Below are just a few of many tips you can use to flirt with attractive women.
Flirting is an art form essentially and as I say with anything else practice is what makes you proficient.
Flirting Tip #1 Have a good time as opposed to "picking up" women will sense you want something from them and will be weirded out. Try not to have an outcome or objective from the interaction apart from "let's see how much fun I can have tonight".
Guys with this mentality seem to get more success as they sub-communicate this mindset during the flirting process.
If you're walking into a bar now with a mate and look like predators "scopeing" the place out then women will sense this. NOT GOOD.
My advice is to not have an agenda as it puts undue pressure on yourself to perform and that's the last thing you want.
For example if you told yourself you have to collect 4 phone numbers tonight when you're out and by the end of the night you only had 1 how would you feel?
Not too good huh?
Have the only objective to go out and make women smile, have fun with your buddies, stay sober and improve your flirting skills.
Flirting Tip #2 Flirting is essentially teasing a woman in a playful way. If you tease her period she'll think you're a jerk and walk away so be warned also take a look at cocky and funny.
However if you tease her and it also makes her laugh then that is good flirting and you'll get far in this game.
If you're completely bald a funny thing to say to a woman you've just met is:
"Hey there ...I just noticed your hair and it has a radiant shine ...you have to let me in on your secret as I've tried every conditioner under the sun and I still cant make it look as radiant as yours ...
Women love this humor...
For more information look through cocky and funny by David DeAngelo.
It's playful, cocky, funny and essentially teases them in a playful way or i.e. FLIRTING
Flirting Tip #3 Touch them playfully as much as you can.
The more you touch women (neutral places here guys) the more she'll feel comfortable around you. Too many guys I know still wait 5-10 minutes to even HUG HER! I on the other hand start the hugging process within 30 seconds.
The idea behind this is simply to get her use to your touch and convey you're comfortable doing this. Which is an attractive trait.
If you plan on kissing her the same night then you MUST touch her early on in the interaction (she'll take this as you're flirting with her).
Flirting can conveyed through two (2) channels: 1. Voice 2. Body Language
When I say flirting through the voice what that means is simply teasing through your tonality and making her react to you on several different levels i.e shocked, laughing, jealousy, excited and more. Ideally the more emotions you elicit from her the more attraction you'll build up.
Flirting through body language is playfully touching her, thumb wars, hand slaps, hi-five her, back turning her, hugging her, using your facial expressions etc
This sub-communicates far more than words could ever do ...
Flirting Tip #4 Flirting is more powerful if you convey directly that you like her. I found going "direct" and saying she's cute and I'm surprised she doesn't have a boyfriend to work well and THEN I flirt with her.
I especially enjoying doing this during the day when approaching women as it's fun and the results are very powerful if delivered correctly.
This conveys I know what I want and go after it and that I'm confident.
This takes a little practice to do though guys. If you say this and you're not congruent with it then it'll come across as lame so it's better if you're approached many women before this.
However when you do eventually reach a level where you can comfortable flirt with her directly then you will see amazing results within you.
Scenarios you would had never though possible and reactions you would never expect (positive) will come to surface, it's funny as I write this as I know you'd look back the last few years and wonder "wow ...I could have said this direct stuff years ago"
Yes and you'd be right ...
Talk soon! Alex
Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.
For more information and to claim access to Alex Coulson's "5 Step System" Audio E-course for FREE (limited time only) head over to http://www.alexcoulson.com
Monday, December 31, 2007
Dating Advice For Men - For Modern Men
Well gents,
There’s plenty of dating advice out there for men however it’s seldom you come across advice that you can actually out to some good use.
A lot of advice helps men when they IN a relationship and not how to get into one.
Some AWESOME Dating Advice is on it’s way …
Dating Advice Tip #1 Clean breath is important, don’t overlook this! The last thing a girl wants to do is be around a guys with zombie breath let a lone kiss somebody with this stench. Good oral hygiene is important and CRITICAL when it comes to first dates and going out ‘on the town’ for search of the lucky girl.
For more good tips visit http://www.alexcoulson.com and claim access to your Free “5 Step System” Audio Course (limited time only).
Dating Advice Tip #2 Dress well and don’t look like a dag/bum/forrest gump.
Women want men who dress sharp. So make sure the side burns are in check, you’re clean shaven, you have sharp cologne, clean clothing/shoes.
You will notice a lot more people paying attention to you, you’ll also get more respect. As the saying goes “a man cannot expect respect if he doesn’t respect himself”
Dress to stand out always. Don’t dress like a gigolo or ‘player’ as this has a very negative connotation to it. You should dress pimp as pimp is FUN.
Velvet jackets, snake boots, spikes hair, fake tattoos, bling bling.
Dating Advice Tip #3 Smile. This is overlooked and is important when it comes to dating advice.
If you look like you’re out to have fun and enjoy yourself then people especially women will notice this and would want to join in. They’ll prefer to hang around a guy that is the party than somebody that comes across he’s trying to “pick up” or get it on with her : )
This comes later …
The most successful guys I’ve seen with women look like they’ve known them for ages, like they’re long lost friends, they’re cracking jokes, smiling, playful hitting them and enjoying themselves.
His mindset is “he’s the party” and he’s inviting them into his reality. He’s the prize and they’re joining in with him.
If they do something which disrupts “his” party ie. Gives him challenges, acts all princessy, brings the energy down then no matter how hot she looks she’s OUT.
Always be willing to walk away from anything. This principle applies in business especially but is as important in relationships and dating.
By being able to walk away you have and hold onto the power.
For more good tips visit http://www.alexcoulson.com and claim access to your Free “5 Step System” Audio Course (limited time only).
Dating Advice Tip #4 Be prepared.
Some good advice on dating is be prepared with your conversation starter and a back up story or routine.
The last thing you want to do it blow the set open, have them laughing at everything you say and running out of things to say …then what do you say?
“Ummm ….It was great meeting you girls … I have to go …”
No. This is the worst thing to do. Stay in there as long as you can and push the interaction as far as you can.
After your conversation starter have a prepared story to tell about anything. It doesn’t have to be related to your conversation starter just spit out whatever
If you keep talking they’ll probably stay, if you stop talking they’ll def leave.
Dating Advice Tip #5 Have great body language. Learn to hold interactions with strong powerful body language.
-Keep your shoulders back -Chest high, groin out, stomach in -Smile -Touch the girls as much as you can -Deepen your voice -Don’t move or talk to quickly -Don’t give the girls too much attention early on in the interaction
If it helps you should go to the gym. Not only will you feel more empowered with good body language you’ll also get more IOIs and women can approach you sometimes (don’t rely on this though but sometimes it happens)
Dating Advice Tip #6 The best advice I can give is to go out there and do it. The more you try and test in the ‘real word;’ the better you’ll become and the more proficient you’ll get.
After awhile you’ll start seeing consistent results after approaching so many women. You’ll collect 3-4 phone numbers on a single day or night. (assuming you approach at least 3-4 women that is) : )
Talk soon Alex www.alexcoulson.com
Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.
For more information and to claim access to Alex Coulson’s “5 Step System” Audio E-course for FREE (limited time only) head over to http://www.alexcoulson.com
There’s plenty of dating advice out there for men however it’s seldom you come across advice that you can actually out to some good use.
A lot of advice helps men when they IN a relationship and not how to get into one.
Some AWESOME Dating Advice is on it’s way …
Dating Advice Tip #1 Clean breath is important, don’t overlook this! The last thing a girl wants to do is be around a guys with zombie breath let a lone kiss somebody with this stench. Good oral hygiene is important and CRITICAL when it comes to first dates and going out ‘on the town’ for search of the lucky girl.
For more good tips visit http://www.alexcoulson.com and claim access to your Free “5 Step System” Audio Course (limited time only).
Dating Advice Tip #2 Dress well and don’t look like a dag/bum/forrest gump.
Women want men who dress sharp. So make sure the side burns are in check, you’re clean shaven, you have sharp cologne, clean clothing/shoes.
You will notice a lot more people paying attention to you, you’ll also get more respect. As the saying goes “a man cannot expect respect if he doesn’t respect himself”
Dress to stand out always. Don’t dress like a gigolo or ‘player’ as this has a very negative connotation to it. You should dress pimp as pimp is FUN.
Velvet jackets, snake boots, spikes hair, fake tattoos, bling bling.
Dating Advice Tip #3 Smile. This is overlooked and is important when it comes to dating advice.
If you look like you’re out to have fun and enjoy yourself then people especially women will notice this and would want to join in. They’ll prefer to hang around a guy that is the party than somebody that comes across he’s trying to “pick up” or get it on with her : )
This comes later …
The most successful guys I’ve seen with women look like they’ve known them for ages, like they’re long lost friends, they’re cracking jokes, smiling, playful hitting them and enjoying themselves.
His mindset is “he’s the party” and he’s inviting them into his reality. He’s the prize and they’re joining in with him.
If they do something which disrupts “his” party ie. Gives him challenges, acts all princessy, brings the energy down then no matter how hot she looks she’s OUT.
Always be willing to walk away from anything. This principle applies in business especially but is as important in relationships and dating.
By being able to walk away you have and hold onto the power.
For more good tips visit http://www.alexcoulson.com and claim access to your Free “5 Step System” Audio Course (limited time only).
Dating Advice Tip #4 Be prepared.
Some good advice on dating is be prepared with your conversation starter and a back up story or routine.
The last thing you want to do it blow the set open, have them laughing at everything you say and running out of things to say …then what do you say?
“Ummm ….It was great meeting you girls … I have to go …”
No. This is the worst thing to do. Stay in there as long as you can and push the interaction as far as you can.
After your conversation starter have a prepared story to tell about anything. It doesn’t have to be related to your conversation starter just spit out whatever
If you keep talking they’ll probably stay, if you stop talking they’ll def leave.
Dating Advice Tip #5 Have great body language. Learn to hold interactions with strong powerful body language.
-Keep your shoulders back -Chest high, groin out, stomach in -Smile -Touch the girls as much as you can -Deepen your voice -Don’t move or talk to quickly -Don’t give the girls too much attention early on in the interaction
If it helps you should go to the gym. Not only will you feel more empowered with good body language you’ll also get more IOIs and women can approach you sometimes (don’t rely on this though but sometimes it happens)
Dating Advice Tip #6 The best advice I can give is to go out there and do it. The more you try and test in the ‘real word;’ the better you’ll become and the more proficient you’ll get.
After awhile you’ll start seeing consistent results after approaching so many women. You’ll collect 3-4 phone numbers on a single day or night. (assuming you approach at least 3-4 women that is) : )
Talk soon Alex www.alexcoulson.com
Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.
For more information and to claim access to Alex Coulson’s “5 Step System” Audio E-course for FREE (limited time only) head over to http://www.alexcoulson.com
Tuesday, December 18, 2007
Pick Up Women- 6 Tips to Master Your Pickup Skills
Have you always wanted to be the sort of guy that girls adore? You know �" the sharp suited alpha male who seems to have his pick of the women?
Of course you have!
And you can be.
I've gathered the six traits that all great pick up artists have in common, and they're easier to emulate than you might imagine. Follow the steps outlined below and you, too, could be one of the frequently chosen ones.
1. An Appreciation of the Finer Things
Pick up artists don't just appreciate a pretty girl; they admire any person of quality and any item of beauty �" and they ensure that they're surrounded by them.
If you're still dressing like a student and living with your parents, it's time to upgrade. Invest in some well styled clothes, get a sharp new haircut and consider developing a skincare routine.
Scrap all your shabby posters and heavily stained bed linen. A seductive bachelor pad has clean lines, simple décor and no suspicious odors �" isn't it time you were in living in one?
2. Humor
Girls are always assuring us that they'd rather meet a man with a great sense of humor than a male model. And this isn't one of those clever little mind games they to play; it's true.
If you can make a woman laugh and smile she will come to associate spending time with you with feelings of happiness. But before you start practicing your knock knock jokes, bear in mind that few girls are looking for slapstick; when they say “good sense of humor” they mean an upbeat attitude when faced with adversity and a fairly quick wit at other times.
3. Physical Confidence
Pick up artists exude an air of confidence �" and a lot of this is to do with their body language. Players stand tall in the center of a room, they make eye contact with the women they're talking to and their relaxed smile is always inviting.
If you're a fan of hunching in inconspicuous corners, no girl is ever going to notice you. Adopt a more laid back, confident posture and you'll be amazed by the positive results.
4. Patience and Honesty
The truly confident man doesn't have to fool a woman into going home with him, nor does he need to apply any pressure. Don't try to trick girls into believing you're someone you're not, don't promise a future you have no intention of offering, and never try to bully a woman into doing something she isn't sure she's into.
If you take the time to get to know a girl and you treat her with respect you will soon make the right impression.
5. Conversational Skills
Do gorgeous girls leave you tongue tied? Consciously slow your speech down, adopt a low, steady tone and try to breathe with your stomach �" by calming your speech patterns you will instantly appear much more confident.
Remember that your goal is to get her interest, so don't undo all your hard work by being self-deprecating.
Charm her by showing an interest in what she's saying and asking leading questions. Have a few emergency topics on stand-by; everyone has an answer to questions like “how would you spend your lottery millions?” and “where's your dream vacation?” so keep them on reserve.
6. Female Friends
The ultimate pick up artist accessory is a female best friend. A female friend's recommendation if worth more than any number of males'; when a cute chick see another gorgeous girl spending time with you, she assumes that you're someone worth knowing.
The secret to becoming the ultimate pick up artist is to act like you deserve to be one. Show pride in yourself, your surroundings and your achievements and any woman will be proud to be seen on your arm.
Want to learn 50 WAYS for approaching, attracting and seducing women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson's Free eBook which provides 50 tips for instant dating success.
Of course you have!
And you can be.
I've gathered the six traits that all great pick up artists have in common, and they're easier to emulate than you might imagine. Follow the steps outlined below and you, too, could be one of the frequently chosen ones.
1. An Appreciation of the Finer Things
Pick up artists don't just appreciate a pretty girl; they admire any person of quality and any item of beauty �" and they ensure that they're surrounded by them.
If you're still dressing like a student and living with your parents, it's time to upgrade. Invest in some well styled clothes, get a sharp new haircut and consider developing a skincare routine.
Scrap all your shabby posters and heavily stained bed linen. A seductive bachelor pad has clean lines, simple décor and no suspicious odors �" isn't it time you were in living in one?
2. Humor
Girls are always assuring us that they'd rather meet a man with a great sense of humor than a male model. And this isn't one of those clever little mind games they to play; it's true.
If you can make a woman laugh and smile she will come to associate spending time with you with feelings of happiness. But before you start practicing your knock knock jokes, bear in mind that few girls are looking for slapstick; when they say “good sense of humor” they mean an upbeat attitude when faced with adversity and a fairly quick wit at other times.
3. Physical Confidence
Pick up artists exude an air of confidence �" and a lot of this is to do with their body language. Players stand tall in the center of a room, they make eye contact with the women they're talking to and their relaxed smile is always inviting.
If you're a fan of hunching in inconspicuous corners, no girl is ever going to notice you. Adopt a more laid back, confident posture and you'll be amazed by the positive results.
4. Patience and Honesty
The truly confident man doesn't have to fool a woman into going home with him, nor does he need to apply any pressure. Don't try to trick girls into believing you're someone you're not, don't promise a future you have no intention of offering, and never try to bully a woman into doing something she isn't sure she's into.
If you take the time to get to know a girl and you treat her with respect you will soon make the right impression.
5. Conversational Skills
Do gorgeous girls leave you tongue tied? Consciously slow your speech down, adopt a low, steady tone and try to breathe with your stomach �" by calming your speech patterns you will instantly appear much more confident.
Remember that your goal is to get her interest, so don't undo all your hard work by being self-deprecating.
Charm her by showing an interest in what she's saying and asking leading questions. Have a few emergency topics on stand-by; everyone has an answer to questions like “how would you spend your lottery millions?” and “where's your dream vacation?” so keep them on reserve.
6. Female Friends
The ultimate pick up artist accessory is a female best friend. A female friend's recommendation if worth more than any number of males'; when a cute chick see another gorgeous girl spending time with you, she assumes that you're someone worth knowing.
The secret to becoming the ultimate pick up artist is to act like you deserve to be one. Show pride in yourself, your surroundings and your achievements and any woman will be proud to be seen on your arm.
Want to learn 50 WAYS for approaching, attracting and seducing women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson's Free eBook which provides 50 tips for instant dating success.
How We Get Blown Out by Women
You are walking down the sidewalk when you see your ideal woman, total goddess, walking toward you.
Now when you think about, it seems like it might be the most natural thing in the world to genuinely go over and interact with this beautiful creature, and yet for most men that's not the case.
