If there was one magic pill that you could pop to make yourself more attractive to women, would you take it?
Chances are, most men would give answer with a resounding yes. After all, who has the time to keep up with the countless dating advice and tips handed out by dating gurus who promise that by doing what they tell you to do, women would come in droves begging you to let them bear your children?
But since reality bites, no such pill exists. And the male species, since the beginning of civilization, has been working on making himself the object of interest and attention of his female counterparts. Even now, in this age of dating websites and speed dating the objective has not changed.
So why is it that some guys seem to get it right all the time while the rest seem to remain luckless no matter what they do? Some would say that looks and appearances had everything to do about it. But that’s not entirely true.
While it may be so that how a guy looks like matters in order to catch a woman’s attention, that alone will not make him totally attractive. What makes the guy go from “Hi there. You alone?” to “Good morning, doll.” is his attitude.
Attitude by definition is your outlook and mindset towards any given situation. In the dating scenario, it would mean how you behave and think when it comes to approaching a woman, chatting up a conversation with her and treating her just a tad more special than the rest of the women in the room.
So what kind of attitude should you have?
A lot of guys think that they need to impress women to makes themselves attractive. While making an impression is important, you need to make sure that that impression is really you. Otherwise, your attitude towards dating shows that you would rather make false impressions and basically lie, just so that you can get what you want. Not exactly an attractive trait, isn’t it?
Instead, develop the “just as I am” attitude. No pretenses, no airs – just what you really are. Very little anything else makes one more attractive to women than to see a guy that’s totally honest about who and what he is.
But hold on, that is not to say that you should totally let yourself go. The “just as I am” attitude does not mean not bothering to dress up in nice clothes just because you are more of a shorts-and-flip-flops kind of guy.
Not in the least. In fact, the “as is” attitude should stay in the backstage. The main idea is that you don’t need to pretend to be the sensitive writer type when you’re more of a Monday night football kind of guy. But at the same time, you need to make an effort to put your best foot forward.
Do this by taking the time to look your best. You don’t need to look like Hugh Jackman’s long lost twin, but don’t look (and smell) like a bum either. Take the time to choose clothes that fit well on you. Pay attention to body hygiene, especially if you tend to sweat and don’t forget to check your breath as well. But more importantly, work on making this a habit rather than a once-in-a-while thing. That alone increases your attractive points by a whole lot.
Now that you’ve cleaned and dressed up, it’s time to work that attitude. For example, as you approach someone, tell yourself that all you need to do to get her interested is for you to be friendly and to treat her well. You don’t need to impress her with things that aren’t true about you. Remember, you are to come as you are and not someone else.
If she responds, then good for you. If she doesn’t seem to be interested regardless of how nice you are, that’s still ok. If this happens, tell yourself that you and her don’t fit and then walk away. At the very least, the woman you just approached will notice that you knew when to stop. Surprisingly, on a second encounter, she just might give you a better chance, just because you showed restraint the first time you met.
Now this isn’t a foolproof plan that can help you score with the ladies. But it is a lot better than pretending to be something that isn’t you. Developing a healthy confident attitude about yourself will not only make you more attractive to the right women around you, but will also help you personally as you begin to see yourself in a better light.
Saturday, June 20, 2009
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Quiz - Do You Know what Women Want?
Honestly speaking, no body can give an answer to this quiz. Every woman has different personality, goals, desires and mood. Some generalizations can be made that can help men know what women want.
Quiz your romantic style - I think that the priority for any relationship with a woman in the beginning is romance. Without becoming romantic, you cannot win a pretty and intelligent woman. You need not be a great poet of love poems, but surely you can write small love notes and send them with flowers once in a while. Show her that you love her. Say I love you in different ways. Send chocolates, small pieces of gift and things that look cute. Let her feel in love with those cute gifts you give. She will love you more.
Quiz your attitude - what is your attitude towards your woman/ Are you treating her as a person without brains? Then better revise your fundamentals. Do you treat her as an equal? Then it is all right. Are you together when you meet your friends? If not, please go together to meet your friends. Treat her as a friend and as a romantic partner and a lady. That is the combination that will win her over.
Quiz your relationship- how is your relationship? Are you nurturing it with proper communication, care and love? Do you show your care for your woman? Does she have to ask you or you act on your own guessing her requirements? Have you told her how precious she is for you? Do you understand what she is talking? Please remember that women talk little differently than men. Do you understand that difference? Generally when a woman speaks, she is doing self-talk loudly. Please understand that.
