Dos And Don'ts On The First Date

My experience during my first date was one to reckon with. I was sweating all through and it is an understatement to say the tension was so real i nearly jumped out of my own skin! All that i had planned to say or do vanished out of my mind. I was practically blank and an explained state of nervousness. I hope you can guess how i was. Surely, i could not face my date one more time. There were no follow ups because i could not imagine dating someone who saw me in such overwhelming confusion. A first date dictates a lot about the days to come. It gives the first impression of who you are and whether there are future prospects in the relationship. It is hard to know what to expect or whether something will come out of it. To turn your first date into a successful romantic relationship. Play your cards right! How do you do this?

One big mistake repeated over and again is the tendency of the dates to fake everything. Do not pretend what you are not because this will leave you frustrated at last. You are who you are by design and you should be proud of that it makes you special. Focus on your strong points and overlook your weaknesses. Many are the times people lie about this or the other to cover up for their small cracks in life. The big mistake would be even to concentrate on your weakness! Nobody will notice it if you do not dwell on it. If you are financially unstable, do not feign imaginary wealth because in your effort to impress you will end up put yourself in a more state of confusion. You will have already spoilt the broth! Remember this is your first date and your date will soon find out the truth. To continue in the relationship, you will certainly need to keep putting up faces. You know what that means? Untold suffering which would have been easily avoided. The stress and the hassles is not worth. Simply tell the truth to pursue a relationship further after the first date.

Relax! It is not a life test. Even if you are not lucky to get this particular person, then he/she was not meant for you. Approach your first date with a sober mind, avoid being over confident and again not too careless. Create a favorable environment for friendship such that you both exchange the necessary information at will. Avoid creating unnecessary tension in that environment. Avoid making the whole dating scene a monologue and or a situation that seem as if if you are gilling your date with questions. If this happens, both parties will be tired of the first date and will be looking forward to end the cumbersome meeting. This is not the expected outcome. To avoid the uninvited tension, smile often and control yourself. A well maintained charming smile will offer a solution and eliminate the crippling uneasiness.

Another habit which ruins a first date is the tendency to avoid questions. Answer the seemingly challenging questions wisely but do not overlook some of them. As the wise men advise us, when you avoid storms and rough waters, you will never make a skilled sailor. Answer the questions well, it might save you another day. Follow my advice and you will never go wrong.

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Being A Leader When Dating

What is leadership?

It is important to immediate communicate that YOU are the leader, not let and not let somebody else communicate that they are leading you! A lot of guys unfortunately and mistakenly place women on some level that they can not reach and therefore let the girl have total leadership and let them be in control of situations.

The reality is that the girl NEEDS what YOU have. Therefore YOU are the leader!

The one quality that communicates leadership, more so than everything else, is slight overconfidence.

Leadership = confidence.

Be overconfident in a charming and maybe even funny way. Don't be overtly arrogant unless you're dealing with someone who is being arrogant and overbearing.

-- Confidence" is a vague term. Confidence really means --not insecure." In other words, it means not being submissive and not seeking anyone else's approval, including women and others. Most people seek women's approval, and even other men therefore destroying confidence.

Confidence is seen in an outward way as having a calm, cool, smooth demeanor with relaxed, spread out body language. This really communicates confidence and a total lack of insecurity.

Leaders DO NOT seek anyone's approval! Say this to yourself: --I approve. You are the one who approves or disapproves of what is going on. What anyone else thinks is irrelevant because You are the one who judges. Repeat this often before going out to a bar or club.

Leadership = dominance.

Dominance simply means that YOU are in control, and others must comply with YOU.

Being dominant does not mean being domineering. Domineering is a sign of insecurity oe domineering people are trying to overtly control others. Dominant people do not overtly control or manipulate others; they control THEMSELVES and SITUATIONS.

Leadership = control.

Control means control over yourself and situations in which you find yourself. Others defer to you and your judgment.

Control does not mean to be controlling. Like domineering, controlling suggests insecurity. You should strive to be in control of yourself and situations, not to outwardly control other people.
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Think Of It Like Dating

This particular marketing secret is one that is resisted by more people in business, and is also the very reason why many a business fails to generate the revenues they want and deserve.

Successful marketing is a process of building a relationship of value and trust through a series of sequenced-steps.

Think of it like dating. You would never ask someone to marry you on the first date, would you? Please, I hope not!

Marketing is like dating. You go on several dates to explore the possibility of starting a relationship. There is a sequence of steps in really getting to know a person.

So too with great marketing. The purpose then, is to get people to take a series of sequenced steps with you learning more about your expertise along the way and trusting more and more that you have the best service to offer them.

Here’s An Example:

Recently I took my BMW into a nearby dealership to have minor repairs done. As I pulled my car into their valet area, a man greeted me before I could even step out of my car saying, "A technician will be right with you. In the meantime would you just fill out your name and phone number on this form?"

Before I had the form completed the technician steps up and greets me, asking what my car's up to? Since, it's a small matter, they offer to fix it while I wait in the reception area with big screen TV's. I am offered bottled water and/or coffee.

A few minutes later a man comes in and tells me it will be less than $200 in repairs and I give him the ok to proceed. Less than 30 minutes later, the same man greets me with, "Your car is ready." I asked for my bill, which he replied, "There is no charge for today."

I LOVE this dealership by now.

As I am walking out, I hear another customer service man telling a customer, "Though your warranty has recently expired, we handled the repairs today at no charge to you." I drive away an ecstatic client.

Later, I am telling a friend the story of such exceptional service, mentioning, "When I am ready to buy a new car, there is no where else to go but back to this dealership. I feel obligated."

You see, with every sequenced-step of service this dealership offers its customers, they can take their results to the bank and they know it—it’s only a matter of time.

It's no wonder the woman who owns this company has been written up in Fortune Magazine. There is a thing called the Law of Reciprocity which states when you give first, people feel obligated to return the favor--often giving more in return. There is an unconscious need to even the score.

In marketing, statistics say that it takes at least 9, some even say 11 times, of reaching out to your prospects and customers before they will feel the urge to buy from you. When you combine the Law of Reciprocity with the Law of Repetition--now you have a powerful combination on your hands to increase your relationship-building opportunities and shorten your selling cycle.