Quite the contrary, right?
"I'm genuinely attracted and interested in these women and yet I'm consistently terrified, terrified to approach them...What's up? What's going on here?"
This is where coming at this from an inner game perspective can make a huge difference, FAST.
A lot of women, women that we are just undeniably drawn to, are literally radiating a lot of what I call 'feminine energy'.
Yet ironically, for a lot of men this is both the source of your attraction and your contraction.
We close down in the face of her radiance because of how little capacity we have to receive or be with a lot of sensation in general.
In more common language we're getting "blown out". She's kicking a lot of feminine juju and we're getting energetically short-circuited before we even start our approach. Starting to sound familiar now?
Later on you'll realize what you would've liked to say, or the perfect joke you could've made...Yet for many if you it's as if you're not functioning, literally short-circuiting, in those moments.
Good news:
Men can proactively cultivate more presence with radiant women.
You might have to experience this directly to fully understand it, but you might have noticed that a lot of men who take to this work more naturally have practiced a lot of martial arts or yoga. They have actively cultivated the capacity to fully be with a lot of sensation and intensity without losing their center.
Whether you go out and start working on your black belt or not, I've actually found that for most of you simply becoming aware of how you close off from feeling can make a huge difference. With or without intense training, you can be with a lot more energy than you think, once you at least know to try.
Really Get This: The source of you shutting down with extraordinarily beautiful women, in those clutch moments, is you hutting down from what you're feeling!
Now, what to do about it?
You have to start by getting familiar, real cozy with the particular ways that you habitually close off from intense sensations. Your hands get clammy, knot in your stomach, you start thinking not so empowering thoughts repeatedly...?
What are the specific ways you personally shut down what you're feeling?
Start tracking the sensations in your body and the thoughts that fire off. Keep breathing deeply…because holding tight and stopping your breath are all good ways to avoid feeling.
By bringing awareness to these reactive tendencies, without trying to suppress, change or fix them, we begin to make room for them. And this is the beginning of having freedom from these reactions.
We go into more detail about this in the FREE Special Report from AMP on the Ultimate Guide to Overcoming ‘Inner Game’ Sticking Points with Women
To get it, go to: http://www.AuthenticManProgram.com/
Decker
President, Authentic Man Program
Travis Decker is co-founder and facilitator of the Authentic Man Program, committed to supporting men in having authentic, flourishing, kick-ass relationships with women. He specializes in helping men overcome their "inner game" sticking points with women. www.AuthenticManProgram.com
Now when you think about, it seems like it might be the most natural thing in the world to genuinely go over and interact with this beautiful creature, and yet for most men that's not the case.
Quite the contrary, right?
"I'm genuinely attracted and interested in these women and yet I'm consistently terrified, terrified to approach them...What's up? What's going on here?"
This is where coming at this from an inner game perspective can make a huge difference, FAST.
A lot of women, women that we are just undeniably drawn to, are literally radiating a lot of what I call 'feminine energy'.
Yet ironically, for a lot of men this is both the source of your attraction and your contraction.
We close down in the face of her radiance because of how little capacity we have to receive or be with a lot of sensation in general.
In more common language we're getting "blown out". She's kicking a lot of feminine juju and we're getting energetically short-circuited before we even start our approach. Starting to sound familiar now?
Later on you'll realize what you would've liked to say, or the perfect joke you could've made...Yet for many if you it's as if you're not functioning, literally short-circuiting, in those moments.
Good news:
Men can proactively cultivate more presence with radiant women.
You might have to experience this directly to fully understand it, but you might have noticed that a lot of men who take to this work more naturally have practiced a lot of martial arts or yoga. They have actively cultivated the capacity to fully be with a lot of sensation and intensity without losing their center.
Whether you go out and start working on your black belt or not, I've actually found that for most of you simply becoming aware of how you close off from feeling can make a huge difference. With or without intense training, you can be with a lot more energy than you think, once you at least know to try.
Really Get This: The source of you shutting down with extraordinarily beautiful women, in those clutch moments, is you hutting down from what you're feeling!
Now, what to do about it?
You have to start by getting familiar, real cozy with the particular ways that you habitually close off from intense sensations. Your hands get clammy, knot in your stomach, you start thinking not so empowering thoughts repeatedly...?
What are the specific ways you personally shut down what you're feeling?
Start tracking the sensations in your body and the thoughts that fire off. Keep breathing deeply…because holding tight and stopping your breath are all good ways to avoid feeling.
By bringing awareness to these reactive tendencies, without trying to suppress, change or fix them, we begin to make room for them. And this is the beginning of having freedom from these reactions.
We go into more detail about this in the FREE Special Report from AMP on the Ultimate Guide to Overcoming ‘Inner Game’ Sticking Points with Women
To get it, go to: http://www.AuthenticManProgram.com/
Decker
President, Authentic Man Program
Travis Decker is co-founder and facilitator of the Authentic Man Program, committed to supporting men in having authentic, flourishing, kick-ass relationships with women. He specializes in helping men overcome their "inner game" sticking points with women. www.AuthenticManProgram.com
Body Language To ATTRACT Women - 4 Tips You MUST Know
We all know that body lanaguage counts for 97% of our communication yet most of us focus on our core outer game learning techniques, lines, and one line gambits.
Is this you?
There's nothing wrong with doing that ... however if that's ALL you doing we'll need to work on this...
"Using body language to attract women" is a lot more difficult put into practice than said as it takes a few months at least to callibrate and 'unlearn' bad body language.
Have you ever seen attractive hot women around not so good looking guys?
Of course you have! so what are they doing that I'm not was what I asked myself many years ago.
Notice how the way they present themselves, the way they stand and hold themselves, how they speak to women, authoritivly, firm yet also kind and frienly like.
This is all in their body language and this includes:
-Stance; facing girls to eaglery and early on conveys "needy rapport seeking behavoir" so occasionly backturn and point your feet in another direction.
Always keep your back straight, shoulders back, chest out, groin out, stomach in (do I sound like a drill instructor) : )
-Eye contact; dont STARE as this is creepy, however domt look around and avoid eye contact, and make sure you blink. I've met guys who don't blink and it's a little off putting, I'm sure this dries your eyes out too.
-Touch the girls!; if you dont touch them then it'll convey your not comfortable touching women, women dont want this kind of guy, women want men that are comfortable around them. The trick here is to treat them like a frined ...
-Voice tonality; be LOUD, the biggest stepping stone in my game was the strenght of my voice. The louder I became I noticed I was holding my inteeractions for a lot longer.
How would you treat a mate of yours? Exactly!
It comes down to finding a balance beacsue being a total dick yelling at women won't get you laid, however being too nice and rapport seeking defintly wont get you laid (you know this already) so where is this balance you ask?
It comes down to practice and observation then more practice.
Body Language Tips #1 The first tip is to be as RELAXED as you can, imagine a sudden calm coming over you, take a deep breath and exhale over 5 seconds. If your relaxed it'll help you feel more "in the moment" and your body language will communicate this. You will also have much better and longer intereactions with women.
Remember when talking to women you've just met dont give them too much attention, keep your frame strong and upward (dont slouch), and speak from your diagphram so your voice is deep and LOUD.
Body Language Tips #2 Treat them like a mate. If your mate says something funny you would laugh and slap them on the back (gently). Why should this be any diifrent to a woman?
If you want her to feel comfortable in your presence you have to SHOW that you're comfortable by displaying you're not afraid to treat her like a buddy.
Body Language Tips #3 Take up space. Have you ever noticed that the body language of high status males is relaxed and 'sprwaling', they take up a lot of space. High stautus men are not afreaid to taking up other peoples room, they sit with their legs apart, their arms unfolded and look like they're sitting in their living room. This ideally should be the way you are sitting.
You will have to fake it until you make it.
Body Language Tips #4 SMILE and keep your body lanaguage positive. Try to keep your posture open, your arms and legs unfolded, your chin up and move slowly. Imagine you're under water ideally that's how slow you should be moving.
Talk soon!
Alex
Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.
For more information and to claim access to Alex Coulson's "5 Step System" Audio E-course for FREE (limited time only) head over to http://www.alexcoulson.com
Is this you?
There's nothing wrong with doing that ... however if that's ALL you doing we'll need to work on this...
"Using body language to attract women" is a lot more difficult put into practice than said as it takes a few months at least to callibrate and 'unlearn' bad body language.
Have you ever seen attractive hot women around not so good looking guys?
Of course you have! so what are they doing that I'm not was what I asked myself many years ago.
Notice how the way they present themselves, the way they stand and hold themselves, how they speak to women, authoritivly, firm yet also kind and frienly like.
This is all in their body language and this includes:
-Stance; facing girls to eaglery and early on conveys "needy rapport seeking behavoir" so occasionly backturn and point your feet in another direction.
Always keep your back straight, shoulders back, chest out, groin out, stomach in (do I sound like a drill instructor) : )
-Eye contact; dont STARE as this is creepy, however domt look around and avoid eye contact, and make sure you blink. I've met guys who don't blink and it's a little off putting, I'm sure this dries your eyes out too.
-Touch the girls!; if you dont touch them then it'll convey your not comfortable touching women, women dont want this kind of guy, women want men that are comfortable around them. The trick here is to treat them like a frined ...
-Voice tonality; be LOUD, the biggest stepping stone in my game was the strenght of my voice. The louder I became I noticed I was holding my inteeractions for a lot longer.
How would you treat a mate of yours? Exactly!
It comes down to finding a balance beacsue being a total dick yelling at women won't get you laid, however being too nice and rapport seeking defintly wont get you laid (you know this already) so where is this balance you ask?
It comes down to practice and observation then more practice.
Body Language Tips #1 The first tip is to be as RELAXED as you can, imagine a sudden calm coming over you, take a deep breath and exhale over 5 seconds. If your relaxed it'll help you feel more "in the moment" and your body language will communicate this. You will also have much better and longer intereactions with women.
Remember when talking to women you've just met dont give them too much attention, keep your frame strong and upward (dont slouch), and speak from your diagphram so your voice is deep and LOUD.
Body Language Tips #2 Treat them like a mate. If your mate says something funny you would laugh and slap them on the back (gently). Why should this be any diifrent to a woman?
If you want her to feel comfortable in your presence you have to SHOW that you're comfortable by displaying you're not afraid to treat her like a buddy.
Body Language Tips #3 Take up space. Have you ever noticed that the body language of high status males is relaxed and 'sprwaling', they take up a lot of space. High stautus men are not afreaid to taking up other peoples room, they sit with their legs apart, their arms unfolded and look like they're sitting in their living room. This ideally should be the way you are sitting.
You will have to fake it until you make it.
Body Language Tips #4 SMILE and keep your body lanaguage positive. Try to keep your posture open, your arms and legs unfolded, your chin up and move slowly. Imagine you're under water ideally that's how slow you should be moving.
Talk soon!
Alex
Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.
For more information and to claim access to Alex Coulson's "5 Step System" Audio E-course for FREE (limited time only) head over to http://www.alexcoulson.com
Cocky & Funny - Playfully Teasing Women
how to be cocky and funny Cocky and funny is a term coined by David Deangelo author and creator of Double Your Dating.
Cocky and funny is the foundation of what David Deangelo teaches and is simply gaming using a simple style of "insulting with a smile" then making her laugh.
Very simple yes?
However if you're just starting out in this BEWARE as your results will be mixed and varied. Be weary of the way you pronounce the lines he gives you as you can come across as arrogant.
When I first discovered how to be cocky and funny with women, I was delighted as a new wave of oppurtunities came upon me. whenever I was out in coffee shops, bars, juice stations the waitresses would soon know me by name and know I would be bussting their balls so to speak.
Here's the deal...
Cocky and funny is a great tool for demonstrating that you're not an approval-seeking, butt-kissing, nice guy.
Used right, cocky & funny will attract women and demonstrate a lot of important traits that women are looking for in a guy, such as:
Confidence. Humour. Challenge. Unpredictability. Social intelligence. Used incorrectly and women will see you as too arrogant, insecure or weird. I leave it in your ball park ... How to be cocky and funny: Tip #1 CAFE: I'll just arrive at a cafe and take a seat so the waitress comes out and before she can take my order I'll say Alex: Hi there, can I take your order? Her: haha I'm supposed to say that! Alex: Really...I've been sitting here for the last 20 minutes without any coffee and look at me I'm all dehydrated ... BOOKSTORE: I'll be walking around a bookstore and spot an attractive woman flicking through a book Alex: Hi there ..you know I read that book recently it's a fantatcis book by the way... would you like to know the ending?
If you want to learn the cocky & funny secrets that I discovered after years of trial and error in real-life situations with women, then check out Street Dating Revealed in this DVD I reveal killer tips for meeting women during the day in cafes, park benches and even on the street.
How to be cocky and funny: Tip #2 Don't be overly cocky as you can overdo this part and come across as arrogant and insecure. You need to find the right balance. If you have too much cockiness you will come across as a jerk and if you use too much "funniness" you will come across as too much of a nice guy or a funny man, women want both in men they seek so try to strike the right balance here. How to be cocky and funny Tip #3 Approach this technique from a casual point and being playful rather than being too seruois about it. Women will sense if you're trying too hard and it'll turn her off
How to be cocky and funny: Tip #4 Practice as much you can, when you're ordering your coffee Alex: Hi there what coffee do you reccomend? Her: Oh you have to try the caramel mochacino! It's new, bigger etc Alex: Hmmm sounds nice ... I'll have a flat white Her: hahaha The more you practice cocky and funny the better you'll become at it and more callibrated you will seem. This is in essnce a very powerful technique and should be the basis of all your intereactions, you should always be teasing and playfull pushing her away and pulling her back in. The more you experiemnt the better you'll get. Talk to you soon Alex www.alexcoulson.com
Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.
For more information and to claim access to Alex Coulson's "5 Step System" Audio E-course for FREE (limited time only) head over to http://www.alexcoulson.com
Cocky and funny is the foundation of what David Deangelo teaches and is simply gaming using a simple style of "insulting with a smile" then making her laugh.
Very simple yes?
However if you're just starting out in this BEWARE as your results will be mixed and varied. Be weary of the way you pronounce the lines he gives you as you can come across as arrogant.
When I first discovered how to be cocky and funny with women, I was delighted as a new wave of oppurtunities came upon me. whenever I was out in coffee shops, bars, juice stations the waitresses would soon know me by name and know I would be bussting their balls so to speak.
Here's the deal...
Cocky and funny is a great tool for demonstrating that you're not an approval-seeking, butt-kissing, nice guy.
Used right, cocky & funny will attract women and demonstrate a lot of important traits that women are looking for in a guy, such as:
Confidence. Humour. Challenge. Unpredictability. Social intelligence. Used incorrectly and women will see you as too arrogant, insecure or weird. I leave it in your ball park ... How to be cocky and funny: Tip #1 CAFE: I'll just arrive at a cafe and take a seat so the waitress comes out and before she can take my order I'll say Alex: Hi there, can I take your order? Her: haha I'm supposed to say that! Alex: Really...I've been sitting here for the last 20 minutes without any coffee and look at me I'm all dehydrated ...
If you want to learn the cocky & funny secrets that I discovered after years of trial and error in real-life situations with women, then check out Street Dating Revealed in this DVD I reveal killer tips for meeting women during the day in cafes, park benches and even on the street.
How to be cocky and funny: Tip #2 Don't be overly cocky as you can overdo this part and come across as arrogant and insecure. You need to find the right balance. If you have too much cockiness you will come across as a jerk and if you use too much "funniness" you will come across as too much of a nice guy or a funny man, women want both in men they seek so try to strike the right balance here. How to be cocky and funny Tip #3 Approach this technique from a casual point and being playful rather than being too seruois about it. Women will sense if you're trying too hard and it'll turn her off
How to be cocky and funny: Tip #4 Practice as much you can, when you're ordering your coffee Alex: Hi there what coffee do you reccomend? Her: Oh you have to try the caramel mochacino! It's new, bigger etc Alex: Hmmm sounds nice ... I'll have a flat white
Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.
For more information and to claim access to Alex Coulson's "5 Step System" Audio E-course for FREE (limited time only) head over to http://www.alexcoulson.com
Wednesday, December 12, 2007
Romantic Christmas Gift Ideas for the Special Woman in Your Life
Picking out that perfect Christmas gift for your special girl can be extremely hard. - Whether you're buying on a budget, or buying for the girl who has everything, finding something wonderful, unique, and romantic every Christmas can be a daunting task! Every man wants to see his lady's face light up when he presents her that perfect gift, but what present will do that? Is it really as hard as it seems? Of course not! The great news is that romantic and memorable Christmas gifts don't always have to come from the wallet. - But with a bit of wit, ingenuity, and some romance, you can put together a Christmas present that will make her heart melt. Here are some great ideas for romantic and unique gifts that your girl will love to receive!