Quiz your romantic style - I think that the priority for any relationship with a woman in the beginning is romance. Without becoming romantic, you cannot win a pretty and intelligent woman. You need not be a great poet of love poems, but surely you can write small love notes and send them with flowers once in a while. Show her that you love her. Say I love you in different ways. Send chocolates, small pieces of gift and things that look cute. Let her feel in love with those cute gifts you give. She will love you more.
Quiz your attitude - what is your attitude towards your woman/ Are you treating her as a person without brains? Then better revise your fundamentals. Do you treat her as an equal? Then it is all right. Are you together when you meet your friends? If not, please go together to meet your friends. Treat her as a friend and as a romantic partner and a lady. That is the combination that will win her over.
Quiz your relationship- how is your relationship? Are you nurturing it with proper communication, care and love? Do you show your care for your woman? Does she have to ask you or you act on your own guessing her requirements? Have you told her how precious she is for you? Do you understand what she is talking? Please remember that women talk little differently than men. Do you understand that difference? Generally when a woman speaks, she is doing self-talk loudly. Please understand that.
Saturday, May 30, 2009
Men- Do You Attract Women?
For many men, attracting women looks very difficult. For few men, it is very simple. The women get attracted to them automatically. There is some magnetism in them or so it seems. It is their personality, their confidence and their talking style that attracts women of a certain type to such men. Now we are talking sense, because to ask the question to a man - Do you attract women? Sounds foolish to some extent. Every man is different and so is every woman. The attraction can never be universal. Let us discuss this further.
You may be an introvert person - More of a thinker and an intellectual. You will find it difficult to attract outgoing and extrovert women. It is said that opposites attract, but that attraction will not last long. When your beloved wants to go for hiking, you would like to go for a poetry recital session. So this attraction may occur at times, but will not last. Similarly, if you are a extrovert man, masculine and in love with adventures and risks, you can not attract women of opposite nature. You will attract women who find lot common between them and you.
It is not difficult to attract women, because they are looking for good partners. The problem arises when we try to attract women who have nothing in common with us. These women ill not are able to understand us and communicate with us. How can you talk of tennis with a woman who loves only reading Shakespeare? The solution lies in first looking for women with common nature and common goals. Once you find some of them, talk to them normally and tell them about your liking for them. Success generally comes with simple approach.
You may be an introvert person - More of a thinker and an intellectual. You will find it difficult to attract outgoing and extrovert women. It is said that opposites attract, but that attraction will not last long. When your beloved wants to go for hiking, you would like to go for a poetry recital session. So this attraction may occur at times, but will not last. Similarly, if you are a extrovert man, masculine and in love with adventures and risks, you can not attract women of opposite nature. You will attract women who find lot common between them and you.
It is not difficult to attract women, because they are looking for good partners. The problem arises when we try to attract women who have nothing in common with us. These women ill not are able to understand us and communicate with us. How can you talk of tennis with a woman who loves only reading Shakespeare? The solution lies in first looking for women with common nature and common goals. Once you find some of them, talk to them normally and tell them about your liking for them. Success generally comes with simple approach.
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Seduce Women In A Snap
Getting a girl can be very challenging in todays highly competitive dating world, even if you are a great guy. My article will show you tips and advices that will definitly help you get your dreamed date.
A lot of men have trouble flirting with women. They do not understand the subtle ways in which they can build attraction and convey their interest in a woman. However to be successful at seducing women mastering flirting skills is absolutely essential.
I remember when I first learned some of the key seduction tips. It was fascinating to see that, by flicking her right switches, she seemed to be attracted to me. This was despite the fact that I hadn't shaved in days and not even brushed my teeth that morning!
The first thing you can do is improve your social skills. If you are shy and too scared to talk too women you greatly reduce your chances of getting girls. That's why you should try to become a good talker. Just try to be interesting and friendly.
Get Physical And Use Kino
Many guys forget this important step. You see, women are very "touchy feely". They regard this as normal and even women that have no attraction for you will make touching contact with you such as touching your arm or your leg.
When you are with a chick, you should be playful with her and make some cool touches like this. It shows that you are not a chump who would be afraid to touch a girl at all. You'll be perceived as being confident with women and chicks will find this very attractive.
To get girls it is also very important to be confident and feel good about yourself. Show that you are a real man and that you are not afraid of rejection. This really impresses women who will see you as a high value man.
Another great flirting tip is slightly teasing a woman. Donดt go overboard with this, just do it in a funny, playful way. Woman absolutely love this. It shows you are confident and have the ability to make her feel good.
