Relationships are fragile. Each day, a break up occurs because something was amiss in the relationship or a big mistake was made and the issue cannot be laid to rest. Couples should know by now the things you should not to do in a relationship; yet this does not seem to be the case. It is important to avoid doing these things because it can do much more than damage your relationship; it can damage your reputation as well.
Below are 5 things you should not to do in a relationship. These things hurt relationships, many beyond repair.
(1) Cheating
If you are in a relationship where it is monogamous and you step out, this is called cheating. Men and women alike do the cheating without fear of repercussions. They do not realize that what they do affects all around them. If they are married and have children, a divorce is probable. These children are then affected through divorce. Any trust that you were able to build with your significant other is gone once the cheating has been discovered. If you don't love your other half anymore, then it is time to leave not cheat.
(2) Too Controlling
Everyone deserves to choose for himself or herself when it comes to their life. No one thinks it is funny (despite what the television shows portray) when an "evil" wife or a "demanding" husband call every few minutes wondering where his or her other half is. What this is called is emotional abuse and it can leave a scare for a lifetime. It shows that you have a lack of trust in yourself and in others around you. You can be quite forlorn feeling this way.
(3) Lack of Emotional Support
Everyone wants to be loved and everyone has feelings. Not everyone can show their feelings. When you are with your spouse, you expect them to love you unconditionally, honor you and pay attention to your needs. However, this is not always the case and it can lead to extreme emotional pain. It isn't just women who feel this way, men have the same issues. Not giving affection and attention is one of those things you should not to do in a relationship.
(4) Too Many Fights
Fights in relationships are inevitable and otherwise healthy. It must be understood that fighting lets out every thing you have been holding in, the things that have been making you unhappy. These fights should bring you closer together but there are times that the fights go way beyond the normal level. Those fights seem like a war broke out in your home. Even worse is when you begin to name call. Many people cannot forget or forgive these things. How can you avoid this type of fighting? Try to calm down before you talk to your spouse and stay calm when you do talk to them.
(5) Being Bored In a Relationship
Some relationships fall into a routine, leaving some to feel it has grown stale and rather boring. You need to remember that a relationship is a blessing. It would be a shame to let the relationship die because both people could not keep the spirit alive. Keep the relationship fresh and alive by doing something spontaneous you think your spouse would enjoy.
Now that you know what things you should not do in a relationship, the idea is to stay away from them. Always keep a line of communication open and talk freely with your spouse about concerns you both may have. By letting things fester, you are only dooming the relationship before it has a chance to be repaired or take off the ground.
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Saturday, August 30, 2008
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Tips to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back - Learn Reverse Psychology
She broke your heart but you still can't move on. All you can think about is how she made you feel whenever you were together. How you could share your feelings with her and she would not laugh at you. How she loved you and only you but now there seems to be no hope of winning her back; she has started dating another man. What are you to do? Do not fret. Here are some tips to get your ex girlfriend back.
First off, if she is dating someone else, choose your words carefully if you are trying to win her back. However, your words have considerable weight and how you say them and how you mean it will make all the difference.
You really want to win her back, one of the first tips to win your ex girlfriend back is to never bad mouth her new beau. It only makes you look bad and jealous. By giving her his long list of bad deeds only ensures your own bad deed list in her eyes. She is more likely to not talk to you afterwards. Women have a tendency to already know that you may be jealous even before you do something to show it. The best thing for you to do is show her how mature you actually are. Sometimes by wishing her and her new beau good luck, it can work more in your favor in her eyes. It's called reverse psychology in relationships.
Many ex couples are choosing to stay friends especially if the break up was amicable. Some couples who were friends before the relationship can be friends afterwards. If she is able to call you after the break up then you still have a fighting chance. Should she bring up her new hunk, you should hold back on doing any trash talking. Let her figure things out on her own and let her come to you if she wants to. If you think it will not come out bad (or jealous sounding) give her some advice after you listen to talk.
By not badmouthing her or criticizing him, she will realize how mature you actually are. This means she will want to keep you as a friend and if it does not work out with her new beau. To her, you are someone who she can put her trust and share her feelings with.
Another one of those tips to get your ex girlfriend back is to not always be at her every need when she wants you. If you really want her back, you need her to miss you. By getting busy with other items or ignoring some of her calls, she'll begin to think she is not the most important person in your life.
These tips to get your ex girlfriend back may not always work and may not always be easy but it is important to do if you want her in your life and in your arms once again.
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First off, if she is dating someone else, choose your words carefully if you are trying to win her back. However, your words have considerable weight and how you say them and how you mean it will make all the difference.
