How To Kiss Like A Moviestar!

Hello my care free and courageous connoisseurs of creative kissing and countless carnal pleasures, Tis I! Your buddy, the one and only David Van Arrick!

I'm back to share some more outstanding insights into the world of all things erotic, carnal and ultimately orgasmic.



Now the interesting thing you will discover as we journey together on the forbidden path to true sexual mastery is that the path itself has many seemingly unrelated tangents and offshoots -- twists and turns that sometimes seem to have no direct relation to the forbidden arts of sexual mastery as most folks would understand them but have faith and pay attention because the connections often become excitingly immediately apparent as time goes on...

However...

Today's installment is not one of those cases!

In fact far from being obscure this particular post concerns one of my very favorite topics --- Kissing!

If your kissing game sucks, you're probably not going to get any further in the course of making love to a woman because many many women judge how good a lover you are by the way you kiss her the very first time.

Although many women are more than willing to kiss you a second time in the hopes you just had an off moment, the bottom line is if your kiss can't make her toes curl, buckle her knees and have her heart pounding and racing in her chest like a hyper-active jackhammer, your probably going to find yourself immediately shoved into the "love-dud" category or the Joe-average lover slot to say the least.

That's not a good place to be, believe me.

Well I don't know about you but I don't accept mediocrity in my life in any way, and especially not in my sexual and romantic skills and neither should you.

Now for today's question...

Dear David,

You write: "When you go in for the kiss, cup her face in both of your hands so that your palms are gently cradling her jaw line and your thumbs are just in front of cheek bones."

This seems really awkward, Normally, I like to move in with my mouth then slowly get my hands involved. ( I don't mean feel her up, I mean more along the lines of what you describe -- I just introduce it later in the process). How do I go about your way without it being really awkward?

Thanks

Cahn

Dear Cahn,

Well I think we understood you weren't going to feel her up right on the initial kiss but thanks for the clarification none the less.

First of all I'm not sure exactly what you mean when you say you feel awkward. But from what you do say it appears that the order in which you bring your hands into play lies at the root of that awkwardness.

The simplest way is when your ready to go in for her first kiss...

Look her deeply in the eyes, allow your hands to slowly but gently touch the side of her cheek you can use one or both hands.

I find for first kisses the two hand approach works much better. Cup the back of her head or contour her jaw line with the palm of your hand.

Your thumb can rest either just in front of the ear or on the cheekbone just below her eye or any point in between. While maintaining eye contact, gently draw her lips to yours. Allow your eyes to close as your lips gently touch.

That's the quick lesson.

For First kisses, I always use my palms to face technique.

Why?

Because It Just Plain Works More Reliably Powerfully and Consistently Than Any Other Method of First Kissing I Have Tried!

I discovered many years ago that when you really want to get a woman's romantic desires clicked into over drive the fastest way to do it is by touching her anywhere on her face while your kissing her.

Now pay attention here folks.

Notice I did not say her sexual drives!

Understand that kissing certain areas of her body will signal her to become romantically turned on, and consistently more passionate, while others will actually stimulate and accelerate her sexual drives and desires.

The first thing you want to do with any woman, (at least in the world of David) is get her romantic muscles flexing and her passions enflamed... Why?

Because her sexual drives inevitably follow her romantic drives!

Guys this is important...

If you can't create that physical/emotional connection or chemistry necessary to turn her emotional sparks into a roaring flame, your likely to throw too much fuel on the fire to fast. The result...

All progress stops and the fire goes out!

Have you ever tried to fan a small flame in order to make it grow and accidently blew it out?

In your effort to feed it more oxygen you actually gave it too much fuel too fast and poof!

Out goes the flame!

That's what I'm talking about when it comes to enflaming a woman's passions.

Your kiss creates the tiny flame i.e. the connection (everything is clicking for her inside) the touch on the face adds just enough fuel at just the right pace to cause that romantic spark to grow into a passionate flame.

