Friday, May 30, 2008

Why do Russian Women Marry Foreign Men?

Russian women are famed for their beauty, their grace, their loyalty, their family instincts and their pride. Most of this fame is well-deserved. But slowly over the past few years, there has been another quality of Russian women that has fascinated the media, and that is their penchant for foreign men.

At first glance, this interest might seem a little strange, considering that Russian men can often be some of the most attractive in the world. But look closely, and you realize the first and the most basic fact that may be behind this situation: there are only 87 Russian men to 100 Russian women. There are simply not enough men.

The second factor could be the long and ancient tradition of patriarchy that has ruled Russia for centuries. Women in Russia have been used to being treated with indifference by their men, if not with downright unconcern. On the other hand, Western men generally treat women as equals, and this attitude comes across as a refreshing change to Russian girls looking for marriage.

The second factor extends into another. Russian women have a cultural leaning towards the family and the rearing of children, and even women with careers of their own want to ensure that they have a lasting marriage to bring up their children well. A Russian man usually likes to party hard, which is not conducive to a peaceful family life, hence a Russian woman starts to look beyond the borders for men who prioritize home and hearth.

These women are a great match for those men from the West seeking nurturing wives who would not look out of place in their respective countries. The home-loving Russian women with their European looks, blonde locks and golden complexion are a perfect fit for such European and American men. The Western man finds himself a caring wife, and the Russian woman gets a loving, liberal and generous husband.

Besides this obvious match of mutual needs, there are some Russian women who want to marry abroad in order to live a new life, to experience a new culture and its customs and traditions. Some of them would like to go to the United States for its liberal, open attitude, and opportunities for growth. Others would like Italy or Spain, because they feel that the men in these countries are more emotional and giving, not to mention more romantic. Yet others would like Sweden, Belgium or Austria, because these countries have a climate similar to Russia, are not too far away from their motherland and yet have men who are more willing to take up family responsibilities.

But the underlying reason beneath all these factors is the desire of Russian women to marry a man who would cherish them, who would want to have children and to take care of their family. Even those women who want to marry abroad due to a latent sense of adventure are also primarily looking for love. Women in Russia are extremely susceptible to matters of the heart, and it is to satisfy these cravings of the heart that they are willing to marry foreign men in preference to their own.



Smith G. is a writer at Loversplanet.com which is an international dating service connecting men all over the world with marriage-minded Russian women and Russian brides.

Wednesday, May 28, 2008

How To Use Online Dating Effectively

The people who have been successful at online dating have found success by using the process of elimination. They have narrowed down their choices to one, after spending many hours communicating via online dating asking questions while trying to learn as much about the person as possible, before deciding whether or not they would like to meet in person. Online dating can be complicated, but we will try to simplify it in this article.

In the real world when you are dating someone off line there are certain things you can do to show your partner that you appreciate them. You can call them during their lunch break just to let them know you were thinking about them. You can surprise them by showing up at their house with their favorite dish. These small gestures for kindness can really strengthen your relationship in the long run.

With many online relationships the person you may be interested in may live in another country or another city. In these types of relationships you will have to compete with the single people they meet everyday in society. This is a major challenge that many people will face when online dating. We'll discuss a few things you can do to significantly increase your chances of success at online dating.

You can send an online greeting card, there are lots of free online greeting cards you can choose from. Try to be unique in your selection as you are given the ability to add your own personal message.

Online greeting cards should be sent as a gesture of love and kindness. However, you should try to avoid sending too many of them. If you start sending online greeting cards everyday the person may think you are desperate, which can lead them to take you for granted.

If you are sending online greeting cards everyday the first time you miss a day the person may think that you are losing interest in them.

You can also communicate several times a week through the use of email and chatting via online dating. When you receive an email you should not respond to it right away, you should also try to avoid sending emails everyday. It's best to wait 24 to 36 hours after you have received an email before you respond to it.

This waiting period will give you some time to think about specifically what you would like to say in your response. This waiting period will ultimately establish a sense of respect between the person you are emailing an yourself. By waiting it shows the person that you are willing to take things slowly, and you are not desperate.

If you would like to chat online with the person you should try to set up a specific time / day when you both have time.

To be successful at online dating you have to establish a sense of respect between you and the person you are interested in. You have to be able to communicate on a regular basis without appearing desperate in the eyes of the person you are communicating with.



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Sunday, May 25, 2008

Looking for your second half?- Online dating is just for you.

Some years ago online dating wasn't so popular as nowadays. That time, of course, people used online dating services, but they didn't tell about it because of the fear to create an impression of the desparate. But what actually changed?

So you are thinking about joining an online dating site but you're not sure this is just for you. Believe my word, online dating is just for you! Online dating is very popular now â€" it fits our modern lifestyles and is very convenient for everyone.

I remember one my friend who has been ashamed to tell me about using an online dating site. I must admit she is a very attractive girl and is a good catch. Her reason for dating online was quite simple â€" she wanted some serious relationships and was tired of wasting her time on guys that were not going to commit a relationship.

Of course, no one can guarantee that you'll meet your «one» at once. However you won't waste your time on timewasters. Little by little you'll get more experience in online dating and you'll be able to recognize the person you are looking for. It will make some time but finally you'll get what you deserve â€" just be proactive in your search of a beloved person.

Here I have some advantages of using some king of dating site to find your second half:

1. You don’t have to wait until the weekend to communicate with the peson you are interested in.

2. You don’t have to be dressed up for an online meeting. You can comfortably sit in your armchair near the fireplace communicating with interesting people.

3. In spite of your working shedule you can go for online dating. You can log on any time and correspond with people.

4. If you chat with person for some time and suddenly you understand that he oe she is not a person you're looking for, it's never late to tell «Sorry, I think we are looking for something different» and contonue your search.

5. If all of your friends have already settled down with their families or you have recently become single, online dating is the best way to meet someone new quickly!

6. Anonymous messaging and chat rooms give you a possibility to flirt to your heart’s content without any shyness or getting tongue-tied.

7. You will for sure learn more about someone online before meeting them than you would if you had met them in a bar or in the street. Online dating usually makes people more cautious about who they choose to date!

8. Finally, 1 month’s membership costs less than a night out and gives you hundreds of opportunities to meet your soulmate!

I guess I've persuaded you to go for online dating to search for your love!



