Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Letting a girl know you're for real

Or better yet, how do you let her know that the vibe you shoot in the beginning, it really you?

How could she know that when she is with you all what you said will be backed up?

All three of these questions have the same answer.

Credibility.

When most guys think they do not have enough value, 90% of the time, the credibility they lack. Most of all, used to create value in these days only serves to make a nasty woman-repelling player vibe.

(and anyone who knows I do not even teach value. Not a fucking second!)

"Player vibe" is not really a bad atmosphere, but a mistake to build and maintain credibility.

Being able to establish credibility is one of the key components to sleep with a girl soon.

The second component is the sexual tension.

And as a good student of pick-up, you know that some women need sexual tension to sleep with you and the other half need credibility first. (You know it, huh?)

So let's get to it:

There are three levels of credibility.

1. Security
2nd Community
3rd Direction

Safety: The most basic and fundamental level of credibility, you must demonstrate safety, before a woman will be alone with you and sleep with you.

Commonalities: You must show the same for a woman to continue sleeping with you, or have a relationship with you.

Direction: You need to show direction to get a woman to leave her current boyfriend or change her existing life plans to be with you.

A WORD ABOUT SOCIAL PROGRAMMING ->

You must realize that every person you meet is socially programmed in a different way. Although you have social programming. We all do.

It is not necessarily a bad thing. On the contrary, it is very useful.

Realize that although we understand much of the woman's behavior comes from her social programming, we can not expect her to realize it.

While men have developed an instinct to try to sleep with as many women as possible, women have developed an instinct to choose guys who demonstrate a great chance to stick around to raise children.

And this instinct is reinforced by social programs.

Her programming is her reality. Her programming is literally her world.

And credibility is about showing you understand her world.

Here is an example ->

Think about if you were in your bedroom. Hot sitting in a chair.

And then a guy came in and he said he was cold. And wanted to turn up the heat. He said he liked the couch you sat in and asked if he could urinate in the corner.

You would feel pretty uncomfortable with him. You might even think he is crazy.

He is showing that he is not seeing the same reality as you. He is "in his own world".

I bet you would not trust a guy like that.

Since he has shown you that he does not understand your world, and do not respect your world - you probably would not make contact with him, or feel like giving him compliance.

This is how women feel when you do not show it.

If she thinks it's bad for people to Kiss and Tell (and most women do) -> You should show her that you also think it is bad for people to Kiss and Tell.

The fact that you have the same perception of the world that she will build your credibility immensely.

You can think of three levels in this way:

Safety - It is safe to have you in her world.
Commonalities - You see the same things in her world. (A similar beliefs, values and goals)
Direction - You have the opportunity to reorganize and change her world.

These are best demonstrated in order.

And you can get really good at this. At first, guys are often good at meeting a certain type of woman.

It is because he naturally understands a certain type of worldview.

But as you well, you'll begin to match every woman's worldview.

The best way to do this is by anticipating her thoughts and verbalizing her feelings or opinions about the world, as if they are your own.

At first you will only remember things she said, and then repeat it after she forgot that she said something.

When you get a great hike her reality and leading. Eventually to the point where you can intuitively understand her reality. She will trust you to change it for her. You enter her world, and then begin to teach her new
things about her world.

That's when you know you're getting this thing.

When someone comes to understand a woman's reality so well, has she not only thinks he is lucid and knowledgeable, she feels just a connection.

She thinks "He's just like me!"

This is really the easiest thing in the world. Yet so many people mess it up.

It is a great piece and you watch your game improve dramatically when you get it here.

Sunday, December 20, 2009

Dating Safety For Men

Almost everything you read about online dating safety is directed at women, but men have to ask also. Perverts, sexual predators and weirdos come in both sexes, all sizes and all ages ... as well, liars and cheaters. So we must stay on guard, too.

It is common knowledge not readily disclose personal information to strangers. The reason for not doing so is equal to the number of strangers who want that information. If you encounter a person who discloses personal information and asking others to do the same thing, do not. You do not know what they want to use it .... And you had better believe they want to use it for anything. That "something" will not be to your advantage. But, also, must guard their real names, addresses, phone numbers and workplace. Do not give this information to anyone online until you are sure they are who they say they are.

But, beware of women who seem too financially needy. If they ask for money, in any of a dozen ways women can ask for money, cut the relationship off immediately. They are not looking for love or friendship .... They are looking for financial support.

If a woman gives you a contact number but you can never reach her at that number, beware. If you always have to page them or text them and ask them to call you back, this may be a sign that what they say to you is not the whole truth.

A need to get married and insecurity are other signs men should be very careful. If the woman is pushing too hard for a commitment you're not ready to do, it might be a good time to head to the nearest exit.

Thursday, December 10, 2009

Online Dating For Single Men

Whatever your age, height, weight or appearance, there are thousands of women out there eager to meet you and eager for your business ... on short-term or long-term relationships are what you want. If you have found a sudden "on-the-market" again after a relationship dissolves, or simply too busy with your work in order to devote much time to find a woman to keep you company, online dating can open the door to the Dating Scene for you.

The good news is that all you need is a computer and an internet connection to get started. The first thing you should do is find an online dating site that fits your needs. It is the major websites that offer many additional features such as video chat and even match up with ladies using your profiles and also a lot of places to accommodate special interests such as religious preferences, outdoor enthusiasts, gays, etc. You need to select one or two that can accommodate your needs . I do not recommend the free sites. The paid sites have a money-back guarantee if you are not satisfied and the investment is small. A whole month costs less than a dinner and movie date.

Next thing you need to do is write a killer, but honest, profile and upload a recent but flattering picture of yourself. Now you're ready. Start Contacting ladies whose profiles sound interesting to you and answer any lady who contacts you ... and do it quickly ... however, on holidays or weekends. You do not want to appear that desperate. Do not give up after a month and think you will never find the right woman for you. New people join online dating services daily and at least half of them are ladies many, of whom, will want to meet you.

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

How to Write an Online Dating Profile

Many people would like to eventually find their other half. Fortunately for some, it is very difficult to achieve. She aos as hard as trying to prove the existence of Bigfoot. The only thing that most people looking for love finds depression.

However, thanks to the Internet, it has somewhat leveled the playing field. Thank you to the Internet, you are now giving the opportunity to find your other half, no matter what corner of the world where he or she is, where its place has Internet connections. The person you may be looking perhaps Durkidurkistan that aos why you Äôve struggled to recover.

Internet has enabled people with lots and lots of dating sites online. You’d just paid the fees below, after some pictures, and prepare your profile on these dating sites. These dating sites will work a lot of ordinary people as well. In fact, you might consider dating sites as a crucible for single people. Because of these, one person can now have a task better and easier to find a date.

The only thing you Aód have to do is learn how to properly prepare your profile. As the two of you are not able to see or have some 1st impression physically. The best thing you got is your profiles so that you, AOD better learn to set correctly if you hope to get a date outside the canteen lady to public school. Here are some tips that you consider May to do your best.

To be able to be in a groove of writing a great personal, imagine yourself being introduced by a friend to someone new to cafes, restaurants, bars, etc. Try not to think that your mom aos you submit. If you use your imagination, your mom, you get a biased answer as to how good you are. Think of the friend who is good at criticizing people, unless the friend will give you a realistic view of oneself.

Make your personal ad factual but casual. Remember that you do not write a resume, unless you are looking for a date with a boss. Make it fun and humorous. The more humorous it becomes the more it attracts others. Just try not to make too funny because people do not take too seriously.

This is a way to get your profile written correctly. Remember the best profile you have the best chance of someone secret.

Signs of a Promising Relationship

Celine was just starting to date again after a difficult break. She was worried because she did not go through another unhappy relationship, but she did not trust herself to make good choices. She asked my help in learning to discern a promising relationship that is doomed to failure.

In Celine's last relationship, she had been fired by the ardent pursuit of her Gary. She had wanted to go slower, but do not listen to itself. Instead, she surrendered to the attention of Gary and compliments.

"Celine, my experience with men who come from very far right is that they are often controlling and needy. Is this what happened with Gary? "

"Yes. It seemed so loving and open at first but once we were in a committed relationship, he started shooting at me for time and attention. It has become critical and angry and petulant when I do not give him what he wished. How could I know all this at first? What should I look now that I'm dating again? "

Celine went on a date with a man named Mark. After that first date, marking his e-mailed, saying he wanted to spend much time with her and take a trip with her.

"Shades of Gary," she said. "This is a red flag, right?"

Celine and I explored some red flags and some signs of a promising relationship.

SOME RED FLAGS

• strikes a blow at the beginning of the relationship.

• gets angry, critical or withdrawn if you say no.

• is logical and tries to talk about your feelings or your experience. Try to make you feel that you've hurt your feelings or your position.

• on interviews and on himself or herself and does not ask much about you, or not interested when you talk about you.

• An older man or woman who has never married and was in a series of broken relationships.