Gift baskets are an age-old tradition, and while they may sound a bit cheesy, with the right personality thrown in and a hint of romance, you can make a special little bundle that will appeal to her every tastes. The best place to start, of course, is with the staples - pick out some nice chocolate candies that you know she likes. Girls love tasty, well-decorated chocolate, so pick up a box or two. Throw in some nice flowers for looks, just a few pieces of her favorite fruit for class. Now, however, is where you want to really make it shine. Personalize it just for her, and make it romantic. Write her a special love note telling her how special she is to you and tuck it into the flowers. If there is a picture of the two of you together she really likes, include it as well. Also, keep in mind her likes and dislikes - if she likes a particular restaurant or place to shop, include a gift card so that she can indulge herself. You might pick out a CD if she wants one - anything small that makes it just right for her. Top it all off with a pretty bow, and you've got yourself a winner!
If you have an even smaller budget, or you're simply looking for a nice extra something to put under the tree for her, a memory box is a great way to go. A memory box is a way to capture many of the special memories the two of you have had throughout the past year. It tells her that you remember all of the small, wonderful things you do together, and that you enjoy every moment with her. Obviously you need the perfect box, and you can find them in all shapes and sizes at your local craft store. Ideally, you'll want something pretty that she can use as a decoration if she'd like, but it doesn't have to be anything fancy. Once you've found the perfect box, it's time to fill it with all of the important stuff. Pictures are a great idea, so try to find a few that are special and will remind her of something fun the two of you did together. If you've got a few small treasures from places you've visited, you can include those. Also, try to find a few small trinkets at the store that will remind her of something special. Once you've assembled the perfect memory box, wrap it up in paper, and prepare to see her heart melt.
There's nothing more romantic than curling up on the sofa in front of a toasty fire watching a movie with your loved one. - Which is why setting up the perfect movie night gift is not only a fun present, but a romantic one as well! Start off by finding one or more movies that she either loves or has really wanted to see, and buy them. Make sure to buy her favorite movie candies as well, and a big tub of yummy popcorn! Find a soft and pretty throw blanket as well and right there you have everything you need for a snuggle on the sofa and lots of movies to watch! Of course nothing makes this more romantic than actually doing the movie night, so make sure to find a time to turn out the lights, snuggle up, and watch them!
Finally is a very unique gift idea that takes classic romance, gives it a new-age twist, and combines it with pure functionality. Would your special someone like to have one of those handy USB drives? Those little sticks that plug into your computer and are used to save files are extremely useful, portable, and make a great gift. If you think she'd like one, you need to take this opportunity to really show her you're thinking about her! Go out and buy one that would be perfect for her, but instead of simply wrapping it up, open it. Plug it into your computer, and get to work. Compile a digital scrapbook of pictures. They can be of anything, just try to find things that will make her heart melt. A good idea is to use pictures that are special to her, and ones that are old and haven't been seen in a while. Once you've gotten them all together, save them onto the flash drive, along with a specially written love note from you. Find a box for it, wrap it up, and give it to her!
A loving and romantic present doesn't have to be expensive, and often the most romantic of gifts is the one that has a little bit of wit and ingenuity and a lot of love in it. Women love gifts that make memories, or remind them of beautiful ones they've had in the past, and by keeping this in mind it really isn't hard at all to find something wonderful to give to her this holiday season. Think outside the box, find her something wonderful and unique, and make this a Christmas to remember for your lovely lady!
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Gift baskets are an age-old tradition, and while they may sound a bit cheesy, with the right personality thrown in and a hint of romance, you can make a special little bundle that will appeal to her every tastes. The best place to start, of course, is with the staples - pick out some nice chocolate candies that you know she likes. Girls love tasty, well-decorated chocolate, so pick up a box or two. Throw in some nice flowers for looks, just a few pieces of her favorite fruit for class. Now, however, is where you want to really make it shine. Personalize it just for her, and make it romantic. Write her a special love note telling her how special she is to you and tuck it into the flowers. If there is a picture of the two of you together she really likes, include it as well. Also, keep in mind her likes and dislikes - if she likes a particular restaurant or place to shop, include a gift card so that she can indulge herself. You might pick out a CD if she wants one - anything small that makes it just right for her. Top it all off with a pretty bow, and you've got yourself a winner!
If you have an even smaller budget, or you're simply looking for a nice extra something to put under the tree for her, a memory box is a great way to go. A memory box is a way to capture many of the special memories the two of you have had throughout the past year. It tells her that you remember all of the small, wonderful things you do together, and that you enjoy every moment with her. Obviously you need the perfect box, and you can find them in all shapes and sizes at your local craft store. Ideally, you'll want something pretty that she can use as a decoration if she'd like, but it doesn't have to be anything fancy. Once you've found the perfect box, it's time to fill it with all of the important stuff. Pictures are a great idea, so try to find a few that are special and will remind her of something fun the two of you did together. If you've got a few small treasures from places you've visited, you can include those. Also, try to find a few small trinkets at the store that will remind her of something special. Once you've assembled the perfect memory box, wrap it up in paper, and prepare to see her heart melt.
There's nothing more romantic than curling up on the sofa in front of a toasty fire watching a movie with your loved one. - Which is why setting up the perfect movie night gift is not only a fun present, but a romantic one as well! Start off by finding one or more movies that she either loves or has really wanted to see, and buy them. Make sure to buy her favorite movie candies as well, and a big tub of yummy popcorn! Find a soft and pretty throw blanket as well and right there you have everything you need for a snuggle on the sofa and lots of movies to watch! Of course nothing makes this more romantic than actually doing the movie night, so make sure to find a time to turn out the lights, snuggle up, and watch them!
Finally is a very unique gift idea that takes classic romance, gives it a new-age twist, and combines it with pure functionality. Would your special someone like to have one of those handy USB drives? Those little sticks that plug into your computer and are used to save files are extremely useful, portable, and make a great gift. If you think she'd like one, you need to take this opportunity to really show her you're thinking about her! Go out and buy one that would be perfect for her, but instead of simply wrapping it up, open it. Plug it into your computer, and get to work. Compile a digital scrapbook of pictures. They can be of anything, just try to find things that will make her heart melt. A good idea is to use pictures that are special to her, and ones that are old and haven't been seen in a while. Once you've gotten them all together, save them onto the flash drive, along with a specially written love note from you. Find a box for it, wrap it up, and give it to her!
A loving and romantic present doesn't have to be expensive, and often the most romantic of gifts is the one that has a little bit of wit and ingenuity and a lot of love in it. Women love gifts that make memories, or remind them of beautiful ones they've had in the past, and by keeping this in mind it really isn't hard at all to find something wonderful to give to her this holiday season. Think outside the box, find her something wonderful and unique, and make this a Christmas to remember for your lovely lady!
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Dating Body Language tips for Men
Nothing is more important in dating than body language. It will make or break your first impression to a woman. She decides in the first 3 minutes whether you are a yes, no or maybe. You can be percieved as dating material, just through your body language presentation. The key to flirting with women is good body language.
Non verbal communication makes up 75% of human communication, it is more important than the words. You can even say the wrong things and they will work because nonverbal actions speak directly to the womans sub-conscous mind. These are things that are hard to fake and women know that.
Your body language habits are learned over a lifetime. But remember they are only habits, you can make new habits. There is confident body language and insecure ones. You need to avoid the bad habits and teach yourself to practice confident body language. Simple things like don't lean in right away, wait for her to earn some attention by doing something you like. Don't be closed, keep yourself open by not crossing your arms and looking like you want to be somewhere else.
Stay in the moment, listen to her and maintain eye contact 80% of the time. Spread out and relax, take up more space act like you own the place. Walk directly up to a woman when you meet her for the first time. Don't hang back and gawk. Women go out to social gatherings to meet and talk to guys.
Here are some key points to watch in yourself:
1. Use your body language instead of words - concentrate on connecting with a girl with hand gestures, winks, a quirky smile and touch. Thats right you should start lightly touching her arm occasionally.
2. Just the right nod of the head or look, can communicate directly to her subconscous. Spreading out your body shows you are relaxed. Keep your arms and hands open instead of closed, show your palms to her.
3. Lift your shoulders and keep your chest up. Keep your eyes on her eyes while talking. Be more animated with your hand gestures as you talk to her and the group. Energy, fun and be enjoying yourself fully.
4. Don't keep looking over your shoulder. Stay interested in the conversation, adjust your clothes or hair it is a sign you are interested.
5. Smile a lot but not the whole time. Mirroring her body language is important as well.
When people connect they will naturally start copying each others stance, energy, mood, and communication style.
I hope you picked up some great tips on body language to start using right away. Body language is your weapon in the dating game. Learn it well.
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Non verbal communication makes up 75% of human communication, it is more important than the words. You can even say the wrong things and they will work because nonverbal actions speak directly to the womans sub-conscous mind. These are things that are hard to fake and women know that.
Your body language habits are learned over a lifetime. But remember they are only habits, you can make new habits. There is confident body language and insecure ones. You need to avoid the bad habits and teach yourself to practice confident body language. Simple things like don't lean in right away, wait for her to earn some attention by doing something you like. Don't be closed, keep yourself open by not crossing your arms and looking like you want to be somewhere else.
Stay in the moment, listen to her and maintain eye contact 80% of the time. Spread out and relax, take up more space act like you own the place. Walk directly up to a woman when you meet her for the first time. Don't hang back and gawk. Women go out to social gatherings to meet and talk to guys.
Here are some key points to watch in yourself:
1. Use your body language instead of words - concentrate on connecting with a girl with hand gestures, winks, a quirky smile and touch. Thats right you should start lightly touching her arm occasionally.
2. Just the right nod of the head or look, can communicate directly to her subconscous. Spreading out your body shows you are relaxed. Keep your arms and hands open instead of closed, show your palms to her.
3. Lift your shoulders and keep your chest up. Keep your eyes on her eyes while talking. Be more animated with your hand gestures as you talk to her and the group. Energy, fun and be enjoying yourself fully.
4. Don't keep looking over your shoulder. Stay interested in the conversation, adjust your clothes or hair it is a sign you are interested.
5. Smile a lot but not the whole time. Mirroring her body language is important as well.
When people connect they will naturally start copying each others stance, energy, mood, and communication style.
I hope you picked up some great tips on body language to start using right away. Body language is your weapon in the dating game. Learn it well.
Get your Free online Dating Tips Course.attraction skills be sure and visit http://www.attractingwomentoday.com
Body Language to get more women
By now you are aware of the importance of confident body language. But what are some ways to make you look like dating material to a woman? I am going to share with you some exact skills to attain.
Women pay attention to body language, it literally tells them all they need to know to make a decision about you in the first few minutes. Sometimes immediately. It is subconscious, they just feel it. If your body language says loser, it wont matter what you say.
Body language is a key ingredient in flirting with women. Flirting is important when interacting with them, if you don't flirt you will be in friends zone so fast it will hurt you.
Here are some major mistakes guys make with body language, just stop doing these and your dating success rate will skyrocket.
1. Keep your hands still- Don't be playing with glasses, tapping your fingers or jamming your hands in your pockets. Just let your hands relax. Don't fidget. Keep your palms up and open towards the girl.
2. Eye Contact- This one is huge. Maintain eye contact with everybody and smile quite a bit. Looking into a womans eye is looking into her soul. Gaze at her pupils, when her pupils get bigger, she is interested. When a woman catches you looking the first time, DON'T LOOK AWAY. Keep looking at her until she looks away first. Do this and she will be impressed with your confidence.
3. Crossing your arms- is a real negative body language example. Avoid it by keeping your arms to the sides and be sure you are spread out.
4. Don't slouch- stay upright and relaxed. You are a man use good body language.
5. Your voice needs to be deeper and not sound like a wimp. Speak louder than you think feels natural. You are probably always talking to quietly when you first meet a woman. Have some energy in your voice.
6. Move like James Bond- Slow gestures and movements, Think smooth and relaxed, you are not in a hurry.
7. It isn't what you say that makes a huge difference. Having the body language of a natural cool guy makes the difference. Watch how the good guys work. Pick up some of there tricks and try them yourself.
8. Don't avoid looking at people, it appears you are insecure and not being honest.
Body language is really all about how you carry yourself and your presence in front of others. You need to carry yourself in a strong, effective way. You exude confidence, power and optimism. You know what you want and how to get it. When people look at you they can feel your power. They will want to be around you and women will want to date you. I suggest you read as much as you can on body language and dating. Then get out there and practice it on everybody.
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Women pay attention to body language, it literally tells them all they need to know to make a decision about you in the first few minutes. Sometimes immediately. It is subconscious, they just feel it. If your body language says loser, it wont matter what you say.
Body language is a key ingredient in flirting with women. Flirting is important when interacting with them, if you don't flirt you will be in friends zone so fast it will hurt you.
Here are some major mistakes guys make with body language, just stop doing these and your dating success rate will skyrocket.
1. Keep your hands still- Don't be playing with glasses, tapping your fingers or jamming your hands in your pockets. Just let your hands relax. Don't fidget. Keep your palms up and open towards the girl.
2. Eye Contact- This one is huge. Maintain eye contact with everybody and smile quite a bit. Looking into a womans eye is looking into her soul. Gaze at her pupils, when her pupils get bigger, she is interested. When a woman catches you looking the first time, DON'T LOOK AWAY. Keep looking at her until she looks away first. Do this and she will be impressed with your confidence.
3. Crossing your arms- is a real negative body language example. Avoid it by keeping your arms to the sides and be sure you are spread out.
4. Don't slouch- stay upright and relaxed. You are a man use good body language.
5. Your voice needs to be deeper and not sound like a wimp. Speak louder than you think feels natural. You are probably always talking to quietly when you first meet a woman. Have some energy in your voice.
6. Move like James Bond- Slow gestures and movements, Think smooth and relaxed, you are not in a hurry.
7. It isn't what you say that makes a huge difference. Having the body language of a natural cool guy makes the difference. Watch how the good guys work. Pick up some of there tricks and try them yourself.
8. Don't avoid looking at people, it appears you are insecure and not being honest.
Body language is really all about how you carry yourself and your presence in front of others. You need to carry yourself in a strong, effective way. You exude confidence, power and optimism. You know what you want and how to get it. When people look at you they can feel your power. They will want to be around you and women will want to date you. I suggest you read as much as you can on body language and dating. Then get out there and practice it on everybody.
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Friday, December 7, 2007
Dating Tip: You Can Have a Great Time If You Follow These 4 Tips
You do not want to expect too much, especially since those last four dates with four different girls did not go so well. Who are we kidding? They were unmitigated disasters. One ended in a pretty nasty argument after a minor misunderstanding. The other two were filled with so much awkward silences that you started to think that you were in a library that was holding church services. And of course you cannot really count the last since after making all the arrangements she did not bother to show up. When you tried to call the phone was disconnected. Even the operator had a bad feeling about that one.
But it looks like all systems are go. In fact there she is now. Now you do not have any control over what she may say or do, so the person to really keep in eye on is you. Part one and two are taken care of, i.e., you have arrived promptly and groomed yourself to the hilt. Now comes game time.
1. Where's the gift?
That is a nice way to get the date started on the right foot. In your many online chats with her you should have a sense about what kind of things she likes. Unless you have the bucks stay away from anything extravagant. Remember you just met. Yes you want to impress her but being overly generous might cause her to think you are trying to buy a date not woo her with your natural personality and charm. With most women little things given from the heart mean a lot.
2. Gee she looks swell
The old fashioned compliments can work wonders. Let her know you appreciate her efforts by complimenting her clothes or hairstyle. Be sincere. Not only is it proper but also because women seem to have built in detectors that let them know when we are being phony. No need to go overboard with it. A genuine smile periodically throughout the evening without saying a word will make the point quite nicely.
3. Talk to me
This has been the make or break point in many dates. Failing to come prepared with good conversation will find you right back at the computer looking for another potential date. Keep in mind some of the things you both talked about in your online chat. Add to your conversation arsenal by staying informed on various current events.
The key to this is to listen as much as you talk. Ask questions and get her opinion. Avoid conversation hogging or slapping down her attempts to contribute to the discussions. Nothing spells jerk like going on a date and falling in love with the sound of your own voice.
