How To Keep A Woman Attracted

I liked this email for those guys that are getting into relationships from Lance at Pickup101.

I saw a headline today that said, "YouTube Serves Up 100 Million Videos A Day."

Now unless you've been living in some sort of cave you have probably looked at a youtube video at least once.

Probably more than once.

Some of them are hilarious (especially the recent ones about the infamous Zidane head butt), and some of them just plain suck.

But occasionally some one sends me a video that is actually painful to watch, and today was one of those occasions.

I got a link to this short clip that I thought was comedy about a guy breaking up with a girl. I figured the guy would get blown out and that was it.

Man was I wrong.

It starts off with a guy on the phone telling the girl that it's no big deal about the break up, and she should come get her stuff.

I'm thinking, this guy's got it right. Move on and get another girl right away.

But it gets worse quickly, and I mean downright ugly. There is scene after scene of this guy singing loves songs into her answering machine, crying into the phone while sitting in the bathtub, and practically stalking her to get her back.

I couldn't stand it!

I would rather listen to nails on a blackboard.

Listen I get a lot of questions from guys about how can they get this one girl back.

My advice forget about it! Or as I learned to say in New York... fagedaboutdit.

Let's review a few key points of attraction:

1. Attraction happens in an instant.

When you see the cute girl with the big booty in her tight jeans, you're attracted. It takes all of a few microseconds.

Attraction happens just as quickly for a woman, but for different reasons (so don't waste your time trying to squeeze your big butt into tight jeans).

The myth that you have to spend days or weeks to get a woman attracted is a load of donkey droppings.

The flip side is, if you don't keep her attracted, she'll find someone else.


2. Attraction is fleeting... it doesn't last without effort.

Just like when the women in the tight jeans is out of your sight and the next cutie walks
by, you've forgotten miss big booty.

So it is with a woman. If you can get them to talk about it, they'll tell you how many times a day they are attracted to guys. But it doesn't mean she will ever act on it.

And for relationships, once the attraction spark is gone... it's usually gone for good.

You will be wasting your valuable time trying to get her back attracted to you.

Why bother when there are so many women out there? Go get a new girlfriend, you'll be
happier.


3. Chasing is very unattractive

If you only learn one thing from me learn this valuable lesson.

Chasing is VERY UN-attractive.

You've probably already discovered when you pursue a woman, she gets less interested and more annoyed at you.

Think about how you feel, when a salesman won't leave you alone from the minute you walk in his store. All you want to do is look, and maybe get some info, and the guy is all over you like a cheap suit.

Well cute girls get that all day every day. Hell even average women get it every day.

So the second they think your chasing them, your screwed.

And please promise me you'll never beg a woman to come back to you. it's about the WORST thing you can do.

So maybe you are wondering what the heck you can do that gets attraction, and keeps it going, so you don't have to 'chase'.

The answer my friend is a simple six letter word... B A N T E R!

Banter sets you apart as being a man who is comfortable around women, enough to 'play' with her like she's an old friend.

Banter is one of the most powerful attraction triggers I know, and it's FUN!

And women NEVER get tired of it. You can use banter to keep your woman attracted just like she uses lingerie and mini-skirts.

If you want to see banter in action take a look at Surefire Attraction Secrets.

Now, go meet some women.

Your Friend,

Lance Mason

Tips for Internet Dating with Neil Strauss

Just a small clip from the Meeting Women Online program of David D's. I thought this would not get me in to much trouble with the "authorities". He gives an overview and is introduced. Check it out.

Stephen Nash's (Playboy) New Podcast & Website

Hey guys,

Just got word from Stephen Nash (Cutting Edge Image Consulting) that he's launched a new website. It can be found here: www.how-to-get-a-girlfriend.com

Stephen also tells me he is starting a new podcast, you can also find that podcast link on his new website, along with a 94 minute audio file from a seminar. Cool.

If you aren't familiar with Stephen, he was Playboy from Neil Strauss' "The Game". He lived in Project Hollywood with all of it, and has some great stories to boot. I'm sure he'll probably start relating them on his podcasts and blog. I've interviewed him previously, a lot of the topics he discusses are often overlooked, like, lifestyle, being natural, social circles, etc.