• Many broken marriages.

• has a background of violence and had no therapy.

• abandonment of his or her children.

• It is not open to learning from conflict relationship.

• Participates in addictions that are unacceptable to you - tobacco, alcohol, drugs, food addiction, gambling, television, and so on.

• Financially irresponsible.

• It is not true.

• has few friends.

• Judgmental of self and others. Talk about self and others in disparaging ways.

• is possessive and jealous. Gets angry when you do your own thing.

• Points of view totally different from yours regarding religion and / or spirituality.

• Little interest and hobbies.

Celine and I discussed the fact that you get what you see.

"Not that people can not change," said I, "but you can not change them. If he disagrees with you how it is now, then it does not pursue the relationship. If you are a person with time on higher education institutions and always late, do not expect that to change. If this is not correct, then it does not pursue the relationship. Same thing with weight, to be messy or neat, being a Spender free or being frugal. These issues can become major problems in relationships because people expect change and extremely upset when they do not. "

Some signs of a promising relationship

• Show respect for your feelings and needs, even when they have different feelings and needs.

• is able to be empathetic and compassionate.

• interested in what you say and to learn about you.

• Does the acceptance of self and other - non-judgmental.

• Is open to exploring the conflicts and differences of opinion.

• Is he or she says he or she will.

• Care to be responsible for children from broken marriages - did not abandon his or her children.

• Assume responsibility for his own feelings, health and well made. Do not make you responsible for his or her feelings.

• Is financially responsible. Do not expect to take care of him financially.

• If divorced, takes responsibility for its share of difficulties.

• A person who was in a relationship of love and have lost their mate to death. People who were in romantic relationships generally know to have loving relationships.

• have friends that you love.

• Presentations on the other by providing comfort and support.

• Has interests and hobbies that do not meet him or her.

• religious or spiritual path similar to yours.

• Is supportive of you doing what brings you joy. Experiencing the joy for your joy and pain for your pain.

• Can laugh at mistakes. Has a good sense of humor.

• Is this proper balance between work and play. Knows how to work hard and have fun.

Before you can find the right person, you need to become a good person. Make your own inner work so that you can adapt the above description to a promising relationship is the first step in finding a loving relationship.

Sunday, November 29, 2009

Online Dating Activities For Men

Heads up, gents. Online dating can open new doors of opportunities with a little help from real world dating tips that work. Spice up your matchmaking with some of these ideas.

Looks Count
Comment on how attractive she is. Yes, women want to know they are beautiful, even if they are online and you can not see them, and have no idea. So in your communications, ask questions that will help you to know, but in a discreet manner - how can you wear your hair? And then say how attractive that must look.

Kindness Counts
Point out nice things or the lemonade in life - nice things the other person has mentioned, nice acts the person has done good things in the news later, so be optimistic and forget those lemons in life. Even in email a person can shout, by using capital letters. So show manners and kindness. Keep swearing, unkind remarks, prejudice, etc. out of your communications. And "do unto others ...."

So add some helpful real world tips that do work (a lot of the time anyway) into your online dating equations. And coming up on the positive side of romance - and enjoy more lemonade!

Friday, October 30, 2009

Five Tips For Your First Date

Let’s face it…first dates are tough and the majority will end before they even really start. Here is a list the five most important things both men and women should keep in mind. A first date is simply two people getting together to find out more about each other…its an interview where you determine if the other person will be a good fit for you. Many of these things may seem like common sense but you will be surprised with the things some people are capable of.

Top Five Things for Men

1. Listen to your date. Listening to your date is not the same thing as waiting for her to pause so that you can begin speaking).
2. Be chivalrous…yes that means you’ll have to open the car door for them.
3. Don’t get drunk. If you’re not sure you can, just stay away from alcohol all together.
4. Always be on time.
5. Play it safe and stay away from the religious and/or political topics…this can lead to disaster.


Top Five Things for Women

1. Say thank you if he does something nice and/or unusual.
2. If you’re not interested and rather be friends, just say it. The guy may not want to hear it but trust me, it’s better (and easier) now than later on.
3. Don’t get drunk (see #3 for men).
4. Laugh at his jokes even if they are awfull.
5. Make lots of eye contact and smile.


Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Dating Quiz - Is Magnetic Pull Present?

What happens for the first time when a girl meets a boy? It can be either attraction, or revulsion or neutral reaction. When a boy meets a girl, he may find her beautiful attractive, charming. Good speaker, intelligent or having some quality that may attract the boy to the girl. That is like a magnetic pull. Many people fall in love in the beginning because they found the shape of nose to be very cute or the laughter very attractive.

During dating, when you are asking for a date, that magnetic pull has to be present in the beginning. Without that pull no date will get finalized. If you feel revulsion, you will surely not agree for the date. How to develop the magnetic attraction so that you get the first date? Things can go forward only after you get the first date. The question here is how to develop magnetic attraction.

Surly, you do not know about what quality of yours may attract the girl or boy towards you. So the best bet is it develop all the qualities and eliminate all those qualities that may produce any revulsion. Wherever you are not sure be neutral. Let me explain further.

If you see me laughing and find that my teeth are dirty or having stains, surely you will hate that. If you talk to me and sense bad odor, surely you will turn back. It is also true for body odor. Watching my nails, you would surely want to see well-manicured nails, and not dirty nails without shape. You may get shocked if you find me wearing clothes having weird color combination. There are so many areas where we should take care and present ourselves as a perfect specimen. Keep a bunch of good jokes ready. Jokes can break any barrier. Avoid all criticism. Avoid political talk. Avoid everything that may immediately provoke a reaction. The formula for the magnetic attraction is simple - Enhance all that is positive, eliminate all negatives and wherever unsure, adopt neutral attitude. Add in lots of confidence and you are through.


Saturday, October 10, 2009

Dating After Divorce-Some Things to Think About

If you are recently divorced and are thinking about entering the dating world again there are some things you need to think about. Let's face it, a divorce can be a tramatic experience for all those involved and jumping into the dating scene can be more than many divorcees are ready to deal with. The only one who will know if you are truly ready to start dating after a divorce is you, but here are some things to consider before you go on that first date.

1. Are you ready to date after your divorce? This is where you have to take stock of your own emotions and what it is you are looking for after getting divorced. Only you can really answer this question but something to think about is why do you want to start dating again. Are you lonely and think that dating again will help fill that void left by your ex-spouse? If this is the case you may not be ready, because the person you date may not fulfill your expectations, particularly if you do not know what it is you want out of a new relationship. If you look at it from the point of asking yourself what you want from a new relationship you may find it easier to make a decision about dating after your divorce.

2. What's your confidence level when it comes to dealing with someone in a dating relationship? For many people just getting through their divorce is rough. You have to ask yourself are you ready to deal with someone on that emotional level again. One important question you have to ask yourself is are you confident enough in yourself that any let down or rejection during your foray into dating will not damage your emotional state.

3. What kind of person are you going to date? Your tendancy may be to try and find someone who is the complete opposite of your ex-spouse. While this may sound good if you think about it it's probably not a good idea. Why? You were attracted to your ex-spouse for a variety of reasons. Because your marriage didn't work doesn't mean that you didn't like some of the things that attracted you to your ex in the first place. You need to accept people for who they are, not who they remind you of.

4. Be prepared for let downs? It will be hard not to compare anyone you date to your ex-spouse. It will make it even more difficult if that someone you are dating seems to do some of the things that your ex used to do that drove you crazy. Realize that most of the time they will be unaware that they are doing something that reminds you of your ex-spouse. If you really like this new person in your life give them a chance, because what you see and think may not be what they intend for you to see and think. It is hard for them to overcome the demons of your past relationship if you do not give them that chance.

Don't be afraid to enter into the dating world after your divorce, but at the same time you need to know who you are and have the confidence to find what you are comfortable with when it comes to dating. Trust yourself to make the right choice and chances are you will thrive as you begin your new life dating after divorce.


Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Dating Quiz- Is Shyness Your Problem?

I heard a boy saying that he was shy and good-looking. He was saying the bad looking boys who are not shy attract girls. That made me think not about looks, but about shyness. It is not that only men are shy. Women may be shyer. Quiz yourself if you are looking in the wrong direction to find out why you are not getting a good date?

You may be thinking about various reasons and trying to get more tips from friends about how to get a good date. Is your shyness not the cause? Please quiz yourself now. Are you comfortable approaching any person of opposite sex? Can you confidently walk towards a man /woman and introduce yourself? Can you give physical signals indicating your interest? Or you don’t raise your eyes if you like someone?

What if somebody approaches you? Will you go in easy conversation or keep quiet thinking what to say- tongue-tied? Do you feel confident about yourself? How do you rate your personality? If you are shy with persons of opposite sex, did you try to find out the reason? Have you discussed with friends? Are your friends also shy or confident and easy going? Did you ask for any tip about how to stop being shy?

