If you are a man and you’re over 35 years old, if you are attracted by younger women but you are afraid of being rejected or not to be taken seriously, you will find out the real thing about this issue in this article.
Let’s state an irrefutable fact: most women over 25 and single are already disappointed by men of their age.
And their big problem is to find a mature man that can satisfy their needs.
Here is another fact: in most cases men reach their maturity level after the age of 30.
These women believe that older men won’t break their hearts the way younger men have done; they believe that an older man will have the commitment and the willingness required for a long term relationship.
Age indicates maturity, and decision making ability.
Many people believe couples with the same age don't respect each other.
Younger women, on the other hand, enjoy having someone take care of them and are attracted to an older person's accomplishments, economic stability and EMOTIONAL MATURITY.
Make sure you share similar life views and goals, despite your age difference.
Do you both appreciate each other's friends? Do you share the same principles when it comes to family?
So, an age difference of 7 - 15 years can lead to a really great relationship if both partners are willing to. That’s because we don't choose who we fall in love with, it simply happens.
Saturday, February 28, 2009
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Quiz For Men - Do You Know what women Prefer - Looks Or Money?
Men and women have different roles in the society. Both the sexes also have different choices. Talking about gender equality cannot ignore the biological differences. Gender equality does not mean that women and men like or dislike same things or have similar aspiration or behavior.
What do women prefer- Looks or money? If you ask some men around you about what they desire in women, good looks may come out as a common answer. What about women? Does a good-looking man attract women or they are more attracted by a man having more money and a man with ambitions? Please ask some women and you will be surprised to know that even very good looking women are not necessarily looking for a partner with great looks, if he has no money. Women desire men with money, power and ambitions more than looks.
If you are a man with ok looks, bur with good amount of money and are thinking of doing much more in your profession, you may be chosen by a real good looking woman.
This does not mean a man who does not keep himself clean or has little sense of clothes or etiquettes. That is a must, but you need not look like a person who can go to any competition and win it on looks. Of you have money and ambitions; you can have your pick of woman.
What do women prefer- Looks or money? If you ask some men around you about what they desire in women, good looks may come out as a common answer. What about women? Does a good-looking man attract women or they are more attracted by a man having more money and a man with ambitions? Please ask some women and you will be surprised to know that even very good looking women are not necessarily looking for a partner with great looks, if he has no money. Women desire men with money, power and ambitions more than looks.
If you are a man with ok looks, bur with good amount of money and are thinking of doing much more in your profession, you may be chosen by a real good looking woman.
This does not mean a man who does not keep himself clean or has little sense of clothes or etiquettes. That is a must, but you need not look like a person who can go to any competition and win it on looks. Of you have money and ambitions; you can have your pick of woman.
Friday, February 20, 2009
Online Dating mistakes men make that put women off
In general, there are more men dating online than there are women. So if you are a man trying to find love online, you will want to make sure you’re going about things the right way.
Although there are no failsafe written rules for online dating, there are certain unwritten etiquette rules that are advisable to follow if you want to get the best result out of your online dating experience.
Below is a list of ten things that are likely put women off dating you online.
No picture
Women (and men, for that matter) like to know who they are talking to. Having no picture makes women think you have something to hide. This could be anything from bad looks to already being married. Don’t worry about your looks, different people have different tastes. However, having no picture up would make women imagine the worst, even if, in reality, they would actually find you attractive. A clear headshot of you smiling says you are genuine, friendly and serious about finding someone.
Naked pictures
It’s hard to believe that this needs saying at all, but some men choose to upload nude pictures of themselves to websites rather than headshots. This is acceptable behaviour on adult-themed dating sites where people are generally only after sex, but on all other sites this causes annoyance, if not distress. Even people who specify they are interested in casual relationships are not likely to respond favourably to naked pictures. Unless you are certain this kind of behaviour is acceptable on the site, don’t do it.
Accusing tone
People who have had bad dating experience occasionally try and protect themselves from being hurt by writing a profile warning off “undesirables”. Obviously, no one likes having their time wasted by the wrong kind of people, but filling large parts of your profile with references to the sort of people you don’t want to meet can make you sound unapproachable, unfriendly or even paranoid. Saying things like “no time wasters” are unnecessary -- no sane woman would sit in front of the computer and think “I feel like wasting someone’s time today”. The only thing a statement like that would do is make you sound impatient and demanding. Phrases like “no fat chicks”, “no old hags” etc. would make you sound rude and offensive and make most women stay away, regardless of their age and shape. Instead, concentrate on positive aspects of who you would like to meet.
List of demands
Be careful of turning your profile into a long list of demands. While it’s good to include information about your ideal woman, don’t let it turn into a ransom note. Always include information about yourself in your profile and if you have high expectations from your potential mate, it’s good to complement them with details about your own qualities so that you don’t come across as arrogant and fussy. For example, a phrase like “I go to the gym 4-5 times a week and take care of my body, so I want to meet women who take care of theirs” sounds much better than “I want to meet fit women”.
Going on about your ex
Your online dating profile is not the place to go on about your past dating failures. It’s a place to show your optimistic, hopeful side that is ready to move on. Don’t fill it up with details about how bad your break-up was, how nasty your ex was and how you think all women are out to get you. You won’t be doing yourself any favours.
Boasting
There is a fine line between describing your finer details and showing off. Going over the top with describing how great you are will only make women think you are arrogant and full of yourself. Be particularly careful of anything sexual, including describing body parts or how good you are in bed. Most women wouldn’t believe it anyway and would be immediately put off.