4. The Gentleman
Every woman wants to be treated like a lady especially on a date, so mind your manners. Open the car and/or restaurant door for her. Pay for the evening out on the town. If she wants to go dutch, be the gentleman and accept. Some women particularly on a first date do not want to be obligated in any way. That is understandable so do not force the issue. Also as a gentleman focus on her and not whatever woman comes into your line of vision. Remember they did not agree to go out with you; she did so let her know that right now she is the central woman in your life. Again you have no control over the other person so concentrate on what you can do. Bring a gift and compliments without over doing it. Come prepared with good conversation and be a gentleman. Is she the right one? That is going to be pretty hard to tell after one date but utilizing these tips will almost guarantee a second one and a chance to connect more deeply.
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But it looks like all systems are go. In fact there she is now. Now you do not have any control over what she may say or do, so the person to really keep in eye on is you. Part one and two are taken care of, i.e., you have arrived promptly and groomed yourself to the hilt. Now comes game time.
1. Where's the gift?
That is a nice way to get the date started on the right foot. In your many online chats with her you should have a sense about what kind of things she likes. Unless you have the bucks stay away from anything extravagant. Remember you just met. Yes you want to impress her but being overly generous might cause her to think you are trying to buy a date not woo her with your natural personality and charm. With most women little things given from the heart mean a lot.
2. Gee she looks swell
The old fashioned compliments can work wonders. Let her know you appreciate her efforts by complimenting her clothes or hairstyle. Be sincere. Not only is it proper but also because women seem to have built in detectors that let them know when we are being phony. No need to go overboard with it. A genuine smile periodically throughout the evening without saying a word will make the point quite nicely.
3. Talk to me
This has been the make or break point in many dates. Failing to come prepared with good conversation will find you right back at the computer looking for another potential date. Keep in mind some of the things you both talked about in your online chat. Add to your conversation arsenal by staying informed on various current events.
The key to this is to listen as much as you talk. Ask questions and get her opinion. Avoid conversation hogging or slapping down her attempts to contribute to the discussions. Nothing spells jerk like going on a date and falling in love with the sound of your own voice.
4. The Gentleman
Every woman wants to be treated like a lady especially on a date, so mind your manners. Open the car and/or restaurant door for her. Pay for the evening out on the town. If she wants to go dutch, be the gentleman and accept. Some women particularly on a first date do not want to be obligated in any way. That is understandable so do not force the issue. Also as a gentleman focus on her and not whatever woman comes into your line of vision. Remember they did not agree to go out with you; she did so let her know that right now she is the central woman in your life. Again you have no control over the other person so concentrate on what you can do. Bring a gift and compliments without over doing it. Come prepared with good conversation and be a gentleman. Is she the right one? That is going to be pretty hard to tell after one date but utilizing these tips will almost guarantee a second one and a chance to connect more deeply.
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How to use your girl friend and have her love you for it
Gallagher, that icon of the eighties said it best, ‘the difference between a male and a female is a male can walk by a shoe store, especially when he has shoes on his feet.’ You have my permission to use it at those wonderful upcoming holiday parties; I don’t know if you still need Gallagher’s permission. But the truth of the matter is, women love to shop, women love to spend money, women love to buy things. I am not sure they like things more than men; in fact I am quite sure men like their possessions more than women, partly because the act of obtaining them is not a religious experience for them, but the possessions men own tend to be more revered. Men also tend to have fewer of them.
Men’s homes are less knick-knackery, less cluttered, less homey. Men’s homes tend to be stark compared to women’s, tend to have better electronics, and perhaps one incredible chair or sofa. Some exercise equipment, and a coffee table. What they lack is stuff like, paintings, candles, pillows that complement the curtains, kitchen tables that weren’t salvaged from some garage. Towels that complement anything in the house, and a bed that is meant to be a show piece instead of only for two things, passing out on, and you know what else. To that end men, you should keep it clean, and your room fairly decent. Keep your soiled briefs and tainted socks in a laundry basket, not left in a trail to your pass out zone.
So it occurred to me one hung over morning that a painting above my fireplace would be nice. The living room was let’s face it, bland. Not only was it dominated by that ridiculously large TV I had to have for a Super Bowl party four years ago, that was now screaming outdated like a white Chevrolet Suburban, but my girl friend was right I needed some color in here. I liked the Aztec clay that my walls were painted; the trouble is everything else was some shade of brown or other. Even the curtains my honey special ordered from The Pottery Barn. In her defense my walls at that time were going to be painted blue, so everything she brought in was a hue of brown, and the rug I picked out, and the sofa my mother bought were all brown.. It goes unnoticed by me, most of the time, and my girl friend stopped remarking on it after the first seven months or so.
But on this dreary lonely, quiet morning, where even the soulful sounds of Lucinda Williams couldn’t comfort the blues I was working up, I decided I needed art. Which meant a day, or a weekend, or a month of weekends, going through galleries being met by shopkeepers that were either pretentious or hovering, looking at one painting after another, until they blurred together like past loves.
I would have to take my girlfriend of course, I didn’t always agree with her taste, but she knows my taste even better than I do. And going into a shop without her by my side, would be like letting people know I have moments where I am insecure. Neither of which is ever going to happen. Shopping with my special someone is fun, to a point. When it comes to shopping I just don’t have that much stamina, those shop lights just tire my eyes, my head, and my feet. My favorite shops have comfortable chairs in a corner, where I can sit out of the way until my sweetie is ready to move on. She never buys anything with me, and it feels like when I take her to a ball game. The gesture is nice, but the energy to enjoy it just isn’t there. Certain activities were created to be enjoyed with your gender. Men have sports and sports, both watching and playing. I would have added drinking, but there are times when drinking with a woman has its definite pay-offs. Women have shopping, eating lunch, going to salons, power walking, and going to the bathroom.
When my girl friend goes shopping with her friends, things are purchased, deals are made, and memories are created. Celebratory desserts and wine consumed, and she comes home pleased with life. Victory has been had. It is as if she took three strokes off her golf score.
So the prospect of getting art on my fireplace was not looking bright. Either giving up weekend after weekend thumbing through art, until succumbing to that hopelessness that would lead me to purchase the very next non-ridiculous thing I saw. Or just sit here in all my UPSness décor.
And then it dawned on me, I can give her my credit card, with the direction on buying something for over my fireplace. She can round up her troops, there is shopping to be had, cars will be filled, plans of attack made, and she has a credit card. They can have desserts, she can sneak on there a pair of shoes, and I get a nice piece of art to complement my living room, my tastes. And the next hung over morning I have, I can admire my wall above my fireplace, and then worry about the throw pillows.
Mac McMann writes from the male point of view at www.manslant.com. He can be reached at mac@manslant.com
Men’s homes are less knick-knackery, less cluttered, less homey. Men’s homes tend to be stark compared to women’s, tend to have better electronics, and perhaps one incredible chair or sofa. Some exercise equipment, and a coffee table. What they lack is stuff like, paintings, candles, pillows that complement the curtains, kitchen tables that weren’t salvaged from some garage. Towels that complement anything in the house, and a bed that is meant to be a show piece instead of only for two things, passing out on, and you know what else. To that end men, you should keep it clean, and your room fairly decent. Keep your soiled briefs and tainted socks in a laundry basket, not left in a trail to your pass out zone.
So it occurred to me one hung over morning that a painting above my fireplace would be nice. The living room was let’s face it, bland. Not only was it dominated by that ridiculously large TV I had to have for a Super Bowl party four years ago, that was now screaming outdated like a white Chevrolet Suburban, but my girl friend was right I needed some color in here. I liked the Aztec clay that my walls were painted; the trouble is everything else was some shade of brown or other. Even the curtains my honey special ordered from The Pottery Barn. In her defense my walls at that time were going to be painted blue, so everything she brought in was a hue of brown, and the rug I picked out, and the sofa my mother bought were all brown.. It goes unnoticed by me, most of the time, and my girl friend stopped remarking on it after the first seven months or so.
But on this dreary lonely, quiet morning, where even the soulful sounds of Lucinda Williams couldn’t comfort the blues I was working up, I decided I needed art. Which meant a day, or a weekend, or a month of weekends, going through galleries being met by shopkeepers that were either pretentious or hovering, looking at one painting after another, until they blurred together like past loves.
I would have to take my girlfriend of course, I didn’t always agree with her taste, but she knows my taste even better than I do. And going into a shop without her by my side, would be like letting people know I have moments where I am insecure. Neither of which is ever going to happen. Shopping with my special someone is fun, to a point. When it comes to shopping I just don’t have that much stamina, those shop lights just tire my eyes, my head, and my feet. My favorite shops have comfortable chairs in a corner, where I can sit out of the way until my sweetie is ready to move on. She never buys anything with me, and it feels like when I take her to a ball game. The gesture is nice, but the energy to enjoy it just isn’t there. Certain activities were created to be enjoyed with your gender. Men have sports and sports, both watching and playing. I would have added drinking, but there are times when drinking with a woman has its definite pay-offs. Women have shopping, eating lunch, going to salons, power walking, and going to the bathroom.
When my girl friend goes shopping with her friends, things are purchased, deals are made, and memories are created. Celebratory desserts and wine consumed, and she comes home pleased with life. Victory has been had. It is as if she took three strokes off her golf score.
So the prospect of getting art on my fireplace was not looking bright. Either giving up weekend after weekend thumbing through art, until succumbing to that hopelessness that would lead me to purchase the very next non-ridiculous thing I saw. Or just sit here in all my UPSness décor.
And then it dawned on me, I can give her my credit card, with the direction on buying something for over my fireplace. She can round up her troops, there is shopping to be had, cars will be filled, plans of attack made, and she has a credit card. They can have desserts, she can sneak on there a pair of shoes, and I get a nice piece of art to complement my living room, my tastes. And the next hung over morning I have, I can admire my wall above my fireplace, and then worry about the throw pillows.
Mac McMann writes from the male point of view at www.manslant.com. He can be reached at mac@manslant.com
Dating several ladies: is it possible?
Frankly speaking, some gentlemen are really confused when they see so many stunning Russian brides at Oksanalove.com. All those gorgeous ladies are also looking for someone to love, and of course they are selective in their preferences. All this makes a reason for a question: can I correspond with several women at once?
Gentlemen who are anxious to find his special Russian bride, feel themselves uncomfortable if they're dating with several girls at once. But at the same time they perfectly understand that they have to make a lifetime decision and to choose the right one to trust their destiny to. There are many different points of view on this issue what actually makes the thing worse. It makes guys torn over prospective with no confidence which's correct.
On the one hand, for some guys it seems appropriate to get to know several ladies because they have more chances to have "love chemistry" with at least one. Some afraid that if they correspond with one woman only and then find no chemistry during the personal meeting, then it all would have been a waste of their time, money and the most awful - crash of their dream.
The most complicated thing for men, dating several ladies online, is that each of these women is great, and men do not want to be wrong or hurt any of them without knowing in person. Some fear that each might feel that she has found "chemistry" with him. Any guy who simultaneously experiences several online affairs can get an increasing sense that each one of his ladies is feeling that their written relationship is becoming more serious.
It's very common that a man usually starts his online wife- search being in touch with several girls who he thinks as potentially having a chance to be the queen of his heart. Then, most of the guys narrow it down to just two or even one lady before making a visit. It can naturally happen that during the long months of correspondence some girl may find another guy whom she thinks is more alluring for her. Some men intentionally do the three-way conference calls to be sure about the feelings they and their ladies share, and of course to get rid of some concerns and doubts. So, when a guy orders a call in the agency he accounts to guess things from what he hears and then, he is also able to follow the girl's reaction in a live talk.
One more common question: do the ladies really understand that their online fiances may date other girls from their agency as well? The ladies usually guess they are not the only brides their men are correspondimg with. But they also truly understand that as for themselves as for their men it's a lifetime decision and the right choice can be vitally important. That's why all the ladies try to be as much sincere as possible. They all believe in their uniqueness and really hope their true nature and personality are going to work. Many of them the same as their men believe that they can truly determine a "soul mate" from letters but still the face-to-face date is needed to find the personal love chemistry.
The bottom line is: just listen to your heart. And if it says that this is the special person you were looking for, then go for it. But if there still some little doubts, and you want some insurance, then choose another one female whom you find interesting and you feel you would like to know her better. And then, while visiting your Russian bride you can also have another date that will make yourself comfortable and confident with your decision.
Oksana Boichenko. Oksanalove, Inc. The matchmaker with 12 years of experience in the online dating business. Thousands of happy marriages, thousands of successful matches and millions of amazing datings. And you can find your second half - just visit our site and find YOUR Russian bride!
Gentlemen who are anxious to find his special Russian bride, feel themselves uncomfortable if they're dating with several girls at once. But at the same time they perfectly understand that they have to make a lifetime decision and to choose the right one to trust their destiny to. There are many different points of view on this issue what actually makes the thing worse. It makes guys torn over prospective with no confidence which's correct.
On the one hand, for some guys it seems appropriate to get to know several ladies because they have more chances to have "love chemistry" with at least one. Some afraid that if they correspond with one woman only and then find no chemistry during the personal meeting, then it all would have been a waste of their time, money and the most awful - crash of their dream.
The most complicated thing for men, dating several ladies online, is that each of these women is great, and men do not want to be wrong or hurt any of them without knowing in person. Some fear that each might feel that she has found "chemistry" with him. Any guy who simultaneously experiences several online affairs can get an increasing sense that each one of his ladies is feeling that their written relationship is becoming more serious.
It's very common that a man usually starts his online wife- search being in touch with several girls who he thinks as potentially having a chance to be the queen of his heart. Then, most of the guys narrow it down to just two or even one lady before making a visit. It can naturally happen that during the long months of correspondence some girl may find another guy whom she thinks is more alluring for her. Some men intentionally do the three-way conference calls to be sure about the feelings they and their ladies share, and of course to get rid of some concerns and doubts. So, when a guy orders a call in the agency he accounts to guess things from what he hears and then, he is also able to follow the girl's reaction in a live talk.
One more common question: do the ladies really understand that their online fiances may date other girls from their agency as well? The ladies usually guess they are not the only brides their men are correspondimg with. But they also truly understand that as for themselves as for their men it's a lifetime decision and the right choice can be vitally important. That's why all the ladies try to be as much sincere as possible. They all believe in their uniqueness and really hope their true nature and personality are going to work. Many of them the same as their men believe that they can truly determine a "soul mate" from letters but still the face-to-face date is needed to find the personal love chemistry.
The bottom line is: just listen to your heart. And if it says that this is the special person you were looking for, then go for it. But if there still some little doubts, and you want some insurance, then choose another one female whom you find interesting and you feel you would like to know her better. And then, while visiting your Russian bride you can also have another date that will make yourself comfortable and confident with your decision.
Oksana Boichenko. Oksanalove, Inc. The matchmaker with 12 years of experience in the online dating business. Thousands of happy marriages, thousands of successful matches and millions of amazing datings. And you can find your second half - just visit our site and find YOUR Russian bride!
Best Conversations Starters- How to Initiate Conversations with Women
It doesn't matter how great your pick-up line is, it can only get you so far.
A funny joke and a cocky smile might get a girl's attention but if you don't know how to continue the conversation there's not much point in starting it. Even the wittiest of one liners followed by an awkward silence is unlikely to lead to a good time.
It you don't know how to talk to chicks, you're never going to score. Luckily for you, the art of conversation can be learned �" and I'm here to teach you.
The most important thing to remember is not to let her know you're nervous. This might sound easier said than done, but by simply standing up straight, relaxing your shoulders and giving her a smile you will instantly appear more relaxed.
When talking to a girl, always maintain eye contact. Being caught watching the big screen sports behind her or ogling another beauty will do you no favors. Meeting her gaze, on the other hand, shows that you're interested in her without you appearing intimidated.
Asking what brought her to this venue is an ideal conversation starter. If she's there for a special occasion, get her to tell you all about it. If it's a regular night out, ask about the other ways she fills her free time. Open ended questions demonstrate your genuine interest in her and by encouraging her to enthuse about things she enjoys you will help to put her at ease.
Pay her compliments, but choose them wisely. Admiring her choice of jewelry or telling her you noticed her foxy dancing will sound more sincere and less sleazy than simply saying she's sexy.
Keep the conversation positive and upbeat. Don't discuss anything which is bringing you down, be it work, sore knees or your neighbor's barking dog. Never, ever criticize the chick that you're hitting on and resist making snide remarks about any of the people around you �" not only would it make you appear like a negative person, but you can almost guarantee they would turn out to be her best friend.
When she asks you about yourself give honest, confident answers. Tell her what you enjoy and what you're good at, but never brag or imply that you're better than everyone else, and resist any urge to be self-critical.
If you're stuck for topics, pop culture gossip is great to fall back on. Ask her whose song is playing or tell her which gig or movie you last went to. Girls love to discuss the bizarre habits of the stars, so by simply mentioning a celebrity you can give your conversation a whole new lease of life.