So how can you combine both laws in your business to increase your revenues and sales results? You can start by giving people more value each time you reach out to them. Ask them what they need and want, and then give it to them in sequenced steps that lead them to becoming raving fans and life- long customers.

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Dating With Confidence

Dating can be a nerve-wracking experience for many people. After all, you could be meeting your future spouse. It can also be a very vulnerable experience. The whole point of dating (usually) is to get to know someone else on an intimate level, or at least beginning this process. For whatever reason, and there are many, most people want to make a good first impression. At the very least, most people want to avoid rejection. Dating is a prime opportunity for this by its very nature. Whether you're looking for a fun night out or a long term development, rejection can occur either way, and it can be difficult to deal with. Self-doubt can come in many forms, from questioning one's intelligence to one's looks to one's ability to tell a good joke. Dating puts it all out there.

How can you increase your confidence when it comes to dating? There are a few things you can do, and certain methods are more appropriate for some people than others.

First Things First

A date is just a date. It is not the rest of your life. Yes, you may meet your future spouse, but this is far beyond the scope of the date. At this point, no matter how desperate you may be feeling to finally settle down, focus only on the date. Putting more pressure on it makes it harder for both of you. The other person is likely to sense your "desperation" (for lack of a better word), and you end up putting way to much pressure on yourself. Instead, try focusing on the date itself, not where it may or may not lead. Enjoy the time together, or, if you don't, try to avoid blaming yourself and going into the litany of self-talk that tries to convince you that you're not worth dating, you'll never find someone, and that you'll be single for the rest of your life.

Be Yourself

Yes, you've heard it many times before, and there's a reason for it. If you do hit it off with the other person, it's best if this happens when you're being true to yourself. If you're "faking" it, you're then faced with coming forward and facing humiliation, rejection, or both, or continuing the facade. This takes a lot of effort, it's dishonest, and you can't keep it up for very long anyway. So whatever your faults, try not to hide them too much. This doesn't mean that you put them all out on the table on the first date, but it also means that you don't go to extreme measures trying to hide them or pretending to be something or someone you're not.

Get Out of Yourself

To help deal with your insecurities about yourself, try focusing on the other person. Show a genuine interest in what he or she has to say. Be honest and courteous in your responses. Let the other person have the spotlight. Not only does this help keep you from focusing on your insecurities, it also helps accomplish what dates are meant to do--get to know someone else better. Ask questions, listen to the answers, and ask more. Talk about common interests when you find them. Above all, try to avoid talking about yourself the whole time or worrying too much about how you look, what you're saying, and what type of impression you're making.

Try Something Different

If the idea of sitting through a quiet dinner with someone you barely know makes you break out into a sweat, consider dating activities that involve a bit more involvement. Take a tour through a garden, go rollerblading, or do some other activity that keeps you moving. If you have something to do, you can focus less on feeling awkward and more on the conversation. It helps keep the atmosphere lighter as well, which can make you both feel more comfortable and confident.

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Dating After 50

Today, there are over 30 million singles over the age of fifty. Rising divorce rates and longer life spans have caused a tremendous increase in the number of older singles. Almost forty percent of Americans over the age of fifty are single. Over half of these singles are reentering the dating scene.

As a person gets older, they become much more realistic in their expectations. Single adults over the age of fifty tend to be more flexible and unbiased in their searching. This age group is also the least likely to enter a relationship expecting something long-term.

Men and women over fifty are usually more emotionally stable than those who are younger. This makes the dating game a lot more fun. Break ups and heart breaks are more easily put into perspective rather than allowed to hinder the enjoyment of living life.

Joining back in the dating game after so many years can be quite intimidating. However, the fun and companionship is well worth the frightening leap. With so many advances and changes in the dating world, it is easier than ever to jump back in.

Many singles over fifty are attracted to the ease of meeting other singles online. The internet gives singles a non-threatening, relaxed way of meeting people from the comfort of their homes. It is an easy way to get to know one another before agonizing over a first date that may be a waste of time rather than an enjoyable evening. There are numerous websites available to place free dating classifieds and many of these are specifically for seniors.

Another popular way of meeting other older singles are specific interest groups. Book clubs, religious activities, and dinner clubs are a few of many social gatherings that can lead to great opportunities. Interest groups are a terrific way to make friends that share similar hobbies and views.

One of the biggest fears for singles over fifty is the thought of having to show their body to their partner. Everyone gains weight, wrinkles, stretch marks, and sags as they get older. It is important to be confident with yourself and remember that your partner has aged as well and is not expecting a teenage body.

The most important rule to remember when returning to the dating field is to have fun. Allow at least two years before starting to date again to prevent falling back into a serious relationship for comfort and habit. Then take your time, enjoy the companionship, and stay optimistic. Perfect relationships are not developed overnight.

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Dating For What?

The word dating is derived from ‘date’. When they word “date” is uttered among youth it implies to much more than the date as a chronological reference to time in terms of time as we know and the calendar we follow. For the youth it means an appointment with a friend of opposite for an evening or night out.

For an adult ‘date’ has same meaning as the youth but it is not restricted to fun and holding hands and mumbling few niceties before the farewell. Adult dating implies to creating a space for love, romance or a long-term relationship and casual or pre-mediated hot, torrid sex encounter. Another negative aspect of dating on land is that anonymity cannot be maintained easily and squarely as you would like to at least in the initial stages.

The adult dating world is very complex and mired in confusion for many. The reason is that dating on land as such was a very frustrating affair as interaction with the opposite sex was restricted to social clubs, work place, community and few other outlets. Thus if within these venues you could not find a soul mate or a sex partner then you had to wait for eternity for that chance meeting (if ever) with a perfect person. Or catch hold of who ever you found near suitable and risk the chance of facing frustration in later period of life.

Internet has changed that, the fantastic information transmission and connectivity that it has ushered has brought about a paradigm shift in the way we date. Not only the way we date but even in our sexual attitudes and orientations. If you visit any online dating site you will realize as to how valid the above fact is. Browse the adult personals of any major dating service and you will realize how varied the expression of sexual desire and sexual preference is.