A lot of men have trouble flirting with women. They do not understand the subtle ways in which they can build attraction and convey their interest in a woman. However to be successful at seducing women mastering flirting skills is absolutely essential.
I remember when I first learned some of the key seduction tips. It was fascinating to see that, by flicking her right switches, she seemed to be attracted to me. This was despite the fact that I hadn't shaved in days and not even brushed my teeth that morning!
The first thing you can do is improve your social skills. If you are shy and too scared to talk too women you greatly reduce your chances of getting girls. That's why you should try to become a good talker. Just try to be interesting and friendly.
Get Physical And Use Kino
Many guys forget this important step. You see, women are very "touchy feely". They regard this as normal and even women that have no attraction for you will make touching contact with you such as touching your arm or your leg.
When you are with a chick, you should be playful with her and make some cool touches like this. It shows that you are not a chump who would be afraid to touch a girl at all. You'll be perceived as being confident with women and chicks will find this very attractive.
To get girls it is also very important to be confident and feel good about yourself. Show that you are a real man and that you are not afraid of rejection. This really impresses women who will see you as a high value man.
Another great flirting tip is slightly teasing a woman. Donดt go overboard with this, just do it in a funny, playful way. Woman absolutely love this. It shows you are confident and have the ability to make her feel good.
Sunday, May 10, 2009
How To Approach College Women
College life is very different when you were in high school however to some students, especially those who do not have a family member who has been to college, think that college is much like high school. But there are some very big differences. There are students who did not do well in high school, “blossom” in college. Others never get used to college life and do not do as well as they did in high school. In college, you can grow and develop as a person. In college where you will probably be over 18 years old, you will also be treated like an adult. And because you’re already an adult, you will be responsible for the way you live and you will have to make sure that you do what you are supposed to do. Even if in college you will be free to explore and discover numerous paths and interests that were simply not open to you in high school, you should know your limitations.
Practically, everything you want to do and everywhere you go, you will encounter similar college aged. And it was socially acceptable to flirt with them, ask them out, get drunk and make out with them, etc. Let’s start at the very beginning. The first thing you have to do before you start a conversation with a college girl or college women is to approach her. That is the first thing you have to take – how to approach college women.
But do you know how to approach college women? Actually, there are several ways on how to approach college women. First and foremost, you should take note of your dressing. Make sure that you are always neatly dressed so that when you see her, you know that you ready to approach her. Apart from that appearance thing, what is the other way on how to approach college women? In order to approach and attract women, you should know what attitude you should project when you approach college women. Start first with eye contact. It is one way on how to approach college women. One could start a contact without saying a word. Then when she looks at you, give her a nice and casual smile. Well, a simple “hi” together with a casual smile would be enough. Research shows that 71% of women, particularly college women responded and acknowledged to men, who opened up with that line.
So, what’s next? What are the other ways how to approach college women? If she smiles back, then pursue another method on how to approach college women, talk to her and treat her nice. And now that you know how to approach college women, what would you say to her? What kind of opening line after the word “hi” can you use without looking silly or without being stupid? To have a successful conversation wit any college woman, you must know what to say and what not to say. Men and women think and tank differently, so if you want to talk successfully to a woman, listen first to her and relate to her conversation. If she’s done, it’s about time to share your personal experiences and wait until she feels comfortable with you. You want more techniques how to approach college women?
How about tips on how to approach college women at bars and disco clubs? Usually, you will find college women in bars and disco clubs because they find these places as a good way to relax and hang out with friends. So how to approach college women in places like these? When a girl goes up and starts dancing on the dance floor, slowly move in and start dancing with her. But do it nicely because some girls may think that you are bigheaded and arrogant. After that, ask for her name and when you start with a conversation, make sure that you use her name in the next sentence or two to show her that you are paying attention and you are interested in her. These techniques on how to approach college women is very effective. You would surely get the girl you ever dreamed of.
Practically, everything you want to do and everywhere you go, you will encounter similar college aged. And it was socially acceptable to flirt with them, ask them out, get drunk and make out with them, etc. Let’s start at the very beginning. The first thing you have to do before you start a conversation with a college girl or college women is to approach her. That is the first thing you have to take – how to approach college women.
But do you know how to approach college women? Actually, there are several ways on how to approach college women. First and foremost, you should take note of your dressing. Make sure that you are always neatly dressed so that when you see her, you know that you ready to approach her. Apart from that appearance thing, what is the other way on how to approach college women? In order to approach and attract women, you should know what attitude you should project when you approach college women. Start first with eye contact. It is one way on how to approach college women. One could start a contact without saying a word. Then when she looks at you, give her a nice and casual smile. Well, a simple “hi” together with a casual smile would be enough. Research shows that 71% of women, particularly college women responded and acknowledged to men, who opened up with that line.