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Friday, May 23, 2008

How to Get Over a Girl After a Bad Break Up

Most men don't get over it very well and some even fear it so much, that it slows them down from approaching girls - rejection. There have even been surveys that show that over 70 percent of men who had been studied in a psychological clinic have a fear of it. Studies also show that most men have a worse fear of being dumped by their lover than being rejected during the first round of dating. This is said to be so because when dating for a while, men develop a bond with their girlfriend, making the adjustment of being dumped hard. You may think that a girl looks sweet and helpless, but trust, she is capable of dumping you in a heartbeat - even if the guy was very good to her.

There is no known reason to why women dump men for no apparent reason, so it is important for men to take some simple steps to take the break up a bit better. To help get over the girl that melted your heart in the beginning and broke it in the end, follow these tips:

1) You will first need to stop adoring her. If you keep holding on to past memories, photos and such, you won't be able to get past her being gone and move on. This will only make things worse for you. It is important that you understand the fact that the relationship is over between you two. By giving her the same attention she deserved when she was with you will only create problems. Move on with your life without any thoughts of her.

2) Close all contact with her. It is important to get rid of any ties that you have with her. If you know places where she hangs out or areas where she works and lives, stay away. You should also get rid of her phone number, so that you won't be tempted to call her (try to erase it from your memory if you can). If you keep popping up at places she is, she will look at you like a helpless dog begging for attention and love. Eliminate contact with her; this means talking over the phone, internet, snail mail and text messaging.

3) Express how you feel. Many men hide their true feelings; as a result this will leave problems unattended and they will only grow. This will cause you to think about the feelings more and your heartache will increase and will take longer to go away. Try going out with your friends; have a few drinks to get rid of the bitterness. Once you overcome the emotional aspects of the break up, you will be able to completely overcome it.

4) Avoid her completely. Even when you think you are over her, stay away from places she may be located; this may reopen healing wounds.

5) Don't ask for things back. It is very immature to ask her to give back things you have given her. These items will only serve as a memory of her.

6) Go out! Don't mope around the house all the time. Try going out with your friends to take your mind off of what's going on. Before you know it, she will be miles away in your head and you'll be able to finally move on.



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Tuesday, May 20, 2008

How to Pick And Choose The Top Online Dating Service

There are many great online dating sites and I can't name a single one as being the best. What appeals to me might not appeal to you but I think that if I tell you my criteria for selecting online dating sites, it will be easier for you to find the best one among them, even though your criteria and expectations might be different from mine.

When looking for companionship or the love of a lifetime, compromising who you are, values, goals, and beliefs should not be an option. Sure, when it comes to the not so important issues, there must be a little give and take. But, trying to become someone you are not, just to find love, is a big mistake. You cannot change who you are deep down inside; nor can you expect to eventually change another person to be who you really wanted in the first place. So, that is why you need to look for dating online site top when it comes to matters of the heart.

First, I would not go to those quick dating sites that only ask what gender and age is preferred. Wow! You will have so much information to help you select companionship, friendship, or launch a search for a lifetime partner! Not a good idea!

Because of this, you need to search for more serious sites � i.e. sites, which require that you register a more in-depth profile, so that when you browse through profiles, you will be able to search for somebody, who has similar attitudes, values and beliefs as yours. Basically, the more information a profile has, the higher the chance to spot right away if there are any obvious incompatibilities between you and your potential partner. Also, when there is more information, you can quickly notice if the other person is trying to misrepresent himself or herself.

Identifying and avoiding the wrong kinds of people is not an easy task, unless you are a detective. But even if you are not a detective, your instincts could guide you, when you encounter a creep.

Also, I would be extremely leery of a site demanding a photograph. Whatever is put online is basically for the entire world to see. You want to preserve some anonymity, so some "Jack the Ripper" wannabe does not pay your home an unexpected visit.

The newspapers are full of stories about na�ve kids, who disclose too much information online and become victims of social predators. But there are many adults, too, who become victims of such criminals. Therefore, be cautious and take the adequate measures to protect yourself and your kids (if you have any).

It is the subtle nuances in the process of selecting the best online dating site that matter most. Caution is very important, so be really careful what and how much information you disclose. Don�t give your phone number or address to people whom you barely know. Also, when you are making arrangements to meet with somebody in person, ask for their permission to make a background check. Such measures are not extreme, when your safety is at stake!



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Monday, May 19, 2008

How To Talk To Girls?

Does the following scenario sound familiar? You see a girl you find attractive, and you walk up to her and get a conversation started.

Things seem to be going great. She's responding well to you, but then, all of a sudden, something happens... You run out of stuff to say! And the awkward pause ensues. And before you know it, the girl excuses herself and moves on.

Let me tell you - this type of thing happens ALL THE TIME. And it typically happens because most guys just don't know how to talk to girls! They may have their first couple of lines ready to go to get the conversation started, but after that, they are just "winging it.” But all too often, when it gets to the point where they have to talk to the girl, and they don't have anything already thought out, their brain STALLS, and the conversation dies a slow and painful death.

Not too many people realize that there is an art to conversation. Getting it started is one thing, but keeping it going is quite another all together. If you have ever been in a situation where your conversation with a girl has gone south before you could get her phone number, you know what I am talking about. So how can you keep the conversation going strong from the beginning? The answer to this is simpler than you might think. First of all, understand that questions are the building blocks of conversations. Every question you ask a girl leads to a new and exciting part of the interaction. The problem is that most guys ask the WRONG questions. They ask your typical "boring" questions like "what's your name?" "where do you live?" "what do you do for work?" Blah, blah, blah.

Now, these aren't bad questions - after all, you'll need this information at some point �" but you can't rely on questions like these to keep an initial conversation healthy! Instead, you have to ask fun, interesting questions that will actually engage the girl, and make her want to keep talking to you. For example, instead of asking her what she does, ask something like...

"Hey, do you work with kids by any chance? You have that really loving kindergarten teacher vibe to you. I bet you love small animals too." In that example, we asked her a number of questions, but we did so in an interesting way. We asked her what her job was - but we took a guess that it had to do with kids. Whether we were right or not is irrelevant. Either way, she'll let us know what she does. We also asked her if she liked kids, without coming out and saying it. We also asked her if she liked animals, without being obvious. This can lead to conversations about her pets, what kind of pets she'd want, etc. Finally, we pointed out a "feeling" she gave us.

This can lead us into a conversation about HER. And this is the real key in talking to girls �" make the conversation about HER. That isn't to say you should never talk about yourself, but when you keep the conversation focused on her, she will get the feeling that you're actually INTERESTED in her. And as we all know - girls Love to talk about themselves. So when you ask the right questions, and keep the conversation focused her - who she is and what she likes and dislikes - you can keep any conversation moving in the right direction.Please visit http://www.LoveCot.Com



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Sunday, May 18, 2008

What Is Relationship Violence?

