Pickup101 Instructor on Beauty and the Geek?

I've just heard that a Pickup101 instructor will be appearing on CW's Beauty and the Geek... he's one of these guys apparently... my guess is it's one of those two Asian guys...



Donovan

Loverboy's Tribute to Sarging (Video)

I posted this up on the blog about a year ago, but it was removed from Google about a month later. I think it's an awesome video signifying what can happen when you resolve to do something, and fix the situation your in! Kudos Loverboy!

David Deangelo's Cocky Comedy Program (Video)

It's been too long for me to post these videos from Cocky Comedy.

I've noticed alot of men within the community, tend to overdo Cocky and Funny. That's why David released this, to help get the right formula.

Basically, cocky and funny is flirting. If you're insulting a woman. YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG. You need to fix it. Get this DVD set, it's great for flirting and generating crazy amounts of attraction.


David Deangelo Cocky Comedy Program


David Deangelo Cocky Comedy Testimonals
(Guys who were at seminar)

Can You Program Yourself To Meet Women?

I'd like to talk a bit about how we program ourselves and become programmed when it comes to dealing with women... as well as how to overcome the negative programming that we often don't even recognize within ourselves.

Let me ask you a few questions. Take a moment to think about the answers... maybe even write them down.

1) When it comes to women, do you have an overall "positive" outlook towards your success? Do you believe that there is "abundance" when it comes to women, and that you can go out at any time and get a date if you want to? Why or why not?

2) Do you have any negative beliefs or programming when it comes to the idea of APPROACHING women you'd like to meet or asking women out on dates? Do you believe that you're going to be intruding or annoying a woman if you approach her? Do you
believe that a woman will most likely accept or reject a date request from you?

3) Have you CHOSEN the beliefs and attitudes that you have towards women, or have they been "chosen for you" by others, situations, programming, TV, the media, etc.?

4) Would you like to change some of the attitudes and beliefs that you hold in your mind? If so, which ones and what would you like to change them to?

If you're like most guys I know who would like to improve their success with women, then you probably have one or two "negative programs" in your subconscious mind (if you're like I used to be before I learned the things I know now, then you might have A LOT of them).

I can remember when I used to believe that women would be VERY offended or alarmed if I tried to strike up an unexpected conversation with them...

I can remember feeling that if a woman rejected me in front of other people that I WOULD DIE of embarrassment.

I can remember thinking, "Why would a woman find ME attractive?" And believing that the truly desirable, beautiful women out there just wouldn't find a guy like me interesting or attractive because I wasn't rich, tall, famous, buff, or of royal descent.

And as a matter of fact, even though I've spent literally YEARS reprogramming myself and learning as much as I could about women and attraction, I still know that somewhere deep in my subconscious mind this old programming exists. Of course, it
doesn't affect my behavior the way it used to, but my point is that once you program yourself or open yourself to programming from others and from our modern culture, it's sometimes a challenge to overcome that programming and go on to be successful.

Let me give you a little Tough Love:

NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU FIGURE THIS STUFF OUT WITH WOMEN. AND NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU'RE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN... OTHER THAN YOU.

Really.

If you learn how to meet and date the kinds of women that you've always wanted, it won't matter to anyone. Your friends won't think you're any cooler (well, maybe a little), your mom won't stop nagging you, your boss won't pay you more money, and you won't lose that extra 10 pounds that you've needed to lose for the past 10 years.

It just doesn't matter. No one cares.

THE ONLY PERSON THAT CARES IS YOU.

And the only one that's going to be able to do anything about this programming that we're talking about IS YOU.

Your buddies aren't going to come over tomorrow night and say, "Hey, you know, I've been thinking about it. You really need to do something about your subconscious programming in the area of women and dating, and I'd like to help you."

Your mom isn't going to call you up and say, "You know, dear, I've been thinking about it, and I really put some bad ideas in your mind about how to treat women... I'd like to address those things in this call and help you become the mac daddy you've always wanted to be."

Nope.

You're not going to get a call from the guys that run the ads that say, "Show her that you love her by spending five grand on a pair of diamond earrings" to tell you that the ads really aren't true and that no amount of diamonds will help you meet women if you're programmed to act like a WUSSY.

It just ain't gonna happen that way.

If you want to do something about your programming and your success, you're going to have to DO IT ALL YOURSELF.

Here, let me say that again... just in case you didn't get it...

YOU HAVE TO DO IT ALL YOURSELF.

And what's the best way to do it yourself?

This is a fantastic question...

There are a lot of ways to get it going, but I have a few favorites... and since we only have a little time together in this newsletter, I'll get right to the point...

1) Look around and pay careful attention to what's REALLY going on. Just like a comedian looks at the fine details and tells stories about things that we never see... but are right there in front of us, you need to look closer.