Once the passion fire is really burning, if you know where to go you can actually transition to other parts of her body that acts as sexual accelerators, which means that you are actually transitioning her from a predominantly emotional sense of arousal to equally physical sensation
of arousal.

You see the key to mind blowing sex is not how big your penis is or how good looking you are or even how long you can last in the sack...

The key is... How Deeply Aroused You Can Get Her!

You will discover that the root of many of the obstacles you will face in your journey to sexual mastery will ultimately come down to this one simple element --

Lack of Sexual Arousal!

The more aroused your partner becomes the more receptive she is to all manner of sexual acts, stimulations, and intensities!

Don't take my word for it!

Prove it to yourself... master the art of building sexual tension taught in my Secret Orgasm Tips course and she will think your the greatest lover she's ever had or will have the first night your together!

For all of you who wrote in with some really great questions be on the look out for more answers and awe inspiring techniques and concepts that will turn you from Joe average lover into a sexual superstar practically overnight.

All the Best!

David Van Arrick

How To Get A Date With 25% of All Women You Meet

If you knew that 1 out of every 4 women you approached would meet you for a date and not FLAKE, would you go out every chance you got?

Sure you would, you'd be crazy not to.

Now I realize that this may seem unrealistic to you, but this is not only POSSIBLE, it happens all the time.

Listen, I don't know if you have ever been in sales, but a 25% close ratio would make you one of the worlds greatest salesman.

In fact, millions of dollars are spent on advertising campaigns, and if they get a 2% response the company execs bust out the Champagne and celebrate.

Only TWO percent... that's one out of every fifty.

Frankly, for a lot of men, when it comes to meeting women, they would be ECSTATIC to
know that all they have to do is approach 50 women and they will get a date.

In fact some people will tell you that you have to go out to nightclubs 4 nights a week for SIX MONTHS and approach ONE THOUSAND women to even begin to develop your skills.

BULLSHIT! That's a myth passed on by guys who don't want to admit they don't have a
SYSTEM to teach you their skills.

It takes LESS than four months of meeting about 100 women a month, you are doing
SOMETHING wrong!

Now I won't lie to you and say that you will get to a 25% success rate in 4 months, but it is POSSIBLE. (Frankly once you learn the tools, the only real obstacle is in your own head.)

So where does this 25% number come from?

I used that number because last weekend one of my instructors (Daniel) went out to have some fun on a sunny day (not that common lately here in San Francisco).

In one afternoon, he set up FOUR DATES for this week, and he only approached sixteen
women.

That's 25% my friend.

That's why I tell you you can get 4 dates in under 4 hours when you know how to combine attraction & rapport in daygame.

Yes, Daniel is an instructor, so he SHOULD be that good, but a year ago today he wasn't an instructor.

In fact, a year ago today he had only recently finished his first workshop.

But he put into action what he learned, and that's WHY he can get 4 dates in an
afternoon. That's also why he is an instructor.

And I'll tell something, his results are not unusual. I've got a stack of Thank You
letters to prove it.

My point... YOU CAN DO THIS!

So how can you get to a 25% success rate?

Well it's a combination of three things that make it happen.

SOLID DAYGAME SKILLS

Daygame means meeting women in non-social environments. In other words, they are not expecting strangers to talk with them like at a nightclub or party.

This is an important difference because how you approach here needs to be adapted to
this scenario.

But that's a topic for another time, the important point here is that in the
'daygame' environment, you can have a MUCH higher success rate than in a nightclub or a party.

Remember when I say success rate, I don't mean phone numbers, those are next to
worthless. I mean a solid no-flake day-2 meeting is established.

Listen, I know most of the world's BEST pickup artists, and not one of them has a
25% success rate in night clubs.

The main reason has to do with the energy level and the amount of distractions
available.

It's hard to keep a woman focused on you in a loud, busy, frantic nightclub.

It's a challenge to get her alone from her friends, and you had better get each and
every friend to REALLY LIKE you before you try, or else they will 'rescue' her.