A Typical Dating Violence Scenario

Susie is 15 and has never had a boyfriend before. She recently started dating Joel. She thinks he is so cute. Her friends all tell her how lucky she is because she has a boyfriend. At first, Susie thought it was sweet that Joel began calling her all the time. He always wants to know whom she is with, where she is, and when she'll be home. He has told her that she was meant to be with him and him only, forever.

Recently, Joel has started belittling her in front of his friends, insulting her, and telling her she is fat. He doesn't want her to spend time with certain of her friends - he thinks they are a bad influence. He threatens to break up with her if she won't do what he says, and that no one else will ever want her. Susie wants to make Joel happy. In fact, she'll do anything to keep her boyfriend. She thinks this is what being in a relationship is all about.

Sound familiar? Unfortunately, many teens face this same dilemma.

Relationship violence often starts as emotional or verbal abuse and can quickly escalate into physical or sexual violence. And although many teens know at least one student who has been a victim of relationship violence, most parents either don't know it exists or don't know it is an issue.

Although there are no "perfect" ways to lead a discussion about relationship or dating violence, emphasizing some of the following points can help you focus on the facts while providing some general information to get teens talking.

Relationship Violence is

* A pattern of behavior used by someone to maintain control over his or her partner. * It can take the form of verbal, physical, emotional, or even sexual abuse. * Relationship violence is not about getting angry or having a disagreement. * In an abusive relationship one partner is afraid of and intimidated by the other.

How often does it happen?

* 24% of female homicide victims are between 15 and 24 years old. * 70% of severe injuries and deaths occur when the victim is trying to leave or has already left the relationship. * Relationship violence is the number one cause of injury to women between the ages of 15-44. * 63% of boys ages 11-20 arrested for murder were arrested for murdering the man who was assaulting their mother. * 38% of date rape victims are young women between the ages of 14 and 17. * 70% of pregnant teenagers are abused by their partners.

Who is involved?

* Relationship violence occurs between two people who are currently or formerly involved in a dating relationship. * The abuse can begin at a very young age, as young as 11 or 12 years old. * Friends of the couple are usually aware of the abuse and may be drawn into the situation.

Where can it happen?

* Relationship violence can occur at school -- in the hall, in the classroom, in the parking lot, on the bus, at after-school activities, at a student's workplace, at a school dance, or at a student's home. * In teenage dating relationships, the abuse is often public with peers witnessing the abuse; however, the abuse can also occur in private.

Signs that you are in an abusive teen dating relationship.

* Is one partner afraid of the other? Afraid to break up with the other? * Does one partner call the other names, make the other feel stupid, or tell the other that they cannot do anything right? * Is one partner extremely jealous? * Does one partner tell the other where they can and cannot go or who you can and cannot be with or talk to? * Does one partner tell the other that no one else would ever go out with them? * Is one partner being cut off from their friends and family by the other partner? * Does one partner feel if they say no to sexual activities they will be in trouble? * Does one partner feel pushed or forced into sexual activity? * Does one partner say it's the other's fault or that the other caused them to be abusive? * Does one partner shove, grab, hit, pinch, hold down or kick the other? * Is one partner really nice sometimes and really mean at other times (almost like they have two personalities)? * Does one partner make frequent promises to change or say that they will never hurt the other again? Or do they say that the other is "making too big a deal" out of it?

If you can answer "yes" to any of these questions, then your partner is being abusive towards you. You may want to look at your relationship more closely and find out more about teen dating violence.


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Thursday, May 15, 2008

How To Set up An Attractive Profile in Online Dating Site

What is the most important thing to do after you join an online dating service? Recent studies show that most male singles tend contact profiles that they find attractive. So, when you join an online dating site to find your Mr. Right, make sure you set up a profile that appears really decent. A nicely set up profile enhances your chance of capturing attentions from many male singles. The following tips on how to set up an attractive profile can help you a great deal.

Profile Name: This is something that most of us ignore as unimportant while setting up our profile in online dating sites. However, studies show that an interesting profile name tends to draw more attention than a profile with a run-of-the-mill name. “So, what is an interesting profile name”, you may wonder. An interesting profile name doesn’t necessarily have a flash of sex; it will do more harm to your profile than good. Try and use a spin-off of your name, nickname, video game character, movie star or even favorite comic character. If you prefer using their names, make it a little interesting. Using a simple name might not get you the attention you require due to the fact the online dating site is usually have a lot of other members who might be your namesake.

Photo: If you think not including a photo in your online dating profile will make others more curious about your profile, think again. Studies indicate that most online dating single men tend ignore profiles of female singles that either have not pictures or have photos that look fake. Try to put a picture of you that look really decent; you have your best friend pick the best one she think before you put it up on your online dating profile. There are a few who include group photos in their online dating profile. This is never a good idea as it tends to confuse others about who you really are. You can keep your group pictures in the album section. Then again, choose the right pictures while including them in your album.

Descriptions: Be as honest as you can while writing your description. For example, there is no point in lying about your height, weight and similar details. However, don’t give away your very personal details such as your cell number. The ‘about me’ section is the best opportunity for you to attract potential attention. Describe who you really are in an interesting fashion. Include your hobbies such as music and sports. When it comes to the question whether you should tell the truth about you smoking and drinking habit, studies show you should be honest about them.

In a nutshell, an online dating profile that appears decent, natural and fun gets more attention that any other profiles. Don’t try to make your profile too serious. Remember, online dating is a fun way to achieve your Mr. Right.



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Wednesday, May 14, 2008

Things You Should Know About Internet Dating

More and more people are using the internet everyday and these people are using the internet for many different things. Today internet dating is among the most popular things that people use the internet for. Many people are turning to internet dating in search of a meaningful relationship.

If you play sports and you're seeking an activity partner you can do that on an internet dating service. If you are looking for someone for a serious relationship, or you are looking for a pen pal who lives in a different country, you can accomplish this on a dating service.

These dating services are great because they give you the opportunity to community with people who you may never meet in the real world. In the internet dating industry there are 2 types of services there are the free services and the paid services. Based on my own experience I would advise you to avoid using the free services because many of these services are popular for harvesting spammers.

Joining one of the paid services is much better, it will cost you some money to upgrade your membership but it's worth the price. The paid services will give you more control, more features and much less spammers.

Here are some tips you can follow if you are just getting started with internet dating.

First you need to find an internet dating service that you have confidence in, some dating services will provide video training as well as a FAQ section. You should take full advantage of this and use it to your benefit.