Enjoy.

D

Watch Seduction School Episode (Video)

Here is Wayne Elise in the much anticipated Seduction School hosted by England's Channel 4. Great watching, it certainly gets me pumped up for going into the field and overcoming anxiety. It is at times, painful to watch, but great to watch these guys progress. What it's all about. Empowering us.

Be nice on the comments guys, these blokes are coming from the ground zero! :)

Visit Wayne Elise's Charisma Arts.

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Meeting Women Online, Getting Them To Call You

***QUESTION***

Dave,

Let me start by telling you, you 'da man! I really got to hand it to you, your stuff has given me confidence I've never had before, and I'm just trying to absorb as much of it into my head as possible. I really want to thank you for being able to share this stuff with guys like me and not keeping it to yourself.

There's just one thing wrong with your material: its way TOO CHEAP!!! Seriously Dave, I think WE'RE ripping YOU off! Thanks to you, I started to apply the Cocky and Funny in chatting rooms and in the real world, and it is a hell of a lot better than the Mr. Nice guy act. However, I use emails and chat to practice my Cocky and Funny and it is improving. For example, I have one trick I use and it works on a girl whether she's younger, older, or the same age as me.

I asked one girl her age, and she turned out to be as old as me, 21. I then replied by telling her "ahh forget it, your too young for me" I assume that this girl wasnt used to a rejection like this and she was intent on knowing how old I was. I told her that I was also 21, and she reacted like most girls do at this part, by laughing and turning into a stuck up and asking me how she could possibly be too young for me. I then respond saying something like "I guess your right, its not your age, you just wouldn't be able to handle me," then she reacts like most girls do at this point, continuing to be even more stuck up and laugh sarcastically, while I tell her that Ill give her a chance because she wants it so much, and she has 2 minutes to convince me she can handle me. Now this is a great conversation starter, and while she argues the fact that she can handle me, I occasionally send her teasing comments like, "honey, your wasting my time" or "Why are u not entertaining me" or ZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzz". I kind of understood how being Cocky works, and if the girl really meant the insults she said to me at first, she still wouldn't be talking to me, right?

After doing this to one particular girl, who turned out to be hot as hell from a pic she sent me, she completely forgot about being stuck up and told me "ok, Im sorry, lets start over" this is when I realized I had her in my grasp and I continued being Cocky but turned it down a notch, was this the right thing to do? Around the end I asked her for her email and she replied by telling me she cancelled it yesterday, a terrible excuse. I persisted and said "yeah sure, just type it down,
it'll be ok." she stuck to her story and I gave up and gave her my email which she "supposedly" wrote down. Now I know I probably shouldn't of backed down on her email, but I thought the conversation was going so great she would actually want me to
have her email. Is there something I did wrong for her to refuse giving it to me, and what other ways could I make a girl give me her phone # and/or email? Also, you stress how you should never answer a girls question directly, to leave her unsure. This happens to be my weakness and I would appreciate a few tips on this too.

Thanks for everything Dave, your reply would really mean a lot. W.C.


>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:


Great story... and great job.

One thing you have to remember about chat rooms and online IM sessions is that they're great PRACTICE.

Now, I've met some UNBELIEVABLE women on the internet... so don't get me wrong here.

But don't worry too much about any particular girl... or any particular situation.

She could have had a boyfriend, or even a husband... and was just online because she was bored... or any of 100 other scenarios.

When something like this happens, just move on.

The point is that you're using the Internet for a GREAT "practice environment", and you're training your mind to be Cocky & Funny in the moment... which begins to translate into the REAL world as you do it.

To answer your question about how to get a girl to give you her email address and/or number, just do more of what you're already doing...

Keep throwing down the challenges...

Write back and say, "Yeah, you're probably not that adventurous".

She'll say, "Yes I am!"

Then say, "Well, if you were then you would have asked me for my number and called me already. But you're not. So you didn't...."

Keep this up until she asks for YOUR number.

Then, as soon as you hit the "send" button, IM her again quickly to say, "I don't hear my phone ringing! Hurry up!"

You'll love the results you get from this kind of thing.

But be careful. And get LOTS of CURRENT pictures. Take it from someone who knows... lol... don't just take her word for it.


