Below are just a few of many tips you can use to flirt with attractive women.
Flirting is an art form essentially and as I say with anything else practice is what makes you proficient.
Flirting Tip #1 Have a good time as opposed to "picking up" women will sense you want something from them and will be weirded out. Try not to have an outcome or objective from the interaction apart from "let's see how much fun I can have tonight".
Guys with this mentality seem to get more success as they sub-communicate this mindset during the flirting process.
If you're walking into a bar now with a mate and look like predators "scopeing" the place out then women will sense this. NOT GOOD.
My advice is to not have an agenda as it puts undue pressure on yourself to perform and that's the last thing you want.
For example if you told yourself you have to collect 4 phone numbers tonight when you're out and by the end of the night you only had 1 how would you feel?
Not too good huh?
Have the only objective to go out and make women smile, have fun with your buddies, stay sober and improve your flirting skills.
Flirting Tip #2 Flirting is essentially teasing a woman in a playful way. If you tease her period she'll think you're a jerk and walk away so be warned also take a look at cocky and funny.
However if you tease her and it also makes her laugh then that is good flirting and you'll get far in this game.
If you're completely bald a funny thing to say to a woman you've just met is:
"Hey there ...I just noticed your hair and it has a radiant shine ...you have to let me in on your secret as I've tried every conditioner under the sun and I still cant make it look as radiant as yours ...
Women love this humor...
For more information look through cocky and funny by David DeAngelo.
It's playful, cocky, funny and essentially teases them in a playful way or i.e. FLIRTING
Flirting Tip #3 Touch them playfully as much as you can.
The more you touch women (neutral places here guys) the more she'll feel comfortable around you. Too many guys I know still wait 5-10 minutes to even HUG HER! I on the other hand start the hugging process within 30 seconds.
The idea behind this is simply to get her use to your touch and convey you're comfortable doing this. Which is an attractive trait.
If you plan on kissing her the same night then you MUST touch her early on in the interaction (she'll take this as you're flirting with her).
Flirting can conveyed through two (2) channels: 1. Voice 2. Body Language
When I say flirting through the voice what that means is simply teasing through your tonality and making her react to you on several different levels i.e shocked, laughing, jealousy, excited and more. Ideally the more emotions you elicit from her the more attraction you'll build up.
Flirting through body language is playfully touching her, thumb wars, hand slaps, hi-five her, back turning her, hugging her, using your facial expressions etc
This sub-communicates far more than words could ever do ...
Flirting Tip #4 Flirting is more powerful if you convey directly that you like her. I found going "direct" and saying she's cute and I'm surprised she doesn't have a boyfriend to work well and THEN I flirt with her.
I especially enjoying doing this during the day when approaching women as it's fun and the results are very powerful if delivered correctly.
This conveys I know what I want and go after it and that I'm confident.
This takes a little practice to do though guys. If you say this and you're not congruent with it then it'll come across as lame so it's better if you're approached many women before this.
However when you do eventually reach a level where you can comfortable flirt with her directly then you will see amazing results within you.
Scenarios you would had never though possible and reactions you would never expect (positive) will come to surface, it's funny as I write this as I know you'd look back the last few years and wonder "wow ...I could have said this direct stuff years ago"
Yes and you'd be right ...
Talk soon! Alex
Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.
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