In a fast changing society the expression of word sex is no more a taboo. People now flaunt their sexuality more openly and are not afraid of experimenting with different lifestyles as is apparent in case of swinging among couples know as swingers or adult swingers. Swinger sex albeit not acceptable to traditionalist has brought about a revolution in sex lives of married couples. The aspect of sharing once wife or swapping partner for sex is now nothing new. One good look at swinger’s personals will make that apparent. Even as a single you can sex with swinger’s if acceptance is there – since there are many combinations that are popular among swingers from twosome sex to threesome sex and orgies. BDSM and fetishist also find there kind in these websites.

Similarly the alternate sex seekers like bisexual, gay and lesbians have surfaced evenly in Internet dating thanks to anonymity it provides to out personals in a world which still refers to homo sexuality as “queer”. There are now specific portal which are service providers for alternate sex seekers and are referred to as gay dating sites and lesbian dating site which are targeted on gay sex and lesbian sex.

Many portals offer the option of ethnic or religious dating on lines of your desire to date with a person of same faith or ethnicity or have interracial relationship.

You can virtually date anyone in the world as people can post their profiles on any dating service now along with their photos. You can interact with people you like using online chat or live webcams to get to know them better before you take the plunge of meeting them. This will take you to a long term relationship a matrimonial alliance or a rollicking sex date what ever you wish.

Hence when you visit an online dating site make sure of what you wish for and accordingly choose a site that is focused on singles dating, sex dating, gay lesbian or swinger’s sex or even just friendship. Then there are matchmaking services or adult friendfinders that are region specific in case you are looking for dating within your country or in a local area. There are portals which offer everything under one roof making your task easier.

Be careful there portals that offer everything and deliver nothing. They will cheat on your credit cards and most of the profiles posted would be fake or inactive. Prefer sites which give free registration thereby giving you a chance for exploring the site before you commit financially. In most of the trusted sites privacy, anonymity and safety is assured. Just be focused what kind of dating you are in for to have a successful online dating experience. BingO!

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Go Carefully Into Dating

Whether you are fifteen or thirty-five, dating is something that should be thought about and done carefully. There are few if any areas of your life that you should proceed with as much caution in as dating.

Before anyone thinks of dating someone else, they should take some time to evaluate themself and their current life situation. Someone with large questions about who they are or about what want to do in life should be hesitant to enter into a dating situation. The more you know yourself and the better your life is before you begin dating, the better chance you have that dating will add to the quality of your life. Ask yourself hard questions about who you are and about the kind of dating relationship you hope to have.

It is equally important to consider carefully the kind of person that you hope to begin a dating relationship with. The more you know yourself, the better you will understand what kind of person or personality will best complement who you are in a dating relationship. We have all heard it said that "opposites attract," and in many cases this is true. So, for example, if you tend to be an outgoing person who loves attention, the chances are high that you should not begin dating someone with a similar personality. The person you choose to date should be someone that shares common interests and values with you. There is nothing better than dating the right person at the right time and for the right reason. However, there is equally nothing worse than dating the wrong person at the wrong time for the wrong reasons.

A third major thing to consider before you begin dating someone is your expectations for the relationship. It is always wise to enter a new relationship with an understanding of the things you expect both to give to it and to receive from it. Be honest with yourself in this process. If you expect to spend time with the person you are dating every single day, then you should let that person know your expectations from the start. Or if, perhaps, you are looking to date someone while continuing with other things in your life, then be honest about that upfront as well.

Dating can be one of the most fun and beneficial things in life. It is always wise to be thinking long term and big picture when you enter a dating situation. Do not start dating someone that you know for sure you could never marry and spend the rest of your life with. So take your time and answer some serious questions before you get yourself into a serious dating relationship and realize it is wrong.

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Why You Should Avoid This Emotional Love Affair

You thought you were the last person they would find if they went looking for an emotional person. You are now confused since you met this person who tapped your feelings and now you are all emotional. Which route should you take when it turns to be an emotional love affair? Everything you do turns out to be contrary to your expectations. You are too emotional. Emotional love affairs turn out to be so hurting. It takes long to collect the pieces and move on because they rarely last. Every issue in an emotional love affair ends up in a mess. Keep your emotions in check since they are the same ones which brought you together. Love as an emotion can confuse human mind and beats all intellect. Be wise.

Emotional love affairs come crashing down since intense feelings impair the level of thinking. A previously happy affair takes a turn and becomes frustrating and saddening. Most emotional love affairs use the tit for tat phenomenon. An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind so to speak an emotional love affair. It looses direction and focuses on revenge. What do you think will happen when i feel so hurt that my partner has failed to call me. I might be dying to hear him talk i do not care about what even if it is nonsense but just his voice. I will not call him though i will be hurting. Imagine if he also gets stupidly emotional and reacts the same. The affair will simply be a game of shifting blames and on the way to the rocks. To avoid an emotional love affair, do not take revenge to more than loving your significant other back. Just love him/her.

I think i do not care if you love me so much it makes you cry all the time. The problem comes in when you hurt me by the little things you do and it makes me cry. It is not worth if i hate how much i love you. It will stop being a love affair to a war affair. An emotional love affair pushes each partner to fight with their feelings. The more you fight with yourself and reject your intense feelings the more they hit back at you. You will try and fail miserably most of the times. If you get lucky enough not to reach exhaustion, you will succeed in separating with your partner because logic dictates that such an emotional love affair is harmful to your social life. At the end of it you will have scars in your heart which you might take to the grave. To avoid this, do not encourage an emotional love affair at all costs.

An emotional love affair sabotages communication. When you are too emotional, language tends to hit the wall and expression takes a back sit. Without communication, misunderstanding is unavoidable. Please if you notice your partner is going down that route, talk about it. It is in a word. You will never guess it unless you keep talking. Be slow to anger and an emotional love affair will be news to you.

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Advice on Dating: Your Date Is Not Your Ex

Your date was quiet all the way home but you could feel the anger. This is the fourth time they have gone out with you. They have indicated very clearly that they like you and want to know you better. They do not know if the two of you have a future together but they have made every concerted effort to try and find out.

