I've Never Had An Orgasm

I read that statement at the UK iVillage's Relationships Sex section today.

I found that pretty disturbing.

I remember one of the points Neil Strauss made, at the Mystery Method seminar in Vegas in response to a audience members question about women not sticking around after they've had sex, was "Is she having orgasms?"

Within the community we tend to be fairly self-improvement orientated which is great. We tend to put responsiblity in our own actions and not the womans. For the most part I think this is absolutely what we need to do. Sometimes, however a woman doesn't have orgasms like we would expect. I think the main cause of it, is an emotional connection and sexual technique.

In response to that woman's question... the following was given (which I think is valid):

Don't panic. There's almost certainly nothing wrong with you or your partner. But unlike men, most women have to learn to have an orgasm because each woman has a slightly different way of getting there. And you have to experiment in order to find out what works for you.

The first thing to realise is that for most women, intercourse alone doesn't bring them to orgasm. The secret to female orgasm is the clitoris - a small sensitive part of your genitals just above your vagina, that's the equivalent of the tip of a man's penis.

Now when your partner is penetrating you, he usually won't be touching your clitoris at all. There are three ways you could get the stimulation you need. First, by getting so worked up before intercourse that you're nearly at the point of orgasm - and then penetration finishes you off. Second, by either you or your partner sliding your hand down and touching your clitoris during intercourse. Or third, by finding a position for intercourse that means your clitoris is being stimulated, because your man's penis touches it as he slides in and out. But as I said, all of these need a lot of experimentation.

For an easy guide to sexual technique and the a guide to giving women that ultimate orgasm/s. Check out Secret Orgasm Tips that I've been referring guys to for awhile now.

Donovan

Physical Confidence (Video)

Check out the latest video from Pickup101. What do you guys think?



There's a sneak peek page at Pickup101's new Physical Confidence page below:

http://www.pickup101.com/physicalconfidence/index.html

Coming soon... an Seduction Master's Interview with Lance Mason.

3 Secrets of Meeting Women Online

If you've "tried" online dating, and not gotten the results that you wanted... or you'd like to learn how to write online personal ads that get MASSIVE RESPONSE, then go read this:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/MeetingWomenOnline/


***SUCCESS STORY***

Well I have to say I was a little skeptical about your book at first. I've never been very successful with women. I've always been the shy, quiet type that treat women like a prize and act like a wussy. Well after a few newsletters I decided to give it a shot. Well it all made sense to me so I got your CD series and it's even better then the book. So I decided to try the C&F method.

I've been on some dating sites for a few years and occasionally I would get a response. A little over a week ago I changed my profile so I wasn't such a wussy and pleading with women with how good of a catch I'd be (as most women say they want a nice guy) In less then a week, I've gotten 5 responses. It's amazing. I'm only about half way through with the CD's too can't wait to see what else they hold.

JN from NY

>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, Ye of little faith...

Remember something.

Women are always INTERPRETING everything you say.

In other words, they want to know what things MEAN.

When you say, "I'm a great guy" in your profile, a woman reading it says to herself, "yeah, right... If you were a great guy, then you wouldn't need to SAY it. You're probably a loser who WISHES that he were a great guy."

On the other hand, if you write a Cocky & Funny profile that talks about how picky you are and that you're trying this online dating thing as a last resort because all the attractive women you meet bore you... then a woman will think to herself, "Ah ha! A challenge! I'll bet you that I can get his attention...".

Great job, and keep me posted on your future success stories.

David

PickUp 101 Then & Now

Hey guys.. check this out!



Here's a behind the scenes look at one of the top workshop companies in the community, something you rarely get to see.

Lance Mason (PickUp 101) is getting ready to release a new product called "Physical Confidence". It's about body language, self confidence, inner game, and kino.

During an interview about this new home study program, Lance said this is the product he's always wanted to make, but it has taken over 2 1/2 years, thousands of hours, and at least one previous version that he was too embarrassed about to ever sell.

It wasn't the material that was bad, it was the production quality. And according to Lance, the original Body Language DVD was just a nightmare to get from idea to finished product. Besides involving a girl he was dating at the time as the videographer, 2 hours of material was lost when the laptop hard drive went to the great electronics depot in the sky. PickUp 101 was a labor of love back then, so Lance didn't really have money to hire a real editor and actually tried to do it himself before realizing the production was doomed.

"I was so excited about this project until we had a screening for some of my workshop clients. The guys were brutally honest about the production quality, and in retrospect their honest comments still drive me to constantly improve my products. What amazed me was every one of them said they would buy it in spite of how it looked, but I realized we could never release it as a product."

To show what he's talking about, Lance released these shots from the old version and also sent some from the soon to be released product. Cool! You don't often to get a peek behind the curtains like this.

And this is a part of community history here, Lance's original Body Language DVD was filmed in November of 2004. For those of you with short memories, that's almost a year before Neil Strauss released "The Game".

In these screen shots you can see just how... ummm... rough around the edges Lance's first attempt at making a product was.

It's funny to see Lance speaking on camera for the first time. He get's the information across okay, but seems a little flat onscreen. His example student, Nate, was even funnier, he truly needed Lance's help (as an aside, Lance worked with this guy extensively and he went on to become an instructor. He even did demo's of some really tough sets on the Fearless First Impressions product. Hard to believe watching him in this video...)


Lance Mason's Orginal Body Language DVD
Nice Curtains...
And this one. A girl Lance was dating helped film this thing (probably Lance's first mistake). Look at her sticking the other camera in the frame of the shot!!!