So, what’s next? What are the other ways how to approach college women? If she smiles back, then pursue another method on how to approach college women, talk to her and treat her nice. And now that you know how to approach college women, what would you say to her? What kind of opening line after the word “hi” can you use without looking silly or without being stupid? To have a successful conversation wit any college woman, you must know what to say and what not to say. Men and women think and tank differently, so if you want to talk successfully to a woman, listen first to her and relate to her conversation. If she’s done, it’s about time to share your personal experiences and wait until she feels comfortable with you. You want more techniques how to approach college women?
How about tips on how to approach college women at bars and disco clubs? Usually, you will find college women in bars and disco clubs because they find these places as a good way to relax and hang out with friends. So how to approach college women in places like these? When a girl goes up and starts dancing on the dance floor, slowly move in and start dancing with her. But do it nicely because some girls may think that you are bigheaded and arrogant. After that, ask for her name and when you start with a conversation, make sure that you use her name in the next sentence or two to show her that you are paying attention and you are interested in her. These techniques on how to approach college women is very effective. You would surely get the girl you ever dreamed of.
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Dating Tips: Using Storytelling to Attract Women
Today I want to talk to you about a subject that I feel is very important and powerful when it comes to meeting and holding the interest of not only women but anyone in your life.
This subject is none other than Storytelling and when used correctly, can make your desirability with women sky rocket.
Before I jump into the tips and secrets behind successful story telling and how to construct a powerful story (which will be covered more in depth in Part II) I want to clear up a few myths when it comes to the matter of story telling.
Myth one: My stories have to be true and about me.
Now this is ultimately up for you to decide but as long as you keep the conversation fun, apply the right story telling techniques, and can keep the conversation moving, then your story does not have to be true.
Even if the women does not believe the story, if you kept it fun, she will be entertained and most likely run with new conversation topics developed from your stories.
I am not encouraging you to lie though, the most powerful stories are ones that are true and come from a place of emotion.
You can be so over the top with stories where the unbelievably becomes so fun that she gets involved and becomes part of a newly painted reality that you and the girl get to share and more importantly create together. (This becomes a key factor in "Role Playing" and by mastering storytelling, your creativity in "Role Play Conversations" raises but sadly, the subject of role playing will have to be saved for a later issue.)
However I think the biggest misconception is not whether the stories have to be true, but is more about whether or not they have to be about the story teller.
One of the main goals of story telling is to communicate to the listener about you. Surprisingly, it is easier to convey things about yourself by HOW you tell a story, not the actual content of it.
Through the power of expressions, energy, and vivid language, you can convey to your listeners such things as, dominance, humor, interests, and over all personality.
When applying the proper techniques of a story, you should be able to repeat what you heard on the news but in such a fashion that directly makes you more interesting and displays your personality.
Myth Two: As you get better with women you become less dependent on story telling.
Now there is some truth to this myth in the sense that you do not go into interactions with prescripted stories as much as you may starting out. However, it is through the skills that storytelling develops that make you less dependent.
Instead of going into in interaction with a story you have made up or written down and rehearsed, you are able to share any subject in an interesting fashion that makes people listen.
This skill is enhanced by applying the arts of storytelling and is one of the key reasons learning and mastering storytelling is a great way to improve not only your skills with women, but your overall social skills.
What is storytelling and why is it important?
Storytelling is the direct means of communication when highlighting important parts of your life to the listener. Not only through context, but through delivery.
Storytelling plays a very important part in getting to know someone and the great thing about telling a story, is that it creates so many other subject matters to talk about and that a story is almost always followed by another story.
If you are familiar with "The Canterbury Tales" by Geoffrey Chaucer, you will see how each story is molded by the one told before it and by who told the story. (Don't worry; your stories don't have to have a rhyme scheme during the interaction like many of Chaucer's do)
There are many reasons storytelling is important and if you are not currently utilizing storytelling then consider these following facts:
*Storytelling is a great way to save dying conversations
This is one of the most common problems that I see with many guys. An interaction will be going great, then conversation starts to die and there is that awkward silence. This is a great time to bust out a story from your arsenal and revive the interaction.
Knowing you are armed with a story creates more approach confidence when entering an interaction.
People are afraid to enter interactions because of the fear of running out of things to say. By developing a great story or two and keeping them in your back pocket for when you need them creates a great since of confidence during the initial approach and can really help limit the anxiety that one gets when approaching a beautiful women. You are guaranteed that the interaction will last at least the length of your story.
