Tips And Tricks From The "Dating Masters"

So, let me ask you a quick question.

Who do you think is the world's BEST dating teacher?

No, I'm not talking about myself, but thanks for thinking so...

I think the answer might surprise you.

The worlds best dating teacher is a WOMAN.

But not just any woman.

I'm talking about a woman who is "attractive and she knows it".

You know the one.

I'm sure you've met her many times in your life.

You've probably had several "crushes" on her over the last several years.

And what did these "Super Babes" do when they realized that you "liked" them?

Exactly.

They did things that made your crush even MORE INTENSE... while at the same time NOT RETURNING the same level of interest.

I'm going to suggest to you that we can BOTH learn a lot about dating by paying attention to what BEAUTIFUL WOMEN do when a man shows interest.

Stay with me. This is about to get FASCINATING.

A few years back, a couple of women got together and wrote a book called "The Rules".
You've probably heard of it.

It's the notorious book for women about how to get a man to commit to you and ultimately marry you.

It's quite a book. You should read it.

In this book, the authors suggest all kinds of "unorthodox" techniques, like not calling men and rarely returning their calls, never approaching men, and generally playing "hard to get".

Why did this book and other sequel books go on to sell MILLIONS of copies?

RIGHT! Because the techniques WORK to attract men and get them HOOKED.

More on this particular topic later.


AN INTERESTING PERSPECTIVE


I want to ask you to think about something for a minute.

Have you ever been dating a girl, and had her do something that made you feel nervous, jealous, insecure, or otherwise emotionally FREAKED?

Maybe you were out with her, and she started talking to another guy... and while she was talking to him you could tell that she was enjoying herself just a little bit too much.

Know what that feels like?

You WANT to believe that it's all in your imagination... and that she's just having a
friendly conversation with someone... but your GUT IS TWISTING while you watch it happening.

Or maybe you have plans with a woman, but at the last minute (or even after the last minute) she calls and says "I don't think I'm going to be able to make it tonight... I had something come up... OK, I'll call you later".

She doesn't say exactly WHAT came up, or WHY she can't make it, or WHY she chose to call you thirty seconds before she was supposed to actually arrive at your house.

And the worst part is that you say back to her, "Oh, don't worry about it, it's OK", and then KICK YOURSELF afterwards...

Ever been there?

Or here's one of my PERSONAL favorites...

You meet a girl, call her on the phone and talk to her, and everything seems to be going GREAT.

She tells you to call her later in the week and maybe she'll be available.

You think about her for the next three days... but when you try to call her, she never answers the phone... and never returns any of your calls.

Yeah, it sucks.

All of these types of situations SUCK.

But the reality is that they all happen to most guys A LOT.


THE FASCINATING PART

Now I want to explain why I gave these particular examples.

I want you to stop for a minute and think about something.

I want you to ask yourself the following question, then answer it HONESTLY:

DID THESE THINGS MAKE YOU THINK ABOUT AND WANT THE WOMAN WHO DID THEM MORE OR LESS?

Be honest now.

If you're like most guys, then these particular things and others like them, made you think about the girl MORE.

They made you wonder what she was doing and what her INTENTIONS were.

And most of all, they made you WANT HER even more.

Strange as it may seem, these things, which SHOULD make you RUN AWAY, actually make you WANT HER.

What's the deal?

Well, just like WOMEN aren't logical, MEN aren't logical either.

And if you're honest about it, you'll admit that you sometimes respond in STRANGE AND UNUSUAL WAYS to a woman's flighty and manipulative behaviors.

Some of these types of crazy things that women do drive men WILD with desire and even jealousy... and often lead to OBSESSION.

It's a crazy world, huh?


WHY I'M TELLING YOU ALL THIS


I say these things not because I want to piss you off.

No.

I say them because I want you to start thinking about these types of things in a DIFFERENT WAY.

I want you to realize that the simple fact that a particular woman that you're interested in doesn't NEED you... and does things that clearly demonstrate it... often make her even MORE ATTRACTIVE to you.

Well guess what?

THE SAME GOES when it comes to making WOMEN feel ATTRACTION for YOU.

In other words, instead of getting UPSET with women for doing these things, LEARN FROM THEM.

And then use what you learn to create that magical emotion called ATTRACTION inside of women you're interested in.


IS THIS MANIPULATION?


I can hear it now.

The first response I often hear when I start talking this way, and recommending that men use what they learn to actually CAUSE women to feel ATTRACTION, usually goes something like this:

"But David, if I consciously do things to make women feel attracted to me, aren't I manipulating them?"

Most of us guys want to be "good guys".

We don't like to lie, cheat, and steal.

And we don't like to do sneaky things that don't FEEL RIGHT.