Many of us are shy and that makes us miss lot of opportunities to meet persons of opposite sex and develop friendship. Any person who is shy will have difficulty getting a date. You have to break the shyness and talk. Nothing will happen except the best. The worst that can happen is a no. But that happens with all of us. Why not stop being shy and win hearts?


Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Internet Dating: Fun Or Foolish?

Fool! But this is only my opinion and I would like to take the next lines, several of this article inspires you to say why. Many people will disagree with me and I welcome their criticism as they write and meet on the Internet and not on how foolish I look or why I am a dummy because I am an American with all kinds de croyances étranges.

So why do I think that internet dating is stupid and not funny? Well lets just say that I think Blind Dating in general is insane and Internet dating are taking this madness and multiplying by a factor of 50. Why Blind Dating insane? Well because it means you are not able to meet people of your own in your field, and when you connect with someone else who can not meet people or you have a combination that is completely set up for failure. Right?

The Internet and Internet dating to the fiasco at the new extreme, then add in the fact that the vision or reading or hearing is not believing on the Internet. There are many "21" years prowling around the Internet for their next victim as the victim sees that "21", is actually 55, bald and out of prison there are only 3 months to a sort of Sex Crime they will want that they had never signed.

So what are these people? Well ... I think either they just accept the fact that they do not really want to meet people, as they think they are or their fears will be overcome, or take medication against anxiety and may seek out Cognitive behavioral therapy, or just cheer and try to meet people in your sphere of things that have in common with you and have something to talk and do it for fun.

You say, well, my domain does not contain someone like that and that's why I turned to internet dating. I say, get a new arena! You say that my sphere is the Internet. I say do not say I did not warn you because you might be surprised in the wrong direction one day. I think just do not say you were not warned. People can lie about themselves in person and mislead people, but this capacity is infinite on the Internet.

Dating With Real Highlife Adventures

For many singles, the trend toward group activities based on common interests breaks new ground in the field of dating. "In a sense we are going back to the future," says Mary Vallone, President of Highlife Adventures (www.highlifeadventures.com). "It's like ice cream social at the beginning of the 20th century has been raised several notches."

In our fast-paced culture, people sometimes spend more time with a BlackBerry or iPhone than they do with real potential partners. Shared experiences and face-to-face have become almost a thing of the past, but do people really want? According to Vallone, a social club for upscale singles in Chicago and Indianapolis, "Men and women leaving the anonymity of online dating world and reclaiming their lives," said Vallone. "Singles today do not just want to meet people who share their interests, but they also want to share the experiences of real life with like-minded potential partners."

Vallone explains that her approach serves to bring people together in a release pressure. "When you attend an event, you meet people you already have something in common with and who are all there to meet you," she said. "And when you play, you let your lower care and are more likely to meet the right person. "

Indeed, Highlife Adventures Chicagoland 3000 members would be hard pressed to find an ice cream social among the over 65 activities planned each month. Those who crave adventure can go parasailing, caving, or experience to be a fighter pilot for a day. Music lovers can enjoy a hot night of cool jazz or attend a camp rock star fantasy, while those with cultural interests can attend a performance of the Chicago Symphony or a Frank Lloyd Wright Tour. Members who like the club scene can participate in a trolley pub-crawl, a cruise in the moonlight parties or events like "Martinis and Manicures" or "No Shots Pots" pottery class. "

This new dating trend is in sharp contrast with the bar scene in the 1980s, one-on-one service correspondence 1990s, and the speed dating phenomena that peaked a few years ago. "All singles like to hang out in bars, many do not care about the pressure of a sequence-on-one dates, and most people find that speed dating is too superficial, says Vallone. And while online dating may appeal to the crowd, college, many of the 25 - to 45-year-olds members have "been there, done that." According to Vallone, "Meeting people online can be fun, but also fraught with pitfalls. Singles are more successful when they put the mouse leave the house and meet people face-to-face. We prescreen each member in person and have a company representative at each event to ensure positive experiences for all. "

Ultimately, Vallone concludes, "We do not represent anyone. Instead, we provide unique, fun events where groups of singles can meet and find what they want - be it a friend one day, or a soul mate "

Dating A Stranger!

If you are finding a safe portal for meeting other people for dating, Christian online dating is your answer! Most people consider online dating as an option in getting to know other people outside of their circle. The Christian community now utilizes this current trend of communication to widen their reach and to create a fun-loving environment.

Through the Internet, you can search thousands of other Christian profiles and get to know each one online. There’s a vast Christian network that has varied interests, hobbies, likes and dislikes. You can check out their profiles and you may even find one that you like. Christian online dating has proved to be very effective for most people who participate with friendships and often blooms into serious relationships.
Christian online dating provides a very comfortable environment and is considered safe. The online dating community is a place where you can create lasting relationships for acquaintance, friendship, companionship, romance, and can even lead to a permanent commitment.

Normally, a Christian online dating website should include chat rooms where you can have fun discussions. You can also post memos and notes on message boards and share pictures with photo galleries. And of course, you can send personal messages to private mail boxes. Many dating websites also feature instant messaging and voice introductions for a more personal touch. Some of the Christian websites even offer Christian dating services aside from online matching.

In a Christian online dating site, the center is spirituality. You include faith in your search for a mate. Most people go to a Christian community for dates because they prefer to have somebody within their faith. People here believe they have filtered out the dates with people who may not share the same set of values.

In fact, mellow people usually belong to this group of online daters. They are those who dislike too much loud music, bar hopping, and disco dancing. Most dates here end in a cozy restaurant or a sweet music place. Although this is not necessarily true all the time, it can be frequently observed on date outcomes based on testimonials.

It is better to date with someone sharing your beliefs because it would be more reassuring than starting with somebody who does not share the same principles. If you are joining a Christian online dating site, you’ll know what you can expect. And as implied, the online society is Christ-centered. And by association, Christ is all pure love and kindness. If you join the group, this indicates you support Christian values and standards. Meeting the love of your life could be a possibility!

Sunday, September 20, 2009

Beware of Russian Dating Scams

This has gotten so bad the U.S. embassy has issued alerts to warn people about this. Here are the basics from the embassy.

United States citizens should be alert to attempts at fraud by persons claiming to live in Russia professing friendship, romantic interest, and /or marriage intentions over the Internet.

Typically, once a connection is made, the correspondent asks the U.S. citizen to send money or credit card information for living expenses, travel expenses, or "visa costs". Sometimes, the correspondent notifies the American citizen that a close family member, usually the mother, is in desperate need of surgery and begins to request monetary assistance. Scams have even advanced to the point where the U.S. citizen is informed of a serious or fatal accident to the correspondent and the “family” asks for money to cover hospital or funeral costs. Several citizens have reported losing thousands of dollars through such scams.

The anonymity of the Internet means that the U.S. citizen cannot be sure of the real name, age, marital status, nationality, or even gender of the correspondent. In every case reported to the embassy, the correspondent turned out to be a fictitious persona created only to lure the U.S. citizen into sending money.

These scammers have created male as well as female characters and entice same sex correspondents as well as those of the opposite sex. A disturbing recent twist are scammers who have connected to U.S. citizens through chat rooms for HIV positive individuals, posed as HIV positive individuals themselves, and asked for money for treatment or travel to the United States.

Correspondents who quickly move to professions of romantic interest or discussion of intimate matters are likely inventions of scammers. A request for funds almost always marks a fraudulent correspondent. U.S. citizens are cautioned against sending any money to persons they have not actually met. If they do choose to send money, they can take several precautions.

-They may refer to U.S. immigration web site for authoritative information about the immigration process and the true costs involved. For example, U.S. law does not require Russian visitors to have a certain amount of "pocket money" or "walking around money" in either rubles or dollars.

- They may arrange to prepay for a plane ticket directly with the carrier rather than wiring money for transportation to the traveler.
- If the correspondent provides an image of a purported U.S. visa as proof of intention to travel, the U.S. citizen may contact the United States Embassy in Moscow to ascertain the validity of the visa.

Be careful. Be skeptical. Think and then do your research.


Thursday, September 10, 2009

Advices To The Gallant Man When Meeting Her Parents

Is your valor put to the test, when facing (her) Mom and Dad? Is meet-the-parents-day, a dreaded event in the near future? Do you enjoy each other’s company that Mom’s opinion or Dad’s plan is already part of the daily conversation? If things are going good, then you should expect that you would meet her parents sooner or later. But don’t dread the day, and instead welcome it with open arms. For here are sound advices for you, the gallant man, when the day comes to meet her parents.

First of all, not all parents are alike; so don’t assume that they’ll be like Mom and Pop. But, hopefully like her, you would want to impress, respect and not offend your own parents, wouldn’t you? Ask your girlfriend about her family. It would be useful to know any history on her father or mother’s side, her siblings, their work background and major health issues. It would be wise to find out about the parents’ politics, what kind of sense of humor they have, cultural or entertainment preference, if any. Asking these key questions will also show your girlfriend that you’re interested in knowing all about her family and that you attach a lot of importance in meeting her parents.