***QUESTION***

Hey Dave man!!!!

I'm taking your advice and not being an ass kisser, so I won't say how much your book rules (even though it does). I'm seeing 2 girls and potentially 3, but I have some questions. First off, any advice when dealing with a really shy woman? It's tough to do some of the things like the kiss test when they're timid (but oh so cute). Second, the potential one I'm kind of interested in, but definitely not long-term, and I think she knows that, but I'd like to get to know her and have a little fun...any words of wisdom? Third, this may be covered in the book and I haven't
gotten to that chapter yet, but any style advice when it comes to clothing? I'm clueless there. Thanks in advance dude!


>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:


I'll answer them in reverse.

Yes, style advice is in the book. Turn to pages 33 and 34. Get the eBook here.

To contestant number 2, just keep on doing what you're doing. Women usually know what's going on, and she'll start making relationship noises if she really wants one. Until then, keep doing what's working.

And about the oh-so-cute shy girls: I know, I know... but you must remember that if you're the one that brings the shy girl out of her shell, she's probably going to want to marry you... and if she's not very experienced with guys, you might mess with her head too much. Do the right thing.


***QUESTION***

Hi David,

I was just wondering if you think it's a good idea to call a woman before a date to confirm or should I just show up at her doorstep and hope shes there? A while ago I had a date with a woman and I didn't call before I left to pick her up then when I got to her house she wasn't there. Do you call before the date to confirm?

Z. >From Florida.


>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:


You know, it's been so many years since I've gone out to a woman's house and picked her up for a first date, I can't even remember.

I recommend that you DO NOT do something expensive and typical like going and picking a woman up, taking her to dinner, etc. for a first date.

Instead, either:

1) Have her come to your place, and leave for a cup of tea from there.

2) Meet her at a coffee shop that's CLOSE to your place, and if she flakes out, you can still enjoy yourself and you're not far from home.

Another rule of thumb I have is to not make a date too far in advance.

I've found that often times, you can call a woman up and say, "Let's go get a cup of coffee RIGHT NOW".

It's rare that I would ever make plans more than a day in advance... this also helps prevent flaking.


***QUESTION***

Hi David,

You DVD program has made me get up from the sofa and do something about my love life. No real success yet but I can now see beyond my fears and actually approach women.

As you recommended I started using the Internet as A 'women simulator', it's great and I think I'm doing fine with the cocky and funny stuff. For example, I call my self "too witty for you" and in my description I write "don't please don't... well
OK - are you cute?" and it works :-) Sadly, I can't give example from the chats since they are in Hebrew but you know... it's even funnier in Hebrew.

My question is simple: you said to move quickly from the chat to the phone. Well, do you have a "3 minute phone technique" adopted for the chats? (the problem is that I can't say something like "I going back to my friends" like I do in a bar).

Thanks,

U.W. from Israel.


>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:


Nice!

Maybe you can work with me soon on the "Ultimate Comprehensive Guide To Cocky & Funny Online Chat In Hebrew".

I answered this question above, but loved your email so I had to include it.

When you're online, you have to REALLY go the extra mile and EXXXXXAGGGGERATE everything.

You can't just say "You seem cool, let's talk sometime".

You have to say "You're a pain. I'll bet you can't keep this up live on a telephone. You're probably too much of a scaredy-cat to even TRY it..."

Work it. Try things. You'll find that these kinds of challenges work VERY well online.

And if you really want to learn how to write a great online profile, flirt with women online, and get women to give you their numbers more often... then you need to check THIS out:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/MeetingWomenOnline/

Good luck,

David

Joe's Hidden Pickup Video

Someone emailed me this link to YouTube. I thought it was interesting, check it out.



This is Joe from Pickup101, as any sane person can tell from the video.

Meeting Women Online (Video)

I'm also trying to get permission to post more video's from this DVD set online. Some copyright issues that I've gotta work on with David, but hopefully some sort clips of some cool stuff coming soon!

I managed to get the video trailer from David Deangelo's Meeting Women Online to keep you held over.

I've gotten a chance to listen to this DVD, and I gotta be honest here, this really is an indepth program. It makes living online so much funner when you get emails over Myspace in the morning with phone numbers in them. True stories.