Then you will need a decent profile, if you're not sure what to say in your profile you should read some profiles from other members on the site. Try to find some good profiles, then you should implement some things from those profiles into yours.

You will need a good picture, for your profile the importance of having a good picture is sometimes overlooked by many members on dating services. If you don't have a good picture you should get one taken.

All to often people do not take their time when creating a profile, it's extremely important that you do not rush this process. Having a bad picture or having typos in your profile can have a negative effect on you, this can be a huge turn off to other members. It's best to take your time when creating your personal profile on an internet dating service.



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Getting Your Foot in the Door

No matter how many great date ideas you have and great places to go, things to do and restaurants to try out, there is always one top level priority when it comes to dating - getting the date! So even at this stage you have to have some ideas on how to meet the right kind of girls to go out with and how to go about asking for the date in the first place.

That step of asking the girl you like for a date can be terrifying but there are ways to ask a girl casually for a date that can take some of the terror out of the event. And if you can make that moment when you arrange your first "date" an easy and relaxed event, both you and your date will enjoy this process as much as the date itself.

It's always good to look at the groups you are active in for people you like first, as you share a common interest. If you know the girl through a mutual friend or at some social gathering such as a church group or club, there are no doubt plenty of times when people can socialize and get to know each other.

It's always easier to ask for a date or arrange a time to get together in a relaxed way if it can be under another context. If you are going to cold call the girl based on a friend's help getting her phone number, if you can place the call under another context, that reduces the anxiety of the conversation. Perhaps you could call because your shared friend is having a birthday and you want to have her help you scheme up a birthday party idea. Or you might find a question to ask about classes you share together or something in your shared group that would justify the call.

The quicker you move the call off of the "agenda" and into chat and light flirtation, the quicker she will understand your goals and you will get some feedback. If you already have been getting some flirting from the girl, she will cooperate eagerly in your little schemes. The easiest kind of "first date" to arrange is no date at all but a meeting to just have coffee and chat as friends. This is a safe first step because both of you have the chance to go slow, hit the escape valve if need be but flirt and explore if there is a relationship there.

It is during these informal shared settings and unthreatening coffees that a friendship can grow. Don't worry about it being a friendship because all good romances start out like this. Keep the charm coming and the gentle flirtation always on the ready so she knows you are interested.

From general flirtation to a safe coffee, it's not that big of a leap to your first date. In fact, you can even ease into that. If you have a shared interest, that makes for great material to fill that time when you are getting to know each other over coffee. When it turns out that she hasn't seen all the Fellini Films or would love to see a comet through a telescope or something like that, it's a simple lead to, "You know what don't I pick you up Friday and we can check it out?"

All of a sudden you have a date and it was just that easy and painless. You can focus on your sparkling personality and on continuing to find ways to charm her and just let the relationship grow naturally.



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Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Paul Janka

Have you heard of this guy Paul Janka from NYC?

Well..here are the videos: Paul Janka on Today Show and Paul Janka on Dr Phil.

Enjoy them, and leave a comment on the blog.

Top 5 Reasons to Test Your Relationship Compatibility

Whether you have just met a special new person or you've been dating a great man or woman for several years, determining your relationship compatibility is a vital part of any relationship. A couple's compatibility determines whether or not they will be able to make their relationship work long-term.

Often, the excitement of a new relationship causes us to overlook several important questions. Do we share the same goals? Do we clash over important issues like money or children? Are we both clear on what we want out of the relationship?

This is where relationship compatibility testing comes in. By asking these important questions and encouraging partners to open up to each other, relationship compatibility testing helps couples determine whether they are meant to last.

Are you wondering if relationship compatibility testing is right for you? Consider this: approximately half of all marriages in the United States end in divorce. How many of those divorces could have been avoided if the couple had determined their marriage compatibility prior to tying the knot?

There are countless reasons to test the compatibility of you and your partner. One that is particularly important is so you can know where you both want the relationship to go. Are you looking for marriage while your partner is looking for a short-term romance? Getting these answers out in the open can prevent a lot of confusion and heartache in the future.

Another good reason to test a couple's compatibility is to ensure that both partners share the same values, or at least that they accept each other's values. If you are a very religious person and your partner is not, will this cause a problem for either of you?

The third reason for testing a couple's compatibility is to find out the long-term life goals of each partner. If one partner dreams of settling down to raise a family immediately while the other longs to focus on their career, there is bound to be friction in the relationship.

The next reason you should test your relationship compatibility is a rather simple one: to figure out what type of partner they will be. This obviously applies more to new relationships than established ones. Compatibility tests can tell you if you agree on such fundamental things as gender roles within a relationship, which can sometimes make or break the love affair.

Finally, one of the best reasons to seek out relationship compatibility testing is to calm your own doubts. If you suspect that your partner is not right for you but just can't put your finger on why, a compatibility test can help you define what you don't want. On the other hand, if you are crazy about that special someone you may want to know that you are making the right choice. A relationship compatibility test can help to ease your mind and reinforce your relationship.

Ultimately, whether or not to stay with a partner is a very personal decision. A relationship compatibility test can't tell you what to do. It can, however, give you a fresh perspective to help you make up your own mind.

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Sunday, May 11, 2008

This Mother's Day Remember All The Women Who Deserve Thanks

Mother's Day is first and foremost about honoring and thanking that special lady who gave you birth, tucked you in at night and tried to guide you onto the path of the straight and narrow. Chances are, however, that there are a few other ladies in your life that deserve a little thanks on this most special of days. As it turns out, Mother's Day is the perfect time to remember all the women in your life who helped shape who you are today.

If you want to make Mother's Day spectacular for all the women who helped guide you through the pitfalls of life, get out a pen and take down some notes. Beyond your own mother and your wife, if you have one, these ladies might also be worthy and deserving of a little thanks this time of year:

· Your grandmothers. Do not forget these special ladies who probably spoiled you twice as rotten as your parents wanted them to. Sending them gift baskets and making a call to say I love you can make their day and let them know you care. · Aunts. Some aunts go so far above and beyond it is hard to tell them from grandmothers. If yours are spectacular, remember them on Mother's Day, too. A card, flowers, gift baskets or just a call to say hello will mean the world. · Your mother-in-law. Do not overlook the importance of this special lady. After all, without her, you would not have the love of your life. If you really want to score some points, make sure to spoil her almost as much as you would your own mom. Flowers, gift baskets, jewelry and breakfast out are always good ideas. · Family friends. If your mother or father had special friends that stepped in to help while you were growing up, thanking them is always a very nice touch. They will adore the thought and you will feel great for expressing your gratitude. · Special teachers. All too often we overlook these women who worked so hard to give us a good start in life. From elementary school teachers to college professors, chances are you have at least one who stands out as an important influence. Saying thank you on Mother's Day is out of the ordinary, but it will not be unappreciated. In fact, many teacher view all of their students, past and present, as their own children. Saying thank you is never inappropriate.