One of the major bonus points of daygame is that you find women ALONE. In fact, when done correctly you can have your first date THAT DAY.

If you find a woman alone in a nightclub, unless she looks like Ms. Ballbreaker from
the movie Porky's, there is a guy or girl friend that will be back in the next minute.

Cute girls do NOT go out alone to clubs.

ALL WOMEN go out alone to run errands, go to work, go shopping, get their hair cut... you get the idea.

So the lesson here is:

* Fewer distractions during daygame
* You find many women alone during daygame
* You can spend a lot of time with them during daygame

This one thing alone can MASSIVELY increase your success rate.

DEEP RAPPORT SKILLS

In a recent Tips Emails you learned that rapport is more powerful than attraction.

You learned how attraction happens in an INSTANT and disappears just as fast.

You learned how when a woman has a deep 'connection' with a man, it is a RARE
experience and one she will NEVER forget in her life.

Virtually ALL women have a romantic FANTASY about meeting a man who can give them this experience.

Most men either don't know how, or won't allow themselves to appear vulnerable to a
woman. So most women never have a deep rapport experience with a man.

You discovered that when you know how, deep rapport can happen in less than 20 MINUTES.

And you learned how having a deep connection allows her to give herself PERMISSION to sleep with you.

What you didn't learn is that it's almost impossible to go into deep rapport with a
woman in a social environment such as a nightclub.

It can be done, but it's VERY difficult to pull off, because you need her undivided
attention for at LEAST 15 minutes.

BUT in daygame, almost every women you meet will have 15 or 20 minutes she can
spend with you.

If she is ATTRACTED to you, she will make the time for you because she will want to
get to KNOW YOU better.

The Lesson Here:
* Deep rapport is more powerful than attraction (but you need both)
* All women have a fantasy about meeting a man they can 'connect' with on a deep level
* In daygame most women have all the time you need to go into deep rapport with them.

Now so far you have runners on first and second base, with the combined benefits of
DAYGAME & DEEP RAPPORT... Now for the home run hitter.


A COMPLETE TOOKIT WITH DIRECT & INDIRECT APPROACH METHODS

On the surface this seems simple. Maybe even obvious, but it is surprising how many
guys ONLY use one method of approach.

That would be like playing golf with just one club. You can do it, but the game is
more FUN and less of a STRUGGLE when you have all the clubs to choose from.

Now in nightclubs, all your really need is a high energy playful approach, and you will do really well.

But in daygame that won't cut it for two reasons.

First, there are situations where being super high energy and playful is the last
thing you want to do. Libraries, bookstores, and museums for example.

Second, there are situations when you can get a woman massively attracted to you in a frickin' MICRO-SECOND if you know how to use a direct approach.

Then you can IMMEDIATELY go into rapport with her.

Why would you want to mess around if you could make this happen.

Now it takes some BALLS to walk up to a woman when other people are watching and
tell her she's beautiful and you just had to meet her. But the RESULTS are worth it.

The Lesson Here:
* You need the tools to match your approach with the situation.
* Direct approach can get you instant attraction

So here's the formula for a 25% success rate: Take one part DAYGAME, add equal
parts DIRECT & INDIRECT approach skills, plus a generous amount of DEEP RAPPORT.

Then go out and approach women until you have all the dates you can handle.

Oh, one more thing, I'm going to post a near perfect daygame field report by another
program graduate who is now an instructor in the next few days.

Look for it...

Now, go out and meet some women.

Your Friend,

Lance Mason

P.S. See my review's of Pickup 101's Art of Attraction workshop, and their amazing audio CD series "Surefire Attraction Secrets".

Secrets to a Smooth Approach

After the Stephen Nash interview, I received alot of positive feedback about his philosophies and methodology. I promised more from the "powerhouse" Stephen Nash (aka Playboy), so here it is with more to come:

Want to know the Truth?

Most guys won't approach a woman. They are too scared. It is more frightening than hiking up Mt. Everest, or speaking in front of the White House Press Corps.