You really want to win her back, one of the first tips to win your ex girlfriend back is to never bad mouth her new beau. It only makes you look bad and jealous. By giving her his long list of bad deeds only ensures your own bad deed list in her eyes. She is more likely to not talk to you afterwards. Women have a tendency to already know that you may be jealous even before you do something to show it. The best thing for you to do is show her how mature you actually are. Sometimes by wishing her and her new beau good luck, it can work more in your favor in her eyes. It's called reverse psychology in relationships.
Many ex couples are choosing to stay friends especially if the break up was amicable. Some couples who were friends before the relationship can be friends afterwards. If she is able to call you after the break up then you still have a fighting chance. Should she bring up her new hunk, you should hold back on doing any trash talking. Let her figure things out on her own and let her come to you if she wants to. If you think it will not come out bad (or jealous sounding) give her some advice after you listen to talk.
By not badmouthing her or criticizing him, she will realize how mature you actually are. This means she will want to keep you as a friend and if it does not work out with her new beau. To her, you are someone who she can put her trust and share her feelings with.
Another one of those tips to get your ex girlfriend back is to not always be at her every need when she wants you. If you really want her back, you need her to miss you. By getting busy with other items or ignoring some of her calls, she'll begin to think she is not the most important person in your life.
These tips to get your ex girlfriend back may not always work and may not always be easy but it is important to do if you want her in your life and in your arms once again.
Getting back with your ex girlfriend sounds impossible? The fact is thousands have benefited by visiting www.TheMagicOfMakingUp.com
Friday, August 15, 2008
Dating Guidelines For Single Parents
As a single parent, you probably have so little free time that dating seems an impossible task. Yet, single parents are dating in unprecedented numbers, so if you’re looking for another “head of household” to date, you’ll find one.
As a responsible parent, you’ll want to be very cautious about whom you date and eventually bring home for the safety and well-being of your child(ren). You may feel guilty or unsure about whether dating is OK. Of course it is, as long as you do it responsibly, and your children are not disrupted by your dating.
Single parent dating involves finding a quality person you like, who likes you, and who is comfortable with your children. These extra dynamics can be frustrating, but should not be ignored or overlooked. Pressuring your children to like your date and going too fast for them to get comfortable with the situation, will create unnecessary trouble. This article presents some guidelines to help you, your children and your new date be more comfortable, and assure that things go smoothly.
If your children are small, they have a right to be primary in your life. They should not have to compete with your new relationship for your time, attention and affection. This takes planning, because your schedule is already full.
Safety/ Sensibility Issues
Because today's society is very mobile, it’s easy for people who are not savory to hide their backgrounds. Getting to know people as friends before dating increases the safety of dating and meeting new people. To maximize safety, choose group activities, daytime activities with the children along, and stay in public places until you establish your date’s character.
Meeting other single parents at PTA, church, and school or sports events is a great, non-threatening way to begin. The public setting provides safety, a chance to get to know the other person, and to find out what others think of him or her. Meeting his or her children or other family members will quickly reveal their values and attitudes. When your children meet another parent, an adult friend, or a church or temple member rather than a date, it’s much less threatening to them. There is less pressure on everyone.
Rules for Everyone
Children aren’t the only ones who need rules to follow. If the adults involved (you, your date, your ex, grandparents, friends) do the right thing automatically, they are following their own internal rules, but if their behavior is not suitable for you and your children, you need to inform them of yours.
Setting and keeping rules may sound like a drag, but sensible and reasonable guidelines can help a lot. When everyone knows what is expected of them, they will feel respected and secure.
Parental Dating Guidelines
• Make sure you know a lot about any new person before inviting him/her into your home.
• Make friends before considering a romantic relationship.
• Always introduce new adults to your children as friends, nothing more.
• If your children are old enough to have opinions of your new friends, listen to what they have to say.
• Do not pressure your children to like your new friend, or to spend time with him or her.
• Insist that your children behave appropriately and politely to your adult friends.
• Have regular family discussions with your children.
• If you want to get serious with a date, find out his or her feelings about children, especially your children, first.
• Gradually introduce a new date to your children by doing family oriented activities together. Give your children and your date a chance to develop their own relationships.
• Don’t sacrifice your children's alone time with you to your dating. Don’t miss sport or school events in order to date.
• Don’t share inappropriately with your children. Do not use them as “confidantes” for your relationship confusion or problems. Don't allow them to find out about your sexual relationship.
Tina B. Tessina PhD http://www.tinatessina.com has been a licensed psychotherapist for 30 years and written 13 books in 16 languages. Her newest book, Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage helps couples repair marriage.