I get it.

But here's the BIG DIFFERENCE.

When I recommend a technique, for instance:

"Don't act like a Wussy."

"Give her the gift of missing you."

"Tease and bust her balls."

"Date other women."

"You be the one to end calls, dates, and other interactions... and do it a little too soon... on an up note."

...I'm NOT recommending that you do secret, deceptive things to "trick her into liking you".

NOOOOOO.

Instead, I'm teaching you the principals of ATTRACTION.

I'm teaching you examples of things to do that communicate a FAR MORE IMPORTANT IDEA...

THAT YOU'RE NOT A NEEDY WUSS.

The more you actually DO these things, the more you begin to "get it", and become the type of guy that women are naturally drawn to.


BACK TO WHERE WE STARTED


At the beginning of this newsletter I told you that an ATTRACTIVE WOMAN is the best dating
teacher there is...because she does things that ALMOST NATURALLY AMPLIFY the ATTRACTION that men feel for her.

One of the KEYS to this natural ability is communicating that she doesn't NEED the particular
guy that she's with.

When she does these little things to communicate that she doesn't NEED a particular
guy, those things tend to AMPLIFY the ATTRACTION that the guy feels.

We've all had it happen to us many times, so I know that you know exactly what I'm talking about.

So from now on, instead of getting UPSET at women for calling at the last minute to cancel
plans, getting annoyed when they talk to other guys, etc., LEARN FROM IT.

Use it to understand how YOU should approach an ATTRACTIVE WOMAN... and how to behave so that YOU are the one who creates and amplifies the attraction in HER.

And if you haven't downloaded your copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need to do that now. It's now available for a FREE 7DAY TRIAL, so go get it. It's here: Double Your Dating e-Book

Do you let your stream run dry?

Have you noticed a dry river bank that has no water? The problem is the source did keep it flowing.

I have noticed if I'm seeing one woman I like, I'll tend to stop approaching women as much as I normally would.

What usually happens is you get a TONNE of phone numbers, and contact information from a weekend, or a few weeks worth. Then eventually you find a woman that you like. So you slow things down because you spend more time with her, this is before you're exclusively dating her. You think she's the "one", and so you don't approach as many women as you did before. Then before you know it, you've grown tired of her, or she of you, and before its a proper relationship, you break it off.This is damaging for a good reason. Now your stream of available women has dried up. You no longer have a running supply of women to call for a date. So you get alittle down on yourself, and have to get your confidence back up to the way it was before you started dating her.

There are a few problems with this...

• You'll lose your skill
• You'll become more attached to the one woman (Can be a good thing)
• When/if you break up or stop seeing the woman, you'll have far less options

I believe that's natural to become more attached to a woman the more you see her and the more you both "click". But I also believe that you don't know to a certain degree what the future holds. It's better to keep the source flowing... so if/when you stop seeing that special woman, you have options.

So never stop approaching, getting numbers, etc. This will help you to keep your hard earned skills perfected, and allow you to have many more options if/when you break it off with the special woman.

Some great sources for you to learn more about approaching are found in Thundercat's, "Art of Approaching", also for the dating game, try David Deangelo's "Double Your Dating"

Extremely Dangerous Knowledge by Neil Strauss

Sep 01 '05 Esquire Magazine

I have a subscription to Esquire magazine, and was reading casually when I noticed an article "Extremely Dangerous Knowledge" by Neil Strauss. I was excited! It was like a friends article in a strange magazine. Anyways, if you want to read the article, you'll have to backorder, but here's the part that's free on access at Esquire.com

"WHEN IT COMES TO MEETING and attracting women, many men are resigned and complacent. We figure some guys were born with that particular power and other guys weren't. I wasn't. So, to compensate, I did something so embarrassing, I didn't even admit it to my friends: I embarked on a two-year course of rigorous study and training on the subject of women for my new book, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists . Guided by men who claimed to be the world's greatest seducers (men known by names such as Mystery, Toecutter, Sin, and Juggler), I plunged into an international under-ground seduction community and approached more than a thousand women around the world. In the end, I was transformed from student of seduction to reluctant guru. I offer you now something I never thought I'd be able to provide: a step-by-step primer on attracting women, compiled from the collective knowledge of the world's greatest ladies' men.

STEP 1 APPROACH This is the scariest step. You're going to fail before you succeed. And the failure will come because you broke at least one of these rules. Seven Rules for Approaching Women..."

Most of the material written about can be found in the Mystery Method's new e-Book.

Can you tell if a woman is attracted to you?

That is the question I first wanted to know when I was being introduced to women during my teens. Many people gave me hints like, "If she curls her fingers through her hair" or "If she winks at you, thats a great sign that she could possibly like you."