Asking for sex
Unless you are on an adult-themed site, you are unlikely to get anywhere by messaging women and asking for sex straight away. Obviously, there are some exceptions, such as when a woman has specified on her profile that she is looking for sex as well. Otherwise, it’s best to be more polite. Depending on the site you are using, it may be acceptable to say in your profile that you are looking for sex, though different sites will have different levels of tolerance to such requests. On mainstream sites, it’s best to keep such information to a minimum, without going into any graphic descriptions.
Empty profiles
Women will probably not bother contacting you if your profile contains no information about yourself. Put the effort in and make sure you say enough to make them interested. It’s worth spending the time to do this properly as the amount of responses you will get will significantly rise.
Jealousy and possessiveness
When starting to communicate with women online, don’t act like you’re married straight away. Demanding to know where your new friend is every time she is not speaking to you is not likely to make her want to stick around. Let things develop at their natural pace without being too pushy.
Acting Desperate
It’s somehow hard to gauge the different between acting cool and acting distant and the difference between being affectionate and being overly-eager. Still, sometimes it’s best to err on the side of caution and not flood your new match with over the top romantic behaviour. Turning up to a casual first date with a giant bouquet of flowers is an example of over-eagerness. If you like someone, do let her know, but again, don’t expect her to commit to marrying you after a single phone call or date.
Although there are no failsafe written rules for online dating, there are certain unwritten etiquette rules that are advisable to follow if you want to get the best result out of your online dating experience.
Below is a list of ten things that are likely put women off dating you online.
No picture
Women (and men, for that matter) like to know who they are talking to. Having no picture makes women think you have something to hide. This could be anything from bad looks to already being married. Don’t worry about your looks, different people have different tastes. However, having no picture up would make women imagine the worst, even if, in reality, they would actually find you attractive. A clear headshot of you smiling says you are genuine, friendly and serious about finding someone.
Naked pictures
It’s hard to believe that this needs saying at all, but some men choose to upload nude pictures of themselves to websites rather than headshots. This is acceptable behaviour on adult-themed dating sites where people are generally only after sex, but on all other sites this causes annoyance, if not distress. Even people who specify they are interested in casual relationships are not likely to respond favourably to naked pictures. Unless you are certain this kind of behaviour is acceptable on the site, don’t do it.
Accusing tone
People who have had bad dating experience occasionally try and protect themselves from being hurt by writing a profile warning off “undesirables”. Obviously, no one likes having their time wasted by the wrong kind of people, but filling large parts of your profile with references to the sort of people you don’t want to meet can make you sound unapproachable, unfriendly or even paranoid. Saying things like “no time wasters” are unnecessary -- no sane woman would sit in front of the computer and think “I feel like wasting someone’s time today”. The only thing a statement like that would do is make you sound impatient and demanding. Phrases like “no fat chicks”, “no old hags” etc. would make you sound rude and offensive and make most women stay away, regardless of their age and shape. Instead, concentrate on positive aspects of who you would like to meet.
List of demands
Be careful of turning your profile into a long list of demands. While it’s good to include information about your ideal woman, don’t let it turn into a ransom note. Always include information about yourself in your profile and if you have high expectations from your potential mate, it’s good to complement them with details about your own qualities so that you don’t come across as arrogant and fussy. For example, a phrase like “I go to the gym 4-5 times a week and take care of my body, so I want to meet women who take care of theirs” sounds much better than “I want to meet fit women”.
Going on about your ex
Your online dating profile is not the place to go on about your past dating failures. It’s a place to show your optimistic, hopeful side that is ready to move on. Don’t fill it up with details about how bad your break-up was, how nasty your ex was and how you think all women are out to get you. You won’t be doing yourself any favours.
Boasting
There is a fine line between describing your finer details and showing off. Going over the top with describing how great you are will only make women think you are arrogant and full of yourself. Be particularly careful of anything sexual, including describing body parts or how good you are in bed. Most women wouldn’t believe it anyway and would be immediately put off.
Asking for sex
Unless you are on an adult-themed site, you are unlikely to get anywhere by messaging women and asking for sex straight away. Obviously, there are some exceptions, such as when a woman has specified on her profile that she is looking for sex as well. Otherwise, it’s best to be more polite. Depending on the site you are using, it may be acceptable to say in your profile that you are looking for sex, though different sites will have different levels of tolerance to such requests. On mainstream sites, it’s best to keep such information to a minimum, without going into any graphic descriptions.
Empty profiles
Women will probably not bother contacting you if your profile contains no information about yourself. Put the effort in and make sure you say enough to make them interested. It’s worth spending the time to do this properly as the amount of responses you will get will significantly rise.
Jealousy and possessiveness
When starting to communicate with women online, don’t act like you’re married straight away. Demanding to know where your new friend is every time she is not speaking to you is not likely to make her want to stick around. Let things develop at their natural pace without being too pushy.
Acting Desperate
It’s somehow hard to gauge the different between acting cool and acting distant and the difference between being affectionate and being overly-eager. Still, sometimes it’s best to err on the side of caution and not flood your new match with over the top romantic behaviour. Turning up to a casual first date with a giant bouquet of flowers is an example of over-eagerness. If you like someone, do let her know, but again, don’t expect her to commit to marrying you after a single phone call or date.
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Online Dating – Interview with Women
One note, while safety applies to both men and women, it needs to be said, that women need to be especially careful when deciding to actually meet any man they met online.
Women should talk to the guy through email and chat for awhile before even giving out a phone number. Remember that a phone number can be traced back to your address. Don’t think because your phone number is unlisted that you are protected.