A careless remark about the latest bloopers by the country’s president may not sit well with her parents if they are staunch republicans from a red state. There are countless of other ways you can go wrong with her parents if you don’t do your homework. The objective is to leave a good impression on her father and mother after the first meeting.

Now, you would think that of the two, the father should be the primary focus. But, no; it is best to get your girlfriend’s mother on your side first. Think about it, she’s actually the one hosting the dinner in the house, isn’t she? Moreover, most mothers would partially judge you according to how happy their daughter looks being with you. When you’re hitting a rough spot in your relationship, your girlfriend would most likely run to her mother. In these times of trouble, her mother might become instrumental in bringing you back together again.

Fathers will generally have a harder time accepting you. Rightly so, because he was the main man in your girlfriend’s life. Now, it will obviously appear to her father that you are taking over that role. In some instances, the father might resent that. In most cases, they will size you up to see if you are really fit to take care of their daughter. So, come to think of it, fathers have a more natural obstacle to get close to you. But this will happen in time, especially if you’re careful in your first meeting.

Now what do you really do during the actual meeting? If it’s a dinner at their house, always bring a gift. You can give them a floral arrangement. Depending on their tastes, traditional items like a bottle of wine or a box of sweets also work.

When you get into a conversation with them, show interest in their family life. Look for common interests, hobbies and expound on them. Politely ask for their opinion and listen. It’s easy to talk about sports, pets and their line of work. Other good topics are your job, your family, movies, and current events. It would be wise to steer the conversation away from jokes, politics, personal matters, religion and money matters.

Flatter your girlfriend’s mother on her cooking, clothes or the home interiors. Compliment her cooking by finishing your plate. After dinner, offer to help clear the table of wash the dishes.

Eventually, your girlfriend’s parents will start to ask you some direct questions. You won’t panic if you’re prepared for this. Relax, look them in the eye and answer as nicely as you can. Try to think about their reason for asking the question and relate to this when answering the parents.

Remember, in the first meeting, be yourself and make sure to always observe good manners. Show respect to your girlfriend and her parents. Your girlfriend has probably told all of them about you and how great you are. So come prepared for the meeting and prove to her parents that you deserve to be with their daughter.


Sunday, August 30, 2009

Your Attitude Counts

When it comes to seducing a woman, attitude plays a very big role in how successful, or unsuccessful you are. If you have a positive attitude you’re more likely to attract women more easily than a guy with a negative attitude. Being positive and upbeat shows in nearly everything you do, as does being negative and glum. Women are much more likely to choose the positive, upbeat guys.

First, a positive attitude reflects confidence and self-respect. As we already discussed, confidence and self-respect are vital. A positive attitude also directly affects how other people feel when they’re around you. For example, have you ever had a friend or co-worker who was always down or pessimistic? If you have, did you notice that after a while his or her mood started making you feel down or uncomfortable or irritable? Chances are it’s happened to all of us. So remember, if for no other reason than to not be a dark cloud hanging over everyone’s head, try your best to be positive and have a good attitude.

But it goes much further than that. When you’re trying to make your best impression on a woman, being negative will not work. You have to feel good before you can make anyone else feel good. You have to radiate the same kinds of feelings you want to receive. If you’re not giving off those positive vibes we’ll pick up on it and most likely steer clear of you.

The bottom line: women like to find a man who’s stable. Part of what women judge stability on is your work. No, this doesn’t mean you need to be a rocket scientist. It simply means that if you’re changing jobs every couple of months, or getting let go for poor attitude or poor performance, which is directly affected by your attitude, then we’re going to think twice before we get involved with you. Remember, women are looking for a partner; a 50 – 50 relationship.

Thursday, August 20, 2009

Don’t Judge a Woman by Her Looks!

I know this tip may sound very clich้, but it’s true. At some point or another we’re all guilty of judging something, or someone, based on appearance alone. While it’s not right, we still seem to have that tendency to be superficial. This type of behavior can be very detrimental when it comes to seducing a woman. Women like to be appreciated for who they are, not what they look like. Even those women who have great physical beauty don’t necessarily want to be judged on that characteristic alone.

Women keep the thought in the back of their mind that one day they may want to have a child. If and when they become pregnant, look at all the changes their body goes through. The mere fact that their body has to expand at a very rapid pace to accommodate the growth of the baby is frightening. And the knowledge that their figure may never be the same is equally frightening.

Another thought that women have is that eventually we all get older and less youthful in appearance. We know that in general, a man is considered more distinguished looking when his hair takes on the salt and pepper look, whereas women merely look old. A few wrinkles on a man are no big deal, but for women the first sign of a wrinkle is cause to consider botox treatment, or more. Society has made women terribly self conscious. Bear in mind when considering what you truly believe is important in a woman. If looks is top on your list it will surely lead to a very dissatisfying experience for you, and your woman.

I’m not trying to say that you have to resolve to be happy with someone you find utterly unattractive. Women all have preferences in looks, personality and many other traits that we have to abide by. It’s a matter of compatibility. But what women do have to take into consideration is that attraction is not just a matter of physical appearance. So take the time to find out what’s inside before you discount women based on what’s outside.

Monday, August 10, 2009

Know What to Look for in a Woman

Sometimes, knowing what you’re looking for in a woman can be quite difficult. And if you’re one of them, don’t get discouraged. It truly isn’t as difficult as you may think to find the right woman for you.

The very first thing you must do is resign to be very open-minded. You need to cast aside all the standards that you may have been using and start from scratch. Forget what all your buddies say is attractive. Never mind what you see in the lingerie commercials on television. You’ll want to start with the very basics of what makes two people compatible, not two lovers, but two people in general, in order to find what kind of person works for you.

In order to find out what you are really looking for in a woman, you need to take the time to consider the complete person, not just the body. You need to take into consideration things like personality, interests, ambition and then looks. You’re probably wondering why I listed those traits in the order I did.

If you consider looks first it will tend to cloud your judgment on all the other traits. Men tend to be very easily visually stimulated. For this reason, what excites them at first sight tends to be what they think they want.

However, if you consider what you want in the other areas, the looks may not be so important. You may find that a woman with a great personality that likes football and racing as much as you do and who takes her career as a human resources director seriously, but who happens to be a brunette with only an average build, would suit you just fine. Personality, intelligence, ambition, sense of humor and interests play a much bigger role in attraction than just physical appearance.

Thursday, July 30, 2009

Building Your Confidence in Dating Women

When it comes to dating (or even seducing) a woman, confidence is vital. Women often equate “self confidence” with the ability to be successful. While many men believe that women look for successful men because they’re likely to make more money, that’s simply not true.

While it’s a given, women actually look for successful men because they’re more likely to be satisfied. So you may be wondering what a man being satisfied has to do with anything. Let me explain. You see, women know that men who are satisfied with themselves are less likely to go out looking for someone to satisfy them and are more stable.

And in a relationship that means a man will be less likely to cheat, or change jobs frequently or get himself into any number of other compromising situations. Remember that most women are looking for a man who will be their partner as well as their lover.

Not only do they want a partner when it comes to things like companionship, decision-making and finances, but in the bedroom, as well. In order to effectively seduce a woman you must make her feel as though you’re both equals.

When it comes to confidence, it seems there are two kinds of people - those who have it and others who simply don’t. Although on the surface this may be true, everyone has the potential to be “self confident”, or motivated if you would like to call it.

Take heart in knowing that you’re a good person, smart, funny, good at your job, loving, considerate or whatever else you find to be positive character traits that you have. Be comforted to know that NOT all women are looking for a CEO or brain surgeon. They just want a man who’s confident with who he is, what he knows and what he has to offer to a relationship with them!

Monday, July 20, 2009

The Art of Seducing a Woman

Understanding what a woman is looking for in a man is the first secret to seducing a woman. For many men, the concept of how to seduce a woman is simply a mystery. It’s understandable, though. Men and women differ in so many ways that it’s difficult for many of us to really grasp how to get inside the mind of the opposite sex.

The true key to seducing a woman isn’t a mere laundry list to check off, step by step. It’s more a guidebook on the path you must follow to completely seduce a woman, mind, body and soul. And believe it or not, what really gets a woman going is much simpler than you may have ever imagined.

Understanding the differences between the sexes will help give you a better foundation on which to build your knowledge of women. Once you can get inside her mind, it’s all downhill from there.

Communication is ultimately the most important aspect in seducing a woman. Like so many other aspects of our lives, effective communication is the key to success. You want to take the time to really get to know her and what she’s looking for. This will benefit you greatly when it comes to pleasing her, so don’t think that getting to know your woman is a pointless, grueling task of learning a bunch of useless information.

Patience when seducing your woman is equally important, too. Being in a hurry will only prove to damage any good you could’ve done by learning anything at all about your woman. When it comes to seducing a woman, take it slow. We want a man to take his time, not just rush in for the brass ring. A woman wants to know that you aren’t just playing her for sex. And the best way to prove yourself is to take your time.