*Storytelling is a great way to display dominance
When you are telling a story the right way, all eyes are on you, you are the center of attention, and everyone lingers off your next word. Holding the attention of the group through storytelling puts you in a dominant frame of you being the leader of the interaction and everyone else being the listener, waiting to see where you take the group next.
What you convey through your stories is how you will be remembered.
Unlike most things you say during an interaction, a good story is unforgettable. How many times have you had someone tell you about some crazy story that one of their friends told them? Stories have been passed down for ages; it is an old custom and still exists till this day. The girl should be able to look back on the interaction and be like "Oh yeah, that was the guy who (did whatever interesting activity that relates to you)."
*Storytelling develops stronger social skills
This is one of the biggest reasons that I like to make sure everyone masters storytelling. Through storytelling you learn to capture the entire attention of the group. Also you directly convey your personality and it gets you accustomed to doing so. The skills that are developed from strong storytelling directly carry over into your social personality that make all conversation with you more exciting and vivid. The expressiveness you show in stories ties into your future interactions and directly improves your social personality.
*You can convey things through storytelling that you normally could not say.
There may be some interesting details of your life that said outside the context of a story may come off as bragging. But in a story, these little details are never the subject of the story thus they remain subtle but are powerful when displaying aspects of your identity.
Now that you have an idea of why storytelling is so effective and what you should be aiming for when telling a story we are going to work on creating your very own powerful stories that cannot be ignored. All this will be covered in Part II of this newsletter, but there is an exercise I want you to do right now so you can directly apply all the tips and tactics to create an amazing story.
Exercise 1: Write down anywhere from seven to ten moments in your life that you feel changed or defined who you are.
If you have a funny story then that is just a humorous time then you can feel free to include that. But even if the story does not seem major, just entertaining, the fact that you can remember it means it has a bigger effect than you realize.
This can be happy, fun, or even sad (not depressing) but we do learn through negative experiences. We will eventually cut these down to just a couple stories in Part II but for now I just want you to get into the habit of taking note of interesting experiences in your life.
Ideas: Vacations, Life/Death Experiences, an unforgettable concert or sporting event, a moment you succeeded, something funny that happened to you or a friend.
Now I know that there are going to be people that say they have no interesting stories. This is just not the truth; everyone has something interesting that has shaped who they are. Do not be modest; even if it's a silly story write it down. You can't be afraid to share a story, sometimes they are hard to think of and if you really can't think of a past story, starting paying more attention to your every day life. And if you still can’t think of one then go take a vacation, you will return with hundreds of them.
So many things happen in one day that people don't even think would be a story. But every past event being told is a story. There is no excuse not to have one.
Exercise Two: Write down at least 5 things that you would like people to know about you.
This is going to tie into personality conveying. Think of the things that you would like any friend or new acquaintance to know about you. These are the things that directly relate to your identity and make you who you are. Do not be surprised if these things are directly related in some way to the stories you wrote down in exercise one.
Ideas: Hobbies, Sports you play, instruments you play, your job, your goals, your skills and achievements.
Now save this list, we are going to use it a lot in Part II of this newsletter to create some super powerful stories that you can always rely on. Also I will further go into the skills of storytelling and how to use them to make every story and conversation more interesting.
I am going to do this very exercise along with you guys so you will get to see my story end product as well.
Till then keep an eye out for the next letter and great ready to really take storytelling to the next level.
This subject is none other than Storytelling and when used correctly, can make your desirability with women sky rocket.
Before I jump into the tips and secrets behind successful story telling and how to construct a powerful story (which will be covered more in depth in Part II) I want to clear up a few myths when it comes to the matter of story telling.
Myth one: My stories have to be true and about me.
Now this is ultimately up for you to decide but as long as you keep the conversation fun, apply the right story telling techniques, and can keep the conversation moving, then your story does not have to be true.
Even if the women does not believe the story, if you kept it fun, she will be entertained and most likely run with new conversation topics developed from your stories.
I am not encouraging you to lie though, the most powerful stories are ones that are true and come from a place of emotion.
You can be so over the top with stories where the unbelievably becomes so fun that she gets involved and becomes part of a newly painted reality that you and the girl get to share and more importantly create together. (This becomes a key factor in "Role Playing" and by mastering storytelling, your creativity in "Role Play Conversations" raises but sadly, the subject of role playing will have to be saved for a later issue.)
However I think the biggest misconception is not whether the stories have to be true, but is more about whether or not they have to be about the story teller.