The next step after emails and chat should be by phone. You can learn a lot about someone by talking on the phone and really listening to what they say. If they make you feel uncomfortable on the phone, then you don’t even want to take the next step and actually meet them.
If you do decide to meet the man you met through an online dating service, make sure you first meet in a very public place. Tell your friends where you are going and when you expect to return. Make the first date a short, get to know you, kind of date. One that is not scheduled to go longer, so you can go home and gather your thoughts before deciding whether or not you will date this man again.
Do not let him take you someplace secluded or in his vehicle anywhere on that first date. You may think you know him from all of the online and phone conversations, but abusers and abductors are very smart in the way they lure females into a trap. Be careful.
That being said, online dating can be a great way to meet some very nice men and maybe even find your soul mate. Using common sense is just a good idea. Now on with the interviews.
Of course, the women I am going to interview for the article wish to remain anonymous, so I will just call them Online Dater 1, 2, and 3.
We will begin with online dater 1; (a 27-year-old female)
Me: How did you hear about online dating?
Online Dater 1; My girlfriend at work actually married a guy she met through one of the online dating services and she urged me to try it at least once.
Me: Where and how did you meet your first online date?
Online Dater 1; I’m not sure I should tell you the website I use, but it is one that you can browse through the profiles of all the men that are available. I remember thinking it was like shopping. So it was fun. I found several profiles of guys I might like and emailed them. I received a lot of responses and began to chat with them by email. I let a couple of them call me on my cell phone and finally let one convince me to go out on a date.
Me: How long did you chat with this person online before you two decided to date in person?
Online Dater 1; Oh, about a month. I was a little leery and thought each of these guys must have something wrong with them to be here in the first place, but I guess that could apply to what they might be thinking about me too.
Me: What was it about them that made you want to meet them in person and did you feel they were your soul mate?
Online Dater 1; Okay, I’ll admit it. His picture got me. He was an absolute hunk and I had the hots for him right away. I still took my time about agreeing to an actual date. I couldn’t understand why he would need to use an online dating service.
Me: Was your first impression of him, upon seeing him in person a surprise, a positive reaction, or a negative reaction?
Online Dater 1; Totally positive. He was better than his picture!
Me: So, tell us what happened after meeting him in person.
Online Dater 1; We dated a few times. We really hit it off. We had a lot of the same interests, just like they were in the comparison charts at the online dating website. We are still seeing each other after 9 months. He hasn’t popped the question, but the answer is going to be yes!
Okay, next I will be talking to a 19-year-old female about her experience.
Me: How did you hear about online dating?
Online Dater 2; I clicked on a link in an email that looked interesting.
Me: Where did you meet your first online date?
Online Dater 2; Through the 3rd online dating service that I signed up for. I didn’t like the first two very much. Too, well, old style.
Me: How long did you chat with this person online before you two decided to meet in person?
Online Dater 2; About a week.
Me: What was it about them that made you want to meet them in person and did you feel they were your soul mate?
Online Dater 2; I didn’t think he was my soul mate or anything like that, but he was really a cool guy and we both liked the same music and clubs. It turned out we had been to a lot of the same spots but never met.
Me: Was your first impression of him, upon seeing him in person a surprise, a positive reaction, or a negative reaction?
Online Dater 2; I’d say positive. He was like in his picture and all, but a little shorter than I pictured him.
Me: So, tell us what happened after meeting him in person.
Online Dater 2; Well, we went out a few times and had a good time, but like I said, I never expected him to be the one, you know. It was fun. He still calls once in awhile and I might date him again, but I’m still talking with other guys on the dating service and might try another date from there soon.
Last, a 41-year-old female shares her online dating experience with us.
Me: How did you hear about online dating?
Online Dater 3; I saw an ad on television for a very popular dating service. I was alone and thought it couldn’t hurt to try it out. I work a lot and don’t have much chance for a social life, but thought I needed to get back into the game, if you know what I mean.
Me: Where did you meet your first online date?
Online Dater 3; Through the website I signed up for from the ad. .
Me: How long did you chat with this person online before you two decided to meet in person?
Online Dater 3; Almost 6 months. As I said I work a lot and he was a professional, a lawyer, so his time was limited too. We would contact each other every day after work and talk about how our day went.
Me: What was it about them that made you want to meet them in person and did you feel they were your soul mate?
Online Dater 3; Well, it was me who finally asked him out instead of the other way around. I just decided it was time to meet him. I had been talking to him everyday so it was already like coming home to hear him say, How was your day?
Me: Was your first impression of him, upon seeing him in person a surprise, a positive reaction, or a negative reaction?
Online Dater 3; He was exactly what I expected. He had sent me many pictures so I would know what he looked like and I had sent him several as well. So there were no surprises there.
Me: So, tell us what happened after meeting him in person.
Online Dater 3; We’re married. We’ve been married now for almost a year, but everything is great! It’s not like he was my fantasy guy or anything so corny. He is a nice man. We got to know each other over that time online. And when we met, the conversations picked up right where we left off online. It was just natural after dating in person for about 6 weeks, that he asked me and I accepted.
In conclusion, these were some pretty positive interviews with people who have met someone through an online dating service and met someone they wanted to date in person. They all had success in varying degrees. But it does sound like something I might try now that I’ve heard their experiences.
Women should talk to the guy through email and chat for awhile before even giving out a phone number. Remember that a phone number can be traced back to your address. Don’t think because your phone number is unlisted that you are protected.
The next step after emails and chat should be by phone. You can learn a lot about someone by talking on the phone and really listening to what they say. If they make you feel uncomfortable on the phone, then you don’t even want to take the next step and actually meet them.