Remember that she's nervous, too. Chicks are just as keen to meet you as you are to meet them, so you won't be the only one worrying about unplanned pauses. However, if things really do seem to be drying up, tell her that there's somewhere you have to be or somebody you have to speak to and ask if you can have her number before you leave.
When it comes to talking to girls, many men put themselves under undue pressure. The fact is, most girls love to talk, so by simply learning which questions are likely to get them started you can all but guarantee a conversation. Deliver your lines honestly, positively and without breaking a sweat and you'll soon discover that she really is pleased to meet you.
Want to learn 50 WAYS for approaching, attracting and seducing women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson's Free eBook which provides 50 tips for instant dating success.
A funny joke and a cocky smile might get a girl's attention but if you don't know how to continue the conversation there's not much point in starting it. Even the wittiest of one liners followed by an awkward silence is unlikely to lead to a good time.
It you don't know how to talk to chicks, you're never going to score. Luckily for you, the art of conversation can be learned �" and I'm here to teach you.
The most important thing to remember is not to let her know you're nervous. This might sound easier said than done, but by simply standing up straight, relaxing your shoulders and giving her a smile you will instantly appear more relaxed.
When talking to a girl, always maintain eye contact. Being caught watching the big screen sports behind her or ogling another beauty will do you no favors. Meeting her gaze, on the other hand, shows that you're interested in her without you appearing intimidated.
Asking what brought her to this venue is an ideal conversation starter. If she's there for a special occasion, get her to tell you all about it. If it's a regular night out, ask about the other ways she fills her free time. Open ended questions demonstrate your genuine interest in her and by encouraging her to enthuse about things she enjoys you will help to put her at ease.
Pay her compliments, but choose them wisely. Admiring her choice of jewelry or telling her you noticed her foxy dancing will sound more sincere and less sleazy than simply saying she's sexy.
Keep the conversation positive and upbeat. Don't discuss anything which is bringing you down, be it work, sore knees or your neighbor's barking dog. Never, ever criticize the chick that you're hitting on and resist making snide remarks about any of the people around you �" not only would it make you appear like a negative person, but you can almost guarantee they would turn out to be her best friend.
When she asks you about yourself give honest, confident answers. Tell her what you enjoy and what you're good at, but never brag or imply that you're better than everyone else, and resist any urge to be self-critical.
If you're stuck for topics, pop culture gossip is great to fall back on. Ask her whose song is playing or tell her which gig or movie you last went to. Girls love to discuss the bizarre habits of the stars, so by simply mentioning a celebrity you can give your conversation a whole new lease of life.
Remember that she's nervous, too. Chicks are just as keen to meet you as you are to meet them, so you won't be the only one worrying about unplanned pauses. However, if things really do seem to be drying up, tell her that there's somewhere you have to be or somebody you have to speak to and ask if you can have her number before you leave.
When it comes to talking to girls, many men put themselves under undue pressure. The fact is, most girls love to talk, so by simply learning which questions are likely to get them started you can all but guarantee a conversation. Deliver your lines honestly, positively and without breaking a sweat and you'll soon discover that she really is pleased to meet you.
Want to learn 50 WAYS for approaching, attracting and seducing women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson's Free eBook which provides 50 tips for instant dating success.
Sunday, December 2, 2007
Waiting to meet that special someone? Why Wait?
It's unfortunate, but many people think, or, out of frustration, have programmed themselves to believe, that love "simply happens". To further compound the issue, their friends and family say to them "stop looking. It will come when you least expect it." Now, when is the last time you, or anyone else you may know or heard of, actually achieved a goal or obtained a desire by not taking any action? Granted, there are times when circumstances arise that place an individual at the right place and time for them to get what they wish. However, even then they must have been thinking about what they wanted in some manner, otherwise they wouldn't have even recognized the opportunity. In addition, to realize their goal or dream, they would have had to take action to accept it. Hence, there are two components to achieving any goal, including finding your "soul mate", and they are: intention and action.
Intention is where you determine exactly what you want. If you don't know what you want, how are you going to know it when you see it? Hence, it is important to get clear in your mind the type of person you want to be with and the type of relationship you want to be in. Make no mistake; this is an extremely important part of achieving any goal or obtaining any desire. Do NOT skip this step. Also, do NOT use your past relationships or life experiences to influence your thoughts on what is possible or available and what is not. If this point is difficult, remind yourself that simply because you haven't experienced something does NOT mean it doesn't exist; it simply means you haven't experienced it yet.
Action is where you create the "channels" or arrange the circumstances so that your goal or desire can come to you and be realized. That's right, I said "come to you". If someone offers you a gift, how can you receive it if you don't put out your hands? By performing this simple action with your hands, you are enabling a "channel" for the gift to come to you. In this same manner of thought, you must take action and setup the channels through which your "true love" can come to you. For this scenario, such channels could include connections with friends and family, social events, bars and clubs, and even an online dating site. The problem with all but the last option, Internet dating, is that you are limited to not only the number of people you can meet but also the type, which obviously limits your choices; and, let's face it, in today's world, we barely have enough time to go to the bathroom let alone many different social events. So, that leaves us with the last option mentioned, an online dating site.
"Online dating", or "Internet dating" as it is also known, has been around for a long time now, well over a decade. The advantages of this method of locating a "love" are many: searching for someone can be done in accordance with your schedule (24 hours a day/7 days a week/365 days a year); there is a huge selection of different types of people with different qualities to choose from; if someone tries to contact you, you don't have to respond if you're not interested; you have the ability to search for someone that possesses the qualities and characteristics that you are looking for, such as smoking and drinking habits, ethnicity, religious denomination, kids, eye color, and much more, by using simple filters. Without a doubt, online dating increases the probability that you will find someone that will add to the happiness in your life. Without online dating, chances are you will be waiting forever for that special someone to walk into your life or you'll simply give up "waiting" and settle. To me, neither of those options sounds good. So, to greatly increase your chances of finding the one who is most compatible with you, look into online dating. If you would like to find out which online dating site I personally recommend and why, simply go to: Review of the Best Online Dating Site.
So, stop "waiting" and take action. As is oftentimes said "99% of your happiness, or misery, comes from the one you marry." So, don't leave your love life, or your future happiness, to chance; take control and follow the steps outlined in this article. If you would like to learn more about how you can improve the clarity of your intention and/or are interested in learning a step-by-step process on how to achieve your goals and/or desires, simply visit: Manifesting Your Desire.
In closing, I would like to wish you all the best in your search for a truly fulfilling relationship...and an extremely happy life!
Regards, Greg Smith Founder The Database of Knowledge: The Source for Enhancing Our Lives www.databaseofknowledge.com
Greg Smith is the founder of The Database of Knowledge, a web-based platform dedicated to gathering and sharing information and ideas on a vast array of topics. To learn more about Greg, simply visit his Autobiography Page.
Intention is where you determine exactly what you want. If you don't know what you want, how are you going to know it when you see it? Hence, it is important to get clear in your mind the type of person you want to be with and the type of relationship you want to be in. Make no mistake; this is an extremely important part of achieving any goal or obtaining any desire. Do NOT skip this step. Also, do NOT use your past relationships or life experiences to influence your thoughts on what is possible or available and what is not. If this point is difficult, remind yourself that simply because you haven't experienced something does NOT mean it doesn't exist; it simply means you haven't experienced it yet.
Action is where you create the "channels" or arrange the circumstances so that your goal or desire can come to you and be realized. That's right, I said "come to you". If someone offers you a gift, how can you receive it if you don't put out your hands? By performing this simple action with your hands, you are enabling a "channel" for the gift to come to you. In this same manner of thought, you must take action and setup the channels through which your "true love" can come to you. For this scenario, such channels could include connections with friends and family, social events, bars and clubs, and even an online dating site. The problem with all but the last option, Internet dating, is that you are limited to not only the number of people you can meet but also the type, which obviously limits your choices; and, let's face it, in today's world, we barely have enough time to go to the bathroom let alone many different social events. So, that leaves us with the last option mentioned, an online dating site.
"Online dating", or "Internet dating" as it is also known, has been around for a long time now, well over a decade. The advantages of this method of locating a "love" are many: searching for someone can be done in accordance with your schedule (24 hours a day/7 days a week/365 days a year); there is a huge selection of different types of people with different qualities to choose from; if someone tries to contact you, you don't have to respond if you're not interested; you have the ability to search for someone that possesses the qualities and characteristics that you are looking for, such as smoking and drinking habits, ethnicity, religious denomination, kids, eye color, and much more, by using simple filters. Without a doubt, online dating increases the probability that you will find someone that will add to the happiness in your life. Without online dating, chances are you will be waiting forever for that special someone to walk into your life or you'll simply give up "waiting" and settle. To me, neither of those options sounds good. So, to greatly increase your chances of finding the one who is most compatible with you, look into online dating. If you would like to find out which online dating site I personally recommend and why, simply go to: Review of the Best Online Dating Site.
So, stop "waiting" and take action. As is oftentimes said "99% of your happiness, or misery, comes from the one you marry." So, don't leave your love life, or your future happiness, to chance; take control and follow the steps outlined in this article. If you would like to learn more about how you can improve the clarity of your intention and/or are interested in learning a step-by-step process on how to achieve your goals and/or desires, simply visit: Manifesting Your Desire.
In closing, I would like to wish you all the best in your search for a truly fulfilling relationship...and an extremely happy life!
Regards, Greg Smith Founder The Database of Knowledge: The Source for Enhancing Our Lives www.databaseofknowledge.com
Greg Smith is the founder of The Database of Knowledge, a web-based platform dedicated to gathering and sharing information and ideas on a vast array of topics. To learn more about Greg, simply visit his Autobiography Page.
Say What? The Pub to Meet Women?
There is no point hang around with your friends and going to places where no women go if your goal is to have the opportunity to meet women. You need to go to where they are.
Begin with the end in mind. What type of women are you attracted to and you would like to meet? With this in mind, you will then need to think about the places they would like to go to. Go to those paces at different times of the day to see when they are mostly there.
If you are in a small country town, the population is not going to explode over the next week. Don't ever let proximity and convenience be the sole contributor of finding your perfect partner. I'm not saying that there may not be that perfect partner in your home town, but the big cities give you far more choice. Decide and make the move if this is what is holding you back, the lack of choice.
While you are looking, try online chatting. It's a great way to give you practice of conversation topics with real live women throughout the day. The more you practice, the more confident you will have. And who knows, perhaps you may even meet someone magical online. I know of several couples who had 'accidentally' met online and are now either happily dating or even married.
Most dance classes are also a great way to meet single women. It's also an environment where everything is so informal that there is no pressure to need to always remain on alert to say the right thing at the right time. You can also use this opportunity to practice your humor skills with the many different dance partners you will have.
Now that you are in places where there are literally plenty of women around, how do you approach them?
One approach which I've learnt in the past is to simple tell her that you had noticed her from the other side of the room and just wanted to get to know her. Another approach I've also used is to ask her for her female perspective on certain controversial topics such as the environment, dating etc etc.
It's important to realize that it's really not just what you say, but how you say it. Your seriousness and calmness will make her comfortable around you and before you know it, a smooth flowing conversation would have been started.
Many men are always very nervous to just walk up to a woman and create a conversation. Just go ahead and make the move. She will be interested in what you say and you will grab her attention.
Never let the fear of rejection keep you from making your first move. If the woman turns out to be rude to you or turns you away, let go without embarrassment and move onto another woman more worth your effort. You would be far better off anyway to not have to waste time with a woman you would have been turned off by. Persistence does pay. Beautiful attractive women know it themselves that they have this physical attraction that turns men on. Set yourself apart by not showing that her beauty does not do much for you. Hide your interest. She will be wondering why you are so different and you have turned the power to your end by her wanting to now get to know you more. You have swapped power positions. She is now attracted to you and not the other way around.
Most importantly, make sure you end the conversation with the end in mind. Getting her contact details or the intention of seeing her again is a must.
Practice this step. It is vital.
Look out for us in the coming days as we will be sharing more tips and secrets on how to become the ultimate female attraction magnet!
In the mean time, Good Luck!
OR if you would like to receive a FREE copy of a limited number of the eGuide "Instant Magnetic Attraction" and discover "What do Women Really Want From Men", check out www.secrets2datingsuccess.com
Terry Leslie is a successful and world renowned authority figure on creating and maintaining successful relationships. A much sought after global speaker in the areas of intimate relationships, self-improvement and human peak potential training. Terry Leslie travels the globe with the aim of sharing and empowering anyone who wishes to learn and apply the methods which has been developed through practical experience and help those who wish to lear
Begin with the end in mind. What type of women are you attracted to and you would like to meet? With this in mind, you will then need to think about the places they would like to go to. Go to those paces at different times of the day to see when they are mostly there.
If you are in a small country town, the population is not going to explode over the next week. Don't ever let proximity and convenience be the sole contributor of finding your perfect partner. I'm not saying that there may not be that perfect partner in your home town, but the big cities give you far more choice. Decide and make the move if this is what is holding you back, the lack of choice.
While you are looking, try online chatting. It's a great way to give you practice of conversation topics with real live women throughout the day. The more you practice, the more confident you will have. And who knows, perhaps you may even meet someone magical online. I know of several couples who had 'accidentally' met online and are now either happily dating or even married.
Most dance classes are also a great way to meet single women. It's also an environment where everything is so informal that there is no pressure to need to always remain on alert to say the right thing at the right time. You can also use this opportunity to practice your humor skills with the many different dance partners you will have.
Now that you are in places where there are literally plenty of women around, how do you approach them?
One approach which I've learnt in the past is to simple tell her that you had noticed her from the other side of the room and just wanted to get to know her. Another approach I've also used is to ask her for her female perspective on certain controversial topics such as the environment, dating etc etc.
It's important to realize that it's really not just what you say, but how you say it. Your seriousness and calmness will make her comfortable around you and before you know it, a smooth flowing conversation would have been started.
Many men are always very nervous to just walk up to a woman and create a conversation. Just go ahead and make the move. She will be interested in what you say and you will grab her attention.
Never let the fear of rejection keep you from making your first move. If the woman turns out to be rude to you or turns you away, let go without embarrassment and move onto another woman more worth your effort. You would be far better off anyway to not have to waste time with a woman you would have been turned off by. Persistence does pay. Beautiful attractive women know it themselves that they have this physical attraction that turns men on. Set yourself apart by not showing that her beauty does not do much for you. Hide your interest. She will be wondering why you are so different and you have turned the power to your end by her wanting to now get to know you more. You have swapped power positions. She is now attracted to you and not the other way around.
Most importantly, make sure you end the conversation with the end in mind. Getting her contact details or the intention of seeing her again is a must.
Practice this step. It is vital.
Look out for us in the coming days as we will be sharing more tips and secrets on how to become the ultimate female attraction magnet!
In the mean time, Good Luck!
OR if you would like to receive a FREE copy of a limited number of the eGuide "Instant Magnetic Attraction" and discover "What do Women Really Want From Men", check out www.secrets2datingsuccess.com
Terry Leslie is a successful and world renowned authority figure on creating and maintaining successful relationships. A much sought after global speaker in the areas of intimate relationships, self-improvement and human peak potential training. Terry Leslie travels the globe with the aim of sharing and empowering anyone who wishes to learn and apply the methods which has been developed through practical experience and help those who wish to lear
Choosing Gifts For Women They Will Love
Holiday gift shopping for your lover can seem to be a difficult task, and many men put it off until Christmas Eve because of this. Knowing a few fundamentals about the art of buying gifts for women can help make your shopping trip more pleasurable, more successful, and more timely. Following are some ideas about how to find the perfect holiday gifts for women.
Choose A Gift Just For Her
The first pointer is this: never buy her a gift that you would like to use. You probably would not make the mistake of thinking she wants a new John Deere machine. But you may think that home electronics items like TVs and stereos are great gifts. If the woman in your life is absorbed doing something else whenever the big game is on, a new plasma TV is probably not on her gift list. But if a TV or stereo or even a tractor happens to be on her list, be sure to buy the one she desires, not the one you want.
Stay Away From Housekeeping Aids
Another pearl of wisdom: never buy your sweetheart a household appliance, or something that will make chores easier. She almost certainly will not be pleased, and she may even move your chores out to the dog house. This prohibition includes cleaning products, like that extra large container of laundry soap that finally went on sale, or the big bottle of window cleaner you got a great deal on. A new, high-tech vacuum cleaner might be something she wants, but not as a Christmas gift from her sweetie.
Keep Holiday Gifts For Women Personal
Another clue to remember when searching for the fabulous holiday gift for your special someone -- a Chia Pet, or a house plant, is not a romantic gift. Your sister might like to receive a house plant from you, and maybe your mother, but it is probably riskless to say that your sweetheart will be expecting something a little more personal.
