lies if you just pay close attention. Don't let yourself get so wrapped up in a woman that you miss all of the obvious signs.
When women are telling the truth they will be able to give you specific details about things. The vaguer someone is usually means there is something she is hiding. Some people are private by nature, but if you want to start a relationship with someone you have to open up at least a little to let the person in, otherwise it will turn into purely a cyber relationship.
Dating Tip #2 - Don't waste a lot of time making an initial contact with women online. The fact is for every 10-20 letters you send out, you might get one reply. Don't write your life story to a woman only to have it discarded without ever being opened. Once a woman replies to your initial letter, then you can take the time to write more if you would like. This is why personalized template letters are important to use. Otherwise, you will waste an enormous amount of time and never get any results.
Personalized Template letters are letters you use to make an initial contact with a woman without spending much time crafting it. You simply read the woman's profile you wish to write to and then add small edits which let a woman know you actually read her profile and make her feel like the letter was specifically written for her. If you think women do not use templates, you are wrong...they do it as well. Women have canned responses they send to men whom they are not interested in and long answers for men they feel might be prospects.
It is important to realize AND accept the fact that women get a lot more attention on dating sites than men do. Women can get 100s of emails a day, where men will be lucky to get just a handful. There is good news though - the male competition is extremely weak. Most men do not spend the time to create a creative profile, never mind take decent pictures of themselves. So you can imagine what kind of e-mails they send. Most men send the same lame types of messages. If you want to get yourself noticed by women online then you simply need to write creative headlines and unique e-mails. Sounds easy right? Well, it is. Chet's Dating System makes it even easier because they are all written out for you. You don't even need to think for yourself.
It can be difficult to be point on the spot to write about yourself and what you are looking for. It always helps to have a good example or template you can use. You could browse the competition for ideas, but that is only going to tell you what NOT to do. It won't give you creative suggestions for what works.
Dating Tip #3 - Don't become a victim. Just like in the offline world, there are scammers online. You will find gold diggers and women who will just try to take advantage of you with a sad story of their struggles. Don't ever send a woman money. Don't pay her rent, don't let her move in or any other crazy stuff before you really get to know her. And even then, do you really want to be with a woman you have to take care of? In today's world there are plenty of successful, independent women who will buy you dinner and not expect anything in return.
There are many men out there who will melt when they fall for a woman. These men will do what they would not normally do at any other time of their lives. Love can make you do crazy things. Do not get wrapped up in a woman's web of tricks. As soon as a woman starts hinting about money or struggles, grab your wallet and run.
Some of the biggest scams involve overseas women. Most are young, beautiful and want to be with you. They will say whatever it takes for you to fork out money, so they can come visit you. In many overseas countries a woman cannot come to the United States without a fiancé visa, so if a woman asks for money to come see you, it is probably a scam. A perfect example of this is Russian women. They cannot come into the United States without you first going there to meet them and then getting a fiancé visa. This takes us right back to don't ever send women money.
Dating Tip #4 - Protect your identity. You just don't know who you are dealing with online. It could be an old man on the other end of the computer or a child. Don't give any personal information to anyone until you have built up some trust. You would think this would be something women have to worry about more than men, but there are plenty of women out there who stalk men. Be cautious about giving out your phone number, work number, address, etc. until you are reasonably sure the woman is not a nut. Remember, even your license plate can be traced without much effort.
You will meet women who may have a strong connection with you, but you do not feel the same way about them. These women can become vindictive and want to cause you harm. They will even go to the extreme of contacting other women on the dating site to try to bash you. The more the woman knows about your personal information, the more ammunition she will have to use to cause you harm.
Dating Tip #5 - Don't be cheap. If you think you can use free dating sites to meet quality women, you will be disappointed. You need to spend a few bucks on a good dating site if you want to meet quality people online. What does it say to a woman when she sees you are too cheap to pay for a real membership? Women don't want to be with cheap men. You should think the same way about women. The type of women who will not spend the money for a real membership are not worth your time.
If you are going to invest the time to make online dating work, then you need to have the right tools. This includes paying for a membership on a quality dating site. There are many dating sites on the web and if you are not sure which one is the best for you, you can go to http://www.chetsdatingsystem.com/datingsitesdirectory/ to learn more about what is available.
You also need to spend the money on a decent digital camera so you can post quality pictures of yourself. It is easy to say it is the inside of a person that really matters, but that is not true. People judge others first on appearance. If you are not attracted to a woman you are not going to take the time to get to know her on the inside. This is why you want to spend the money to take quality photographs to put your best foot forward.
Chet Rowland is the author of several courses and dvds on online dating for men. For more information and a free course on meeting women visit http://www.chetsdatingsystem.com
Dating Tip #1 - If you talk to a woman online who seems too good to be true, then you can assume that she is not for real. People feel like they can lie online even more so than when they are in person because they feel anonymous, but the reality is, if you plan to meet someone and have a relationship with them then you need to be honest and up front. Common sense would tell you a woman would not send a fake photograph because you will find her out when you meet in person, but that does not stop women from sending fake photos.