If you do decide to meet the man you met through an online dating service, make sure you first meet in a very public place. Tell your friends where you are going and when you expect to return. Make the first date a short, get to know you, kind of date. One that is not scheduled to go longer, so you can go home and gather your thoughts before deciding whether or not you will date this man again.
Do not let him take you someplace secluded or in his vehicle anywhere on that first date. You may think you know him from all of the online and phone conversations, but abusers and abductors are very smart in the way they lure females into a trap. Be careful.
That being said, online dating can be a great way to meet some very nice men and maybe even find your soul mate. Using common sense is just a good idea. Now on with the interviews.
Of course, the women I am going to interview for the article wish to remain anonymous, so I will just call them Online Dater 1, 2, and 3.
We will begin with online dater 1; (a 27-year-old female)
Me: How did you hear about online dating?
Online Dater 1; My girlfriend at work actually married a guy she met through one of the online dating services and she urged me to try it at least once.
Me: Where and how did you meet your first online date?
Online Dater 1; I’m not sure I should tell you the website I use, but it is one that you can browse through the profiles of all the men that are available. I remember thinking it was like shopping. So it was fun. I found several profiles of guys I might like and emailed them. I received a lot of responses and began to chat with them by email. I let a couple of them call me on my cell phone and finally let one convince me to go out on a date.
Me: How long did you chat with this person online before you two decided to date in person?
Online Dater 1; Oh, about a month. I was a little leery and thought each of these guys must have something wrong with them to be here in the first place, but I guess that could apply to what they might be thinking about me too.
Me: What was it about them that made you want to meet them in person and did you feel they were your soul mate?
Online Dater 1; Okay, I’ll admit it. His picture got me. He was an absolute hunk and I had the hots for him right away. I still took my time about agreeing to an actual date. I couldn’t understand why he would need to use an online dating service.
Me: Was your first impression of him, upon seeing him in person a surprise, a positive reaction, or a negative reaction?
Online Dater 1; Totally positive. He was better than his picture!
Me: So, tell us what happened after meeting him in person.
Online Dater 1; We dated a few times. We really hit it off. We had a lot of the same interests, just like they were in the comparison charts at the online dating website. We are still seeing each other after 9 months. He hasn’t popped the question, but the answer is going to be yes!
Okay, next I will be talking to a 19-year-old female about her experience.
Me: How did you hear about online dating?
Online Dater 2; I clicked on a link in an email that looked interesting.
Me: Where did you meet your first online date?
Online Dater 2; Through the 3rd online dating service that I signed up for. I didn’t like the first two very much. Too, well, old style.
Me: How long did you chat with this person online before you two decided to meet in person?
Online Dater 2; About a week.
Me: What was it about them that made you want to meet them in person and did you feel they were your soul mate?
Online Dater 2; I didn’t think he was my soul mate or anything like that, but he was really a cool guy and we both liked the same music and clubs. It turned out we had been to a lot of the same spots but never met.
Me: Was your first impression of him, upon seeing him in person a surprise, a positive reaction, or a negative reaction?
Online Dater 2; I’d say positive. He was like in his picture and all, but a little shorter than I pictured him.
Me: So, tell us what happened after meeting him in person.
Online Dater 2; Well, we went out a few times and had a good time, but like I said, I never expected him to be the one, you know. It was fun. He still calls once in awhile and I might date him again, but I’m still talking with other guys on the dating service and might try another date from there soon.
Last, a 41-year-old female shares her online dating experience with us.
Me: How did you hear about online dating?
Online Dater 3; I saw an ad on television for a very popular dating service. I was alone and thought it couldn’t hurt to try it out. I work a lot and don’t have much chance for a social life, but thought I needed to get back into the game, if you know what I mean.
Me: Where did you meet your first online date?
Online Dater 3; Through the website I signed up for from the ad. .
Me: How long did you chat with this person online before you two decided to meet in person?
Online Dater 3; Almost 6 months. As I said I work a lot and he was a professional, a lawyer, so his time was limited too. We would contact each other every day after work and talk about how our day went.
Me: What was it about them that made you want to meet them in person and did you feel they were your soul mate?
Online Dater 3; Well, it was me who finally asked him out instead of the other way around. I just decided it was time to meet him. I had been talking to him everyday so it was already like coming home to hear him say, How was your day?
Me: Was your first impression of him, upon seeing him in person a surprise, a positive reaction, or a negative reaction?
Online Dater 3; He was exactly what I expected. He had sent me many pictures so I would know what he looked like and I had sent him several as well. So there were no surprises there.
Me: So, tell us what happened after meeting him in person.
Online Dater 3; We’re married. We’ve been married now for almost a year, but everything is great! It’s not like he was my fantasy guy or anything so corny. He is a nice man. We got to know each other over that time online. And when we met, the conversations picked up right where we left off online. It was just natural after dating in person for about 6 weeks, that he asked me and I accepted.
In conclusion, these were some pretty positive interviews with people who have met someone through an online dating service and met someone they wanted to date in person. They all had success in varying degrees. But it does sound like something I might try now that I’ve heard their experiences.
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
What are Phone Dating Services?
Phone dating services have taken the world by storm. With the invention of mobile phones, the popularity of these dating companies has vastly grown over a few years. If you search the web, you can see mobile phone companies that offer this type of service, not only in the US but also in other parts of the world like Europe, Australia and as far as Asia. While more people have relied on these services for their dating needs, some skeptics ask: do they really work?