All in all, women want to feel special. Being romantic makes us feel special. So if you want to seduce your woman you have to be romantic. It proves that you care, that you want to please her and that you know how to treat a woman right. Romance will take you a long way in seducing a woman.

Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Learn How To Deal With Women Emotional Game

So you are trying to become better at the art of seducing women right? You are on the right track if you are seeking for info. Knowledge is power and not so long ago, i was just a average frustrated chump without seduction knowledge. I was what you could call a nice guy. In this article i will show you some steps you must take in order to succeed with women and be the next casanova.

The first thing you must know is that women are emotional beings. Women operate in a 20% logic and 80% emotional. So you will never hit them with your logical side. This is one of the key secrets in the seduction game. Always appeal to their emotional side. Women barely make any logical decision. And thats the good thing for us. If you could just trigger the right emotional buttons inside a woman, no matter how ugly, stupid or fat you are, you are in the game. But of course, not all of us know how to trigger these buttons.

Of course, i am not saying that you dont to take care of your looks and appearance. Thats very important, if you dont have a unique style and personality your journey will be a lot thougher. But thats only a part of the game. No matter how handsome you are, if you act nervous and weird near pretty girls, you are history. Thats it. So stick it in your mind that the inner game is much more important than your looks. I bet you can tell several cases in your city where you have seen beatiful girls hanging with you can call ugly man.

But you see, these so called ugly man have something special. If you observe them closely, you will see that they act diferently that most men. They are confident. They lead the way. They are bold and fast. they have supreme confidence. They dont get nervous around any kind of girl, because they know that he can get any girl he wants, no matter his looks. And thats the key of seduction, if you appear to be confident, every women near you will notice and will want to know you better. Its instinctive. Its withing her genes. Women always seek shelther and protection, and the most confident man, in her eyes, is the man who can provide it to her.

So, from now on, change your frameset of mind. Never think yourself again as unworthy or inferior to woman. See yourself as the alpha male among men. See yourself as the most confident man in the planet. Of course, dont forget to take care of your appearance but the most important thing is your inner game. Now come on, the girls are waiting for you....

Saturday, June 20, 2009

How To Attract Women With Your Attitude

If there was one magic pill that you could pop to make yourself more attractive to women, would you take it?

Chances are, most men would give answer with a resounding yes. After all, who has the time to keep up with the countless dating advice and tips handed out by dating gurus who promise that by doing what they tell you to do, women would come in droves begging you to let them bear your children?

But since reality bites, no such pill exists. And the male species, since the beginning of civilization, has been working on making himself the object of interest and attention of his female counterparts. Even now, in this age of dating websites and speed dating the objective has not changed.

So why is it that some guys seem to get it right all the time while the rest seem to remain luckless no matter what they do? Some would say that looks and appearances had everything to do about it. But that’s not entirely true.

While it may be so that how a guy looks like matters in order to catch a woman’s attention, that alone will not make him totally attractive. What makes the guy go from “Hi there. You alone?” to “Good morning, doll.” is his attitude.

Attitude by definition is your outlook and mindset towards any given situation. In the dating scenario, it would mean how you behave and think when it comes to approaching a woman, chatting up a conversation with her and treating her just a tad more special than the rest of the women in the room.

So what kind of attitude should you have?
A lot of guys think that they need to impress women to makes themselves attractive. While making an impression is important, you need to make sure that that impression is really you. Otherwise, your attitude towards dating shows that you would rather make false impressions and basically lie, just so that you can get what you want. Not exactly an attractive trait, isn’t it?

Instead, develop the “just as I am” attitude. No pretenses, no airs – just what you really are. Very little anything else makes one more attractive to women than to see a guy that’s totally honest about who and what he is.

But hold on, that is not to say that you should totally let yourself go. The “just as I am” attitude does not mean not bothering to dress up in nice clothes just because you are more of a shorts-and-flip-flops kind of guy.

Not in the least. In fact, the “as is” attitude should stay in the backstage. The main idea is that you don’t need to pretend to be the sensitive writer type when you’re more of a Monday night football kind of guy. But at the same time, you need to make an effort to put your best foot forward.

Do this by taking the time to look your best. You don’t need to look like Hugh Jackman’s long lost twin, but don’t look (and smell) like a bum either. Take the time to choose clothes that fit well on you. Pay attention to body hygiene, especially if you tend to sweat and don’t forget to check your breath as well. But more importantly, work on making this a habit rather than a once-in-a-while thing. That alone increases your attractive points by a whole lot.

Now that you’ve cleaned and dressed up, it’s time to work that attitude. For example, as you approach someone, tell yourself that all you need to do to get her interested is for you to be friendly and to treat her well. You don’t need to impress her with things that aren’t true about you. Remember, you are to come as you are and not someone else.

If she responds, then good for you. If she doesn’t seem to be interested regardless of how nice you are, that’s still ok. If this happens, tell yourself that you and her don’t fit and then walk away. At the very least, the woman you just approached will notice that you knew when to stop. Surprisingly, on a second encounter, she just might give you a better chance, just because you showed restraint the first time you met.

Now this isn’t a foolproof plan that can help you score with the ladies. But it is a lot better than pretending to be something that isn’t you. Developing a healthy confident attitude about yourself will not only make you more attractive to the right women around you, but will also help you personally as you begin to see yourself in a better light.

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Quiz - Do You Know what Women Want?

Honestly speaking, no body can give an answer to this quiz. Every woman has different personality, goals, desires and mood. Some generalizations can be made that can help men know what women want.

Quiz your romantic style - I think that the priority for any relationship with a woman in the beginning is romance. Without becoming romantic, you cannot win a pretty and intelligent woman. You need not be a great poet of love poems, but surely you can write small love notes and send them with flowers once in a while. Show her that you love her. Say I love you in different ways. Send chocolates, small pieces of gift and things that look cute. Let her feel in love with those cute gifts you give. She will love you more.

Quiz your attitude - what is your attitude towards your woman/ Are you treating her as a person without brains? Then better revise your fundamentals. Do you treat her as an equal? Then it is all right. Are you together when you meet your friends? If not, please go together to meet your friends. Treat her as a friend and as a romantic partner and a lady. That is the combination that will win her over.

Quiz your relationship- how is your relationship? Are you nurturing it with proper communication, care and love? Do you show your care for your woman? Does she have to ask you or you act on your own guessing her requirements? Have you told her how precious she is for you? Do you understand what she is talking? Please remember that women talk little differently than men. Do you understand that difference? Generally when a woman speaks, she is doing self-talk loudly. Please understand that.

Saturday, May 30, 2009

Men- Do You Attract Women?

For many men, attracting women looks very difficult. For few men, it is very simple. The women get attracted to them automatically. There is some magnetism in them or so it seems. It is their personality, their confidence and their talking style that attracts women of a certain type to such men. Now we are talking sense, because to ask the question to a man - Do you attract women? Sounds foolish to some extent. Every man is different and so is every woman. The attraction can never be universal. Let us discuss this further.

You may be an introvert person - More of a thinker and an intellectual. You will find it difficult to attract outgoing and extrovert women. It is said that opposites attract, but that attraction will not last long. When your beloved wants to go for hiking, you would like to go for a poetry recital session. So this attraction may occur at times, but will not last. Similarly, if you are a extrovert man, masculine and in love with adventures and risks, you can not attract women of opposite nature. You will attract women who find lot common between them and you.

It is not difficult to attract women, because they are looking for good partners. The problem arises when we try to attract women who have nothing in common with us. These women ill not are able to understand us and communicate with us. How can you talk of tennis with a woman who loves only reading Shakespeare? The solution lies in first looking for women with common nature and common goals. Once you find some of them, talk to them normally and tell them about your liking for them. Success generally comes with simple approach.

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Seduce Women In A Snap

Getting a girl can be very challenging in todays highly competitive dating world, even if you are a great guy. My article will show you tips and advices that will definitly help you get your dreamed date.

A lot of men have trouble flirting with women. They do not understand the subtle ways in which they can build attraction and convey their interest in a woman. However to be successful at seducing women mastering flirting skills is absolutely essential.

I remember when I first learned some of the key seduction tips. It was fascinating to see that, by flicking her right switches, she seemed to be attracted to me. This was despite the fact that I hadn't shaved in days and not even brushed my teeth that morning!

The first thing you can do is improve your social skills. If you are shy and too scared to talk too women you greatly reduce your chances of getting girls. That's why you should try to become a good talker. Just try to be interesting and friendly.

Get Physical And Use Kino

Many guys forget this important step. You see, women are very "touchy feely". They regard this as normal and even women that have no attraction for you will make touching contact with you such as touching your arm or your leg.

When you are with a chick, you should be playful with her and make some cool touches like this. It shows that you are not a chump who would be afraid to touch a girl at all. You'll be perceived as being confident with women and chicks will find this very attractive.