Try to get a woman to send you multiple photos of her and ideally see if she has a webcam. If you do not have a webcam yourself, you want to get one. A woman is more likely to let you view her on cam if she can see you as well. Web cameras are pretty inexpensive and they are a great tool to get to know someone prior to meeting them.
Now just because you see someone on video doesn't mean she won't lie to you about other details. Some people will lie about anything. Look for discrepancies in what she tells you. Pay attention! It is not difficult to catch people in lies if you just pay close attention. Don't let yourself get so wrapped up in a woman that you miss all of the obvious signs.
When women are telling the truth they will be able to give you specific details about things. The vaguer someone is usually means there is something she is hiding. Some people are private by nature, but if you want to start a relationship with someone you have to open up at least a little to let the person in, otherwise it will turn into purely a cyber relationship.
Dating Tip #2 - Don't waste a lot of time making an initial contact with women online. The fact is for every 10-20 letters you send out, you might get one reply. Don't write your life story to a woman only to have it discarded without ever being opened. Once a woman replies to your initial letter, then you can take the time to write more if you would like. This is why personalized template letters are important to use. Otherwise, you will waste an enormous amount of time and never get any results.
Personalized Template letters are letters you use to make an initial contact with a woman without spending much time crafting it. You simply read the woman's profile you wish to write to and then add small edits which let a woman know you actually read her profile and make her feel like the letter was specifically written for her. If you think women do not use templates, you are wrong...they do it as well. Women have canned responses they send to men whom they are not interested in and long answers for men they feel might be prospects.
It is important to realize AND accept the fact that women get a lot more attention on dating sites than men do. Women can get 100s of emails a day, where men will be lucky to get just a handful. There is good news though - the male competition is extremely weak. Most men do not spend the time to create a creative profile, never mind take decent pictures of themselves. So you can imagine what kind of e-mails they send. Most men send the same lame types of messages. If you want to get yourself noticed by women online then you simply need to write creative headlines and unique e-mails. Sounds easy right? Well, it is. Chet's Dating System makes it even easier because they are all written out for you. You don't even need to think for yourself.
It can be difficult to be point on the spot to write about yourself and what you are looking for. It always helps to have a good example or template you can use. You could browse the competition for ideas, but that is only going to tell you what NOT to do. It won't give you creative suggestions for what works.
Dating Tip #3 - Don't become a victim. Just like in the offline world, there are scammers online. You will find gold diggers and women who will just try to take advantage of you with a sad story of their struggles. Don't ever send a woman money. Don't pay her rent, don't let her move in or any other crazy stuff before you really get to know her. And even then, do you really want to be with a woman you have to take care of? In today's world there are plenty of successful, independent women who will buy you dinner and not expect anything in return.
There are many men out there who will melt when they fall for a woman. These men will do what they would not normally do at any other time of their lives. Love can make you do crazy things. Do not get wrapped up in a woman's web of tricks. As soon as a woman starts hinting about money or struggles, grab your wallet and run.
Some of the biggest scams involve overseas women. Most are young, beautiful and want to be with you. They will say whatever it takes for you to fork out money, so they can come visit you. In many overseas countries a woman cannot come to the United States without a fiancé visa, so if a woman asks for money to come see you, it is probably a scam. A perfect example of this is Russian women. They cannot come into the United States without you first going there to meet them and then getting a fiancé visa. This takes us right back to don't ever send women money.
Dating Tip #4 - Protect your identity. You just don't know who you are dealing with online. It could be an old man on the other end of the computer or a child. Don't give any personal information to anyone until you have built up some trust. You would think this would be something women have to worry about more than men, but there are plenty of women out there who stalk men. Be cautious about giving out your phone number, work number, address, etc. until you are reasonably sure the woman is not a nut. Remember, even your license plate can be traced without much effort.
You will meet women who may have a strong connection with you, but you do not feel the same way about them. These women can become vindictive and want to cause you harm. They will even go to the extreme of contacting other women on the dating site to try to bash you. The more the woman knows about your personal information, the more ammunition she will have to use to cause you harm.
Dating Tip #5 - Don't be cheap. If you think you can use free dating sites to meet quality women, you will be disappointed. You need to spend a few bucks on a good dating site if you want to meet quality people online. What does it say to a woman when she sees you are too cheap to pay for a real membership? Women don't want to be with cheap men. You should think the same way about women. The type of women who will not spend the money for a real membership are not worth your time.
If you are going to invest the time to make online dating work, then you need to have the right tools. This includes paying for a membership on a quality dating site. There are many dating sites on the web and if you are not sure which one is the best for you, you can go to http://www.chetsdatingsystem.com/datingsitesdirectory/ to learn more about what is available.
You also need to spend the money on a decent digital camera so you can post quality pictures of yourself. It is easy to say it is the inside of a person that really matters, but that is not true. People judge others first on appearance. If you are not attracted to a woman you are not going to take the time to get to know her on the inside. This is why you want to spend the money to take quality photographs to put your best foot forward.
Chet Rowland is the author of several courses and dvds on online dating for men. For more information and a free course on meeting women visit http://www.chetsdatingsystem.com
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