These dating services are provided by mobile phone companies. A user is first made to register using a chat name. Then he makes his own profile. Your profile is then sent to a database which any registered member can access. By sending some keywords to a number, the mobile phone company sends you a list of names that fall within the criterion that you want. You can then send messages to these chat names, although you do not know their mobile numbers yet. After a few exchanges, you may want to give your mobile number and decide to meet in person. These dealings are now outside the scope of the services that the phone company provides.
Telephone dating services have come a long way since its introduction a decade ago. Back then, you'd see their ads on TV or the yellow pages, indicating the number to call. You will then call and leave a phone message. Others whom you may be interested with are going to listen to your message by dialing the same voice mailbox. If interested, he or she would also leave a message for you to retrieve. This is so much like an email correspondence, except that you get to hear the voice this time. After a couple of exchanges, you will then decide if you're going to meet and actually date.
This has led to the development of video dating services, where video messages are made instead of ordinary phone messages. Through this, you are able to see the person instead of just hearing the voice.
Phone dating is actually different from phone sex companies. For the latter, you'd be asked to dial a certain 1-900 number, and female operators are on standby to give you a good time by engaging in some sexy conversation. Here, there is no actual dating involved.
Because of the popularity of these dating services, you can now start your own phone dating company by buying the software and some equipment at a low cost. But before you join any of these companies, know your options well. Look for companies which have been tried and proven to provide quality service.
Things may come and go, but phone dating services are sure to stay. It is a convenient and fast way to meet new people. But these services can only go as far as searching for somebody who might be fit for you. If you decide to move your relationship to the next level, then you have to work on it. Or it could be that you click really well in so far as phone conversations or texting, but not in real life. In other words, phone dating can be a great way to start. But if you want a lasting relationship with someone, you would have to meet and be with each other in the real world.
These dating services are provided by mobile phone companies. A user is first made to register using a chat name. Then he makes his own profile. Your profile is then sent to a database which any registered member can access. By sending some keywords to a number, the mobile phone company sends you a list of names that fall within the criterion that you want. You can then send messages to these chat names, although you do not know their mobile numbers yet. After a few exchanges, you may want to give your mobile number and decide to meet in person. These dealings are now outside the scope of the services that the phone company provides.
Telephone dating services have come a long way since its introduction a decade ago. Back then, you'd see their ads on TV or the yellow pages, indicating the number to call. You will then call and leave a phone message. Others whom you may be interested with are going to listen to your message by dialing the same voice mailbox. If interested, he or she would also leave a message for you to retrieve. This is so much like an email correspondence, except that you get to hear the voice this time. After a couple of exchanges, you will then decide if you're going to meet and actually date.
This has led to the development of video dating services, where video messages are made instead of ordinary phone messages. Through this, you are able to see the person instead of just hearing the voice.
Phone dating is actually different from phone sex companies. For the latter, you'd be asked to dial a certain 1-900 number, and female operators are on standby to give you a good time by engaging in some sexy conversation. Here, there is no actual dating involved.
Because of the popularity of these dating services, you can now start your own phone dating company by buying the software and some equipment at a low cost. But before you join any of these companies, know your options well. Look for companies which have been tried and proven to provide quality service.
Things may come and go, but phone dating services are sure to stay. It is a convenient and fast way to meet new people. But these services can only go as far as searching for somebody who might be fit for you. If you decide to move your relationship to the next level, then you have to work on it. Or it could be that you click really well in so far as phone conversations or texting, but not in real life. In other words, phone dating can be a great way to start. But if you want a lasting relationship with someone, you would have to meet and be with each other in the real world.
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
How To Get Respect From Women
Respecting other people is one of the basic human values. Schools and parents try to inculcate it to their children, however, it still one of the most undermined value.
Respect is one of the most neglected values maybe because it is can be viewed as a value that is that only affects other people. However, there are many things one could get by giving respect. Nobody talks much about it, but respect is one of the determining factors of a guy’s success in getting women’s attention. If a man knows how to get respect from women, he definitely possesses a quality that sets him apart from other men.
How does one get respect from women? This article tries to give some tips on how to do that task.
- Self-respect
Getting respect from other people (not only women) entails self-respect. How can one expect to be respected if he himself doesn’t know how to respect himself? Self-respect starts with having a healthy self-esteem.
Self-esteem can be put plainly as one’s view of oneself. Developing and boosting one’s self-esteem requires conscious effort. One must start with self-assessment to find out about one’s insecurities and to find out possible ways of reversing these. Self-respect transcends from one’s soul, the lack of it can never be hidden.
Self-acceptance is the first step towards having self-esteem. One must avoid comparing oneself with other people. This will only end with envy and added insecurities. Accepting oneself, including one’s weaknesses is the only true way to gaining self-respect.
-What you give is what you take
To be able to get respect, one must know how to give respect. Respecting women is a whole different thing from respecting men. Women are more sensitive in the things that one say or do.
Being a gentleman doesn’t seem to pay much these days. Nice guys are always left behind and beaten by the bad boys. The nice guys are stuck with being seen by women only as friends. Unfortunately, women really dig the bad boys, but this shouldn’t be a reason for guys to give in and join the dark side. Women may initially like the bad boys but eventually, when maturity sets in and when the long-term picture comes into play, the gentleman usually becomes women’s top choice.
Simple gestures such as proper greetings, opening doors and offering help to women will give a guy a “good” image.
-Relax
The reason why most nice guys are seen by women as mediocre and are never admired by them is that they portray a very stiff and boring personality. Low self-esteem may be driving away a man from being comfortable amidst women. He might be viewing women as people whom he needs to please. In respecting women, one eventually pleases them but this is not the primary motive, he respects them because he chooses to and that is what he thinks is the right thing to do.