Monday, August 11, 2008
Online Dating Advice: Bringing It to the Table
You read some online dating profiles and it's like the person you are trying to hook up with stepped out of a dream. Attractive, exciting, interesting, compatible and all that other good stuff. The initial online chatting tells you that you are onto something first-rate.
Each time you talk the both of you share a little bit more of yourselves. It seems like you two were meant to be together and now it becomes only a matter of time and logistics before that first face to face meeting.
At least that was the direction you were heading until your last online discussion. The other person casually mentioned some of their likes and dislikes about being in a relationship; nothing extreme really. When the conversation turned your way, you started with the laundry list. You gave chapter, verse and painfully excruciating detail about what you wanted in a relationship. This would not have been so bad if you had included some of things you bring to the table.
It wasn't. Your list put the lion's share of responsibly on the other person. You are looking for a partner that does this, says that, gives you this, accepts certain things in a certain way and a whole host of other items. After this chat, the would-be suitor decides there is no way they can live up to all that and decides to move along to greener and less demanding pastures.
It is common in online dating just like the offline world to reach the conclusion that after a few chats, it's just not going to work but coming to the table with a "to do" list is a surefire recipe for ending any potential romance.
Growing a relationship is about give and take. It's also accepting the fact that no one person can satisfy the other every minute of the day. Human beings are flawed so if you want to be with someone, you have to take the bitter with the sweet. It's not that you are lowering your standards it's more about facing up to reality.
When you start laying it out to someone concerning what you are looking for in a potential partner in very demanding terms, then they may feel that's a mountain not worth climbing. Even if they decide to give it a go, how can they be sure you won't be there to grade them every step of the way?
Instead do that person and yourself a favor by mentioning what you bring to the relationship. Yes tell them your likes and dislikes but let the other person know that both of you are sharing the responsibility of making this relationship work. There's something about being on the same level that makes both parties comfortable.
And yes you are going to have to bite your tongue a time or two. There is no such thing as perfect compatibility so when their tastes go in another direction you are going to have to decide what's more important: letting them be who they are or does it adhere to your list. It's a tough call but unless it is something extreme that you know there is no way on earth you could live with, then give them the benefit of the doubt.
Remember you are not lowering your standards to the point it makes the other person happy and you miserable. That's not going to work. It's is about recognizing that few if anyone can live up to a list of ideals.
Article written by Daryl Campbell " The Relationship Tip " There may not be any one hundred percent guarantees when it comes to online dating but if you want to maximize your chances then there are certain traps you must avoid
Each time you talk the both of you share a little bit more of yourselves. It seems like you two were meant to be together and now it becomes only a matter of time and logistics before that first face to face meeting.
At least that was the direction you were heading until your last online discussion. The other person casually mentioned some of their likes and dislikes about being in a relationship; nothing extreme really. When the conversation turned your way, you started with the laundry list. You gave chapter, verse and painfully excruciating detail about what you wanted in a relationship. This would not have been so bad if you had included some of things you bring to the table.
It wasn't. Your list put the lion's share of responsibly on the other person. You are looking for a partner that does this, says that, gives you this, accepts certain things in a certain way and a whole host of other items. After this chat, the would-be suitor decides there is no way they can live up to all that and decides to move along to greener and less demanding pastures.
It is common in online dating just like the offline world to reach the conclusion that after a few chats, it's just not going to work but coming to the table with a "to do" list is a surefire recipe for ending any potential romance.
Growing a relationship is about give and take. It's also accepting the fact that no one person can satisfy the other every minute of the day. Human beings are flawed so if you want to be with someone, you have to take the bitter with the sweet. It's not that you are lowering your standards it's more about facing up to reality.
When you start laying it out to someone concerning what you are looking for in a potential partner in very demanding terms, then they may feel that's a mountain not worth climbing. Even if they decide to give it a go, how can they be sure you won't be there to grade them every step of the way?
Instead do that person and yourself a favor by mentioning what you bring to the relationship. Yes tell them your likes and dislikes but let the other person know that both of you are sharing the responsibility of making this relationship work. There's something about being on the same level that makes both parties comfortable.
And yes you are going to have to bite your tongue a time or two. There is no such thing as perfect compatibility so when their tastes go in another direction you are going to have to decide what's more important: letting them be who they are or does it adhere to your list. It's a tough call but unless it is something extreme that you know there is no way on earth you could live with, then give them the benefit of the doubt.
Remember you are not lowering your standards to the point it makes the other person happy and you miserable. That's not going to work. It's is about recognizing that few if anyone can live up to a list of ideals.