So, if you want real choice and power with your dating life, you're going to have to join the minority. That's right - you are going to have to seize the opportunities when they come your way and push through your fear.

Any guy can do it. This is not rocket science, or dismantling a land mine here. In fact, most women will give you the benefit of the doubt just for having the cajones to approach her - cool?

Assuming you can get past your own fear (subtle challenge), here are some MUSTS for making your approach smooth. The idea is to make the process as comfortable for you and her as possible.

If you strike out, chalk it up as a "learning experience." Think about how you can make the next one better, got it?

Let's accelerate your learning curve and go over 3 elements for making your next approach look as natural as a sunrise.

1) Casual: Looks much easier written down than when staring at the next Mrs. YOU. But, if you come on too strong to her at first, she's going to get frightened and defend herself. To start the conversation, be as casual as possible by asking her a simple question about your environment. Also, keep your body language as neutral as possible by not turning and facing her or leaning in to her. She is much more likely to receive your approach if you can prevent the words "something is up here, I can just feel it!!" from crossing her mind. Feel free to also look away as you chat with her. Again, you are reinforcing the casual-ness of the interaction.

2) Playful: Lots of guys become Mr. Cocky when they approach women, which is a defense mechanism. Drop the cockiness, and show her your confident side by being playful. This is also called - FLIRTING - and is a MUST skill for guys who want to enhance their dating lives. You want to simply joke around, but stay away from teasing her - you don't know her well enough for that yet. Instead, point out the humor in your surroundings, or, even better, about yourself. The more self-effacing here the better. Let her know you don't take yourself too seriously. If you can master this, women will trust you. If women trust you, they will want to be around you. See where this leads?

3) Personal: Last, but not least, at some point you have to let her know a little bit about you. Instead of relying on the standard diet of questions ("where are you from?", "what is your sign?"), answer these questions for her in the form of statements. Just drop them into your conversation: "Your sweater reminds me of my sister, though we are from the south, it gets cold around November. She used to wear something similar at Thanksgiving." In that statement alone, I reveal three facts about my life: I am from the south, I have a sister, and we gather at Thanksgiving. Suddenly, you are no longer a guy she just met at the café, but someone she is "getting to know". There is a HUGE difference.

So, now that you have the basic three ideas in mind, you now have to LEARN them. Here is your mission:

Do one approach per day for the next week, and play around with these ideas. Try to take some notes after each approach, and learn where your sticking points are.

I love hearing from guys who are really trying to improve this area of their lives. I think it is so important, I started this business to help spread the word about how to be successful without trying to completely change who you are. My ebook How To Get A Girlfriend is written to be totally malleable to each guy's personality type and style. If you haven't downloaded it yet, go for it! You can get your own copy here.

Thanks a lot guys,

Stephen Nash

Mystery's Home Video! (WTF)

This is one of the episodes that you might have read about in The Game. Mystery spent some time compiling this episodes from footage from his Clie. He showed this clip at a Mystery Method seminar which Mystery explained is a good thing for comfort building, also you'll notice that she gives Mystery a gift. Interesting technique.

Attraction Chronicles on Myspace

I got the myspace profile up, if you are on myspace, add me!

Check it out:

http://www.myspace.com/attractionchroniclesblog

How To Get A Girlfriend: CEIC's Top 10 MUSTS for Every Bachelor Pad

Stephen Nash who I just did a interview with (which you can read here), did this awesome post on making your pad more chick friendly.

You might be the coolest guy in the world, with great stories, successful
career, killer clothes and an awesome social life. However, if your home is not
equipped with these 10 essentials, that smooth first impression you made will
head south as fast as geese in a snowstorm.

A woman should be excited to
see your home. She has enjoyed getting to know you, and is now open to taking
things to the next level. She arrives at your door, hoping that you can provide
a cool, comfortable and romantic experience. Follow these tips and you’ll do
that plus more…

1) Clean Bathroom. This is number one for a reason.
Please, please don’t let her walk in there and find no toilet paper. Right now,
go to the bathroom. If you are down to one roll (meaning, the ACTIVE one) stop
reading this and go to the store. Buy at least 6 rolls to have on hand. Also,
she should never see hair shavings scattered in the sink and a black ring around
the tub. She sees this…you never see her again.