If one is amidst women in school or work or wherever, he should try talking with them on a deeper level. Trying to ask them about their interests, thoughts on things and hobbies can be good way to start. One will eventually find out that women think differently from men, but there is beauty which lies behind differences.
-Have fun
If a man eventually becomes comfortable with talking with women, he can then be more open to other topics which are more sensitive, such as sex. If a man asks a woman about sex, it doesn’t mean that he is disrespecting her, but this should be done in the right moment and through the right way. Men have a tendency to think about sexual thoughts all the time and this should be avoided. Men must see beyond the curves and connect with the inner soul of women.
Men don’t need to be assholes when it comes to women. Respecting women in itself is a very virtuous thing to do and gives one fulfillment in itself. Respect works through life in various levels and its benefits to the giver and the receiver are priceless. The best relationships start with respect and are maintained by respect.
Respect is one of the most neglected values maybe because it is can be viewed as a value that is that only affects other people. However, there are many things one could get by giving respect. Nobody talks much about it, but respect is one of the determining factors of a guy’s success in getting women’s attention. If a man knows how to get respect from women, he definitely possesses a quality that sets him apart from other men.
How does one get respect from women? This article tries to give some tips on how to do that task.
- Self-respect
Getting respect from other people (not only women) entails self-respect. How can one expect to be respected if he himself doesn’t know how to respect himself? Self-respect starts with having a healthy self-esteem.
Self-esteem can be put plainly as one’s view of oneself. Developing and boosting one’s self-esteem requires conscious effort. One must start with self-assessment to find out about one’s insecurities and to find out possible ways of reversing these. Self-respect transcends from one’s soul, the lack of it can never be hidden.
Self-acceptance is the first step towards having self-esteem. One must avoid comparing oneself with other people. This will only end with envy and added insecurities. Accepting oneself, including one’s weaknesses is the only true way to gaining self-respect.
-What you give is what you take
To be able to get respect, one must know how to give respect. Respecting women is a whole different thing from respecting men. Women are more sensitive in the things that one say or do.
Being a gentleman doesn’t seem to pay much these days. Nice guys are always left behind and beaten by the bad boys. The nice guys are stuck with being seen by women only as friends. Unfortunately, women really dig the bad boys, but this shouldn’t be a reason for guys to give in and join the dark side. Women may initially like the bad boys but eventually, when maturity sets in and when the long-term picture comes into play, the gentleman usually becomes women’s top choice.
Simple gestures such as proper greetings, opening doors and offering help to women will give a guy a “good” image.
-Relax
The reason why most nice guys are seen by women as mediocre and are never admired by them is that they portray a very stiff and boring personality. Low self-esteem may be driving away a man from being comfortable amidst women. He might be viewing women as people whom he needs to please. In respecting women, one eventually pleases them but this is not the primary motive, he respects them because he chooses to and that is what he thinks is the right thing to do.
If one is amidst women in school or work or wherever, he should try talking with them on a deeper level. Trying to ask them about their interests, thoughts on things and hobbies can be good way to start. One will eventually find out that women think differently from men, but there is beauty which lies behind differences.
-Have fun
If a man eventually becomes comfortable with talking with women, he can then be more open to other topics which are more sensitive, such as sex. If a man asks a woman about sex, it doesn’t mean that he is disrespecting her, but this should be done in the right moment and through the right way. Men have a tendency to think about sexual thoughts all the time and this should be avoided. Men must see beyond the curves and connect with the inner soul of women.
Men don’t need to be assholes when it comes to women. Respecting women in itself is a very virtuous thing to do and gives one fulfillment in itself. Respect works through life in various levels and its benefits to the giver and the receiver are priceless. The best relationships start with respect and are maintained by respect.
Thursday, February 5, 2009
How to Deal with Rejection from Women
Are women actually interested in you when they first see you? Or is it that they are interested in what they are
seeing as a reflection of their own ideals and expectations?
And what about when women reject you or don't even give you a chance? Has this hurt you before even though other guys will tell you not to take it personally or to just 'keep on approaching and you'll get over it'?
Well I'm going to help you deal with this 'rejection' and set it more straight right now (for free).
What's really going on are many different things and on different levels.
I want you to be able to differentiate a woman's response to you so that you can understand it so that it doesn't hurt you or even affect you but rather that you can learn what hasn't been working and take advantage of what does work.
When a woman sees you for the first time, she is extrapolating every little detail about you to determine
whether you might be a fit for her.
These usually accurate judgments she is making off of the smallest details about you will help protect her or open you up to having a chance with her.
In the future I will get deeply into getting yourself to the point where you are communicating that you are everything she could want even if you don't have the best looks or money, age, etc.
But for now, this data that she is judging off of you is either working for you or against you. You may have had
women blow you off or flat out reject you after you approached and started talking or they never even gave you a
chance before you approached.
Is this something you should take personally?
I don't want to give you a shallow answer, I want to give you the MEANING behind it; the schematics and reasoning so bear with me and it will be worth it.
Does a woman even know you when they she first sees you?
Then how can you possibly accept any kind of rejection?
Just because you approached her and she rejected you does not mean that you have a low character or are undesirable.
Does it?
Here's the bad news; some of the readers out there may actually have a low character and the women ARE judging accurately (albeit without knowing more b/c they feel they don't need or want to find out more).
This can all be changed so that any man can not only more accurately portray more of what she is attracted to but actually BE that man in congruity.
The primary key is for him to get in touch with his own natural/ universal character and stop relying so much on
his limited independent or social character.