Lingerie and nightwear can be a wonderful holiday gift idea for that someone special. But evade the flannels and the granny panties. That type of gift sends the message that you do not find her desirable. Buy her the sexy stuff if you're leaning towards a gift of lingerie.
Don't Cut Corners
Jewelry can be the perfect gift for the woman you love for Christmas, but there are a couple of pitfalls to avoid. Continually remember that an imitation diamond does not cut it, either figuratively or literally. Imagine the embarrassment your sweetheart will feel when she tests her new jewelry in front of her friends by trying to cut glass with it. Women have been known to do that, and she will realize it is a fraud in front of an audience. Such a scene could have dire consequences for your relationship. Buy the diamonds.
Don't Relay On Your Fashion Sense
For many men, clothing often seems the perfect gift, especially when the women in their lives love clothes. If you are thinking about getting clothing for your special someone, please reconsider. While many men opine they have a good sense of women's fashions, in reality only a few do. Most likely, the clothing you buy will look great on the rack, but end up to be the wrong size, the wrong look, the wrong color, etc. for her. If you give her clothes, she may act appreciative, but don't ever expect to see her wear them.
Read Between The Lines
Although it may seem apparent, one of the most overlooked gift-giving guides is: listen to your partner. Many women drop detailed ideas about what they want for Christmas. If you pay attention, the woman in your life will likely tell you exactly what to buy for her. You can never disappoint her by giving her something she enjoys.
Presentation: An Essential Part Of Holiday Gifts For Women
Never underestimate the power of presentation. Special paper, nice boxes, and bows that sparkle can set the stage, and increase your sweetheart's thoughts of your gift. Duct tape is never acceptable, and plastic grocery bags do not make appropriate gift bags. If you hire someone skilled to wrap that perfect gift, you give your sweetheart the gift of prettiness in presentation, in addition to the gift within.
Your Love Shows Through
"Perfect" holiday gifts for women may be something undefinable, and always just out of reach. The gift you give her, whether perfect or not, if chosen thoughtfully will send the message that you cared enough to make the effort. Figuring out the perfect holiday gift for your special someone can be rough. But following the above ideas will help you put a smile on her face this holiday season.
For more holliday shopping advice, visit Gifts For Women. Also check out Holiday Gifts For Women.
For Ron's website, visit .Holiday Gifts.
Choose A Gift Just For Her
The first pointer is this: never buy her a gift that you would like to use. You probably would not make the mistake of thinking she wants a new John Deere machine. But you may think that home electronics items like TVs and stereos are great gifts. If the woman in your life is absorbed doing something else whenever the big game is on, a new plasma TV is probably not on her gift list. But if a TV or stereo or even a tractor happens to be on her list, be sure to buy the one she desires, not the one you want.
Stay Away From Housekeeping Aids
Another pearl of wisdom: never buy your sweetheart a household appliance, or something that will make chores easier. She almost certainly will not be pleased, and she may even move your chores out to the dog house. This prohibition includes cleaning products, like that extra large container of laundry soap that finally went on sale, or the big bottle of window cleaner you got a great deal on. A new, high-tech vacuum cleaner might be something she wants, but not as a Christmas gift from her sweetie.
Keep Holiday Gifts For Women Personal
Another clue to remember when searching for the fabulous holiday gift for your special someone -- a Chia Pet, or a house plant, is not a romantic gift. Your sister might like to receive a house plant from you, and maybe your mother, but it is probably riskless to say that your sweetheart will be expecting something a little more personal.
Lingerie and nightwear can be a wonderful holiday gift idea for that someone special. But evade the flannels and the granny panties. That type of gift sends the message that you do not find her desirable. Buy her the sexy stuff if you're leaning towards a gift of lingerie.
Don't Cut Corners
Jewelry can be the perfect gift for the woman you love for Christmas, but there are a couple of pitfalls to avoid. Continually remember that an imitation diamond does not cut it, either figuratively or literally. Imagine the embarrassment your sweetheart will feel when she tests her new jewelry in front of her friends by trying to cut glass with it. Women have been known to do that, and she will realize it is a fraud in front of an audience. Such a scene could have dire consequences for your relationship. Buy the diamonds.
Don't Relay On Your Fashion Sense
For many men, clothing often seems the perfect gift, especially when the women in their lives love clothes. If you are thinking about getting clothing for your special someone, please reconsider. While many men opine they have a good sense of women's fashions, in reality only a few do. Most likely, the clothing you buy will look great on the rack, but end up to be the wrong size, the wrong look, the wrong color, etc. for her. If you give her clothes, she may act appreciative, but don't ever expect to see her wear them.
Read Between The Lines
Although it may seem apparent, one of the most overlooked gift-giving guides is: listen to your partner. Many women drop detailed ideas about what they want for Christmas. If you pay attention, the woman in your life will likely tell you exactly what to buy for her. You can never disappoint her by giving her something she enjoys.
Presentation: An Essential Part Of Holiday Gifts For Women
Never underestimate the power of presentation. Special paper, nice boxes, and bows that sparkle can set the stage, and increase your sweetheart's thoughts of your gift. Duct tape is never acceptable, and plastic grocery bags do not make appropriate gift bags. If you hire someone skilled to wrap that perfect gift, you give your sweetheart the gift of prettiness in presentation, in addition to the gift within.
Your Love Shows Through
"Perfect" holiday gifts for women may be something undefinable, and always just out of reach. The gift you give her, whether perfect or not, if chosen thoughtfully will send the message that you cared enough to make the effort. Figuring out the perfect holiday gift for your special someone can be rough. But following the above ideas will help you put a smile on her face this holiday season.
For more holliday shopping advice, visit Gifts For Women. Also check out Holiday Gifts For Women.
For Ron's website, visit .Holiday Gifts.
Monday, November 26, 2007
Looking For Single Women - Some Places To Consider
When it comes to looking for single women today a many does not need to rely solely on the services of a dating agency or placing a personal ad. Rather what they can do instead is visit a number of different places where they live and which may well result in them meeting the woman of their dreams. The great thing about looking for single women in this way is that it does not cost you anything.
Below we take a look at the kinds of places that you may want to consider visiting in order for you to find single women that you can meet with. But even when you do get there do not think that single women are going to be falling all over themselves to be with you it is going to take time and patience on your part.
The first place you may want to try in order to meet single women is at bars and nightclubs. But if you can rather than hitting the trendiest spots in town, where the music is loud head for the much quieter ones instead. A large number of women who are intent of meeting men for a more meaningful relationship will go to these kinds of places as they know that they will be able to hold a conversation with someone without having to shout all the time.
But if you are not a night owl then another great place when it comes to looking for and meeting single women is a bookstore. If you can head for those ones that have a coffee shop inside or attached to it. Then once you have browsed the various sections of the store and met the woman who seems to have the same interests as you why not invite her to coffee.
Although it may seem like an unlikely place for a man to meet single women in but the video store is a great place as well. So next time your in picking up the latest blockbuster movie then take a few seconds to see whom else is in. You will be amazed at just how many single women there are looking for something to watch as well.
Another place that is ideal to visit when it comes to you looking to meet single women is the local Laundromat. This is a place where many bored single women will spend a few hours each week and so if you have just moved into the area it is a great way of getting to know about it as well as being able to meet single women as well.
The final place we recommend when it comes to looking for single women is the supermarket, but not the convenience store just round the corner from you. Instead, you need to head for the much larger more well known supermarkets around. In fact, today in some places they have now started having singles nights where you can stroll along the aisles and meet like minded soles if you wish.
Above we have provided some of the best places to visit when it comes to looking for single women. So why not spend some time at each one and decide upon the one you feel most comfortable in then visit it several times a week and you will soon find yourself meeting plenty of new women.
There are several different things a man can do when it comes to looking for single women to meet and date. If you would like to find out more with regards to Looking For Single Women then click on this link.
Below we take a look at the kinds of places that you may want to consider visiting in order for you to find single women that you can meet with. But even when you do get there do not think that single women are going to be falling all over themselves to be with you it is going to take time and patience on your part.
The first place you may want to try in order to meet single women is at bars and nightclubs. But if you can rather than hitting the trendiest spots in town, where the music is loud head for the much quieter ones instead. A large number of women who are intent of meeting men for a more meaningful relationship will go to these kinds of places as they know that they will be able to hold a conversation with someone without having to shout all the time.
But if you are not a night owl then another great place when it comes to looking for and meeting single women is a bookstore. If you can head for those ones that have a coffee shop inside or attached to it. Then once you have browsed the various sections of the store and met the woman who seems to have the same interests as you why not invite her to coffee.
Although it may seem like an unlikely place for a man to meet single women in but the video store is a great place as well. So next time your in picking up the latest blockbuster movie then take a few seconds to see whom else is in. You will be amazed at just how many single women there are looking for something to watch as well.
Another place that is ideal to visit when it comes to you looking to meet single women is the local Laundromat. This is a place where many bored single women will spend a few hours each week and so if you have just moved into the area it is a great way of getting to know about it as well as being able to meet single women as well.
The final place we recommend when it comes to looking for single women is the supermarket, but not the convenience store just round the corner from you. Instead, you need to head for the much larger more well known supermarkets around. In fact, today in some places they have now started having singles nights where you can stroll along the aisles and meet like minded soles if you wish.
Above we have provided some of the best places to visit when it comes to looking for single women. So why not spend some time at each one and decide upon the one you feel most comfortable in then visit it several times a week and you will soon find yourself meeting plenty of new women.
There are several different things a man can do when it comes to looking for single women to meet and date. If you would like to find out more with regards to Looking For Single Women then click on this link.
Women Can Talk, Men Just Can't Listen?
Men think that all the communication is in words that come out of his mouth. It is a fact that words only account for 7% of the communication piece. 93% of our communication is through body language and tone of voice.
Women are physically attracted to a man that walks tall, with his shoulders back and head up always. This shows a sense of confidence that have in everything they do. In fact, this is doing yourself a favour as well, by doing this you actually will feel confident and attractive. This aura of confidence is what women seek in the man the want.
Most men and women for that matter make the mistake of looking away when they suddenly realize that a person of the opposite sex is looking at them. This is good, because to set yourself apart from all the other men around, your only job is to then maintain eye contact if you sense a women looking at you. Maintaining eye contact does not mean to start at her 24/7. Its just that slight eye contact hold with a subtle smile at her. This lets her know that she is dealing with one solid, confident and powerful man that can take her and melt her. She is now attracted to you without needing to even say anything. You are no longer the chaser but the selector now. You have swapped positions.
Rejection is a powerful perception always lingering in the back of a man’s mind when it comes to women. Thus men try to fully read a woman before making his move just to be sure. This is a waste of time and energy. If a woman is friendly towards you, ask her for her contact details or even better, ask her for a date right their and then. This will show your confidence towards her and she will be naturally attracted towards you. If you are alone on a walk and you can feel there is a strong chemistry between the two of you, reach over and just give a slight peck on the forehead or cheek. This will catch her by surprise in a good way. She will feel good even though she will try her best to hold it back. Always move forward. This gradually builds up your confidence around women.
Although it was previously mentioned that words only make up a small portion of the overall communication, it is still important that we learn to use the language and talk to a woman to stimulate her imagination. Women use their imagination far more than a man does and if you can trigger her imagination of you kissing and caressing her, she cannot tell the difference between what’s real and what’s imagined. Either way, she’s feeling it and she’ll die to want that physical touch because she’s already felt it.
Combine body posture, eye contact, with words you say and tone of voice into your overall communication arsenal and you will attract all the women you can handle. Imagine the confidence you radiate within your environment!
In the mean time, Good Luck!
OR if you would like to receive a FREE copy of a limited number of the eGuide “Instant Magnetic Attraction†and discover “What do Women Really Want From Menâ€, check out www.secrets2datingsuccess.com
Terry Leslie is a successful and world renowned authority figure on creating and maintaining successful relationships. A much sought after global speaker in the areas of intimate relationships, self-improvement and human peak potential training. Terry Leslie travels the globe with the aim of sharing and empowering anyone who wishes to learn and apply the methods which has been developed through practical experience and help those who wish to lear
Women are physically attracted to a man that walks tall, with his shoulders back and head up always. This shows a sense of confidence that have in everything they do. In fact, this is doing yourself a favour as well, by doing this you actually will feel confident and attractive. This aura of confidence is what women seek in the man the want.
Most men and women for that matter make the mistake of looking away when they suddenly realize that a person of the opposite sex is looking at them. This is good, because to set yourself apart from all the other men around, your only job is to then maintain eye contact if you sense a women looking at you. Maintaining eye contact does not mean to start at her 24/7. Its just that slight eye contact hold with a subtle smile at her. This lets her know that she is dealing with one solid, confident and powerful man that can take her and melt her. She is now attracted to you without needing to even say anything. You are no longer the chaser but the selector now. You have swapped positions.
Rejection is a powerful perception always lingering in the back of a man’s mind when it comes to women. Thus men try to fully read a woman before making his move just to be sure. This is a waste of time and energy. If a woman is friendly towards you, ask her for her contact details or even better, ask her for a date right their and then. This will show your confidence towards her and she will be naturally attracted towards you. If you are alone on a walk and you can feel there is a strong chemistry between the two of you, reach over and just give a slight peck on the forehead or cheek. This will catch her by surprise in a good way. She will feel good even though she will try her best to hold it back. Always move forward. This gradually builds up your confidence around women.
Although it was previously mentioned that words only make up a small portion of the overall communication, it is still important that we learn to use the language and talk to a woman to stimulate her imagination. Women use their imagination far more than a man does and if you can trigger her imagination of you kissing and caressing her, she cannot tell the difference between what’s real and what’s imagined. Either way, she’s feeling it and she’ll die to want that physical touch because she’s already felt it.
Combine body posture, eye contact, with words you say and tone of voice into your overall communication arsenal and you will attract all the women you can handle. Imagine the confidence you radiate within your environment!
In the mean time, Good Luck!
OR if you would like to receive a FREE copy of a limited number of the eGuide “Instant Magnetic Attraction†and discover “What do Women Really Want From Menâ€, check out www.secrets2datingsuccess.com
Terry Leslie is a successful and world renowned authority figure on creating and maintaining successful relationships. A much sought after global speaker in the areas of intimate relationships, self-improvement and human peak potential training. Terry Leslie travels the globe with the aim of sharing and empowering anyone who wishes to learn and apply the methods which has been developed through practical experience and help those who wish to lear
Seducing A Woman Within Five Minutes Of Meeting Her
Are you the sort of guy who never gets lucky? It doesn't matter how romantic the restaurant or how stunning the sunset, every date you go on ends with a peck on the cheek and the news that you're “just like a brother�
You can't understand it. You meet these great girls, you pluck up the courage to ask them out and they obviously like you enough to say yes. But by the end of the evening whatever attraction they may have felt has melted down into nothing more than friendship.
You don't know where you're going wrong.
But I do.
You see, while you may instantly like the looks of someone, genuine attraction takes a little longer to form. Connections are based on more than a nice suit and some good manners, and if all you've got to offer is pleasant conversation you're never going to get a girl excited.
But I'm here to help. There are all sorts of tricks you can use to get and keep a girl's attention, and I'm about to tell you some of the best.
Remember that the first date is like an audition. Whether you're after one night of fun or something more long term, you need to convince this chick that you know how to treat her right. Hold doors open for her, take her coat, and insist upon footing the bill. Don't compliment her upon her physical attributes, but do admire her clothes, her choice of wine or her graceful way of walking.
Make your body language work for you. If you don't seem sure you deserve her attention, she'll become certain you don't. Present yourself as a calm and confident man by maintaining eye contact, resisting the urge to fiddle, and talking in a low, clear tone.
Listen to what she's saying and be genuine with your reactions. Girls can spot a fake grin a mile off, so keep your smiles and your laughter natural. Look for common interests and shared beliefs; being able to enthuse about the same films, music or sports will create an instant connection.
More importantly, keep the conversation light hearted. You want her to view you as a source of fun, not her new confidant, so if she starts to share her worries and woes with you steer the conversation back onto happier topics. Likewise, keep your own dilemmas to yourself �" neurotic men do not come across as sexy; mysterious men do.
There's little more attractive to a woman than knowing you're really into her, but rather than simply blurting it out, use a few clever body language tricks to let her know you like her. Turn your shoulders and knees so you're fully facing her, glance at her lips and, if there's a table between you, place your hands on top of it. Find excuses to reach out and touch her. Start by brushing your hand against hers when you're emphasizing a point. As the night goes on, touch her arm and, later, her knee. She'll soon start thinking about other forms of physical contact with you.