That is until tonight. They have come to the conclusion that they just cannot take it anymore. Every date so far no matter how it starts always ends the same way. The conversation with out fail comes back to your ex.

When you date says something it reminds you of that time your ex said the exact same thing. When you date laughs it is so reminiscent of how your significant other guffaws. The way they wear their hat or sip their tea brings back all of those memories of your ex and unfortunately you share that information with your current date.

No wonder they are not speaking to you. That changes when you drop them off in front of their house. They tell you in no uncertain terms that they do not appreciate you singing the blues about your past relationship. If you want to carry a torch find but do not expect them to help you keep the flame burning. They did not sign on for that and in reality neither did you. Whether you admit it or not the bottom line is you went out with this person to get a fresh start.

Therefore it is important to give yourself, your date and and your ex a break for a few reasons:

1. It's Over

Why are you dating this new person? Because your relationship with your ex is over. Either go forward with your dating life or make the effort to get your ex back. But understand you cannot have both. Accept the fact that it is over and reintroduce yourself to the dating community.

2. It's Boring

Besides resenting the fact that your ex is taking up their time, your dating partner is going to grow tired of this quicker than you realize. The truth is they have gone out with you multiple times which shows you how they feel about you but their patience is not unlimited and neither is their attention span. Going on and on about your ex is either an invitation to end the date prematurely or watch them doze off.

3. Self Sabotage

If you feel you are not ready to date than do not date. There is nothing wrong with taking time off to get yourself together before deciding to reconnect with the dating scene. Going out there knowing that your main focus is still on your ex is asking for trouble in the short and long term.

4. Shoe Meet Other Foot

Think about it. You start talking about you ex and then your date start talking about their ex. Next thing you know four people are double dating but only two are sitting at the table. That makes things a little crowded including not having time to reconnect with each other because you are spending so much time trying to relive memories. Needless to say if your date was the only one talking about their ex, it would not take you long to get very tired of it and them

You had great times with your ex but for whatever reason the two of you are not together anymore. Be thankful for the good times you shared but do not romanticize the entire relationship. The fact is that meeting and dating someone new means the relationship has the potential to equal or surpass what you previously enjoyed. You owe it to yourself to make the most of it.

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Dating Scams - Losing your Mind and Everything Else

You may have heard about all the lonely women who have lost their belongings and hearts to unsrupulous online scammers. It's been all over the news. Some of these women have lost almost everything to these loathesome cowards. It seems a large number are based in Nigeria.

Online dating scams have always been around. While there are desperately lonely people there are always going to be unscrupulous operators targeting them. However, the Nigerian scam has one major difference. These guys are getting these unsuspecting women to hand over life savings, mortgage their homes, and take out loans. Many of these online bandits are successfully ripping women off in just a few weeks after contact.

You might think it's absurd to hand over your mortgage to a perfect stranger, but people do it. So, how to know if you are about to lose your home? Any new love who starts sad stories about dying mothers, needing cash for immigration lawyers or visas, or wanting the cash for the plane fare to meet with you should be treated with extreme caution.

There are plenty of ways to stall any monetary commitment - state your sympathy with his current position and announce your terribly poor cash-flow position. Make something up. You have lost your job, you need root canal, your cat needs chemo, you have a tax bill, whatever. Tell them you have a bad credit rating, anything. If the emails abruptly stop, you know you have just gotten rid of a financial parasite who was only going to empty out your bank account.

Don't make yourself a target for these online scammers. When you are starting a new online romance be careful what you say. Do you really think that a potential partner should ask if you own your own house...no there isn't. Don't be too specific about vacation destinations. The fact that you have household help, your children are in boarding school, and your ex-husband is filthy rich, are all details that others do not need to know right away. These sorts of little clues immediately tell someone else that you may have plenty of dollars to throw in their direction. Use some discretion. When it comes down to it, you'll be happy with someone who loves you, not your finances?

Anyone wanting a plane fare to meet you should be approached with a subtle, "how about I come and meet you?". A real potential partner will be OK with this but a cowardly scammer will be very unhappy.

Someone announcing their love for you in the time that it takes to clean your teeth, should be viewed suspiciously. Do not allow your heart to rule your finances. Would you give your money to a stranger? Would you take out a bank loan for a guy you have just met in a bar?

If you think you want to proceed with what might be a scam, make sure you're comfortable in perhaps losing any money you send. How much money can you really afford to wave good bye to? How much of a loan can you really afford to repay? This is the amount you should be sending to your new love in Nigeria. At least then you will only be heart broken and not dead broke as well.

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Some Important First Date Tips You Should Use

A lot of people find it worrying to go on a first date. You may sense a feeling of being under pressure to impress. You feel that you are under inspection and your shortcomings will be uncovered. You feel that a number of possible remarks you make could be sufficient to ruin the entire occasion. The consequence of all these things can be very much reduced by boosting your self-confidence. Whenever you give out confidence, it will be more attractive to your date and you will take pleasure in the evening more so than ever. Follow these tips on boosting your own self-confidence.

Keep in mind that it's only a date. You will not be undergoing a life sentence here. It will not decide who you will be with for the rest of your life unless you decide to marry your date. Just enjoy it for the meantime. Take pleasure in what you will be doing for the rest of the 3-4 hours you will be together. This kind of initiative will ease you from the pressure and you will seem more relaxed and look more attractive because of the mature aura. If you believe in yourself that you have the confidence, the knowledge and the guts to carry out a simple date, your date will be thinking the same thing too and will be most likely impressed with you.

Know how to dress. There are several things to consider when choosing something to wear to impress a woman. First, be sure that your clothes are clean and free from creases. Make sure that your clothes fits you perfectly and not a size smaller or bigger. Investing funds on clothing that actually fits and looks good on you will not only help you appear attractive but also brings out the confidence that you have.

In whatever you do, do not look down. Looking at the ground or at your feet may give an idea that you are very uncomfortable in what you are doing. It may also imply that you are not being truthful. You can observe this when it's done by other people and it does not look good at all. If you feel uneasy, look around gradually and effortlessly. Being suave and lacking squirmy actions are the most important factors. Squirming and fidgeting will make you look jumpy which is very unappealing.