The rest of the guys probably do have a higher independent or social character but just aren't being themselves when they approach a woman. They're using a pick-up persona or player front or they're just being a nice guy (overly nice and not their true self).
Otherwise they're just not in touch with their natural/universal character in order to spark attraction anyways.
Too many guys these days (and it's being taught) are focusing on the social and even independent (I'm a nice guy) parts of their character when it comes to attracting women. They do what society says and when women don't respond, they get flustered.
This sets a man up for rejection because these two areas are the least important and are what women respond to the least when it comes to attraction and her wanting you; it's just really hard to see through it when women have become the rulers of the social 'matrix'. Natural order is flipped around so you just have to see through all of the social influence and deal with her biology.
So if you are focusing on your social 'pick up game' you're going to have to get real good at it and then because of your high character, the charts work in reverse so that eventually she may feel a spark of attraction. In other
words:
You have to talk her into it and let her realize that you are a man of high character.
This takes longer because you started on the wrong end of the character continuum in your communication and portrayal of yourself to her.
Like I said it also sets you up for failure because you have to get all of the words just right and her temperance is wavering.
Hopefully this will help you understand why men are rejected more and perhaps yourself in the past sometimes.
Understanding it is key to putting it in it's place and then changing to do the more effective things.
When you are a man of high natural/universal character and communicate this with your body language (often enough alone), the universal/natural part of the woman knows to respond to you and you don't have to use words.
She is prewired to know how to respond and be attracted to a man that has a strong connection to his universal/natural (which used to be almost all men but people were more localized then).
Today, very few men are in full touch with this and those that are, are the guys that are scoring the most with women. It's that simple.
When you can get in touch with the natural/universal power that is greater than you and (is your inheritance)
you can have that power to create attraction (naturally) and make it a part of your own character...add it to your game and it will make ALL the difference.
You won't even have to deal with rejection anymore because you'll be able to read and communicate with women on the nonverbal level (the unspoken), that which was formerly invisible.
So back to the rejection issue... when a woman sees you and you aren't effectively communicating that you are a man of high character (either incongruently or because you just aren't there yet), she most likely won't give you a chance.
The key is to understand where you are on the character continuum.
If you ARE a great (nice) guy, then remember that she is just judging her initial impression of you. You may have a high independent character and be a great guy so just separate that from the fact that you were currently LOW on the natural/ universal part of your character and that is the part she was disapproving of, not YOU.
So don't take it personally. When you do develop a high character across the charts not only will you never have to deal with rejection again but when you play it by certain rules (your rules) SHE will be the one who is rejected or disqualifying herself to you and you will have the power by far.
You will always have the last word.
All you really have to have even if you have a low independent and social character/status is a strong
connection to your natural ability (esp. if you aren't good looking, poor or are much older).
So if you've been focusing on the social character and using techniques and pick-up lines to develop your character to be able to pick a woman up...just consider working on your natural/ universal character instead; it's what matters so much that a woman will HELP you pick her up by giving the right signals when you do have a high character. You won't even need pick up lines then.
In fact it's not until recently that we actually had pick up lines or a need to study this. You just have to
differentiate the forced reality from the natural, timeless reality of attraction and female response and separate out all of what doesn't matter (such as her fickle independent/social character when it comes to attraction and don't deal with it).
Prevent rejection and isolate the possibility of it by understanding the model magnet system and charts. She isn't rejecting you, she's just placing a perception onto you and judging you initially to see if you meet her expectational response/ideal.
I like to say;
She can't sleep with a man of low (m.m.) character just as much as you can't sleep with an ugly, fat chick.
And if you've taken one for the home team, that's about as often as she slept with a man of low character (despite his looks).
So make sure that you not only communicate the right things but BE the man of the highest character that you can.
It's more important than your social character/status or your own inner game and personality, it's about your
connection to the universal power of masculinity and secure inner strength.
The feminine energy in her will rule over her fickle independent behavior and her body just may not be able to
resist. This can all happen within a few seconds of her seeing you.
At this point women will be approaching you like crazy and throwing out all kinds of signs because this kind of man who is in touch is so rare these days. The works already cut out for you.
What would it be worth for you to turn the tables, never get rejected and live that kind of lifestyle with women no
MATTER your looks, age, income or social status?
It's not a trick. It's real. And it's every man's inheritance but he has to embrace and accept it. I am the
messenger because this power is greater than the greatest of any man in history's own independent character.
You don't have to be a superstar pick up character, you just have to be a man of (natural) character and you'll be able to catch women's interest just by walking in the room.
And when you're already spurring attraction in her and she can trust you by your body language, there's less of a chance you'll get rejected anyways. And if you're living in a dominant reality where she is attracted to you and wants to be plus take the natural approach you can prevent rejection entirely.
seeing as a reflection of their own ideals and expectations?
And what about when women reject you or don't even give you a chance? Has this hurt you before even though other guys will tell you not to take it personally or to just 'keep on approaching and you'll get over it'?
Well I'm going to help you deal with this 'rejection' and set it more straight right now (for free).
What's really going on are many different things and on different levels.
I want you to be able to differentiate a woman's response to you so that you can understand it so that it doesn't hurt you or even affect you but rather that you can learn what hasn't been working and take advantage of what does work.
When a woman sees you for the first time, she is extrapolating every little detail about you to determine
whether you might be a fit for her.
These usually accurate judgments she is making off of the smallest details about you will help protect her or open you up to having a chance with her.
In the future I will get deeply into getting yourself to the point where you are communicating that you are everything she could want even if you don't have the best looks or money, age, etc.