There's a fine line between friendly conversation and effective flirting. By following the tips above, you can keep on the right side of it and grab her attention. Keep the evening fun, the talk upbeat and your focus firmly upon her, and you can ensure that you need never end another date by agreeing to just be friends.
Want to learn 50 WAYS for approaching, attracting and seducing women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson's Free eBook which provides 50 tips for instant dating success.
You can't understand it. You meet these great girls, you pluck up the courage to ask them out and they obviously like you enough to say yes. But by the end of the evening whatever attraction they may have felt has melted down into nothing more than friendship.
You don't know where you're going wrong.
But I do.
You see, while you may instantly like the looks of someone, genuine attraction takes a little longer to form. Connections are based on more than a nice suit and some good manners, and if all you've got to offer is pleasant conversation you're never going to get a girl excited.
But I'm here to help. There are all sorts of tricks you can use to get and keep a girl's attention, and I'm about to tell you some of the best.
Remember that the first date is like an audition. Whether you're after one night of fun or something more long term, you need to convince this chick that you know how to treat her right. Hold doors open for her, take her coat, and insist upon footing the bill. Don't compliment her upon her physical attributes, but do admire her clothes, her choice of wine or her graceful way of walking.
Make your body language work for you. If you don't seem sure you deserve her attention, she'll become certain you don't. Present yourself as a calm and confident man by maintaining eye contact, resisting the urge to fiddle, and talking in a low, clear tone.
Listen to what she's saying and be genuine with your reactions. Girls can spot a fake grin a mile off, so keep your smiles and your laughter natural. Look for common interests and shared beliefs; being able to enthuse about the same films, music or sports will create an instant connection.
More importantly, keep the conversation light hearted. You want her to view you as a source of fun, not her new confidant, so if she starts to share her worries and woes with you steer the conversation back onto happier topics. Likewise, keep your own dilemmas to yourself �" neurotic men do not come across as sexy; mysterious men do.
There's little more attractive to a woman than knowing you're really into her, but rather than simply blurting it out, use a few clever body language tricks to let her know you like her. Turn your shoulders and knees so you're fully facing her, glance at her lips and, if there's a table between you, place your hands on top of it. Find excuses to reach out and touch her. Start by brushing your hand against hers when you're emphasizing a point. As the night goes on, touch her arm and, later, her knee. She'll soon start thinking about other forms of physical contact with you.
There's a fine line between friendly conversation and effective flirting. By following the tips above, you can keep on the right side of it and grab her attention. Keep the evening fun, the talk upbeat and your focus firmly upon her, and you can ensure that you need never end another date by agreeing to just be friends.
Want to learn 50 WAYS for approaching, attracting and seducing women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson's Free eBook which provides 50 tips for instant dating success.
She is Testing You - Retaliate Now
Women test men all the time. Even if none of men like this, we all know that we can't live without them. So, hating women or trying to live without them is not viable solution. The best thing we can do is to accept that they do and will test us.
''The test'' is that unexpected, unexplained, quirky situation inflicted on a man by a woman in a relationship. Women love to test men by throwing obscure theoretical questions, and especially to judge them. They usually like to test men, who are interested in, for whom they feel some attraction. They try to tell things about men by observing certain aspects of their behavior, or telling them things and judging them according on how they react.
Women test men because they need to quickly figure out what they're dealing with, and they can't expect a man to be straight up and honest about his strengths and weakness. Women are attention-seekers in constant need of reassurance and affirmation that someone cares for them and wants to protect them. They need to know that you'll set limits that you'll stand up for yourself, this making them feel safe. It gives them the reassurance that you are strong enough and confident enough to fight back when you are provoked and that you are capable of protecting them from danger.
They test us to see how strong emotionally we are, how smart we are, or enjoy to make men feel uncomfortable. So, even if she has a high interest in you, even she is always sweet, loving and giving person, she will always feel the need dig any question. A healthier attitude is to love and enjoy women for all their great qualities, while learning to deal with their tests.
But, from where you can know when you are tested? First you should ask yourself if the event makes sense in the context of the situation; if the answer is no, then you are probably being tested. How they do this? Here are some examples:
-she likes to flirt with another man in front of you - the best thing you can do is to ignore it when it happens; you can start by chatting evenings with other women or friends of her; this will cool her off, and she will change this habit
-she cancel your meeting in the last minute- this is very disappointing because you are ready to walk out the door and only then she tells you she is not coming anymore; you can prevent this from the beginning by telling her that you hate girls which cancel dates; but sometimes she may have a good reason to cancel the meeting
-she likes to turn you on while making out, just to see if you respect her ; best you can do is to stay calm, relax, don't sulk or push it; if she sees you are cool about it and you aren't stressed, you will see that she'll likely relaxed and you have pass the test;
-also there are times when women confuse men , act evasive and feign disinterest in order to try to communicate to men, because they don't like to be taken for granted, being scared to not have their heart broken by a man.
There are times when a woman is testing you intentionally or unintentionally. When she makes it intentionally she will do or say something as an attempt to bait man into reacting to her; she wants to find out if you have a strong reality and identity; she might be acting like ignoring you, teasing you about a flaw you have, trying to make you jealous and so on. So use your own discretion and don't react to her too quickly. She might test you unintentionally, but your reactions will be judged; she has desire to be validated for her beauty and a yearning for the rush to chasing a man who is a prize; so you have to show her you have a strong reality and identity, to not validate her too much so that she'll be satisfied; give her just enough to keep her waiting, reaching and chasing you for more of it.
Now you know that any woman will test you. All you have to do is to accept that, and learn how to deal with. For dealing with any type of test you have to have the necessary tools; if you have these, you may use all these tests to your advantage.
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''The test'' is that unexpected, unexplained, quirky situation inflicted on a man by a woman in a relationship. Women love to test men by throwing obscure theoretical questions, and especially to judge them. They usually like to test men, who are interested in, for whom they feel some attraction. They try to tell things about men by observing certain aspects of their behavior, or telling them things and judging them according on how they react.
Women test men because they need to quickly figure out what they're dealing with, and they can't expect a man to be straight up and honest about his strengths and weakness. Women are attention-seekers in constant need of reassurance and affirmation that someone cares for them and wants to protect them. They need to know that you'll set limits that you'll stand up for yourself, this making them feel safe. It gives them the reassurance that you are strong enough and confident enough to fight back when you are provoked and that you are capable of protecting them from danger.
They test us to see how strong emotionally we are, how smart we are, or enjoy to make men feel uncomfortable. So, even if she has a high interest in you, even she is always sweet, loving and giving person, she will always feel the need dig any question. A healthier attitude is to love and enjoy women for all their great qualities, while learning to deal with their tests.
But, from where you can know when you are tested? First you should ask yourself if the event makes sense in the context of the situation; if the answer is no, then you are probably being tested. How they do this? Here are some examples:
-she likes to flirt with another man in front of you - the best thing you can do is to ignore it when it happens; you can start by chatting evenings with other women or friends of her; this will cool her off, and she will change this habit
-she cancel your meeting in the last minute- this is very disappointing because you are ready to walk out the door and only then she tells you she is not coming anymore; you can prevent this from the beginning by telling her that you hate girls which cancel dates; but sometimes she may have a good reason to cancel the meeting
-she likes to turn you on while making out, just to see if you respect her ; best you can do is to stay calm, relax, don't sulk or push it; if she sees you are cool about it and you aren't stressed, you will see that she'll likely relaxed and you have pass the test;
-also there are times when women confuse men , act evasive and feign disinterest in order to try to communicate to men, because they don't like to be taken for granted, being scared to not have their heart broken by a man.
There are times when a woman is testing you intentionally or unintentionally. When she makes it intentionally she will do or say something as an attempt to bait man into reacting to her; she wants to find out if you have a strong reality and identity; she might be acting like ignoring you, teasing you about a flaw you have, trying to make you jealous and so on. So use your own discretion and don't react to her too quickly. She might test you unintentionally, but your reactions will be judged; she has desire to be validated for her beauty and a yearning for the rush to chasing a man who is a prize; so you have to show her you have a strong reality and identity, to not validate her too much so that she'll be satisfied; give her just enough to keep her waiting, reaching and chasing you for more of it.
Now you know that any woman will test you. All you have to do is to accept that, and learn how to deal with. For dealing with any type of test you have to have the necessary tools; if you have these, you may use all these tests to your advantage.
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Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Match Your Pace & How to Avoid the Big Trap - Dating Advice for Men
One of the most recurring mental blocks men face before they date is their eagerness to plunge into a deep, stable and unbreakable relationship. We must realize that men and women think, act and decide differently. Women thoroughly relish the long swelling waves of romancing that go up and down in their minds. They feel completely absorbed, engulfed and rejuvenated while going through the rigmarole of emotional upheavals. On the contrary, men like less drama, less of emotional splurge and more of stability, sailing in tranquility of a rock-steady relationship.
What is the result of this mismatch of perspectives? You rush in and latch on to the woman of your life - as if there is no tomorrow - and the woman is viewing it totally differently. She visualizes pain before pleasure. Spends time thinking of what holds in future, thereby neglecting how she can hold on to the present. Exclusivity, monogamy - women yearn for that - but all at the pace which she sets. The course and speed of the game is decided by her.
It is therefore important to appreciate that both men and women respond to different emotional clocks when it comes to developing a relationship; the sense of timing is mutually exclusive. The Big Trap is just this. You are in a hurry to grab, and eventually fall out of the race - for no fault of yours. Happening mostly to men who are a "One Woman Man" and who date infrequently, women also are frequent victims of the Big Trap, for they also wish to become a "One Man Woman" and are monogamous by nature. Yet men who are cool about meeting and dating many women - which I sincerely plead you to follow - hardly fall into the Big Trap.
Your earnest desire is to bring an end to this tempestuous "affair" associated with dating and stabilize the relationship - none of the wildness of dating makes you happy - you want to go steady with a single woman. Reasons are aplenty for such behavior from men - seeking immediate but temporary monogamy. Definitely, a faulty understanding of women and wrong assumptions of their minds and beliefs is surely one of the main ones.
One more reason why men want to move fast is their restlessness to delve into the "unknown". They hate to be kept in the dark for too long. The eternal question: will she agree to sex, won't she agree to sex, bores and irritates the man. And with every passing day, the curiosity increases. If only such men knew the pleasures of a single man, without any holdings, free of emotional baggage - they would never get so stagnated and close all doors to glorious opportunities, that lie hidden.
So what happens when you are a victim of The Big Trap? You need to have a steady and stable relationship, as discussed above. As you carry on meeting women, your adrenalin rises to a peak, you get emotionally charged, yet with the lack of proper knowledge or understanding of the woman's nature and expectations, you fall flat. You gradually start to lose ground. That affects your own sense of pride, self esteem. You start thinking romancing is a self-defeating exercise.
This is where a vicious cycle sets in. The more you lose out on women, the more you start hating not only yourself, but women too. The Loser Boy visits you often in your thoughts and dreams. It becomes impossible for you to improve upon your attitudes and behavior because remember: failure breeds failure, exactly the way success does. The miserable feeling amongst single men, is inevitable.
Or, perhaps you might date for a little while, find someone who doesn't quite enthrall you, but you settle for the "second best" so to speak. Over a period of time, you start to realize, much to your disappointment, that you have settled for mediocrity - neither did you want this kind of woman, nor did you deserve her type. She, in turn gets more and more possessive - because she is also perhaps going through the same emotional drill as you are - settling for the "second best". Physically may be together, but mentally, you are far, far apart.
This kind of negativity overwhelms you and since the very nature of such emotional upheavals is cyclical, it gets repeated over and over again. By now you would have already developed a fixed mindset: "Want to Get out of this soonest" - this very attitude destroys you further. The more you hate the concept of dating and meeting women, you are trying to evade the very process designed to improve your expertise in the area and bring about mental stability. It is time you thought like: "So many women, so little time", as the wider and broader you make your choices, the more your chances of meeting many, many women.
Unless you broaden your horizon about women and dating, falling into the Big Trap will remain inevitable. Make women an "add on" to your otherwise glorious life, rather than the "end all and be all" of it. Don't make her the reason for your existence - rather a small part of your existence. To ingratiate yourself with this kind of mental outlook is first, gather information (get empowered with knowledge), second, take the right decisions (act on the knowledge) and third, bask in the glory of your well-deserved success. Change the way you thought and acted till now, and be the man of your dreams, the man you always wanted to be.
Joshua Goh is dating & relationship expert. For more information on up-to-date dating reviews and practical online dating tips & tricks, please visit Cupidwave.com
What is the result of this mismatch of perspectives? You rush in and latch on to the woman of your life - as if there is no tomorrow - and the woman is viewing it totally differently. She visualizes pain before pleasure. Spends time thinking of what holds in future, thereby neglecting how she can hold on to the present. Exclusivity, monogamy - women yearn for that - but all at the pace which she sets. The course and speed of the game is decided by her.
It is therefore important to appreciate that both men and women respond to different emotional clocks when it comes to developing a relationship; the sense of timing is mutually exclusive. The Big Trap is just this. You are in a hurry to grab, and eventually fall out of the race - for no fault of yours. Happening mostly to men who are a "One Woman Man" and who date infrequently, women also are frequent victims of the Big Trap, for they also wish to become a "One Man Woman" and are monogamous by nature. Yet men who are cool about meeting and dating many women - which I sincerely plead you to follow - hardly fall into the Big Trap.
Your earnest desire is to bring an end to this tempestuous "affair" associated with dating and stabilize the relationship - none of the wildness of dating makes you happy - you want to go steady with a single woman. Reasons are aplenty for such behavior from men - seeking immediate but temporary monogamy. Definitely, a faulty understanding of women and wrong assumptions of their minds and beliefs is surely one of the main ones.
One more reason why men want to move fast is their restlessness to delve into the "unknown". They hate to be kept in the dark for too long. The eternal question: will she agree to sex, won't she agree to sex, bores and irritates the man. And with every passing day, the curiosity increases. If only such men knew the pleasures of a single man, without any holdings, free of emotional baggage - they would never get so stagnated and close all doors to glorious opportunities, that lie hidden.
So what happens when you are a victim of The Big Trap? You need to have a steady and stable relationship, as discussed above. As you carry on meeting women, your adrenalin rises to a peak, you get emotionally charged, yet with the lack of proper knowledge or understanding of the woman's nature and expectations, you fall flat. You gradually start to lose ground. That affects your own sense of pride, self esteem. You start thinking romancing is a self-defeating exercise.
This is where a vicious cycle sets in. The more you lose out on women, the more you start hating not only yourself, but women too. The Loser Boy visits you often in your thoughts and dreams. It becomes impossible for you to improve upon your attitudes and behavior because remember: failure breeds failure, exactly the way success does. The miserable feeling amongst single men, is inevitable.
Or, perhaps you might date for a little while, find someone who doesn't quite enthrall you, but you settle for the "second best" so to speak. Over a period of time, you start to realize, much to your disappointment, that you have settled for mediocrity - neither did you want this kind of woman, nor did you deserve her type. She, in turn gets more and more possessive - because she is also perhaps going through the same emotional drill as you are - settling for the "second best". Physically may be together, but mentally, you are far, far apart.
This kind of negativity overwhelms you and since the very nature of such emotional upheavals is cyclical, it gets repeated over and over again. By now you would have already developed a fixed mindset: "Want to Get out of this soonest" - this very attitude destroys you further. The more you hate the concept of dating and meeting women, you are trying to evade the very process designed to improve your expertise in the area and bring about mental stability. It is time you thought like: "So many women, so little time", as the wider and broader you make your choices, the more your chances of meeting many, many women.
Unless you broaden your horizon about women and dating, falling into the Big Trap will remain inevitable. Make women an "add on" to your otherwise glorious life, rather than the "end all and be all" of it. Don't make her the reason for your existence - rather a small part of your existence. To ingratiate yourself with this kind of mental outlook is first, gather information (get empowered with knowledge), second, take the right decisions (act on the knowledge) and third, bask in the glory of your well-deserved success. Change the way you thought and acted till now, and be the man of your dreams, the man you always wanted to be.
Joshua Goh is dating & relationship expert. For more information on up-to-date dating reviews and practical online dating tips & tricks, please visit Cupidwave.com
The Alluring Impression of Men's Sounds & Smells - the Naked Truth in Dating
Personal hygiene and many of our mannerisms - we somehow take these aspects too much for granted. I am including this topic here primarily because I realize that too many of us are not even aware that certain very subtle signals that we give out in terms of sounds and smells, play a very important role in making us attractive or otherwise. For instance, here are a few voluntary and involuntary sounds we make, which are terribly disgusting to women and make us very unacceptable to them:
* Burping: Yes, it happens normally after a heavy meal. But refrain, even at the most casual get-togethers. If you find it coming, excuse yourself politely and go out and release yourself.