Here's a little story.

I was in Vegas awhile back for a visit. I hadn't been to Vegas in about 4 years, so everything seemed new to me... there were about 5 huge new hotels that had just opened, and I spent the day walking around and just seeing the sights.

As I walked around, I looked at the people... and especially at the couples. I'm not sure if it was because I was looking at all of the new sights or what, but for some reason I was really noticing a lot of little details... and I was paying
special attention to the couples that were strolling around on the strip.

It's always amazing to me how attractive women will be with guys of all shapes, sizes, and ages...

When you really look around and pay attention to what's actually going on, you'll be amazed.

And you don't have to be in Vegas to see this phenomenon yourself. Just go out on a Friday night and look around.

Now, before you say, "Yeah, but if you're rich or handsome or tall you'll get more chicks", I will acknowledge that these things can provide certain advantages, but they're not NEAR the level of advantage that WOMEN get from being physically attractive... not even close, actually.

The more I pay attention, learn and try things, the more I realize that women respond to PERSONALITY far more than they respond to LOOKS.

I've even made it a point to ask guys who are tall, handsome, etc., if they believe that their success with women comes from those things. Almost universally they tell me that their ATTITUDES and SKILLS are far more important than their looks.

I've also met a lot of tall, good-looking guys at my seminars who have INCREDIBLE problems meeting women. The more experience I have with this, the more I realize just how little LOOKS has to do with the equation.

You've probably read some of these newsletters where good looking guys write in and say, "I'm buff, good looking, and I have women talking to me all the time, but I can't get any dates... they only like me as a friend."

So, part of this step is for you to take a day or so and go out in public... to a place that is PACKED with people, and look around at the couples. Look with your own two eyes and see all of the attractive women that are with guys who are NOT what you would consider to be "physically attractive."

You need to see with your own eyes what's going on in the REAL world.

This is a big step in changing some of your programming.

2) Watch some guys who are successful with women.

One of the best things I've ever done is make friends with some REALLY SUCCESSFUL guys (I'm talking about success with women here). As a matter of fact, most of the techniques that I've learned, developed, and write about originally started out as something I got from friends by watching them interact with women.

When you watch guys who know how to make women feel that magical emotion called "ATTRACTION", you'll start to see the patterns in their behavior, and the patterns in the responses from women.

Nothing can replace watching a guy walk up to a woman, start talking to her, and walk away 5 minutes later with her number.

So make some new friends if you have to. Just do what it takes to watch some guys interact with women. It's a big one.

If you're at a point in your life where you're too busy with work, etc. to get out and meet guys who are successful with women, then do yourself a favor and get my eBook, Double Your Dating... that will help a LOT. It's here.

3) Stop looking for a "magic pill". Realize that you're going to have to CONSTANTLY learn and improve.

I know, I know. You'd like to take a pill and have this whole part of your life handled.

You'd like a computer chip implanted in your brain that will change you into a chick-magnet.

Well, until these things exist, you're going to have to do it the old fashioned way... you're going to have to actually DO SOMETHING.

At first, it might seem a little uncomfortable. You might feel weird going out to a bar alone just to look at the people.

But don't worry, no one will care (remember what I said earlier... nobody cares whether or not you're successful, only you do).

The more you improve, the more you'll WANT to improve, and the easier it will become.

Read books, try things, experiment. Keep a journal, write down what works and what doesn't, think about the things you'd like to change and write them down.

JUST KEEP IMPROVING A LITTLE BIT AT A TIME.

If you do these things, you'll begin to REPROGRAM YOURSELF and change your negative programming into POSITIVE programming and success.

Of course, the best place to start is with some of the materials that I've put together...

It took me years of trial and error to really figure out what works with women.

Repeat: It took me YEARS.

Years of trial and error.

I'm talking about trying out everything you can imagine...and having MOST of it NOT work.

Every time I found something that DID work, I took the idea, refined it, and wrote it down... then worked on it some more.

As you already know, I've taken all the stuff I've learned for myself and put it into the programs that I've created to help YOU learn this stuff much quicker and easier than I ever did.

One of the things I discovered while I was learning how to attract women, was that most men walk around with a DEEP INSECURITY inside.

It took me a few years to figure out something even MORE important:

That insecurity can't be fixed with "pick up lines".

And the reality is that it's MORE than just an insecurity issue...

It's actually that most men have never gone through the process of BECOMING a man who NATURALLY attracts women.

Oh, one more thing... if you haven't downloaded a copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating", then what the hell are you waiting for? You can download it RIGHT NOW and be reading it within a few minutes. Go download it here:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/eBook/

And by the way, make sure and forward this email to a friend and encourage them to sign up for my free newsletter. They'll appreciate it, and I'll appreciate it.