One of the main goals of story telling is to communicate to the listener about you. Surprisingly, it is easier to convey things about yourself by HOW you tell a story, not the actual content of it.
Through the power of expressions, energy, and vivid language, you can convey to your listeners such things as, dominance, humor, interests, and over all personality.
When applying the proper techniques of a story, you should be able to repeat what you heard on the news but in such a fashion that directly makes you more interesting and displays your personality.
Myth Two: As you get better with women you become less dependent on story telling.
Now there is some truth to this myth in the sense that you do not go into interactions with prescripted stories as much as you may starting out. However, it is through the skills that storytelling develops that make you less dependent.
Instead of going into in interaction with a story you have made up or written down and rehearsed, you are able to share any subject in an interesting fashion that makes people listen.
This skill is enhanced by applying the arts of storytelling and is one of the key reasons learning and mastering storytelling is a great way to improve not only your skills with women, but your overall social skills.
What is storytelling and why is it important?
Storytelling is the direct means of communication when highlighting important parts of your life to the listener. Not only through context, but through delivery.
Storytelling plays a very important part in getting to know someone and the great thing about telling a story, is that it creates so many other subject matters to talk about and that a story is almost always followed by another story.
If you are familiar with "The Canterbury Tales" by Geoffrey Chaucer, you will see how each story is molded by the one told before it and by who told the story. (Don't worry; your stories don't have to have a rhyme scheme during the interaction like many of Chaucer's do)
There are many reasons storytelling is important and if you are not currently utilizing storytelling then consider these following facts:
*Storytelling is a great way to save dying conversations
This is one of the most common problems that I see with many guys. An interaction will be going great, then conversation starts to die and there is that awkward silence. This is a great time to bust out a story from your arsenal and revive the interaction.
Knowing you are armed with a story creates more approach confidence when entering an interaction.
People are afraid to enter interactions because of the fear of running out of things to say. By developing a great story or two and keeping them in your back pocket for when you need them creates a great since of confidence during the initial approach and can really help limit the anxiety that one gets when approaching a beautiful women. You are guaranteed that the interaction will last at least the length of your story.
*Storytelling is a great way to display dominance
When you are telling a story the right way, all eyes are on you, you are the center of attention, and everyone lingers off your next word. Holding the attention of the group through storytelling puts you in a dominant frame of you being the leader of the interaction and everyone else being the listener, waiting to see where you take the group next.
What you convey through your stories is how you will be remembered.
Unlike most things you say during an interaction, a good story is unforgettable. How many times have you had someone tell you about some crazy story that one of their friends told them? Stories have been passed down for ages; it is an old custom and still exists till this day. The girl should be able to look back on the interaction and be like "Oh yeah, that was the guy who (did whatever interesting activity that relates to you)."
*Storytelling develops stronger social skills
This is one of the biggest reasons that I like to make sure everyone masters storytelling. Through storytelling you learn to capture the entire attention of the group. Also you directly convey your personality and it gets you accustomed to doing so. The skills that are developed from strong storytelling directly carry over into your social personality that make all conversation with you more exciting and vivid. The expressiveness you show in stories ties into your future interactions and directly improves your social personality.
*You can convey things through storytelling that you normally could not say.
There may be some interesting details of your life that said outside the context of a story may come off as bragging. But in a story, these little details are never the subject of the story thus they remain subtle but are powerful when displaying aspects of your identity.
Now that you have an idea of why storytelling is so effective and what you should be aiming for when telling a story we are going to work on creating your very own powerful stories that cannot be ignored. All this will be covered in Part II of this newsletter, but there is an exercise I want you to do right now so you can directly apply all the tips and tactics to create an amazing story.
Exercise 1: Write down anywhere from seven to ten moments in your life that you feel changed or defined who you are.
If you have a funny story then that is just a humorous time then you can feel free to include that. But even if the story does not seem major, just entertaining, the fact that you can remember it means it has a bigger effect than you realize.
This can be happy, fun, or even sad (not depressing) but we do learn through negative experiences. We will eventually cut these down to just a couple stories in Part II but for now I just want you to get into the habit of taking note of interesting experiences in your life.
Ideas: Vacations, Life/Death Experiences, an unforgettable concert or sporting event, a moment you succeeded, something funny that happened to you or a friend.
Now I know that there are going to be people that say they have no interesting stories. This is just not the truth; everyone has something interesting that has shaped who they are. Do not be modest; even if it's a silly story write it down. You can't be afraid to share a story, sometimes they are hard to think of and if you really can't think of a past story, starting paying more attention to your every day life. And if you still can’t think of one then go take a vacation, you will return with hundreds of them.