2) An Unusual or Exotic
Coffee or Tea. If she doesn’t drink alcohol, she will really appreciate this
touch. A good place to find either item is in a gourmet grocery store. Get fresh
ground coffee or fresh tea leaves. Coffee in a can or tea bags doesn’t cut it
here.

3) Entertainment. No Barry White or Marvin Gaye, they are just
beyond comical and cliché. Try Portishead, Coldplay or Ben Harper. Also, have at
least half a dozen movies that you can pull out in a moments notice. You are
looking for something that sets a romantic, yet fun mood. Here are some
suggestions: Don Juan DeMarco, Annie Hall, There’s Something About Mary, Arthur,
Casablanca, Hitch, and Sidewalks of New York are all great options.

4)
One Special Recipe. You don’t need the cooking expertise of Daniel Boulud, but
it is important, not to mention impressive, that you be able to prepare at least
one good meal. After selecting your signature dish, consult the local wine shop
for the perfect match. A suggestion: baked fish is simple, healthy, elegant, and
can be combined with a light vegetable or two. Also, go the extra mile by buying
a small, tasty tart or cake from the local bakery for dessert. The result: an
unforgettable, gourmet meal that separates you from the pack.

5)
Non-fluorescent Mood Lighting. Overhead lighting tends to wash-out color and
feel stark. Have areas lit by lamps, adding to the romantic mood. Also, if you
have a lava lamp, toss that in the garbage along with the tie-dyed t-shirts. Or,
at least hide them in the closet.

6) Wine. Always have 2 bottles of wine
on hand, one red and one white. No need to go overboard, but don’t skimp either
and buy “Boone’s Farm”. $20 per bottle is plenty. Also, be sure to own wine
glasses. Have at least four on hand, as they break easily.

7) Hide the
Video Games. Nothing says "lazy, loser, and adolescent" like an X-box on the
floor in front of your TV. Video games are female repellant. Why? I’ll never
know. It’s like trying to uncover the mystery of why girls go to the bathroom in
packs…

8) Family Photo. Let her know you came from somewhere; that you
weren't dropped on earth last week in the bar where you met. It’s certainly
comforting for her to know this, but even better to SEE it. A solo picture of
mom is a major plus here too.

9) Semi-Stocked Fridge. Make sure there is
more than a bottle of ketchup and half a six pack of Bud. Have some snacks that
you won’t need to prepare. Ice cream, fresh fruit, chocolate, and cheese are all
great, light foods. Also, for a sophisticated, simple snack try sliced tomatoes
with basil and mozzarella. It bespeaks sophistication and intelligence, while
not requiring hours of preparation.

10) Shorts and a Tee Shirt. Have a
spare for her if she decides to stay over. Don't buy a pair of shorts with a
size 25 waist; she'll either think they're from a previous girl or that you're a
player. Get one that would fit you, but with a drawstring; very inconspicuous,
and thoughtful.

Having a clean place can make up for a lack of any of
these points. Keeping clean shows respect for your guests. At minimum, be sure
the kitchen is clean with no old dishes in the sink, and no dirty clothes
scattered on the floor. Most importantly - the bed MUST be made.

Overall
your place needs to look neither fussy nor girly. This is a bachelor pad, so let
it be obvious that a single man lurks within. Your place should reflect you and
do so effectively. If you have any questions, invite a female friend over for
lunch, and ask for her no-holds-barred opinion.

The post witheverything to know about bachelor pads.

Asian Playboy Covered in D Magazine

A Texan magazine called D Magazine recently covered AsianPlayboy, a mate of mine from the Dallas area that has recently started doing bootcamps.

Check the article out (it's from a woman's perspective so beware):

http://www.dmagazine.com//article.asp?articleid=1073