Lance Mason's Original Body Language DVD
Now That's Professional Camera Work...


One good thing, at least Lance was dating hot chicks, even if they aren't so good at videography



Lance Mason's PickUp 101
She Definitely Works Better In Front of the Camera
Funny thing is, as goofy as this original body language DVD is, it's still the best thing I've seen on how to quickly change your body language to radiate confidence with women.

Contrast then & now.... The new version was shot on location at Project San Francisco by a professional audio/video crew during a 2-day special topics workshop (The original was filmed in Lance's bedroom with sheets as a background). Over 30 men were in the audience (not just Lance's roommates snickering as they passed his room).

Also in the new version, Lance has 3 hot women who are front and center contributing to the content instead of being 'behind the scenes'.

Here are some shots from the soon to be released Physical Confidence body language program.


Lance Mason's Physical Confidence Program
Lance Makes A Point For The Guys



Lance Mason's Physical Confidence
Insight From The Lovely Ladies



Lance Mason's Physical Confidence
The Reward For Having Good Body Language

Now the best part about all this is that Lance told me that he's agreed to release his grungy old ORIGINAL body language video along with his shiny new Physical Confidence program. He's ONLY doing this for the guys who pre-order the Physical Confidence program in it's pre-release before Thanksgiving.

I don't know about you... but I can't wait to get my hands on the newer edition...

The Need For Lifestyle

I think I'll briefly cover an important topic that many men within this community often overlook.

It's the concept of lifestyle.

We all know that being rich and famous would attract the woman of your dreams... well, atleast a physically attractive woman. The question is... if you aren't rich and famous and leading a royalty lifestyle, what should you do?

Create it.

I recently held a party at my house that had over 3500 people attend. Having this event gave me all kinds of attractive stories, conversational topics, and social pull.

There's a trick, you have to beware of the woman that wants the 'man of the hour'. Typically, these are women who flock to you, without ANY effort on your part. Not wheat, just tares.

Unless you feel like having a roller coaster of a relationship, stay clear of these women.

Back to what I was talking about.

Imagine you were a woman. Would you want to be with a guy who works, comes home, watches some TV, goes to a bar, comes home, and repeats daily?

I hope not.

You need to start generating a lifestyle that you want to live. Something that you want to portray about your personality. Something Stephen Nash told me was, how you use your time, directly illustrates to your mind and to others how you value yourself and who you are.

I've foudn this to be true, 99% of the time.

When we feel depressed or unattractive, it's because we're really not doing the things we NEED to do with our time.

Like...

Traveling.

Like...

Taking up a new hobby.

Like...

Going for a hike through a forest.

Like...

Checking out that beach you've never been to.

The list is endless.

You'll notice when you start fulfilling these goals that you have, you'll start to see much better results with women.

Why?

Because you'll have more to talk about, more experiences, and you'll qualify her better. You'll want similar qualities in the women you date.

That's where its at. Experiencing life with them.

The definitive guide to lifestyle generation is found in Stephen Nash's (PlayboyLA) book, How To Get A Girlfriend, easily the best book on the topic, along with natural game social skills and how to portray your lifestyle in an attractive way.

Donovan

New Pickup101 Product Soon

I've gotten news from high up in the Pickup101 crew that a new product guaranteed to knock our socks of is coming. Apparently it was video recorded/produced by some top notch video team.

Be looking back within the next few weeks for previews.

I hope everyone had a awesome halloween last night.

Donovan

How to Kiss a Girl

Question from a PickUp 101 student that I just had to share...

"I was out at the bars yesterday and really hit it off with a girl I met there. We started making out, but then she started talking about how important it is for a guy to be a good kisser. Does anybody know of any good resources out there on the subject of kissing and how to be a good kisser?"

The very best way to learn is to get as much experience as possible.

This is where a real girlfriend, as opposed to lots of random pickups, can come in handy.

I got my first real girlfriend at 15, and I remember our first date was a Def Leppard concert that ended with 6 straight hours of making out. No sex. Just kissing and learning what felt good.

And with every girl since then, I've spent more time kissing than doing anything else. So go ahead and take your time. It's ok to not know just what to do yet... you're supposed to learn this one from doing.

Don't waste time looking for books or how-to's or anything. You have the best resource in the world in a girl who will TELL you what she likes. Ask her, and then listen. She says to go slow, go slow. Use more lips, less tongue.

And most important, don't EVER take it personally when a girl suggests something to you to make kissing or sex or anything else more fun for her. She's not trying to hurt your ego. She's giving you a gift that most guys would kill for. Pay attention and practice. Really pay attention. It's all trial and error. If you touch a spot and she moans, remember that spot. If you bite on her lip just a little and she goes weak, that's a good sign. But all girls are slightly different, so there's no sure-fire technique that always works.

Learn the basics through practice, and look to practice all you can. Hell, tell girls how much you love just kissing, and how you love girls who really enjoy it too. Chances are they'll be interested in sharing the experience with you!

You'll get it, kid. I mean, people learned how to kiss before the internet, so there's got to be some way.

- Sean

P.S. Donovan here.... Thanks Sean for the post. I've done a lot of making out, a lot of it is INSTINCT, taking it slow, and seeing what SHE does. Normally, attractive girls probably have alot more experience, so take there lead. THREE pointers: 1. Don't be too forceful 2. Don't be to lax. 3. Be submissive, then aggressive, and vice versa. Seems to work well for me.