So many things happen in one day that people don't even think would be a story. But every past event being told is a story. There is no excuse not to have one.
Exercise Two: Write down at least 5 things that you would like people to know about you.
This is going to tie into personality conveying. Think of the things that you would like any friend or new acquaintance to know about you. These are the things that directly relate to your identity and make you who you are. Do not be surprised if these things are directly related in some way to the stories you wrote down in exercise one.
Ideas: Hobbies, Sports you play, instruments you play, your job, your goals, your skills and achievements.
Now save this list, we are going to use it a lot in Part II of this newsletter to create some super powerful stories that you can always rely on. Also I will further go into the skills of storytelling and how to use them to make every story and conversation more interesting.
I am going to do this very exercise along with you guys so you will get to see my story end product as well.
Till then keep an eye out for the next letter and great ready to really take storytelling to the next level.
Saturday, April 25, 2009
13 Types of Girls you should Avoid
In general, men are looking first for physical attraction at a woman. Many of them consider that if she is beautiful and well dressed, its the perfect partner they are looking for. But they don't know that behind this appearance its hiding something worst.
Maybe this happened to you too. After you began a relationship with her you found out that she is not exactly what you want and what you expect. She hurt you and dumped you when you last expected. Many men are chasing after a woman who lied them and used them. But, in order to stop this, you should know from the beginning which types of girls you should avoid for to not be hurt again.
Desperate girl
-it is the type of the girl who spend all her life laid out, looking for a perfect life, and suddenly she discover that she gets old and she doesn't get married yet because she hasn't met the perfect man for her
-she wants desperately to get married no matter who the guy is or what he does
-she is pressed by the time and is ready to marry with a jerk as long as he has marriage material
-watch out because if you marry one of this, you have to spend the rest of your life with her
Materialistic girl
-usually is good looking and well dressed
-is looking very well outside but inside it is a bunch of money hungry taker
-she is looking all the time after boys which are staying very well with their wallet
-she expects that a man should finance her entire life just because she is biologically female
-she is very friendly, nice at the beginning but after some time you'll see that no matter how much you give her, she wants more
-she is greed personified
-she is interested only in what she wants and not others feelings
-stay away from this kind of girl because she will dumped you after she spend all your money
Angry girl
-she is the type of the girl which sees life like a battle
-anything what is happening or is told to her is seen as a insult at her address
-has also a bad opinion about man, sees only the wrong sides of a man
-she is always upset and angry
-usually she likes to take out of context everything what is said to her and to interpret the words like she wants
-you don't have any future with her, she has a simmering anger at men which can explode at any moment
Insecure girl
-she is very nice and treats men very well
-but she suffers by frustration
-is wracked by anxiety about making the wrong decision
-she has to think twice about what to do, what to wear, where to go, what to eat
-she needs constant reassurance that she's attractive and worries incessantly
Stupid girl
-this type of girl likes to speak a lot but she doesn't say nothing smart
-she likes to say always gossips about the others, but when you want to talk something important with her, she is not able to make conversation
Uptown girl
-she is very rich
-everything she has is better than yours and she wants to make sure that you know it
-she only dates the best of best
-is entirely focused on herself
-she is very selfish, self-indulgent grown up as '' daddy's little girl''
-needs to be constant center of attention no matter what she does or where she goes
Childish girl
-everything in life hurts this kind of girl
-is the type of girl who cries a lot, every innocent comment or criticism will upset her
-avoid this kind of girl because if you are dating one you will have to spend all the time apologizing even if you didn't make any mistake
-avoid also long term relationship with her because she is capable of suicide if you want to leave her and all the blame will be thrown on yourself
Elusive girl
-is the type of girl who is afraid to start a relationship
-she might be hurt in a past relationship and so subconsciously avoids or sabotages new relationships in the present
-she look interested at the beginning but after a while she runs away
-is the type of girl who likes to send mixed messages so you'll never understand her
Talking girl
-it is a big difference between somebody who is able to make good conversation and have sense of humor , and somebody who always have to make a comment about everything
-it is the type which is very hard to please and always has to say something about everything is happening or speaking around her
Romantic girl
-this lives in her own world, of movies and romance novels
-she is very dreamy, imagining things, expecting Prince Charming to come after her
-she doesn't know how the real world is
-she was grown with the idea that she is a princess
Dragger girl
-this kind of girl will always make you feel bad even there is no reason to feel that
-it is always worrying and she can never be happy, everything around her is a total drag
-even if a wonderful thing happen to you, she will make you feel like it was the worst thing that could happen ever
Controlling girl
-she likes to have the total control in your relationship and on you too
-wants to control you in everything you do, you wear or eat
-if you try to control her too, she will get angry, cry, scream or use any deceptive female tactic until you give up
Flirting girl
-she flirts with anybody and flaunt her sexuality at every opportunity
-has a big power of attraction
-exist the risk to dump you in any moment if somebody better comes along
With all these types of girls you should avoid, it is now more easy for you to make a good choice about your next girlfriend; but remember that not all the women are the same, maybe there is somewhere a good, carrying woman just for you.