We'll I have some news that I've recently discovered thanks to some help.... IF SHE'S TALKING TO YOU, SHE LIKES YOU.

Sounds bold doesn't it?

We'll its true. I have found when a woman wants to hang around you, or talks to you there's a better than 70% chance that she likes you enough to go out, kiss, etc.

When you get your inner game in the right place, you start to think most women like you. This in it's self creates an attractive effect, in that the reason she likes you, is because you think she likes you. Very strange to realize... but it works. "Believing is seeing!"

Try saying to yourself that "Women like me", "Women love to be around me" whenever you have a doubt entering your mind.

I can tell within minutes now if a woman likes me. I never noticed the subtlities of women's body language, until I read the Double Your Dating e-Book. Once I did that, it all came together for me, and I've met a girl that's amazing. (I believe the e-Book is only like $19, its brilliant, and packed with useful info for getting better with women and becoming a "natural")

Do you have these qualities which women find irresistable?

I sat in my living room contemplating all the programs, DVDs, books, e-Books, and forum threads I have seen, what a woman really looks for in a man. What a baffling concept, although...

I have come up with this list of the most important you can have...

• Confidence (Lack of insecurity)
• Positive attitude (Never negative)
• Charismatic (Getting along with people, you're usually the center of attention, but not because you need it)
• Arrogant Humor (Being alittle full of yourself, but not over the top)
• Indifference to her (Not clinging to her every word)
• Strong Opinions (Not enough that you make her feel stupid for her's)
• Pop Culture Aware (Knowing what is going on in the world, and making fun)
• Fun (Doing things that usual men do not. Eg. snowboard, bike)
• Busy (Always having something better going on in your life)
• Moral codes (Having ethics about various good practices, eg. do unto others)
• Non-confrontational and non-violent (But can defend yourself when needed)

These are just a few of the attributes I feel women are attracted to. You need to develop them one at a time. It's a long process, but the sooner you get started the sooner you'll acquire them. You'll need to work on your inner self, before you can ever hope for any sort of attraction with a quality woman. No pickup lines will do.

An e-Book that helped me out with my inner game and acquiring these attributes, was Double Your Dating. It's now heavily discounted to $19.97. Click here to download.

Which is ridicilous, its a dinner and movie.... and it can seriously change your life, and your interactions with women, almost immediately. I recommend downloading it, even if not to keep, there is a 30-day money-back guarantee, so there's 0% risk.

Anyways, there are a tonne of other great books out there. Charisma, is a good one, also Mastery by George Leonard.

Do you have a high turn over rate with women?

I was thinking the other day, about variation yet again. It seems to me that every time I get alot of options, they seem to disappear just as quickly as they came.

You need to be out constantly getting fresh numbers from women to take out. People ask on occasion, are you dating anyone? I usually answer with "No, not really". Even though I am casual with a few. When people hear that, they might think, "What a loser, he doesn't have a girlfriend." When in actual fact, my turnover rate is much higher than theirs. It seems to be about 5 or more additional quality beautiful women a week. The problem you can sometimes have with being successful with women, is that you get picker. Its my downfall now.

Eg. I get a number, call them, they call back, we go out, and it doesn't click. NEXT... (For an example of a truly golden way to ask a woman out, check out this previous post.)

If you're coming from a place of scarcity then you might try alot harder to get along, or forgive some of her imperfections. I wish I could go back to that time in my life (not)... (of course, imperfections being personality based not physical.... ;) )

This is the flow of my dating life. I have a few permanent women that I like to have around, but most of the time, I believe you will know when you meet a woman that connects well with you. Why bother hanging on to a beautiful girl just for beauty's sake?

I was never that successful with girls growing up. I became a success through studying David DeAngelo's material in Double Your Dating. His e-Book is amazing, and I HIGHLY recommend it to anyone who wants to get this part of their life handled. It's all about confidence, and game. He goes into detail about both subjects, and gives you some great examples of how to do it.

I heard he has recently reduced the price of the 2nd version of the book, and it's now ONLY $19.97, I paid tonnes more a year ago for less material. Grab yourself a copy and email me with your experiences and comments.

I'd love to hear from you!

Click here for the 30 day free trial e-Book, or sign up here for his free dating tips newsletter which should have its own subscription fee itself (so jam packed with great info each week).

Hollywood Podcast with Neil Strauss 8/12/05

I found Tim Coyne's (Hollywood Podcast) interview with Neil Strauss author of "The Game: Penerating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists". A good insight into the book, and the community. He talks about his beginnings before the community, into the community and some of the techniques he got from various seduction sources.

Click on the POD image below to download.