While there is no doubt that your first priority on Mother's Day should be your own mom, there are other women who are likely deserving of your heartfelt thanks. Give it to them and you will find your actions make their day and put a smile in your heart.



Randy Gardner is "Romeo". He is the exclusive writer of articles on dating, relationships and romantic gifts for Got To Have It Romantic Gift Creations website located at http://www.gottohaveitromanticgiftcreations.com

Saturday, May 10, 2008

Relationship Advice: Use these 3 Simple Tips to Screw Up Your Relationship

By all accounts the divorce rate in America has been on the decline. According to USA Today, it is now at its lowest level since 1970. Certainly this is a cause for celebration but it does not negate the fact that The United States still leads the rest of the world in that department or that one out of every two marriages will end in divorce.

There are a myriad of reasons as to why many relationships end badly. Sometimes in spite of the best efforts of both parties it still does not work. But more often than not many a couple has made a concerted effort (consciously or unconsciously) to sabotage their relationship. While there are a number of ways to throw a monkey wrench into the proceedings, the following must be at the top of any list when it comes to breaking up.

1. Communication Barrier

This is one of the main reasons relationship coaches remain in business. Many couples don't talk. If they do talk at it all it's usually past each other or turns it an argument. Lack of communication also is to a certain degree a lack of trust. You don't believe you can share more of yourself. Whether it's fear of rejection or just not believing they will be understood, the lack of trust can easily turn into not sharing anything at all.

The added side affect is that it has a tendency to put the other person on the defensive. They believe now they have done something wrong and since you are not giving them any indication one way or the other, the tension grows.

2. Money

We've seen many shows where a couple arguing over money has been played for laughs but in the real world it's no joke. A survey by Redbook and Smart Money magazines shows over seventy percent of people in a relationship talk to their partners at least once a week about money. It is so easy with soaring prices across the economic board for a discussion about basic household finances to get heated. Taking care of the family and home should be a gimme but even in that situation two people are bound to have a different perspective.

This is true even if you don't have money troubles. One partner might not feel it's a big deal since they have money to burn. That can cause some resentment particularly if one of you has been the primary breadwinner. No one can (or should) get their way all the time in any healthy relationship but there has to be boundaries. By all means make sure you and your partner do not work out a clear understanding or honor any financial decision you may reach.

3. Player, Player

This should go without saying. So why doesn't it? In a recent study conducted by Infidelity Facts, 57% of men and 53% women surveyed admit to cheating on their partner regardless of whether it is dating or marriage. Excuses can range from they are stuck in a loveless relationship and the new person makes them feel alive again to the thrill of sneaking around and doing something a bit reckless.

Whatever the excuse, introducing a third person into the picture means in essence the current relationship is over. "I love my spouse but..." is not going to cut it. Any chance to work out whatever problems you may be experiencing in your relationship will disappear once you get entangled with another person.

There is no quick fix or magic cure when it comes to relationships. It's hard work day by day, hour by hour. Even couples that have been together awhile and think they have the problems solved are shocked when life turns their relationship upside down. However if you want your relationship to end badly feel free to use any or all of the techniques above. They are guaranteed to do the trick.



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Friday, May 9, 2008

Online Dating Tips: Creating a great dating profile.

Each dating site has lots and lots of dating profiles... but only some of them make the site alluring for the other people. And it's important to create one these super profiles to make the most of online dating. So continue reading to know a couple of secrets of how to achieve success in the online dating.

Of course, the most important in the dating profile is a nice picture of you. In the most cases the appearance of the penpal get number 1 priority, the content of the letter sets the second position.

So, a good photo of you will certainly allow you to stand out the competition of the huge amounts of the profiles on the dating site. This is something like a "first impression" and you really get only one chance. Sure, there's no doubt that your standards should be really high. You should be very critical to yourself while chosing the photos to your profile, make sure that your pics will make a very good impression or even amaze your future penpals.

The thing is - even if you are really attractive and handsome in the real life but created a really bad profile - the people you correspond with will remember the worst of you. That's why, my advice is - throw away your bad pictures and post two or three the best ones. It's a simple logic that the photos should reflect you personality in the best manner, unless you are searching for nothing serious and you just want to waste your time. It very common to post two really good photos of you - a headshot and a full length shot, of course you can post the photos of your children (if you have ones) and maybe the picture of the favourite part of your house, a pet.

Of course not only your pictures attract people - you should attach a little story about yourself. This can be about some your interests, the way of life, a description of a person you are looking for on the dating site... whatever that will show your personality from the good side and will help you to find that special person you are looking for.

The other important thing in the online dating is the first letter - you should make it very very good to make your penpal reply to you. This is like the first impression as well. If your first letter is boring and has nothing interesting, then the person you are writing to most likely won't bother answering you. With the first message you should make a person interested in you. Before writing the letter you should explore the profile of the person you want to write to, and I advise you to mention why you think you will be a good match, what you like the most her or his profile (it can be something in the appearance, some common interests, etc.), feel free to express your thoughts on this or that matter.

Of course you shouldn't write to much in the first letter but you are always free to ask questions. Be short-spoken and vivid in your letter. You should write the most you can with as little as possible. Do not tell about yourself just everything - keep a room for the mystery, it's much more attractive than openness.

Well, I hope my pieces of advice will help you to create a great dating profile and to find a person you really deserve. Good luck!



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Thursday, May 8, 2008

Simple Relationship Compatibility Test

As I write in many of my articles, a relationship is basically a desire and an agreement of two people to spend time together, have nice nights together and generally have a life together.

So in order to understand if a couple in a relationship indeed has a high level of compatibility, it is enough to talk about how both of partners see their common time together for the span of the relationship, let's say a month, or a year or even more.

For example, David dates Luise and if this couple is compatible they would surely think of going to the films together which they both like, plan for vacations in places both would like to go, later, probably, plan to move and live together in a city and an area which both like or think suitable.

Do you see how it works?

They talk about things they both agree and have plans to do things they both agree and dream of places and events they both agree are enjoyable and worthwhile.

So, in order to test your couple compatibility, all you have to do is to talk, I mean, really communicate about how would you see your time together in a week, a month, spending the nearest or even more far away holidays and if you are a daring couple, you might talk about a year or two ahead. You would talk about your life together, cats and dogs, house, children and so on.