On conversations, being able to hold one is not enough. It's very important that you keep your date interested in what you are speaking about. Do not talk about yourself all the time and appear self-centered. Women hate that in men. Make her laugh and try your best to have her enjoy talking to you. There are countless things you can talk about to enjoy your conversations.

Bear in mind that the first date is supposed to be enjoyable. You are starting to get to know this person and vice versa. The first date should not be something that is similar to a conference with your superiors at work. So just relax, be yourself, and most importantly, enjoy each other.

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How to Get Your Ex Back

If you have broken up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, then you are fully aware of what an emotional roller coaster a break up can be. One minute you may be laughing and the next you may be crying. You can,t listen to the radio because certain songs will remind you of your ex. The first two weeks after a break up are the hardest. But there is hope if you want to get your ex back. Read on to discover some great advice on how to get your ex back.

It is very important that you do not try to communicate with your ex during the first two weeks after a break up. You both need time away from each to let things settle. Emotions need die down before you try to talk to each other again. If you try to communicate too soon when feelings are still raw and hurt, then you will probably just end up arguing. If you really want to try to get back with your ex, you have got to let things chill out for a couple of weeks.

Now, when you do talk with your ex, there are a few things you must keep in mind. Certain things that you say could drive him or her away again. Never say things like "It's been so long since I have seen you." You do not want to send the impression that you are missing him or her. If your ex says he misses you first you can respond with something like "You know, it has been a while. What's been going on with you.?" This will make it appear that you are doing alright without him or her. It will peak your ex's curiosity as to why you haven't been pining away.

At no time in this initial conversation should you bring up past problems. Do not question why he or she left you. If you start getting angry and asking for an explanation, you can be sure that you will never get your ex back. The best advice here is to just be yourself and act as if this is the first time you two have met. There was something about you that attracted your ex to you in the first place. Acting as if nothing ever happened will allow your ex to see that side of you again.

So if you desire to get your ex back, you have got to play it cool. Give him or her some space. Allow time for things to cool down. Go out and have some fun. When you do meet up with your ex again, just be yourself like nothing ever happened. This is the best way of improving your chances of getting your ex back.

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How To Escalate To A Sexual Level - Fast!

No matter where you are in respect of how many dates you have had with a girl or whether you are just interested in getting to know a certain girl better, you will want to take things to a sexual level as quickly as possible.

Many guy's stumble at this point due to a number of factors. Either they are too afraid to make the move and commit themselves due to the fact that they may get rejected or they just don't know what to do. The fact of the matter is that you need to constantly escalate things between you and the girl you are pursuing or you are just going to end up in the "friends zone".

So what do we do? Well first things first here's what not to do! Do not just pounce on her and try to shove your tongue down her throat! That won't work! Do not try and grab a handful of her ass at the first opportunity! Amazingly this wont work either! You need to take things to the next level smoothly! Smooth being the operative word! We're not aiming to be best friends with the girl in question. We want to take things sexual. So don't treat her like your best drinking buddy. Idle chit chat about subjects such as why the economy is failing or why she hasn't got a boyfriend yet are not likely to spike her sexual interest in you or have her feeling sexual emotions. You need to challenge her and get her to constantly prove herself to you. Get her talking about subjects that have her feeling intense emotions. Subjects such as her passions. What does she love to do. Whats most important to her in life. What does she really desire? These are the things that are going to escalate things quickly.

Teasing is a great way to escalate sexual tension. Bust her balls a bit. Get her involved in playful fighting. Tease her until she playfully hits you back for your cheek. This works great! Always keep in mind though that we want to keep things playful and lighthearted. You don't want to offend her in any way. Try to stay away from the subjects she holds most dear to her. Tease her on general subjects that you could tease any number of people on i.e T.V shows she watches, general taste in music. Become the type of guy who is generally "touchy feely". Not creepy! What I mean is that there are many people who are constantly touching you in a playful, friendly way when they are talking to you. They will touch you on the arm when talking to you, place a hand on your back when leading you somewhere, hug you when you meet up. If you are known as this type of person it will not be seen as creepy when you try to escalate things by way of correct "kino".

Use playful kino to play things safe at first. Playfighting, poking her, picking her up etc are all examples of playful kino. Incorporate this into general conversation and it also acts to add to your persona of being a generally fun guy to be around.

To escalate things further we need to add a little "sexual kino". This can be seen as things like touching her hair, holding her hand and putting your arm around her. This will escalate things to a sexual level quickly if done correctly and she will know at this point exactly what your intentions are.

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To Make Up Or Not to Make Up

So. You're thinking of going out and you're getting ready. You've done your hair, chosen your dress and now stand in front of the mirror with your mascara ready. Then you remember back to reading this article. You ask yourself, "to make up, or not to make up?" Apart from going out to have fun, if you're not already taken, you know that one of the main reasons you go out is to attract a possible mate. So, what do you think a guy thinks when he sees you? Is it what you want him to think? Are you increasing your chances of landing a guy, or sabotaging them?

Guys who say YES - A lot of guys dig a girl who knows how to beautify themselves. The keyword being beautify, not "whorify." Do you know what virtually all guys think of those max extension mascara brush thingies? We think they're stupid. Useless really. When we lean in for that 1st kiss, do we want to have our eyes potentially blinded with lashes that are longer than fingernails? Eyes shadow can be pretty, but only if it matches your eyes (yes, we'll admit that we actually pay attention to that). Lipstick can be attractive but a lot of guys think it's just down right messy. No matter what the ads tell us, we'll always think that make-up is always a bit on the excessive side. We like/love you for the beauty you already possess, not that which you have to constantly re-apply. So for guys who say "yes", we like it subtle and we like it sparingly. We want to see more of YOU and less paint.

Guys who say NO - My hands up. I'm in this category. I like my girl's real and down-to-earth. I will always see make-up as redundant, if not a hindrance to natural beauty a girl has. If you've read any of my other articles, you would know that I value flaws and imperfections in females. It's not that it shows the girl is lazy and can't be bothered hiding her imperfections; to me, it means that the girl is aware that they're there and rather, is saying, "this is who I am, take it or leave it, I'm not going to let you judge my worth." Confidence is the best make up a girl can have. Sure it might not be as easy to put on, but at least it's cheaper.