Article written by Daryl Campbell " The Relationship Tip " There may not be any one hundred percent guarantees when it comes to online dating but if you want to maximize your chances then there are certain traps you must avoid
Thursday, August 7, 2008
How To Realize Healthy Dating Relationship
It is what every person aspires to have, a healthy dating relationship. It is much sought after by many dating couples. It is their dream to have a model of a relationship. But unfortunately or fortunately it is so elusive to the extent that many relationships have turned into casual affairs that lack enough commitment. A healthy dating relationship relies mostly on the concept of giving. Be a person who is always willing to give instead of expecting to be given. Do not have limitations in giving, give out generously and your rewards will be abundant. Giving in this case is not material but learning to love your partner and express it in every possible means and ways. Even the holy book says that if you give handsomely you will be rewarded in equal measure. A relationship that is based on love is like a house built on a rock, it can weather any storm.
People in a healthy dating relationship should be able to derive fulfillment and contentment from it. A dating person’s emotional and physical needs ought to be met by the relationship. The relationship becomes like a spring where your thirst can be quenched. When a relationship is healthy you will feel it. You feel you are so deep into your partner that you live for this relationship. You feel things can never be the same again if at all it was curtailed. You live for it, it is your everything. It forms your dreams during the night and you day dream about it during the day. All this are manifestations of a deep fulfillment. A contentment that envelopes your heart with such a good feeling that makes you realize that you are in a healthy dating relationship.
A relationship is not always a bed of roses as many people tend to believe. Sometimes it is rocked by infighting and division. We are all human beings and we are all deficient in our own small ways. We are bound to disagree in one way or another at one time or another. Such differences are an indicator of good health in a relationship. Otherwise if everything was so smooth, you would become worn out with monotony. You might actually lack something to talk about. Sometimes you feel closer to your partner after a quarrel! A healthy dating relationship should overcome these differences by being accommodative to them. Accommodate your partners shortcomings. No one is perfect in this world. We are all riddled with a myriad of weaknesses that haunt us everywhere even right inside a relationship.
A healthy dating relationship is built on many pillars. But in order to streamline this pillars so that they can support one entity, their ought to be communication. It is the engine oil of a healthy dating relationship. Communication in a relationship implies that you do not hide and keep feelings to yourself, whether good or bad. Talk with your partner on how you feel about certain issues in the relationship. Do not play your cards under the table. It will make the relationship unhealthy. Share your hopes, dreams and desires and have a capacity for patience, understanding and tolerance.
Francis K. Githinji Is A Online Dating Expert. His Latest Project http://www.tomydate.com Shows How The Power Of Online Dating Can Be Harnessed Internationally and With Great Success, Or You Could Post Your Valued Comments On His Blog At http://www.tomydate.net/?p=144.
People in a healthy dating relationship should be able to derive fulfillment and contentment from it. A dating person’s emotional and physical needs ought to be met by the relationship. The relationship becomes like a spring where your thirst can be quenched. When a relationship is healthy you will feel it. You feel you are so deep into your partner that you live for this relationship. You feel things can never be the same again if at all it was curtailed. You live for it, it is your everything. It forms your dreams during the night and you day dream about it during the day. All this are manifestations of a deep fulfillment. A contentment that envelopes your heart with such a good feeling that makes you realize that you are in a healthy dating relationship.
A relationship is not always a bed of roses as many people tend to believe. Sometimes it is rocked by infighting and division. We are all human beings and we are all deficient in our own small ways. We are bound to disagree in one way or another at one time or another. Such differences are an indicator of good health in a relationship. Otherwise if everything was so smooth, you would become worn out with monotony. You might actually lack something to talk about. Sometimes you feel closer to your partner after a quarrel! A healthy dating relationship should overcome these differences by being accommodative to them. Accommodate your partners shortcomings. No one is perfect in this world. We are all riddled with a myriad of weaknesses that haunt us everywhere even right inside a relationship.
A healthy dating relationship is built on many pillars. But in order to streamline this pillars so that they can support one entity, their ought to be communication. It is the engine oil of a healthy dating relationship. Communication in a relationship implies that you do not hide and keep feelings to yourself, whether good or bad. Talk with your partner on how you feel about certain issues in the relationship. Do not play your cards under the table. It will make the relationship unhealthy. Share your hopes, dreams and desires and have a capacity for patience, understanding and tolerance.
Francis K. Githinji Is A Online Dating Expert. His Latest Project http://www.tomydate.com Shows How The Power Of Online Dating Can Be Harnessed Internationally and With Great Success, Or You Could Post Your Valued Comments On His Blog At http://www.tomydate.net/?p=144.
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