To get girls it is also very important to be confident and feel good about yourself. Show that you are a real man and that you are not afraid of rejection. This really impresses women who will see you as a high value man.


Another great flirting tip is slightly teasing a woman. Donดt go overboard with this, just do it in a funny, playful way. Woman absolutely love this. It shows you are confident and have the ability to make her feel good.

Sunday, May 10, 2009

How To Approach College Women

College life is very different when you were in high school however to some students, especially those who do not have a family member who has been to college, think that college is much like high school. But there are some very big differences. There are students who did not do well in high school, “blossom” in college. Others never get used to college life and do not do as well as they did in high school. In college, you can grow and develop as a person. In college where you will probably be over 18 years old, you will also be treated like an adult. And because you’re already an adult, you will be responsible for the way you live and you will have to make sure that you do what you are supposed to do. Even if in college you will be free to explore and discover numerous paths and interests that were simply not open to you in high school, you should know your limitations.

Practically, everything you want to do and everywhere you go, you will encounter similar college aged. And it was socially acceptable to flirt with them, ask them out, get drunk and make out with them, etc. Let’s start at the very beginning. The first thing you have to do before you start a conversation with a college girl or college women is to approach her. That is the first thing you have to take – how to approach college women.

But do you know how to approach college women? Actually, there are several ways on how to approach college women. First and foremost, you should take note of your dressing. Make sure that you are always neatly dressed so that when you see her, you know that you ready to approach her. Apart from that appearance thing, what is the other way on how to approach college women? In order to approach and attract women, you should know what attitude you should project when you approach college women. Start first with eye contact. It is one way on how to approach college women. One could start a contact without saying a word. Then when she looks at you, give her a nice and casual smile. Well, a simple “hi” together with a casual smile would be enough. Research shows that 71% of women, particularly college women responded and acknowledged to men, who opened up with that line.

So, what’s next? What are the other ways how to approach college women? If she smiles back, then pursue another method on how to approach college women, talk to her and treat her nice. And now that you know how to approach college women, what would you say to her? What kind of opening line after the word “hi” can you use without looking silly or without being stupid? To have a successful conversation wit any college woman, you must know what to say and what not to say. Men and women think and tank differently, so if you want to talk successfully to a woman, listen first to her and relate to her conversation. If she’s done, it’s about time to share your personal experiences and wait until she feels comfortable with you. You want more techniques how to approach college women?

How about tips on how to approach college women at bars and disco clubs? Usually, you will find college women in bars and disco clubs because they find these places as a good way to relax and hang out with friends. So how to approach college women in places like these? When a girl goes up and starts dancing on the dance floor, slowly move in and start dancing with her. But do it nicely because some girls may think that you are bigheaded and arrogant. After that, ask for her name and when you start with a conversation, make sure that you use her name in the next sentence or two to show her that you are paying attention and you are interested in her. These techniques on how to approach college women is very effective. You would surely get the girl you ever dreamed of.

Thursday, April 30, 2009

Dating Tips: Using Storytelling to Attract Women

Today I want to talk to you about a subject that I feel is very important and powerful when it comes to meeting and holding the interest of not only women but anyone in your life.

This subject is none other than Storytelling and when used correctly, can make your desirability with women sky rocket.

Before I jump into the tips and secrets behind successful story telling and how to construct a powerful story (which will be covered more in depth in Part II) I want to clear up a few myths when it comes to the matter of story telling.

Myth one: My stories have to be true and about me.

Now this is ultimately up for you to decide but as long as you keep the conversation fun, apply the right story telling techniques, and can keep the conversation moving, then your story does not have to be true.

Even if the women does not believe the story, if you kept it fun, she will be entertained and most likely run with new conversation topics developed from your stories.

I am not encouraging you to lie though, the most powerful stories are ones that are true and come from a place of emotion.

You can be so over the top with stories where the unbelievably becomes so fun that she gets involved and becomes part of a newly painted reality that you and the girl get to share and more importantly create together. (This becomes a key factor in "Role Playing" and by mastering storytelling, your creativity in "Role Play Conversations" raises but sadly, the subject of role playing will have to be saved for a later issue.)

However I think the biggest misconception is not whether the stories have to be true, but is more about whether or not they have to be about the story teller.

One of the main goals of story telling is to communicate to the listener about you. Surprisingly, it is easier to convey things about yourself by HOW you tell a story, not the actual content of it.

Through the power of expressions, energy, and vivid language, you can convey to your listeners such things as, dominance, humor, interests, and over all personality.

When applying the proper techniques of a story, you should be able to repeat what you heard on the news but in such a fashion that directly makes you more interesting and displays your personality.

Myth Two: As you get better with women you become less dependent on story telling.

Now there is some truth to this myth in the sense that you do not go into interactions with prescripted stories as much as you may starting out. However, it is through the skills that storytelling develops that make you less dependent.

Instead of going into in interaction with a story you have made up or written down and rehearsed, you are able to share any subject in an interesting fashion that makes people listen.

This skill is enhanced by applying the arts of storytelling and is one of the key reasons learning and mastering storytelling is a great way to improve not only your skills with women, but your overall social skills.

What is storytelling and why is it important?

Storytelling is the direct means of communication when highlighting important parts of your life to the listener. Not only through context, but through delivery.

Storytelling plays a very important part in getting to know someone and the great thing about telling a story, is that it creates so many other subject matters to talk about and that a story is almost always followed by another story.

If you are familiar with "The Canterbury Tales" by Geoffrey Chaucer, you will see how each story is molded by the one told before it and by who told the story. (Don't worry; your stories don't have to have a rhyme scheme during the interaction like many of Chaucer's do)

There are many reasons storytelling is important and if you are not currently utilizing storytelling then consider these following facts:

*Storytelling is a great way to save dying conversations

This is one of the most common problems that I see with many guys. An interaction will be going great, then conversation starts to die and there is that awkward silence. This is a great time to bust out a story from your arsenal and revive the interaction.

Knowing you are armed with a story creates more approach confidence when entering an interaction.

People are afraid to enter interactions because of the fear of running out of things to say. By developing a great story or two and keeping them in your back pocket for when you need them creates a great since of confidence during the initial approach and can really help limit the anxiety that one gets when approaching a beautiful women. You are guaranteed that the interaction will last at least the length of your story.

*Storytelling is a great way to display dominance

When you are telling a story the right way, all eyes are on you, you are the center of attention, and everyone lingers off your next word. Holding the attention of the group through storytelling puts you in a dominant frame of you being the leader of the interaction and everyone else being the listener, waiting to see where you take the group next.

What you convey through your stories is how you will be remembered.

Unlike most things you say during an interaction, a good story is unforgettable. How many times have you had someone tell you about some crazy story that one of their friends told them? Stories have been passed down for ages; it is an old custom and still exists till this day. The girl should be able to look back on the interaction and be like "Oh yeah, that was the guy who (did whatever interesting activity that relates to you)."

*Storytelling develops stronger social skills

This is one of the biggest reasons that I like to make sure everyone masters storytelling. Through storytelling you learn to capture the entire attention of the group. Also you directly convey your personality and it gets you accustomed to doing so. The skills that are developed from strong storytelling directly carry over into your social personality that make all conversation with you more exciting and vivid. The expressiveness you show in stories ties into your future interactions and directly improves your social personality.

*You can convey things through storytelling that you normally could not say.

There may be some interesting details of your life that said outside the context of a story may come off as bragging. But in a story, these little details are never the subject of the story thus they remain subtle but are powerful when displaying aspects of your identity.

Now that you have an idea of why storytelling is so effective and what you should be aiming for when telling a story we are going to work on creating your very own powerful stories that cannot be ignored. All this will be covered in Part II of this newsletter, but there is an exercise I want you to do right now so you can directly apply all the tips and tactics to create an amazing story.

Exercise 1: Write down anywhere from seven to ten moments in your life that you feel changed or defined who you are.

If you have a funny story then that is just a humorous time then you can feel free to include that. But even if the story does not seem major, just entertaining, the fact that you can remember it means it has a bigger effect than you realize.

This can be happy, fun, or even sad (not depressing) but we do learn through negative experiences. We will eventually cut these down to just a couple stories in Part II but for now I just want you to get into the habit of taking note of interesting experiences in your life.

Ideas: Vacations, Life/Death Experiences, an unforgettable concert or sporting event, a moment you succeeded, something funny that happened to you or a friend.

Now I know that there are going to be people that say they have no interesting stories. This is just not the truth; everyone has something interesting that has shaped who they are. Do not be modest; even if it's a silly story write it down. You can't be afraid to share a story, sometimes they are hard to think of and if you really can't think of a past story, starting paying more attention to your every day life. And if you still can’t think of one then go take a vacation, you will return with hundreds of them.

So many things happen in one day that people don't even think would be a story. But every past event being told is a story. There is no excuse not to have one.