But for now, this data that she is judging off of you is either working for you or against you. You may have had
women blow you off or flat out reject you after you approached and started talking or they never even gave you a
chance before you approached.
Is this something you should take personally?
I don't want to give you a shallow answer, I want to give you the MEANING behind it; the schematics and reasoning so bear with me and it will be worth it.
Does a woman even know you when they she first sees you?
Then how can you possibly accept any kind of rejection?
Just because you approached her and she rejected you does not mean that you have a low character or are undesirable.
Does it?
Here's the bad news; some of the readers out there may actually have a low character and the women ARE judging accurately (albeit without knowing more b/c they feel they don't need or want to find out more).
This can all be changed so that any man can not only more accurately portray more of what she is attracted to but actually BE that man in congruity.
The primary key is for him to get in touch with his own natural/ universal character and stop relying so much on
his limited independent or social character.
The rest of the guys probably do have a higher independent or social character but just aren't being themselves when they approach a woman. They're using a pick-up persona or player front or they're just being a nice guy (overly nice and not their true self).
Otherwise they're just not in touch with their natural/universal character in order to spark attraction anyways.
Too many guys these days (and it's being taught) are focusing on the social and even independent (I'm a nice guy) parts of their character when it comes to attracting women. They do what society says and when women don't respond, they get flustered.
This sets a man up for rejection because these two areas are the least important and are what women respond to the least when it comes to attraction and her wanting you; it's just really hard to see through it when women have become the rulers of the social 'matrix'. Natural order is flipped around so you just have to see through all of the social influence and deal with her biology.
So if you are focusing on your social 'pick up game' you're going to have to get real good at it and then because of your high character, the charts work in reverse so that eventually she may feel a spark of attraction. In other
words:
You have to talk her into it and let her realize that you are a man of high character.
This takes longer because you started on the wrong end of the character continuum in your communication and portrayal of yourself to her.
Like I said it also sets you up for failure because you have to get all of the words just right and her temperance is wavering.
Hopefully this will help you understand why men are rejected more and perhaps yourself in the past sometimes.
Understanding it is key to putting it in it's place and then changing to do the more effective things.
When you are a man of high natural/universal character and communicate this with your body language (often enough alone), the universal/natural part of the woman knows to respond to you and you don't have to use words.
She is prewired to know how to respond and be attracted to a man that has a strong connection to his universal/natural (which used to be almost all men but people were more localized then).
Today, very few men are in full touch with this and those that are, are the guys that are scoring the most with women. It's that simple.
When you can get in touch with the natural/universal power that is greater than you and (is your inheritance)
you can have that power to create attraction (naturally) and make it a part of your own character...add it to your game and it will make ALL the difference.
You won't even have to deal with rejection anymore because you'll be able to read and communicate with women on the nonverbal level (the unspoken), that which was formerly invisible.
So back to the rejection issue... when a woman sees you and you aren't effectively communicating that you are a man of high character (either incongruently or because you just aren't there yet), she most likely won't give you a chance.
The key is to understand where you are on the character continuum.
If you ARE a great (nice) guy, then remember that she is just judging her initial impression of you. You may have a high independent character and be a great guy so just separate that from the fact that you were currently LOW on the natural/ universal part of your character and that is the part she was disapproving of, not YOU.
So don't take it personally. When you do develop a high character across the charts not only will you never have to deal with rejection again but when you play it by certain rules (your rules) SHE will be the one who is rejected or disqualifying herself to you and you will have the power by far.
You will always have the last word.
All you really have to have even if you have a low independent and social character/status is a strong
connection to your natural ability (esp. if you aren't good looking, poor or are much older).
So if you've been focusing on the social character and using techniques and pick-up lines to develop your character to be able to pick a woman up...just consider working on your natural/ universal character instead; it's what matters so much that a woman will HELP you pick her up by giving the right signals when you do have a high character. You won't even need pick up lines then.
In fact it's not until recently that we actually had pick up lines or a need to study this. You just have to
differentiate the forced reality from the natural, timeless reality of attraction and female response and separate out all of what doesn't matter (such as her fickle independent/social character when it comes to attraction and don't deal with it).
Prevent rejection and isolate the possibility of it by understanding the model magnet system and charts. She isn't rejecting you, she's just placing a perception onto you and judging you initially to see if you meet her expectational response/ideal.
I like to say;
She can't sleep with a man of low (m.m.) character just as much as you can't sleep with an ugly, fat chick.
And if you've taken one for the home team, that's about as often as she slept with a man of low character (despite his looks).
So make sure that you not only communicate the right things but BE the man of the highest character that you can.
It's more important than your social character/status or your own inner game and personality, it's about your
connection to the universal power of masculinity and secure inner strength.
The feminine energy in her will rule over her fickle independent behavior and her body just may not be able to
resist. This can all happen within a few seconds of her seeing you.
At this point women will be approaching you like crazy and throwing out all kinds of signs because this kind of man who is in touch is so rare these days. The works already cut out for you.
What would it be worth for you to turn the tables, never get rejected and live that kind of lifestyle with women no
MATTER your looks, age, income or social status?
It's not a trick. It's real. And it's every man's inheritance but he has to embrace and accept it. I am the
messenger because this power is greater than the greatest of any man in history's own independent character.
You don't have to be a superstar pick up character, you just have to be a man of (natural) character and you'll be able to catch women's interest just by walking in the room.
And when you're already spurring attraction in her and she can trust you by your body language, there's less of a chance you'll get rejected anyways. And if you're living in a dominant reality where she is attracted to you and wants to be plus take the natural approach you can prevent rejection entirely.
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