I want to stop in this specific article on three interesting subjects: house, pets and children. Because I believe a real serious and successful relationship comes eventually to these three questions: where would we live, which pet if ever would we have and how many children would we want to have.

If you are not at the stage you would like to talk about children, it's OK. Talk about pets now. I don't compare children to pets, of course, but for younger people children might be way too serious a subject, while cats and dogs are certainly a funny and nice thing to discuss.

What about house? Even if you still don't live together or even don't plan to, you can describe a house you dream of. How would it look like, how many stories, how many rooms, should it have a pool, a garden, and so on. It is a great pleasure even just imagining a house of your dreams. And if you and your partner both agree on your dreams and can work out a house of your future as you both would like to have, you are certainly communicating and thinking on the same wave!

The same about pets - which pet would you like to have together. I know that when a pair wants to have a dog and both of partners admire and love dogs, that really gets them closer to each other and they have always what to talk about. The same, of course, applies to cat.

On the contrary if one just loves dogs and another hates them but would rather have a cat, it could be a subject for an argument or two, so try to solve this compatibility issue before it becomes a problem.

And the last one here are the children if you have a mature enough relationship to come to the subject. You, of course, can talk about how many children would you like to have together and when.

Discussing the subjects I brought up here, your relationship compatibility would be much more clear and can also be dramatically improved.

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Tuesday, May 6, 2008

Surviving A Long Distance Relationship: 7 Powerful Secrets To Rekindle the Love and Keep It Alive

All relationships take work. But a long-distance relationship is even more difficult and it can sometimes seem impossible to keep love alive when separated. But love can be a powerful motivator and, if you're dedicated enough, you can make a long-distance relationship work.

If your man is overseas, you may be concerned that his need for affection may lead him astray ' but with the right attitude and a little creativity, your long-distance relationship can be rewarding, exciting and romantic. You just have to work a little harder to keep the flame burning while you're apart.

1) Write love letters.

One of the best things about long-distance relationship is receiving ' and sending ' love letters and romantic poetry. Even relationships where a couple live in the same house can benefit from expressing feelings on paper, and it's even more special when there are miles between you.

So take advantage of the distance and craft a love poem for him that's as romantic as anything out of a Jane Austen novel. Handwrite a two-page letter, send a flirty text message or type out a romantic e-mail.

You don't have to embarrass yourself with gooey sentimentality, but the more detailed your love notes, the better. As long as you're sincere, you really can't go wrong.

2) Live in the present.

Instead of emphasizing the distance between the two of you, focus on the love you share every day, and how grateful you have each other to rely upon.

It's natural to plan for the future, but if you're always talking about how terrific it will be the next time you're together, you're not enjoying the present. Don't live for "someday" ' appreciate each other right now, even with the distance, and don't pin all your happiness on some far-off moment down the road.

3) Build trust.

If you show that you trust your partner, they will return the favor. Even couples who live together fear infidelity, so it can especially tough to trust that your partner overseas is being faithful.

But if both of you agreed to be true to each other while in separate cities, states or countries, or continents, then you should trust that neither of you will risk your love too easily.

So if you let him know you're confident in your relationship ' and reinforce that you're happy to wait for your partner ' the two of you will have more of a chance of succeeding.

4) Be careful with your words and tone of voice.

Because you aren't there to read his body language and facial expressions and feel his hug ' and vice versa ' pay extra attention to way you communicate.

If something you read strikes you the wrong way, ask him to clarify. Make sure that your own writing is clear. If you're having a tough day and the stress is creeping into your voice while you're on the phone, make sure to tell him why you're tense and that it's not because of him. It's easy to miscommunicate when you're not face-to-face, so head off any misunderstandings before they start.

5) Don't idealize your partner.

Lovers tend to idealize each other in long-distance relationships, building them up to be people they aren't.

It's natural to think highly of your partner, but don't have unrealistic expectations of how perfect your life will be when you're finally together again. You'll only be setting yourself up for a massive disappointment if you do.

6) Involve him in your everyday life.

It's important for him to feel connected to you. Tell him about even the most mundane details about your day, keep him up to date about your life.

Share gossip about the neighbors, tell him about a movie you saw, talk about the new software you're installing on the computer. Some long-distance couples will set their VCRs to record a movie or TV show so they can watch it together, chatting on Instant Messenger or on the phone while watching at the same time.

Having these special "dates" will keep the two of you close, just as sharing the most boring details of your life will keep you conncted as a couple.

7) Close the distance every now and then.

Even if you feel your long-distance relationship is going along just swimmingly, there's nothing like a planned or totally spontaneous get-together to spice things up.

Save up for a plane ticket and surprise your lover with a weekend visit. Sometimes you just need a little reminder of the physical connection you two have, not just the emotional one.

Your long-distance relationship can work ' even thrive ' with a little effort and creativity. Even if your partner is starting to feel a little distant, you can rekindle the love with a few romantic gestures and a lot of compassion.

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Monday, May 5, 2008

Online Dating -- Privacy and Security Risks

In order to register for an online dating service, consumers are often asked to provide exhaustive personal information. How this information will be handled varies widely between companies. Most companies keep certain information private while making other details available to other members or even to anyone with Internet access. And as the recent wave of security breaches demonstrates, hackers are capable of pulling information out of company databases thought to be secure against intruders.

Here are a few tips for online dating services:

Read the site's privacy policy, terms of service, and any membership agreement or contract very carefully. Privacy policies should be straightforward and tell you exactly how information you submit may be used, and the membership agreement or contract should also be clear. While many online dating services are inexpensive, some are not;

Do not use an e-mail address you use for other purposes and avoid using any address that contains your name or your employer's or school's name. Instead, use an e-mail address from a service that will permit you to open an account without giving out your personal information. Be sure to check with your e-mail provider for terms and conditions of use. Do not give out even this e-mail address too readily;

Do not use a telephone number that can be traced to you through directory services. Check with your cellular service provider to find out whether third parties can associate your name with your cellular phone number;

Report abusive communications to the webmaster of the dating service. If the behavior continues, and you feel unsafe in view of the personal information you have disclosed, call your local police department.

Location-based Dating Services

Location-based or "real-world" dating services sometimes involve contracts with high costs and little chance of cancellation by the consumer. Contracts can easily run $1,000 -- even $10,000 contracts are not uncommon. Again, consumers should scrutinize contracts before signing.