Exercise Two: Write down at least 5 things that you would like people to know about you.

This is going to tie into personality conveying. Think of the things that you would like any friend or new acquaintance to know about you. These are the things that directly relate to your identity and make you who you are. Do not be surprised if these things are directly related in some way to the stories you wrote down in exercise one.

Ideas: Hobbies, Sports you play, instruments you play, your job, your goals, your skills and achievements.

Now save this list, we are going to use it a lot in Part II of this newsletter to create some super powerful stories that you can always rely on. Also I will further go into the skills of storytelling and how to use them to make every story and conversation more interesting.

I am going to do this very exercise along with you guys so you will get to see my story end product as well.

Till then keep an eye out for the next letter and great ready to really take storytelling to the next level.

Saturday, April 25, 2009

13 Types of Girls you should Avoid

In general, men are looking first for physical attraction at a woman. Many of them consider that if she is beautiful and well dressed, its the perfect partner they are looking for. But they don't know that behind this appearance its hiding something worst.

Maybe this happened to you too. After you began a relationship with her you found out that she is not exactly what you want and what you expect. She hurt you and dumped you when you last expected. Many men are chasing after a woman who lied them and used them. But, in order to stop this, you should know from the beginning which types of girls you should avoid for to not be hurt again.


Desperate girl

-it is the type of the girl who spend all her life laid out, looking for a perfect life, and suddenly she discover that she gets old and she doesn't get married yet because she hasn't met the perfect man for her

-she wants desperately to get married no matter who the guy is or what he does

-she is pressed by the time and is ready to marry with a jerk as long as he has marriage material

-watch out because if you marry one of this, you have to spend the rest of your life with her


Materialistic girl

-usually is good looking and well dressed

-is looking very well outside but inside it is a bunch of money hungry taker

-she is looking all the time after boys which are staying very well with their wallet

-she expects that a man should finance her entire life just because she is biologically female

-she is very friendly, nice at the beginning but after some time you'll see that no matter how much you give her, she wants more

-she is greed personified

-she is interested only in what she wants and not others feelings

-stay away from this kind of girl because she will dumped you after she spend all your money


Angry girl

-she is the type of the girl which sees life like a battle

-anything what is happening or is told to her is seen as a insult at her address

-has also a bad opinion about man, sees only the wrong sides of a man

-she is always upset and angry

-usually she likes to take out of context everything what is said to her and to interpret the words like she wants

-you don't have any future with her, she has a simmering anger at men which can explode at any moment


Insecure girl

-she is very nice and treats men very well

-but she suffers by frustration

-is wracked by anxiety about making the wrong decision

-she has to think twice about what to do, what to wear, where to go, what to eat

-she needs constant reassurance that she's attractive and worries incessantly


Stupid girl

-this type of girl likes to speak a lot but she doesn't say nothing smart

-she likes to say always gossips about the others, but when you want to talk something important with her, she is not able to make conversation


Uptown girl

-she is very rich

-everything she has is better than yours and she wants to make sure that you know it

-she only dates the best of best

-is entirely focused on herself

-she is very selfish, self-indulgent grown up as '' daddy's little girl''

-needs to be constant center of attention no matter what she does or where she goes


Childish girl

-everything in life hurts this kind of girl

-is the type of girl who cries a lot, every innocent comment or criticism will upset her

-avoid this kind of girl because if you are dating one you will have to spend all the time apologizing even if you didn't make any mistake

-avoid also long term relationship with her because she is capable of suicide if you want to leave her and all the blame will be thrown on yourself


Elusive girl

-is the type of girl who is afraid to start a relationship

-she might be hurt in a past relationship and so subconsciously avoids or sabotages new relationships in the present

-she look interested at the beginning but after a while she runs away

-is the type of girl who likes to send mixed messages so you'll never understand her


Talking girl

-it is a big difference between somebody who is able to make good conversation and have sense of humor , and somebody who always have to make a comment about everything

-it is the type which is very hard to please and always has to say something about everything is happening or speaking around her


Romantic girl

-this lives in her own world, of movies and romance novels

-she is very dreamy, imagining things, expecting Prince Charming to come after her

-she doesn't know how the real world is

-she was grown with the idea that she is a princess


Dragger girl

-this kind of girl will always make you feel bad even there is no reason to feel that

-it is always worrying and she can never be happy, everything around her is a total drag

-even if a wonderful thing happen to you, she will make you feel like it was the worst thing that could happen ever


Controlling girl

-she likes to have the total control in your relationship and on you too

-wants to control you in everything you do, you wear or eat

-if you try to control her too, she will get angry, cry, scream or use any deceptive female tactic until you give up


Flirting girl

-she flirts with anybody and flaunt her sexuality at every opportunity

-has a big power of attraction

-exist the risk to dump you in any moment if somebody better comes along


With all these types of girls you should avoid, it is now more easy for you to make a good choice about your next girlfriend; but remember that not all the women are the same, maybe there is somewhere a good, carrying woman just for you.

Monday, March 30, 2009

What to Remember about Senior Dating Services

As social individuals, everyone has the direct need for companionship. That is why, even the widowed and the divorced ones still find the way to spot another partner in their lives. And most of all, as one truth that clings to the common scenarios these days, even married people still find the urge to look for new companionship. Now the challenge has been taken up by the dating services which have popularized online through time. And now, there is the wide availability of the features of the so-called senior dating services.



The senior dating services work out just like any other dating services procedures. Senior or aged individuals who are still single has found this service the most perfect way of spotting the partner that they so wanted in their lives. For being singles for quite some time, there are these instances when seniors find it awkward to go on with individual dating. Thus, to solve this crisis, one can opt for the club dating or group dating. Slowly but surely is the way on how singles can manage their personal relationships.



Senior dating services make sure that you get the partner that you specify in your profile. They match your taste and standard with those members in their data banks. It is important that you make mention of the kind of person that you want to have as a partner or as a date.



The senior singles should find an efficient way on how they can comfortably meet partners. As a worthy advice to you, it matters that you first develop a certain bond or friendship with an individual. You can do this through chatting, sending emails to a person of the opposite sex, talking over the phone, and the likes. It likewise pays off to get to know the mannerisms of a person especially during conversations. You should also work out on the possibility of a personal meet up. Remember that your effort would only prove effective when you get the person to agree to go out and spend time to get to know you as well.



Senior dating services are at times offered by several internet websites for free. Senior citizens like you may surf these free sites and get your lucky stars working for you. The following are the things that you would have to take note of when partaking in a senior dating service.



Gather as much information as possible. Make sure that there would not be problems that can make things complicated for you in the end.



If you know that what you are accessing is a free dating service website, then be careful in dealing with the prompts which require your personal information and most especially that which asks for your credit card details. It may be one fraudulent site that you are dealing with.



If you are lucky enough, you may chance upon your soul mate through the senior dating services. It is likewise possible that you may find someone who is indeed a good conversationalist to while away your spare time.



Senior dating services are out there to suit your requirements. This can be the chance that you're clearly after for. What you need is a reliable computer and internet connection. Simply browse for free websites and enjoy the opportunity that comes your way.

Friday, March 20, 2009

The Truth about Russian Dating Services

More and more foreign men are browsing through internet sites which offer Russian dating services. And it is not surprising why. For them, the Russian woman is the ideal bride – young and attractive, submissive yet confident. But before deciding to browse through these sites and pursue any Russian woman, it is important that you know how these dating services work and exactly what services they offer.



There are basically three types of these websites. The first kind allows you to browse through a catalog or narrow down the choices by searching a particular age or other metric. If there is a particular woman that you are interested in, they then give you the woman's address or contact number. These free dating sites are what they say they are - absolutely free. Of course, you would need to register and be a member before any information is given out.



Other sites allow the men to initially send a message to the woman for free, but the succeeding correspondences shall be for a certain fee. These are called the free trial sites. The good thing about these sites is that you are able to "test drive" their services before you actually pay for them.



There are these commercial sites where there is no free trial at all. Everything in these sites, whether to download an address or browse through a catalog, is for a fee. The downside of these sites, of course, is the cost. For these sites, take note of the company's address and contact numbers (if they have) as well as any refunds that they may provide in case you are dissatisfied of their services.



As an added bonus, some sites offer extra services to help their customers understand these Russian women better. They post articles about Russian culture and language. They also send newsletters, updates and all other information that would help sustain the relationship of the foreign male and Russian woman.



One word of caution though. Some internet sites which appear to be legitimate websites may be sources of internet fraud. At first, things would seem to go well. You made a couple of payments just so you can send an email and read her reply. You also paid just to get her phone number. But after a few emails and phone calls, the girl "disappears." The problem is, you don't have her address, and you can no longer contact her using the number that she gave you. This means that all the work and money that you invested have gone to waste.