So. There you have it. The great debate, to make up or not to make up, solved! Well, not really. A lot of girls are going to read over this article and think nothing of it, but if you're determined to improve yourself for the better, then congratulations on taking the first step and finding this information the web. I've written it specifically for inquisitive girls who know they can be better. Heaps of guys are waiting for girls like you. So, whether you apply it now, or close the mascara box, just go out, have fun, be yourself, be sexy and confident and the guys will totally dig that.

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Hot Dating Tip For Men

I’ve mentioned this before but repetition is the mother of skill.

**You must avoid being predictable and boring.**

There is nothing worse that will prevent you from attracting beautiful women.

This is the number one reason she’ll come out with the dreaded, Lets-just-be-friends.

It’s only natural to want to spend time with the most interesting person you can. And being single, we luckily have that choice until we decide to take the relationship further. Male and female.

It’s natural to want to do everything right so that she’ll like you…which she’ll likely will, but the attraction won’t be created. She knows she should like someone as good as you but her buttons aren’t being pushed to create sexual tension.

What she really wants is a little adventure and unpredictability. Now you don’t have to turn into James Bond Overnight…or go parachuting on your first date. What I mean is not to be predictable and afraid to offend etc.

How to be unpredictable you ask? Good question…let’s look at it.

First thing is to ‘always’ have a playful and cheerful attitude about you. This gives you a carefree charisma and fun to be around. This is exactly what you want women to think and say of you. e.g. ‘That Mick, he’s always having a good time and fun to be around.’

Don’t be afraid to take the mickey out of the lady good naturedly. This will create sexual tension and show you to be a man not afraid to have some fun.

I’ve always wanted to have beautiful women in my life and have done so. The times I’ve blown it has been when I reverted to the nice guy, eager to please, predictable habits. DON’T do it! Truth be known, most of us are nice guys.

Be unpredictable in what you say next in conversations; work on it until it becomes habit. Saying what ISN’T expected is one of the major tips to humor.

So you’ve got a women laughing, chances are she didn’t expect what just happened. You gave her that laugh and created a pleasant atmosphere.

That said, she is going to test your character. Lots of times, this will come in the form of demands and requests – both direct and indirect. You want to keep the pleasantness, but you don’t want to give up any authority or become predictable by instantly caving into her wishes. What to do?

DELAY. This is another key word. It applies to all sorts of aspects of dating, but for now we’re going to focus on spontaneity. Write it down somewhere in your diary / day planner.

Then write it down on every page, at the top, in bold letters. Go ahead and get creative. DELAY. What do I mean by delay? Let’s say you’re out at night, and your lady mentions how much she loves Thai food. Don’t say anything, and DON’T go there that night.

But go two weeks later. It shows thoughtfulness – and that you were listening – without any of the wimpy characteristics usually associated with such displays. Plus, she knows not to expect where the night will lead, and not to try and guide it.

She talks about how she loves the beach. Great– take her there when she least expects it, like a Friday night after her work.

You get the idea. Pay attention to what she likes, but file the memory away. Don’t immediately try and fulfill her desires –But fulfill them on YOUR time, at unexpected moments.

This is one of the easiest skills to learn, but also one of the easiest to let slip when crunch time comes. A little whining and most men lose their heads and do whatever is asked of them.

Better is to make it clear that you don’t have time for whining –politely but firmly – and over time let the lady believe she will get what she wants, when YOU want to give it to her.

By the way, all of this, it counts about a thousand fold when it comes to sex. Few things are sexier than a man who doesn’t lose it at the sight of an exposed breast. If you can control yourself and DELAY satisfaction until you’re ready to give it over, the ANTICIPATION becomes more powerful than ACT ALONE usually is – making the act all the more powerful when it comes.

Yes, I’m talking about sex. :-]

DELAY.

This creates sexual tension and it is far easier to satisfy the lady quickly as she is highly aroused.

There you have it. I hope you have enjoyed this article.

Have fun and good luck…

Regards
Mick Jones

Mick Jones. Mick has cut his teeth on the front line of the dating battlefields. After many wounds and scars, he now has consistent success! You can too, to sign up to his free newsletter, subscribe box is on our home page at; http://www.howtomeetwomenontheinternet.com Mail to; editor@howtomeetwomenontheinternet.com Wren Crescent, Buderim, Queensland, 4556, Australia.

Eight Great Dating Tips For Men

Dating tips for men wouldn’t seem like something you have to read about in an article; after all, you can ask your buddies for their advice, right? But perhaps that’s why so many of your buddies are still single. These days it seems like the rules of dating have become so complicated that the basics have been forgotten. To make it a little bit easier, here are some basic dating tips for men that are guaranteed to make things easier – and they’re back to basics rules that every woman will appreciate.

Make Eye Contact

So many men today forget that conversation isn’t just about words. Women put a high value on communication that goes beyond words, and if you focus on impressing, talking and showing yourself in the best light, you may not be focusing on her. Eye contact assures her that she has your undivided attention – something every woman wants on a date. It reassures her that the night is about her and her alone.

Remember to Ask Questions and Listen to Her Answers

Yes, you want her to get to know you. You’ll have plenty of opportunity to let her get to know you if you get to know her on those first few dates. You should certainly answer her questions and give input to the conversation, but make sure you ask her about what she likes and what she’s interested in. Don’t forget to get her opinion rather than just giving yours – and if you disagree on a particular subject, that’s fine. Debating an interesting topic in a relaxed manner will show you’re intelligent and that you respect her opinion. For Pete’s sake, don’t insist on changing her mind – respect her independence.

Be Yourself

This sounds so simplistic, but I’m astounded by the number of men who try show off how successful and important they are by inflating their job titles, salary, etc. early on in a relationship. Do you really want to get caught in this type of charade weeks or even months down the line? If she’s really the one for you, she’ll respect what you do and who you are. Far better to find out now than later. Especially if you really have it for the girl later, and she dumps you for being deceitful. If you remember any dating tips for men, this is the absolute most important.