Look for contract terms that clearly disclose:

The exact cost and any future payments that may be required. If you sign a retail installment contract, pay close attention to the interest and terms of payment;

Whether, and under what circumstances, you may cancel the contract and receive a refund;

Whether you can transfer the contract to another location in the event you move;

Exactly what the business, at a minimum, must do for you, including whether it guarantees a minimum number of matches. Also check to see whether the contract defines what will be considered a "match."

In addition to carefully reviewing the contract, there are other steps consumers can take to protect themselves before signing a contract with a real-world dating service. Here are a several additional tips:

Beware of aggressive sales tactics -- Some location-based dating services with sales offices and experienced salespersons may use aggressive tactics to persuade you to sign up on the spot. In addition to using a "now or never" pitch to pressure you into signing, companies may also drag out the length of your visit, rotate salespersons, and manufacture extreme consequences for any delay on your part. Refuse to sign any contract you can't take home overnight to review;

Get straight answers to your questions, in writing. This is especially important with regard to fees and terms of cancellation times. If the representative won't give you a straight answer, in writing, you should not sign up for the service;

Be wary of verbal promises that are not in your contract, especially concerning the company's vast list of potential matches that meet your specific dating criteria. Inquire into the company's male to female member ratio, number of active members, whether or not they have any satisfied customers you could speak to, and what they offer in the way of a refund if the service is not successful in your case. Again, get it in writing;

Don't pay for a contract you can't afford -- if the price is too high, chances are that the business will be able to offer you a cheaper deal. Remember: if you sign up but can't pay the charges, your credit score could be damaged;

Don't sign a contract that contains terms you think are unfair. If there are contract terms you don't like, demand that they be changed or removed, in writing.


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Sunday, May 4, 2008

Tips On Conversation Starters

Going out on a date can be really exciting and enjoyable especially when you're having the time of your life with your date. The key factor in great dates is great conversation. Striking up a conversation with the other person can put too much pressure on you especially if you know so little about them. This is one reason why you and your date should start asking questions about one another to get to know each other on a deeper level.

When you found something in common between you, this could be the start of a great conversation. Share you experiences and your interests, let them know and let them feel that you're interested and you're interesting. Ask open ended questions. These questions are not simply answerable by yes or no but by deep conversational messages. Through this, you will have a good idea about the person's intellectual level as well as their sense of humor, if there's any. Having the same wavelength of thinking is one of the crucial factors in successful relationships. You'd want to spend the rest of your life with someone who you can talk to about serious matters at the same time make you laugh, right?

Probably one of the best conversation starters involves sharing one or more sms in your mobile phone. You could start with "Hey, you know what? A friend recently sent me this funny sms. I can't stop laughing all day when I read it," and then show her the message on your mobile phone.

You can also share some love quotes with her. You could start talking about it like, "When I read this love quote on my mobile phone, I knew I had to ask you out on a date. I was struck with it so hard that even if I was a bit shy, I mustered enough courage to ask you out. Here is why," and then show the love quote that inspired you to be brave enough to ask her out. This gesture will surely melt the girl's heart and you'll notice her blush while reading the love quote. If you're lucky enough, she would be starting to fall for you because of what you told her.

If you are still quite unsure how to start the flow of communication, you can begin by complimenting your date. Saying something nice to a guy is easier than complimenting a girl. If you comment on his appearance or his car, it will instantly break the ice and will send a message that you like him. Complimenting a girl can be complicated. Don't just use average words because it would only mean that she looks plain. The tip here is to sound exhilarated and excited when you say something nice about her. Don't over do it though, you might sound creepy enough and scare her off.

If you have a good sense of humor, take advantage of it. Laughter is a great ice breaker and you'd be surprised at how powerful it can be to help you connect with you date. Believe it or not, both of you are nervous. It is okay to let your date know that you're nervous. Since your date feels that same way, he'll start letting his guard down to be comfortable with you.



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Saturday, May 3, 2008

Are You Experiencing Abuse in a Dating Relationship?

Violence in relationships is not just an adult problem. Abuse occurs in more than a quarter of teen relationships. Dating violence is when physical, emotional, and/or sexual force is used by one person to control or dominate the other. If you or someone you know is a victim of dating violence it is important to talk about it with someone, preferably an adult, to get help. If the first person you tell doesn't help you, talk to someone else. Keep trying to get help.

If you are being abused by someone you are dating or have dated in the past, remember, you are not alone and it is not your fault. You may feel confused and scared about what is going on. But, you need to deal with it, because the abuse will likely get worse over time. It does not go away just because your partner says they will stop the abuse.

The following warning signs may indicate that you are in an abusive dating relationship:

You may be at risk if the person you are dating or have dated in the past:

* Is jealous and possessive toward you, won't let you have friends, checks up on you, or won't accept breaking up. * Tries to control you by giving orders and making all the decisions. Doesn't take your opinion seriously. * Is scary. (You worry about your partner's reactions to things you might say or do.) * Threatens you, uses or owns weapons. * Is violent: has a history of fighting or loses temper quickly. * Pressures you for sex, or is forceful or scary around sex. (In a male, may treat women or girls as sex objects.) * Gets too serious about the relationship too fast. * Abuses drugs or alcohol and pressures you to use them, too. * Blames you for the mistreatment you get. Says you provoked the abuse, pressed buttons, or "asked for it". * Your family and friends have warned you about the person or told you they were worried about your safety.

If you have observed any of these things happening in your or another teen's relationship, dating violence could be happening.

You can prevent it from getting worse. Help is available. Look to other messages on these pages for specific things you can do and for information on community and other agencies that can help.

If you are in an abusive relationship or trying to get out of an abusive situation, here are some tips you might think about to increase your safety:

* Stay in touch with your friends and stay involved in activities that you enjoy. * Consider telling your parents or other family members about what is happening. They can help you screen telephone calls or visitors. * Try not to be alone. Let your friends know what is happening and have them walk to classes and spend time during lunch with you. * Tell teachers, counselors, coaches, or security guards about what is happening. Have them help you be safe. * Change your routine. Don't always come to school the same way, or arrive at the same time. Always have someone with you. * Always keep extra quarters with you so you can make phone calls. * Consider obtaining an Order for Protection from the court. * Make a list of phone numbers, including 911, crisis lines, and supportive friends whom you can call when you are upset. * Try not to be alone with your dating partner. Don't go by yourself to an isolated or deserted location. * Before leaving home to go somewhere, let other people know what your plans are and where you'll be and when. * Trust your instincts. If you feel you are in danger, get help immediately. * Break up with your partner in a public place. Let other people know that you plan to break up with your partner and let them know where you'll be and when.