I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David Deangelo

Five Fundamentals to Get Girls Today

(by Sean Newman, Pickup 101 Senior Instructor)

The dreaded death of mojo.

We all face it.

You wake up and the first thing you think is "I have to go back out there and do it again."

Doesn't matter if you've been picking up girls your whole life, or if you just started. The strong pull to do nothing never goes away.

Entropy. The tendency of ordered systems to fall apart and settle into inactivity.

Sloth. The desire to stay in bed and do, as we all learned from "Office Space," nothing. Absolutely. Nothing.

But the girls are out there. They are there every morning getting coffee, waiting for trains and busses, walking to work, walking their dogs, doing stuff. Commerce. Activity. Life.

And you know that when you are having a good day, it can be easy to just strike up that flirty conversation and spark something. We've all had at least one night, maybe with good friends at a party, or a bar you really like, when it seems like no thing to turn your volume up a little bit more and run your silly fun little lines on the cutie who catches your eye.

We all already have mojo. But we don't control when it's on, and when it's off.

What do you do on those days when your mojo is sleeping?

How do you wake it the fuck up?

Here's are the 5 Fixes I use to get myself going every day.

It doesn't matter how long you've been doing this or how good you are at it. Remember, the best pickup artists in the world don't even think of it as pickup. It's not something they do. It's just something they are, every minute, every day.

Do these five things, and you'll peg your switch to ON all the time, and you'll never let an opportunity pass by again.

1. Say Hi to people and give smiles every single day.

Simple smiles and greetings, especially in places where that is not expected, change the way you feel. When you talk, you are out of your head. And your head is a very comfortable, but lonely, place to be. If you're only motivation for doing pickup is to bust a nut, you'll never be happy. But if you can consider that being a nicer, friendlier person is a gift to others, it takes the pressure off you.

2. Flirt before noon.

I don't wait for Friday or Saturday night to roll around. I schedule visits to places every morning where I know I'll run into cute girls, so I can keep approaching and keep re-enforcing good habits and good results.

The nice thing about flirting with girls in the daytime is that all you need is one banter line, and you are almost always going to get a smile.


3. Walk, and walk with a purpose.

Be aware of your body language every day. If you catch yourself feeling nervous or stressed, get up and walk around. Force a smile onto your face. Breathe deep and slow. Get moving.

4. When in doubt, just make her smile.

Every passionate relationship begins with the man doing something to make the woman feel good. There are lots of ways to start this... banter and teasing, sexy eye contact, or absolute sincerity. If you get stuck, or in your head, stop thinking about it as a pickup, and set your goal just at making her smile. Be selfless. You are a gift you share with women.

5. Go back to basics.

Instead of trying to run a scripted 20-minute stack, just do the pieces. Go back to warmups like you learned in Art of Attraction. Stop cute girls and ask them what time it is. Willfully lose yourself in the city so you can ask directions.

And when you really need a karmic boost, go with the old standard sincere compliment.

"I know this is a little random, but I had to tell you that you are very cute."

Start it by acknowledging that what you are about to do is a bit unusual. This shows your social intelligence and puts her at ease. Then tell her just what you think. Every healthy man finds attractive girls cute. There's always something there that catches her eye. And you know she spends most of her time and money working on it.

So tell her. Be a man who makes his world better, and you will find the world making things better for you.

These five fixes may sound a little too basic. I know, you want the super-advanced magic words to make panties just melt right off her thighs.

The truth is there are no magic words. There are no shortcuts, and there is no new technology that makes girls want sex more than ever before.

There are only fundamentals, and guys who do them well. Make these fundamentals part of your daily routines, and watch your results, and your total happiness, skyrocket.

It's pure pickup karma. The more good you do for others selflessly, the more it comes back to you. Stop worrying about how to get her home that night or destroy her boyfriend or overcome her socialized resistance.

Do it for her, not for you. You will get more comfortable and more confident, and then when you see that smoking hottie across the bar and know you have to wade through a see of stalkers to get to her, you'll have your mojo running high and a real smile on your face.

Mojo makes you a superhero. Learn to build it and bank it, and you can do anything.

PickUp101 on CNBC Money (Video)

Lance and his henchmen from PickUp101 were featured on CNBC's On The Money yesterday. You can check out the video below:

http://video.msn.com/v/us/msnbc.htm?g=c6714218-cb17-4f68-a5be-db40a8a2dd02&f=00&fg

They also just released a new Physical Confidence program. Very professional.

http://www.pickup101.com/physicalconfidence

Enjoy.

The Truth By Playboy (Stephen Nash)

Stephen (PlayboyLA from The Game) just blogged a very revealing post on his experiences with the community, and how not to get fooled.

