Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Find a Date on Facebook? Good Luck with That











Within just a few clicks on Facebook, you can enter a new
world of checking out potential dating prospects.   





I’d seen these ads on Facebook so many times and finally
decided to see what it was all about.  Of
course my first question was that it wouldn’t show up on my Facebook page so
that everyone would know I was doing it. 
Check.   





Secondly, it was free so I decided to check it out.  If nothing else so that I could check it out
and let you know about it.





A couple of clicks later and I was in business, several
pictures of men in about my age range popped up on one side of my screen.  I’m not one to make a first move and I didn’t
want to go through  pictures; I just
wanted to see what kind of response I would get.   So, after
just a few minutes, I closed my laptop for the night and truthfully forgot
about it.





In the morning, I awoke to a slew of messages and pictures
of men who “like me”.  


Basically how it works is that someone can see your profile
picture, click on it and see a very abbreviated version of your Facebook
profile.   It’s basically your first
name, age, city and some of the interests that are filled out on your
profile.   It’s really basic stuff, maybe
the version that you pay for has more data, I’m not sure.  However, 
the free version doesn’t give away a lot, which is a good thing.





Anyone interested in your picture and profile can click that
they like you, send you a message, a virtual gift (which is like a cheesy
badge) or a wink.  





I was honestly surprised at the amount of mail I had the
next morning which was good.  However, a
lot of them weren’t feasible because they lived out of state or even out of the
country, or were just even close to being someone I’d be attracted to.    





I’d say the ratio of men I could realistically be interested
in was about 1 out 10.  Again, I’m not
extremely picky but for example, one of the men who contacted me looked like
Santa’s twin, sitting down backwards in a chair trying to pose in a sexy
way.  A couple of them were a LOT older
than me, one had his picture taken without a shirt (which wasn’t really a good
idea), one guy looked like a total hillbilly, his face turned to the side
smoking a cigarette, another was sporting a handgun.   I’m not saying I have to have perfect, but
these dudes were not even close. 





After a few days of doing this it was sad to see how many of
them would send me multiple messages several days in a row, trying to somehow
change my mind.  It was really pathetic,
truth be told. 





I kept thinking that ok, I’m doing this for research so I
could just give it a shot and see if there was anyone “normal”.    There were a couple of men that seemed nice
enough and lived in my city at least, so after they had clicked that they
“liked me” I did the same.  You then
become a “match”,  whatever that
means. 





So, I did start to talk to someone and he was attractive and
“normal”.    We eventually traded phone
numbers, became Facebook friends and even went on a date.  I’ll have to tell you more about that next
time…





Thanks for reading and I hope you’re having lots of romance
and passion in your life!





Smooches!





The Single Mom