Everyone has rights in a relationship. Keep in mind that you have the right:

* To trust yourself and your instincts; * To be respected as a person; * To change your mind; * To express your feelings; * To refuse a date; * To not be physically, emotionally, or sexually abused; * To break up with someone who makes you feel bad.

Know your rights and don't be taken advantage of.



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Friday, May 2, 2008

Interracial Dating and Love: How It Differs In Many Ways

Interracial dating in the past has been considered taboo. But as time passed by, more and more people came to understand and accept relationships of people from different races. Although there are still quite a few who are uncomfortable about the idea of interracial dating, most people in the society nowadays are open-minded.

You cannot control what your heart tells you. If you fell in love with someone from a different culture and racial background, you may find it difficult to fight for your love because of other people's reactions. However, there are a lot of interracial relationships that prove to last longer than those who have had same-race relationships. This may be because they felt a stronger bond of love between them and the trials that they went through made them love each other more, instead of breaking them apart. They grow together as one which is a really strong foundation for real love and long lasting relationship.

There are some challenges that face interracial dating because of cultural differences between interracial couples. There are some countries that still have this societal pressures and prejudices about it. In addition, some of the interracial couple's family members might oppose the union because they might think that it is unsuitable for their family's image in the society. They are worried about what other people might think about their son or daughter's relationship with another person of different background and color.

The cultural differences between the couple are one of the most difficult of all challenges because each one has to adjust to the other's cultural upbringing. While establishing their own family, the question lingers about how they would raise their children. What cultural background should they be exposed to and other things for that matter. In order to resolve this, they should have a serious exchange of ideas for raising their children. The best thing to do is mix in all the good things about each culture but leave out anything negative about it.

Interracial dating might have its difficulties and trials however there are a lot of couples who are successfully and happily married. They outgrew and withstand all the trials they have faced during their first days of dating up to the time they have established a happy home. They both have benefited of learning new things about one another's culture, both the good and the bad attributes of each culture.

Another thing that contributes to the success of every interracial dating and relationships is the advancements of technology nowadays. The mobile phone industry and the internet revolution lets people interact accordingly even if they are on the opposite sides of the planet. They feel closer than the actual thousands of miles distance between them. According to studies, there are more love quotes and love sms sent nowadays and much more egreetings sent over the internet. This surely is the essence of the new technologies constantly renovated each day and the interracial couples are greatly benefiting from them.

Interracial couples are brave enough to face the world and let the society know that nothing can stand between them and their love for each other. The more challenges and trials the interracial couples are undergoing, the stronger their relationship becomes. This only proves that love can indeed conquer all, from the moment it starts and hopefully until eternity.



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Thursday, May 1, 2008

Long Distance Relationships and Separated Tours

Married but living apart due to employment opportunities, the educational needs of your children, or the demands of a sick or elderly family member back home? Are you involved in a relationship, but unable to live in the same city, not to mention country? The term "geographic single" is often used to describe persons who live apart from those they love. This paper is intended to provide some suggestions for members of the Foreign Service facing a geographic separation from their mate.

Plan for the Separation

* Be honest with each other about your concerns and fears. Being committed to the relationship and to one another during the separation is important. * Talk about the upcoming separation and how you will cope. Share your expectations about being apart from each other so there are no misunderstandings. Also share your expectations when you are planning to visit each other or take a vacation together. * Set up a communication system. How will you keep in touch on a daily / weekly basis? Marriage counselors tout that communication is key to a healthy relationship. The new millennium offers more ways to communicate, in addition to fast air travel across continents. International phone calls, video teleconferencing through one's computer, web sites, international mail services, and electronic transmissions of words, cards, music, photos, and video connect loved ones together in a cyberspace second. * Many people in the Military or Foreign Service find themselves separated from spouses and family for extended periods of time due to separated tours or temporary duty travel. This presentation identifies behaviors that strengthen often-apart or long-distance relationships. * Practical considerations: - Establish separate bank accounts (can still be joint) to keep records clear. - Set up a power of attorney for any expected (and unexpected) financial transactions. - Review wills of both parties and make any necessary updates. - Establish areas of responsibility (who will pay what, contract for what, etc.), keeping in mind that the spouse in the United States will probably have more responsibilities. Depending on circumstances, the family might consider some of the following: - Share your skills with your spouse by teaching them what you know! Both should know how to put film in camera, fix loose wires, change fuses, sew on buttons, maintain financial records, and prepare food. - Divide kitchen utensils, cookbooks, rugs, furniture, books, and anything that will be needed in both locations. Make copies of favorite recipes. - Prepare family pictures, special books, music cassettes of favorite selections that will have psychological importance. - Heighten awareness about income tax requirements, i.e., collection of certain receipts, invoices, and other financial considerations. * Discuss how to make decisions about children. * Say good-bye. Plan appropriate parties and events. Remember that one spouse will be leaving even if the other is staying. Be sure to include the children in these important good-byes.

During the Separation

Remember that this experience is time-limited. Put on paper the reasons for accepting this separated assignment and refer to it periodically, as a reminder.

* Although you are apart from one another, make time for each other. Make time to communicate using those means you have set up for doing so. If you do not have an opportunity to have a telephone conversation or write an email, spend time thinking about your spouse. Some suggest keeping a journal that you can share when you are together. * Plan to see and call each other as often as finances allow. Plan something fun to do when you get the opportunity to spend time together. * Work on creative ways to communicate! As mentioned above, international phone calls, video teleconferencing through one's computer, web sites, international mail services, and electronic transmissions of words, cards, music, photos, and video connect loved ones together in a cyberspace second. Instant messaging is a great way to have a conversation online. Since you can not read one another's non-verbal communication, use symbols or words or happy faces (whatever you like) to illustrate your thoughts. Play backgammon online together! * Surprise your mate once in awhile with an unexpected phone call. * Send care packages with personal notes. * Cultivate a mentality of "the less hassle the better" for each spouse. Find help for lawn care, bill paying, house cleaning, shopping, if necessary. Find a reliable plumber, electrician, carpenter, and auto mechanic to call in emergencies. * Take pictures of post, quarters, surrounding area, Embassy office, friends, so that spouse in the U.S. can visualize what it's like at post. * Each partner may find it helpful to keep a journal, especially at the onset of separation. * Talk about ground rules for what sort of information and emotions, especially emotions, can be shared and in what manner.

The End of a Separated Tour: Return to Normalcy

* Allow time for the returning spouse to get reacquainted and adjust to being back home. Also allow time to re-adjust to shared decision making and responsibilities. * Talk about the experience.

Adult Dating
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