Flowers on the First Date?

Save the flowers and grand gestures for after the first few dates. This is one of those dating tips for men that may come as a shock to a lot of you, but flowers on the very first date isn’t nearly as impressive as flowers or some other gift a few dates down the line. On the first date, a woman will assume you bring flowers to every first date, so it’s a relatively empty gesture. Gallant, but not triggered by your feelings for her. On your third or fourth date, she’ll be wowed by a small gift or bouquet. Why? Because you’ve taken the time and thought to bring her something after you’ve already known she’ll go out with you. It means the gesture is heart-felt – it’s all about the way she makes you feel.

Keep it Casual

Another dating tip for a single man that’s often overlooked is to keep it casual. You don’t have to make the first date the most impressive and romantic in the world. After all, it’s difficult to go up if you start at the top – what will you do for an encore on an anniversary or special occasion? Instead, go out for coffee or drinks on the first date. If you definitely want it to be dinner, suggest someplace nice but casual, not the Ritz. You’ll both be more comfortable when you aren’t worrying about which fork to use or how to address the wine steward. Choose a place that’s comfortable and not too loud so that you can linger and talk as long as you’d like.

Should You Talk about Work?

Avoid talking about work too much. Always remember this dating tip for men: Naturally a woman wants to know what you do, and you should give her a brief sketch. But until you know a woman really well, don’t give a long dissertation on the last deal you landed. You’ll either sound like you’re bragging or she’ll think you’re obsessed with your job. Neither image is appealing.

Show Up on Time

Don’t ever, ever keep a woman waiting on you – it doesn’t build anticipation. It makes you appear inconsiderate and self-centered. If something happens and you can’t avoid running late, be sure to call ahead and apologize and let her know so that she isn’t sitting at home stewing.

Call When You Say You Will

(Here’s an online dating tip for men: The same applies to logging on – if you have plans to “meet” by Instant Message – be there.) No woman ever wants to feel like she was humored and then brushed off. If you say you will call next week, call next week. Not the week after, or the next month. When you do that, it screams, “I was keeping you on the back burner just in case nothing better came along.” If you aren’t interested in another date, don’t promise anything. Simply say, “I had a nice time. Good night.” Promising something you have no intention of following through on is guaranteed to hit the female grapevine, and your name will be Mudd.

If you keep these seven dating tips for men in mind, you’ll be successful in dating as many, or as few, women as you want to. And if you continue to follow them, you’re much more likely to win the woman of your dreams.

Kevin Urban is the editor at http://www.dating-site-advisor.com, the singles' guide to free online dating sites. Copyright 2006 http://www.Dating-Site-Advisor.com

Dating Rules For Men – Hot Dating Tips To Win Her Heart

There are dating rules for men every red-blooded male ought to live by. Not only will these dating rules for men ensure your lady friend has an enjoyable evening, but they will also save you the embarrassment of committing dating faux pas later on. So before you thrust yourself head-on into the exciting and unpredictable world of dating, read on.

Dress to kill. Okay, maybe not quite, but do dress to impress. Throw on something decent and suitable for the occasion. A tux on a first date seems hardly appropriate, while too rugged a look may be off-putting. Play it safe and go neutral. Smart casual is a good choice. Then work your way from there should the two of you decide to keep dating and are more comfortable with each other’s personal tastes.

Be hygienic. Sort out your tangled hair and get a decent haircut if time allows it. Go to good quality shops for decent cologne and a grooming kit. It can be time-consuming; but men are always criticized if they smell bad, so try to get into a regular shower routine so you can smell wonderful afterwards. A woman appreciates that.

Strive to improve at work as well. A man with ambition is appealing to women. Try to get some direction in your life. Get yourself on track with career opportunities. Women will question you about prospects at your work so you cannot pretend it is not important.

Try to be more mature. Getting your brain well fed is a plus. Humor is appreciated, but a woman prefers maturity. Do not let your love for sports be more of a priority than your lady. Millions of women love sports, but ramming your love for it down her throat is not advisable. Many women are not interested about current gaming consoles, they may be more interested in traveling and how you think about the outside world.

Limit yourself if you drink too much booze. Being a drunken party-boy will never leave a positive impression with your date. If you happen to be a smoker, reduce the times you smoke; or better yet, quit smoking altogether.

Do not be aggressive on the first date. This is a horrible way to think. Being patient will lead you to the girl of your dreams. Learn to wait and try to find other ways where you can make a connection with your date. This is probably the most important dating rule for men.

A woman loves a man with brains. Having basic manners, chivalry and courtesy attracts women. They love to be treated with respect. Avoid bad language, laziness and rudeness. Know how to be a gentleman who knows how to act properly with manners. Holding a door open for her is simple, yet women know it takes effort on your part. Be sensitive. Showing her a lot of respect is a great step forward.

Listen more; talk less. If it seems like you are ignoring her, her ego might get hurt. Try to listen to her when she speaks, women appreciate it if they know you are paying attention.

Here’s a unique dating rule for men: learn how to dance. Many women love to dance, so even if you have no dancing talent, at least give your best effort. Think of dancing as a romantic and sexy activity. It does not matter if you dance badly - at least she is dancing with you rather than with someone else.

Learn these dating rules for men by heart and you’ll win hers before the night is over.

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What To Avoid And What To Say To A Beautiful Girl

There is so much which is not said to girls yet they badly want to hear it from their men. No one is to blame because guys do not know it. I thought of it when as a girl, i got tired of asking questions. He failed miserably to meet my expectations till i felt i had to do something about it. I want to shed some light on what to say to a beautiful girl. I am hoping i will make you one of the special guys around. You can imagine the amount of anticipation a girl is subjected to before she decides to put it in a question. She will be looking at you like you are the first dense head at your age.

When you take her out for a date, notice every little detail at the first glance. Capture the moment to appreciate her wear just to pay for the much trouble she might have gone through. Do not appreciate with your eyes; she is not a mind reader and a guess is less fulfilling than the real word. Say it out in sweet, nice praising words. May be she is dressed to kill and there you are talking about the football match that was. She gives you time to finish your debate but you start another one and another one. Your date is finally over and just before the goodnight kiss after dropping her off. She asks you "was i smart? did i annoy you?". The truth is the answers will be yes and no but it might be too late. You should be crucified to torture a girl to such extent. Make it a habit to say to a beautiful girl what she expects. Tell her she is smart on a date, brilliant in an engineering class and a good cook at home.