Why You Might Be Wasting Your Time

I tend to meet with client once per week these days, and a very common theme has emerged. Many of them emerge from working various programs, attending various workshops, reading every book known to man, only to be more frustrated and downtrodden because it doesn't seem to work out for them.

The carrot can't be caught in other words...

Not to entirely frustrate you, but usually guys who are good at the 'game' were good at it already...or pretty good at it already...the only brain which thinks a bunch of lines and gimmicks are going to work is the same brain that led you to be frustrated, lonely, and socially awkward in the first place. Let me repeat that:

"the only brain which thinks a bunch of lines and gimmicks are going to work is the same brain that led you to be frustrated, lonely, and socially awkward in the first place"

In other words, your diagnosis might be a bit off.

The community - whether it's a competing company, a web-board, a lair..whatever - thrives on dangling a carrot out there in front of you claiming that your life will change in 13 seconds if you just buy this product...etc...

This methodology is certainly lucrative - just ask Tony Robbins - but it doesn't usually translate into success. THERE IS NO QUICK FIX TO YOUR PROBLEM...and anyone who claims otherwise doesn't deserve your attention, money, time, or bandwidth.

Most of what you read online is total BS by the way - the webboards which feature endless posts by supposed experts are normally 30% truth. I have watched so many guys doctor and change their posts to relay a much larger, and more glorified representation of the truth. HB6's suddenly are HB9's etc.

So, what follows is a reasonable expectation for you - something actually attainable - and not something designed to get you to purchase my products.

1) Begin - analyze your social life. How many friends do you have? How many are male and how many are female? How often do you see them? How often do you go out with a friend or a group of friends? How do you meet new women (if at all)? How do you make friends? If you have had a relationship, how did it happen? (In my experience, a guy tends to meet women the same way his entire life - so, if the last 9 girlfriends you had were met via another friend, my money is on the next one happening that way IN SPITE of how you feel about cold approaches).

2) Once you have written down some honest answers, give yourself SMALL goals to reach with a month's time to reach them. So, if your social circle is 5 people - try to double it in a month's time. Within a month, your circle has grown to 10...

3) If you don't meet 5 new people on a weekly basis, your social life is not active enough. If that is the case, you need to branch out. Here are some ideas:

- classes
- events
- openings
- parties
- hobbies
- friends
- cold approach (notice how this is one of 7 ways...)

MOST couples come together via social circle - NOT THROUGH COLD APPROACHING - so, why waste your time trying to get good at that when you can easily get good at the others, meet TONS of new women (and make cool guy friends) and improve your lifestyle as a result?

Why put your life on hold just to get laid? Why not accelerate your life forward, and then get laid or even....meet someone for a relationship...

4) Lead your social circle - study all about John Goddard, make your list, get started and then invite everyone else to come along for the ride...LEAD in other words. Become the magnet to mission, purpose and excitement.

5) And by the way - what IS your mission or purpose in your life anyway?? Do you know? If not, now would be a good time to write a bit about that and start to get an idea...nothing as unattractive as a loose balloon being blown about by the wind...

6) Go to a tailor and get fitted for your sizes right away. Never buy clothing that doesn't fit again.

7) Get in shape - go to the gym MINIMUM 3 times per week. And if you want to know...I swim...and love it...great for the mind, body, joints, you name it.

8) Clean your apartment - do it tonight. Wash the dishes when you're done eating, and make your bed in the morning.

9) Go to the dentist, and have your teeth cleaned. Be sure to correct any bad breath issues you may have. You might be the nicest, coolest, most handsome guy in the world - and with bad breath, you'll never see approaching lips...

10) Stop wasting your time doing things you like, and only go things you love...

Now remember, set reasonable expectations on your progress. Nothing worthwhile is going to happen in even a month. But a year from now - and trust me, that is not long and is WAY shorter than the amount of time needed to get good at the cold approach - you can expect very significant progress and change, if you are diligent and disciplined.

If you want a girlfriend, and a healthy relationship - YOU ARE WASTING YOUR TIME DOING COLD APPROACHES. You must create a lifestyle and image which are attractive and healthy - you can't have a healthy relationship with another until you have one with yourself - which means honoring your deepest wishes, and the precious time you have here on earth (this is first and foremost)! Stop wasting time...start really living, and watch as your entire framework for relating to women change.

And to finish the first paragraph - my job, as a reporter recently noted, is to rewire guys away from the community beliefs, into beliefs which actually serve and are rooted in REALITY...that's what I do about once per week...not bad, but a shame that so many well-intentioned guys get such bad direction from other equally clueless guys...



For an example of such a website: www.spiritual-seduction.com (this 19 year old has been in the community for less than 6 months, hardly a "guru") Thoughts, comments?

For more Stephen Nash and his thoughts on the game, community and dating, check out his Seduction Master's Interview here.