Maybe this happened to you too. After you began a relationship with her you found out that she is not exactly what you want and what you expect. She hurt you and dumped you when you last expected. Many men are chasing after a woman who lied them and used them. But, in order to stop this, you should know from the beginning which types of girls you should avoid for to not be hurt again.
Desperate girl
-it is the type of the girl who spend all her life laid out, looking for a perfect life, and suddenly she discover that she gets old and she doesn't get married yet because she hasn't met the perfect man for her
-she wants desperately to get married no matter who the guy is or what he does
-she is pressed by the time and is ready to marry with a jerk as long as he has marriage material
-watch out because if you marry one of this, you have to spend the rest of your life with her
Materialistic girl
-usually is good looking and well dressed
-is looking very well outside but inside it is a bunch of money hungry taker
-she is looking all the time after boys which are staying very well with their wallet
-she expects that a man should finance her entire life just because she is biologically female
-she is very friendly, nice at the beginning but after some time you'll see that no matter how much you give her, she wants more
-she is greed personified
-she is interested only in what she wants and not others feelings
-stay away from this kind of girl because she will dumped you after she spend all your money
Angry girl
-she is the type of the girl which sees life like a battle
-anything what is happening or is told to her is seen as a insult at her address
-has also a bad opinion about man, sees only the wrong sides of a man
-she is always upset and angry
-usually she likes to take out of context everything what is said to her and to interpret the words like she wants
-you don't have any future with her, she has a simmering anger at men which can explode at any moment
Insecure girl
-she is very nice and treats men very well
-but she suffers by frustration
-is wracked by anxiety about making the wrong decision
-she has to think twice about what to do, what to wear, where to go, what to eat
-she needs constant reassurance that she's attractive and worries incessantly
Stupid girl
-this type of girl likes to speak a lot but she doesn't say nothing smart
-she likes to say always gossips about the others, but when you want to talk something important with her, she is not able to make conversation
Uptown girl
-she is very rich
-everything she has is better than yours and she wants to make sure that you know it
-she only dates the best of best
-is entirely focused on herself
-she is very selfish, self-indulgent grown up as '' daddy's little girl''
-needs to be constant center of attention no matter what she does or where she goes
Childish girl
-everything in life hurts this kind of girl
-is the type of girl who cries a lot, every innocent comment or criticism will upset her
-avoid this kind of girl because if you are dating one you will have to spend all the time apologizing even if you didn't make any mistake
-avoid also long term relationship with her because she is capable of suicide if you want to leave her and all the blame will be thrown on yourself
Elusive girl
-is the type of girl who is afraid to start a relationship
-she might be hurt in a past relationship and so subconsciously avoids or sabotages new relationships in the present
-she look interested at the beginning but after a while she runs away
-is the type of girl who likes to send mixed messages so you'll never understand her
Talking girl
-it is a big difference between somebody who is able to make good conversation and have sense of humor , and somebody who always have to make a comment about everything
-it is the type which is very hard to please and always has to say something about everything is happening or speaking around her
Romantic girl
-this lives in her own world, of movies and romance novels
-she is very dreamy, imagining things, expecting Prince Charming to come after her
-she doesn't know how the real world is
-she was grown with the idea that she is a princess
Dragger girl
-this kind of girl will always make you feel bad even there is no reason to feel that
-it is always worrying and she can never be happy, everything around her is a total drag
-even if a wonderful thing happen to you, she will make you feel like it was the worst thing that could happen ever
Controlling girl
-she likes to have the total control in your relationship and on you too
-wants to control you in everything you do, you wear or eat
-if you try to control her too, she will get angry, cry, scream or use any deceptive female tactic until you give up
Flirting girl
-she flirts with anybody and flaunt her sexuality at every opportunity
-has a big power of attraction
-exist the risk to dump you in any moment if somebody better comes along
With all these types of girls you should avoid, it is now more easy for you to make a good choice about your next girlfriend; but remember that not all the women are the same, maybe there is somewhere a good, carrying woman just for you.
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