Majority of guys generally do not see the need to say to a beautiful girl about their dreams, past and will rarely touch on their private lives. This is wrong because it implies that you do not consider her appropriate to share your life with. Do not go exposing yourself to every Jane and Mary but be outspoken It is a girl thing to talk about people and especially you. If anything it is more interesting than talking about plants and animals. Share your ambitions and all that you can with her. It makes a difference to a girl to know that she knows her man best. She would not want to hear something about you from a third party. Say it to her even if you are a thief. She will feel privileged to know what others would have to investigate.

On the other hand, do not say everything she wants to hear. Guys rarely disclose their financial status to a girl in fear of being victimized. If they say to a beautiful girl that they are loaded, the role might drastically shift to that one of a financier. When they admit they are financially challenged, they will not easily find love. Keep it up guys! They really want to hear it but keep her guessing and while you are it, the emotional investment will make it hard for her to leave.

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Why A Man Would Prefer Dating A Younger Woman

In many instances when a man is looking for a woman to date, he chooses a woman either his age or an age that is slightly lower than his. But as a man grows older he dates an even younger woman compared to his age. Why? A younger woman holds a more powerful appeal that goes beyond the ordinary physical appeal and beauty. A young woman brings into your life something different. It makes you feel young once again. She fills you with renewed energy. Her vibe is something out of this world. Despite all these goodness there is an underlying factor of compatibility. When Dating a younger woman, it is important to have that chemistry that brings about cohesion between two people.

In the process of Dating a younger woman, the issue of age disparity can be contentious sometimes. Is she comfortable in your company and under public scrutiny? What would be the reaction of her family bearing in mind that they are quite close to their families. How would her family react on finding their prized daughter was dating an older man. A young woman believes in leading her own independent life. If you are overbearing on her, you will remind her of her controlling father and the next thing you will notice is that she will vanish. She has a life of her own and being her senior in terms of age gives you no authority to meddle in her life. Give her space to do what she wants. Let her have the liberty of choice. She is young and just recently released from the nest where freedom was minimal.

Young women are always attracted to older men. An older man is a symbol of stability. This is exactly what a young woman is looking for. You can take advantage of this by combining it with a touch of masculinity. You will be totally irresistible to the young woman. Remember that a young woman’s emotions have no yet well matured to give her stability. She can stretch your patience to the limits. Remain cool in times of this emotional spats. Play your act well when Dating a younger woman, the more time you spend with her the more she will feel close to you. Learn to read her emotions and maneuver them to suit your aspirations

Do not mistake youngness for naivety. She will stand her ground and fiercely defend what she believes in. Do not be in a haste or try to rush things. Play your game in a subtle way. When Dating a younger woman do not run after her. Give her what she wants, play with her feelings and then apply the withdrawal tactics. Make yourself scarce and unavailable. This way she will be the one looking for you, running after you. You will heighten her expectations, you will remain mysterious and unpredictable. The more she fails to understand you the more she will feel attracted to you. When you are together in the lounge or living room, do not sit next to her. Let her take the initiative. If she touches you do not touch her back.

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Online Dating Tips - Interracial Online Dating Prospects

Seen a lot of 'the girl/boy next door' type dating scenes. If you happen to have a flair for things that are different from the usual and in particular for dating then interracial dating is for you.

Dating is an exciting period of time in almost all our lives. Couples of interracial types could experience some pressures which can be associated with today's modern times. But that should stop you from interracial dating.

There happen to be numerous interracial dating sites. And with there being so many such sites it's an added advantage for such dating seekers. What is required that you be clear in your mind that you want to pursue long haul relationship or something just casual.

What could be needed on your part is a little money and time investment while at the same time it allows you to look for a special person out there. Also you have a wide choice of meeting liked minded people and then making up your mind.

Though online dating is fun but if you are on the look out for someone special in real terms then you have to be honest with every date you approach thinking that the person you are interacting with is that very person.

Bars and discotheques are not the answer when it happens to be such a search for interracial dating. One need a favorable environment. What such online dating websites for interracial dating do is that the entire site is dedicated towards getting you to meet similar kind of people. You have private access to the net and shall have open chances to converse and express your feelings.

But the idea should not be to target someone just for the heck of it, be polite and start every discussion on a light note with the idea of knowing each other. When you set out to locate such a person then the feelings can be that of anxiety, high emotion and also drama.

But unlike other forms of dating, interracial can be a demanding one. Rejections are more likely to come your way and understand that you cannot possibly please all those you meet. If you feel that there is room for improvement in yourself and that can help you then do it sooner than later and this will give more confidence of being a better person.

There is a saying that states - hear what your mind says but do what your heart says. When you happen to be dating online then you should be cautious. There are millions of people on various dating website who belong to various races. At the same time do not pull yourself out because of some fear, you will only grow stronger this way and also learn to make out who should be considered for dating and who should be left out. But you should also not attach much emotional importance to such instances of liking and then not liking a particular person. Only that way you would be able to ensure your survival.

Often it is not the person who engages in interracial dating but his or her family that could not be willing to accept such issues thus making the issue a bit more complicated.

The opinion of other's may also matter to a few individuals. And when the matter is that of an interracial relationship or for that matter even dating such a person that person could grow susceptive of what to do and what not to. Then thoughts such as, is it worth all the pressures? Or would the two of them be happy after making their family members so unhappy etc.

Interracial matters are often influenced by the views of the society. A large number of people do not accept such couples as it is not the general way of the function of a society. The world is one but cultures are different and thus adopting or settling into new cultural practices is not an easy task.

Even settling into your old neighborhood can be difficult as people start viewing your relationship from a different perspective and this can lead to think that they are discriminating against you and especially against your partner.

But times have changed and people today are more accepting for such relationships. And certainly this has been brought about by the way of internet, people can look for their soul mate via online dating for finding a ideal interracial date.

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