Be wary of sites that ask for your personal information like address and credit card number. If there is a particular website that you like, check if there are complaints or negative feedback from former customers. If you feel that you are not getting your money's worth, stop doing business with them. These Russian women are generally sincere in their desire to make friends or have a relationship with you, so if your gut tells you otherwise, then maybe it's a scam.



Russian dating services are widely available in the internet. The key is to choose well. While some sites may be there to help you, others only want your money without giving any "service" at all. On your part, make sure that you join these websites for good intentions only.

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Romanian Dating Services: Things to Keep in Mind

Basically, a lot of men sign up for dating services made available over the internet. And naturally, they are in search of not only women who can get themselves hooked up in dating and courtship eventually but most of all, they do prefer those individuals who are currently and a hundred percent vacant to become their brides. That is what dating services are all about—finding the perfectly matched to-be couples. Now there are some things and considerations of course when you get yourself engaged in Romanian dating services. Like any other typical women, these Romanians ought to be respected. They don't make themselves accessible online to be treated rudely. They have their distinct characteristics and one man has to unearth the secrets on how the Romanian women can be made theirs.

As is common with a relationship that is not only fulfilling and rewarding, being involved with a Romanian woman, only if you are with your perfect match, is likewise an experience that would surely bring you into the comfort zone of a relationship level that is the envy of all. Men often die to know the top secrets that would make Romanian women fall for them.

As an advice, be choosy when it comes to searching for a Romanian woman partner. Find the best. Look at the profiles of your choices carefully. You would not want anything else but the best partner for you to live with. The truth is, Romanian women hardly put their trust on other people. So this is the homework that you would have to work on. Why should you be spending your precious time in sticking with a woman who is not your match? Better yet, take a look at the pointers to keep in mind as you work out in making a Romanian woman fall for you.

Here are the top tricks to keep in mind when you aim towards attracting a Romanian woman from a dating service.

First, Romanian women prefer intelligent talks with their men. If you can inject humor most of the times and keep up with interesting topics for conversation, the better. Intelligent men are for them sexy and interesting. How would you do it? Act as someone who is a good listener. Talk about her work, her hobbies, interests, and be very keen with such details.

Second, they value the importance of your word. Don't make promises which you may be unable to fulfill.

Third, send them SMS messages or write them notes that would definitely stir up their emotions. Use words that would surely melt their hearts. This would ensure that your relationship is attaining a firm foundation.

Fourth, spice up your talks by using humors, anecdotes, and the likes. Flirting is allowed too. Romanian women often remember those men who are able to paint a smile on their faces.

And finally, be real. Don't pretend. Show them who you really are. Don't complicate things by boiling up fictitious details about yourself. If you mean to keep them, be genuine.

Take note that these women also wish to find their Mr. Perfect from the Romanian dating services. Prove them that you are whom they are looking for. Be the partner who would make them feel loved and respected. Romanian women can be all too picky as well.

Saturday, February 28, 2009

Reasons Why Women Fall in Love with Older Men

If you are a man and you’re over 35 years old, if you are attracted by younger women but you are afraid of being rejected or not to be taken seriously, you will find out the real thing about this issue in this article.

Let’s state an irrefutable fact: most women over 25 and single are already disappointed by men of their age.

And their big problem is to find a mature man that can satisfy their needs.

Here is another fact: in most cases men reach their maturity level after the age of 30.

These women believe that older men won’t break their hearts the way younger men have done; they believe that an older man will have the commitment and the willingness required for a long term relationship.

Age indicates maturity, and decision making ability.

Many people believe couples with the same age don't respect each other.

Younger women, on the other hand, enjoy having someone take care of them and are attracted to an older person's accomplishments, economic stability and EMOTIONAL MATURITY.

Make sure you share similar life views and goals, despite your age difference.

Do you both appreciate each other's friends? Do you share the same principles when it comes to family?

So, an age difference of 7 - 15 years can lead to a really great relationship if both partners are willing to. That’s because we don't choose who we fall in love with, it simply happens.

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Quiz For Men - Do You Know what women Prefer - Looks Or Money?

Men and women have different roles in the society. Both the sexes also have different choices. Talking about gender equality cannot ignore the biological differences. Gender equality does not mean that women and men like or dislike same things or have similar aspiration or behavior.

What do women prefer- Looks or money? If you ask some men around you about what they desire in women, good looks may come out as a common answer. What about women? Does a good-looking man attract women or they are more attracted by a man having more money and a man with ambitions? Please ask some women and you will be surprised to know that even very good looking women are not necessarily looking for a partner with great looks, if he has no money. Women desire men with money, power and ambitions more than looks.

If you are a man with ok looks, bur with good amount of money and are thinking of doing much more in your profession, you may be chosen by a real good looking woman.
This does not mean a man who does not keep himself clean or has little sense of clothes or etiquettes. That is a must, but you need not look like a person who can go to any competition and win it on looks. Of you have money and ambitions; you can have your pick of woman.

Friday, February 20, 2009

Online Dating mistakes men make that put women off

In general, there are more men dating online than there are women. So if you are a man trying to find love online, you will want to make sure you’re going about things the right way.
Although there are no failsafe written rules for online dating, there are certain unwritten etiquette rules that are advisable to follow if you want to get the best result out of your online dating experience.
Below is a list of ten things that are likely put women off dating you online.

No picture

Women (and men, for that matter) like to know who they are talking to. Having no picture makes women think you have something to hide. This could be anything from bad looks to already being married. Don’t worry about your looks, different people have different tastes. However, having no picture up would make women imagine the worst, even if, in reality, they would actually find you attractive. A clear headshot of you smiling says you are genuine, friendly and serious about finding someone.

Naked pictures

It’s hard to believe that this needs saying at all, but some men choose to upload nude pictures of themselves to websites rather than headshots. This is acceptable behaviour on adult-themed dating sites where people are generally only after sex, but on all other sites this causes annoyance, if not distress. Even people who specify they are interested in casual relationships are not likely to respond favourably to naked pictures. Unless you are certain this kind of behaviour is acceptable on the site, don’t do it.

Accusing tone

People who have had bad dating experience occasionally try and protect themselves from being hurt by writing a profile warning off “undesirables”. Obviously, no one likes having their time wasted by the wrong kind of people, but filling large parts of your profile with references to the sort of people you don’t want to meet can make you sound unapproachable, unfriendly or even paranoid. Saying things like “no time wasters” are unnecessary -- no sane woman would sit in front of the computer and think “I feel like wasting someone’s time today”. The only thing a statement like that would do is make you sound impatient and demanding. Phrases like “no fat chicks”, “no old hags” etc. would make you sound rude and offensive and make most women stay away, regardless of their age and shape. Instead, concentrate on positive aspects of who you would like to meet.

List of demands

Be careful of turning your profile into a long list of demands. While it’s good to include information about your ideal woman, don’t let it turn into a ransom note. Always include information about yourself in your profile and if you have high expectations from your potential mate, it’s good to complement them with details about your own qualities so that you don’t come across as arrogant and fussy. For example, a phrase like “I go to the gym 4-5 times a week and take care of my body, so I want to meet women who take care of theirs” sounds much better than “I want to meet fit women”.

Going on about your ex

Your online dating profile is not the place to go on about your past dating failures. It’s a place to show your optimistic, hopeful side that is ready to move on. Don’t fill it up with details about how bad your break-up was, how nasty your ex was and how you think all women are out to get you. You won’t be doing yourself any favours.

Boasting

There is a fine line between describing your finer details and showing off. Going over the top with describing how great you are will only make women think you are arrogant and full of yourself. Be particularly careful of anything sexual, including describing body parts or how good you are in bed. Most women wouldn’t believe it anyway and would be immediately put off.

Asking for sex

Unless you are on an adult-themed site, you are unlikely to get anywhere by messaging women and asking for sex straight away. Obviously, there are some exceptions, such as when a woman has specified on her profile that she is looking for sex as well. Otherwise, it’s best to be more polite. Depending on the site you are using, it may be acceptable to say in your profile that you are looking for sex, though different sites will have different levels of tolerance to such requests. On mainstream sites, it’s best to keep such information to a minimum, without going into any graphic descriptions.

Empty profiles

Women will probably not bother contacting you if your profile contains no information about yourself. Put the effort in and make sure you say enough to make them interested. It’s worth spending the time to do this properly as the amount of responses you will get will significantly rise.

Jealousy and possessiveness

When starting to communicate with women online, don’t act like you’re married straight away. Demanding to know where your new friend is every time she is not speaking to you is not likely to make her want to stick around. Let things develop at their natural pace without being too pushy.

Acting Desperate

It’s somehow hard to gauge the different between acting cool and acting distant and the difference between being affectionate and being overly-eager. Still, sometimes it’s best to err on the side of caution and not flood your new match with over the top romantic behaviour. Turning up to a casual first date with a giant bouquet of flowers is an example of over-eagerness. If you like someone, do let her know, but again, don’t expect her to commit to marrying you after a single phone call or date.