* Snorting, snoring and other throat related noises: Control them or cure them. They act as lady-repellants.
* Farting: Disgusting, yet such a natural physiological phenomenon. And it is controllable - through proper medication and diet control. Just a wee bit of care for your health, and you can manage to evade this horrible event.
* Breath: This is important. You can check if you have bad breath just by licking your skin or smelling your saliva. Always carry mouth-fresheners or chew mint occasionally (not gum).
* Foot odor: It can be so obnoxious that you can throw an entire roomful of people out, the moment you open your shoes. Guys, change your socks regularly and use shoe deodorizers. They are easily available.
The other very successful and popular lady-repellant is your body odor (B.O in short). If you do not want ladies (except those living in underdeveloped countries) to appear within a mile radius, go ahead and stay with your B.O. Guys, have a good bath regularly. Use Deodorants for your armpits and antiperspirants, if you sweat like a horse. There are some men who are used to having a "Gypsy Bath" - meaning covering up their stinks with perfumes, colognes, body sprays and after-shaves. Remember these can never fully paralyze your own B.O.
Practice having good showers, more so, if you are living in a tropical climate. I remember working with a guy, who used to spray Brut allover his clothes - so much so every time he walked past, you would imagine a carcass van just went by. I did talk to him about improving his personal hygiene, but then, you would hardly find anyone giving you advice on these issues. Because it is such a delicate and personal subject not many people wish to discuss about it. You have to take care of it yourself.
In case you use cologne or an after-shave, use good, high-quality brands. Some perfumes suit particular bodies. Try and find out which one suit you best. And for heavens' sake use little. There are some men, who move about smelling like a room-deodorant. Calvin Klein brands are used by many men but there are many unique low-publicized brands, which are equally good and lasting. Ideally your woman should smell you when she gets close to you, not making a beeline for the door to run away from the perfume.
Joshua Goh is dating & relationship expert. For more information on up-to-date dating reviews and practical online dating tips & tricks, please visit Cupidwave.com
* Burping: Yes, it happens normally after a heavy meal. But refrain, even at the most casual get-togethers. If you find it coming, excuse yourself politely and go out and release yourself.
* Snorting, snoring and other throat related noises: Control them or cure them. They act as lady-repellants.
* Farting: Disgusting, yet such a natural physiological phenomenon. And it is controllable - through proper medication and diet control. Just a wee bit of care for your health, and you can manage to evade this horrible event.
* Breath: This is important. You can check if you have bad breath just by licking your skin or smelling your saliva. Always carry mouth-fresheners or chew mint occasionally (not gum).
* Foot odor: It can be so obnoxious that you can throw an entire roomful of people out, the moment you open your shoes. Guys, change your socks regularly and use shoe deodorizers. They are easily available.
The other very successful and popular lady-repellant is your body odor (B.O in short). If you do not want ladies (except those living in underdeveloped countries) to appear within a mile radius, go ahead and stay with your B.O. Guys, have a good bath regularly. Use Deodorants for your armpits and antiperspirants, if you sweat like a horse. There are some men who are used to having a "Gypsy Bath" - meaning covering up their stinks with perfumes, colognes, body sprays and after-shaves. Remember these can never fully paralyze your own B.O.
Practice having good showers, more so, if you are living in a tropical climate. I remember working with a guy, who used to spray Brut allover his clothes - so much so every time he walked past, you would imagine a carcass van just went by. I did talk to him about improving his personal hygiene, but then, you would hardly find anyone giving you advice on these issues. Because it is such a delicate and personal subject not many people wish to discuss about it. You have to take care of it yourself.
In case you use cologne or an after-shave, use good, high-quality brands. Some perfumes suit particular bodies. Try and find out which one suit you best. And for heavens' sake use little. There are some men, who move about smelling like a room-deodorant. Calvin Klein brands are used by many men but there are many unique low-publicized brands, which are equally good and lasting. Ideally your woman should smell you when she gets close to you, not making a beeline for the door to run away from the perfume.
Joshua Goh is dating & relationship expert. For more information on up-to-date dating reviews and practical online dating tips & tricks, please visit Cupidwave.com
Online Dating mistakes men make that put women off
In general, there are more men dating online than there are women. So if you are a man trying to find love online, you will want to make sure you're going about things the right way. Although there are no failsafe written rules for online dating, there are certain unwritten etiquette rules that are advisable to follow if you want to get the best result out of your online dating experience.
Below is a list of ten things that are likely put women off dating you online.
No picture
Women (and men, for that matter) like to know who they are talking to. Having no picture makes women think you have something to hide. This could be anything from bad looks to already being married. Don't worry about your looks, different people have different tastes. However, having no picture up would make women imagine the worst, even if, in reality, they would actually find you attractive. A clear headshot of you smiling says you are genuine, friendly and serious about finding someone.
Naked pictures
It's hard to believe that this needs saying at all, but some men choose to upload nude pictures of themselves to websites rather than headshots. This is acceptable behaviour on adult-themed dating sites where people are generally only after sex, but on all other sites this causes annoyance, if not distress. Even people who specify they are interested in casual relationships are not likely to respond favourably to naked pictures. Unless you are certain this kind of behaviour is acceptable on the site, don't do it.
Accusing tone
People who have had bad dating experience occasionally try and protect themselves from being hurt by writing a profile warning off "undesirables". Obviously, no one likes having their time wasted by the wrong kind of people, but filling large parts of your profile with references to the sort of people you don't want to meet can make you sound unapproachable, unfriendly or even paranoid. Saying things like "no time wasters" are unnecessary -- no sane woman would sit in front of the computer and think "I feel like wasting someone's time today". The only thing a statement like that would do is make you sound impatient and demanding. Phrases like "no fat chicks", "no old hags" etc. would make you sound rude and offensive and make most women stay away, regardless of their age and shape. Instead, concentrate on positive aspects of who you would like to meet.
List of demands
Be careful of turning your profile into a long list of demands. While it's good to include information about your ideal woman, don't let it turn into a ransom note. Always include information about yourself in your profile and if you have high expectations from your potential mate, it's good to complement them with details about your own qualities so that you don't come across as arrogant and fussy. For example, a phrase like "I go to the gym 4-5 times a week and take care of my body, so I want to meet women who take care of theirs" sounds much better than "I want to meet fit women".
Going on about ex
Your online dating profile is not the place to go on about your past dating failures. It's a place to show your optimistic, hopeful side that is ready to move on. Don't fill it up with details about how bad your break-up was, how nasty your ex was and how you think all women are out to get you. You won't be doing yourself any favours.
Boasting
There is a fine line between describing your finer details and showing off. Going over the top with describing how great you are will only make women think you are arrogant and full of yourself. Be particularly careful of anything sexual, including describing body parts or how good you are in bed. Most women wouldn't believe it anyway and would be immediately put off.
Asking for sex
Unless you are on an adult-themed site, you are unlikely to get anywhere by messaging women and asking for sex straight away. Obviously, there are some exceptions, such as when a woman has specified on her profile that she is looking for sex as well. Otherwise, it's best to be more polite. Depending on the site you are using, it may be acceptable to say in your profile that you are looking for sex, though different sites will have different levels of tolerance to such requests. On mainstream sites, it's best to keep such information to a minimum, without going into any graphic descriptions.
Empty profiles
Women will probably not bother contacting you if your profile contains no information about yourself. Put the effort in and make sure you say enough to make them interested. It's worth spending the time to do this properly as the amount of responses you will get will significantly rise.
Jealousy and possessiveness
When starting to communicate with women online, don't act like you're married straight away. Demanding to know where your new friend is every time she is not speaking to you is not likely to make her want to stick around. Let things develop at their natural pace without being too pushy.
Acting Desperate
It's somehow hard to gauge the different between acting cool and acting distant and the difference between being affectionate and being overly-eager. Still, sometimes it's best to err on the side of caution and not flood your new match with over the top romantic behaviour. Turning up to a casual first date with a giant bouquet of flowers is an example of over-eagerness. If you like someone, do let her know, but again, don't expect her to commit to marrying you after a single phone call or date.
Suzy Alllen works for Pocado.com - Online Dating and Chat
Below is a list of ten things that are likely put women off dating you online.
No picture
Women (and men, for that matter) like to know who they are talking to. Having no picture makes women think you have something to hide. This could be anything from bad looks to already being married. Don't worry about your looks, different people have different tastes. However, having no picture up would make women imagine the worst, even if, in reality, they would actually find you attractive. A clear headshot of you smiling says you are genuine, friendly and serious about finding someone.
Naked pictures
It's hard to believe that this needs saying at all, but some men choose to upload nude pictures of themselves to websites rather than headshots. This is acceptable behaviour on adult-themed dating sites where people are generally only after sex, but on all other sites this causes annoyance, if not distress. Even people who specify they are interested in casual relationships are not likely to respond favourably to naked pictures. Unless you are certain this kind of behaviour is acceptable on the site, don't do it.
Accusing tone
People who have had bad dating experience occasionally try and protect themselves from being hurt by writing a profile warning off "undesirables". Obviously, no one likes having their time wasted by the wrong kind of people, but filling large parts of your profile with references to the sort of people you don't want to meet can make you sound unapproachable, unfriendly or even paranoid. Saying things like "no time wasters" are unnecessary -- no sane woman would sit in front of the computer and think "I feel like wasting someone's time today". The only thing a statement like that would do is make you sound impatient and demanding. Phrases like "no fat chicks", "no old hags" etc. would make you sound rude and offensive and make most women stay away, regardless of their age and shape. Instead, concentrate on positive aspects of who you would like to meet.
List of demands
Be careful of turning your profile into a long list of demands. While it's good to include information about your ideal woman, don't let it turn into a ransom note. Always include information about yourself in your profile and if you have high expectations from your potential mate, it's good to complement them with details about your own qualities so that you don't come across as arrogant and fussy. For example, a phrase like "I go to the gym 4-5 times a week and take care of my body, so I want to meet women who take care of theirs" sounds much better than "I want to meet fit women".
Going on about ex
Your online dating profile is not the place to go on about your past dating failures. It's a place to show your optimistic, hopeful side that is ready to move on. Don't fill it up with details about how bad your break-up was, how nasty your ex was and how you think all women are out to get you. You won't be doing yourself any favours.
Boasting
There is a fine line between describing your finer details and showing off. Going over the top with describing how great you are will only make women think you are arrogant and full of yourself. Be particularly careful of anything sexual, including describing body parts or how good you are in bed. Most women wouldn't believe it anyway and would be immediately put off.
Asking for sex
Unless you are on an adult-themed site, you are unlikely to get anywhere by messaging women and asking for sex straight away. Obviously, there are some exceptions, such as when a woman has specified on her profile that she is looking for sex as well. Otherwise, it's best to be more polite. Depending on the site you are using, it may be acceptable to say in your profile that you are looking for sex, though different sites will have different levels of tolerance to such requests. On mainstream sites, it's best to keep such information to a minimum, without going into any graphic descriptions.
Empty profiles
Women will probably not bother contacting you if your profile contains no information about yourself. Put the effort in and make sure you say enough to make them interested. It's worth spending the time to do this properly as the amount of responses you will get will significantly rise.
Jealousy and possessiveness
When starting to communicate with women online, don't act like you're married straight away. Demanding to know where your new friend is every time she is not speaking to you is not likely to make her want to stick around. Let things develop at their natural pace without being too pushy.
Acting Desperate
It's somehow hard to gauge the different between acting cool and acting distant and the difference between being affectionate and being overly-eager. Still, sometimes it's best to err on the side of caution and not flood your new match with over the top romantic behaviour. Turning up to a casual first date with a giant bouquet of flowers is an example of over-eagerness. If you like someone, do let her know, but again, don't expect her to commit to marrying you after a single phone call or date.
Suzy Alllen works for Pocado.com - Online Dating and Chat
Dating - What Do Men & Women Find Irresistible in Each Other?
Women say they want to find a 'good man' they can love. This is true to some degree. Women 'Love' as the most significant need they want fulfilled in a man. However reality is different from our beliefs. Love is wonderful but women seem to be attracted to other characteristics and traits long before love develops. Basically what women want in the new millennium has not changed much from what women wanted millions of years ago. So, what is it that attracts a woman to a man?
There is no question that women respect and look for a man who works hard, more than just about any trait or characteristic. If a man is not afraid of hard work, she knows she will be always cared for. A man who is willing to work long hours is seen as tenacious and someone who is reliable. Women know at some level that a man who works long hours is a person who is able to bring stability, especially in terms of financial reward. Women on average are attracted to men who work hard. Of all the characteristics a man can have this is one of the most important that women look for consciously or unconsciously.
Some other traits and characteristics that women look in a man:
Women want commitment. They want to know that a man is interested in their future. A man with a strong sense of personal, social, and business mastery. Kindness is perceived as an almost irresistible trait An interesting comment that we hear women saying is, they like a man who is 'good with kids' How important is money? Almost all women surveyed in study after study indicates they want to be with a man who makes more money. Women thrive and enjoy life when they experience security and stability. And last but not the least, a man who cares her and her kids.
What do men find irresistible in women?
What is it that draws a man to a woman? There is little that a woman possesses that initially entices a man beyond her physical attractiveness. This does not mean that if a woman is not physically attractive that she has no opportunity to find happiness. It does mean that physical attractiveness is far and away the number one trait that men look for in women. Men are driven in large part by their desire to have sex. This surprises no one. Napoleon Hill, history's greatest success philosopher spelled out year's ago that the most successful men in history have had enormous sex desires. However, men who pursue only their sex drives rarely become successful. A significant element in the success of any man is being able to channel that sexual energy into their work.
How does we know what physical attractiveness means to a man? Men think differently than women do. Consider this amazing fact. In mathematical terms men have evolved to find a woman waist to hip ratio is about .7 as most attractive to them. In other words, divide the waist measurement by the hip measurement and the resulting number is between .6 and .8. A man will almost certainly find that woman instantly attractive. This is the bottom half of the hourglass figures. A man does not need a measuring tape to know that he is attracted someone however. He simply has a certain shape that he is designed to look for and this is part of that shape. (Women do have a filter for a man's physical appearance. Women tend to unconsciously filter out men whose waist is larger than their hips). Having said that, however, physical attractiveness is not the sole criteria to a woman being attracted to a man.
Pradeep Aggarwal is the creator of dating tantra. The website teaches you the nuances of dating, relationship with tips and tricks for successful dating that will make your date a success. Visit http://www.datingtantra.com for free 6-part mini course "Make My Love Beautiful".
There is no question that women respect and look for a man who works hard, more than just about any trait or characteristic. If a man is not afraid of hard work, she knows she will be always cared for. A man who is willing to work long hours is seen as tenacious and someone who is reliable. Women know at some level that a man who works long hours is a person who is able to bring stability, especially in terms of financial reward. Women on average are attracted to men who work hard. Of all the characteristics a man can have this is one of the most important that women look for consciously or unconsciously.
Some other traits and characteristics that women look in a man:
Women want commitment. They want to know that a man is interested in their future. A man with a strong sense of personal, social, and business mastery. Kindness is perceived as an almost irresistible trait An interesting comment that we hear women saying is, they like a man who is 'good with kids' How important is money? Almost all women surveyed in study after study indicates they want to be with a man who makes more money. Women thrive and enjoy life when they experience security and stability. And last but not the least, a man who cares her and her kids.
What do men find irresistible in women?
What is it that draws a man to a woman? There is little that a woman possesses that initially entices a man beyond her physical attractiveness. This does not mean that if a woman is not physically attractive that she has no opportunity to find happiness. It does mean that physical attractiveness is far and away the number one trait that men look for in women. Men are driven in large part by their desire to have sex. This surprises no one. Napoleon Hill, history's greatest success philosopher spelled out year's ago that the most successful men in history have had enormous sex desires. However, men who pursue only their sex drives rarely become successful. A significant element in the success of any man is being able to channel that sexual energy into their work.
How does we know what physical attractiveness means to a man? Men think differently than women do. Consider this amazing fact. In mathematical terms men have evolved to find a woman waist to hip ratio is about .7 as most attractive to them. In other words, divide the waist measurement by the hip measurement and the resulting number is between .6 and .8. A man will almost certainly find that woman instantly attractive. This is the bottom half of the hourglass figures. A man does not need a measuring tape to know that he is attracted someone however. He simply has a certain shape that he is designed to look for and this is part of that shape. (Women do have a filter for a man's physical appearance. Women tend to unconsciously filter out men whose waist is larger than their hips). Having said that, however, physical attractiveness is not the sole criteria to a woman being attracted to a man.
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