Below are just a few of many tips you can use to flirt with attractive women.
Flirting is an art form essentially and as I say with anything else practice is what makes you proficient.
Flirting Tip #1 Have a good time as opposed to "picking up" women will sense you want something from them and will be weirded out. Try not to have an outcome or objective from the interaction apart from "let's see how much fun I can have tonight".
Guys with this mentality seem to get more success as they sub-communicate this mindset during the flirting process.
If you're walking into a bar now with a mate and look like predators "scopeing" the place out then women will sense this. NOT GOOD.
My advice is to not have an agenda as it puts undue pressure on yourself to perform and that's the last thing you want.
For example if you told yourself you have to collect 4 phone numbers tonight when you're out and by the end of the night you only had 1 how would you feel?
Not too good huh?
Have the only objective to go out and make women smile, have fun with your buddies, stay sober and improve your flirting skills.
Flirting Tip #2 Flirting is essentially teasing a woman in a playful way. If you tease her period she'll think you're a jerk and walk away so be warned also take a look at cocky and funny.
However if you tease her and it also makes her laugh then that is good flirting and you'll get far in this game.
If you're completely bald a funny thing to say to a woman you've just met is:
"Hey there ...I just noticed your hair and it has a radiant shine ...you have to let me in on your secret as I've tried every conditioner under the sun and I still cant make it look as radiant as yours ...
Women love this humor...
For more information look through cocky and funny by David DeAngelo.
It's playful, cocky, funny and essentially teases them in a playful way or i.e. FLIRTING
Flirting Tip #3 Touch them playfully as much as you can.
The more you touch women (neutral places here guys) the more she'll feel comfortable around you. Too many guys I know still wait 5-10 minutes to even HUG HER! I on the other hand start the hugging process within 30 seconds.
The idea behind this is simply to get her use to your touch and convey you're comfortable doing this. Which is an attractive trait.
If you plan on kissing her the same night then you MUST touch her early on in the interaction (she'll take this as you're flirting with her).
Flirting can conveyed through two (2) channels: 1. Voice 2. Body Language
When I say flirting through the voice what that means is simply teasing through your tonality and making her react to you on several different levels i.e shocked, laughing, jealousy, excited and more. Ideally the more emotions you elicit from her the more attraction you'll build up.
Flirting through body language is playfully touching her, thumb wars, hand slaps, hi-five her, back turning her, hugging her, using your facial expressions etc
This sub-communicates far more than words could ever do ...
Flirting Tip #4 Flirting is more powerful if you convey directly that you like her. I found going "direct" and saying she's cute and I'm surprised she doesn't have a boyfriend to work well and THEN I flirt with her.
I especially enjoying doing this during the day when approaching women as it's fun and the results are very powerful if delivered correctly.
This conveys I know what I want and go after it and that I'm confident.
This takes a little practice to do though guys. If you say this and you're not congruent with it then it'll come across as lame so it's better if you're approached many women before this.
However when you do eventually reach a level where you can comfortable flirt with her directly then you will see amazing results within you.
Scenarios you would had never though possible and reactions you would never expect (positive) will come to surface, it's funny as I write this as I know you'd look back the last few years and wonder "wow ...I could have said this direct stuff years ago"
Yes and you'd be right ...
Talk soon! Alex
Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.
For more information and to claim access to Alex Coulson's "5 Step System" Audio E-course for FREE (limited time only) head over to http://www.alexcoulson.com
Monday, December 31, 2007
Dating Advice For Men - For Modern Men
Well gents,
There’s plenty of dating advice out there for men however it’s seldom you come across advice that you can actually out to some good use.
A lot of advice helps men when they IN a relationship and not how to get into one.
Some AWESOME Dating Advice is on it’s way …
Dating Advice Tip #1 Clean breath is important, don’t overlook this! The last thing a girl wants to do is be around a guys with zombie breath let a lone kiss somebody with this stench. Good oral hygiene is important and CRITICAL when it comes to first dates and going out ‘on the town’ for search of the lucky girl.
For more good tips visit http://www.alexcoulson.com and claim access to your Free “5 Step System” Audio Course (limited time only).
Dating Advice Tip #2 Dress well and don’t look like a dag/bum/forrest gump.
Women want men who dress sharp. So make sure the side burns are in check, you’re clean shaven, you have sharp cologne, clean clothing/shoes.
You will notice a lot more people paying attention to you, you’ll also get more respect. As the saying goes “a man cannot expect respect if he doesn’t respect himself”
Dress to stand out always. Don’t dress like a gigolo or ‘player’ as this has a very negative connotation to it. You should dress pimp as pimp is FUN.
Velvet jackets, snake boots, spikes hair, fake tattoos, bling bling.
Dating Advice Tip #3 Smile. This is overlooked and is important when it comes to dating advice.
If you look like you’re out to have fun and enjoy yourself then people especially women will notice this and would want to join in. They’ll prefer to hang around a guy that is the party than somebody that comes across he’s trying to “pick up” or get it on with her : )
This comes later …
The most successful guys I’ve seen with women look like they’ve known them for ages, like they’re long lost friends, they’re cracking jokes, smiling, playful hitting them and enjoying themselves.
His mindset is “he’s the party” and he’s inviting them into his reality. He’s the prize and they’re joining in with him.
If they do something which disrupts “his” party ie. Gives him challenges, acts all princessy, brings the energy down then no matter how hot she looks she’s OUT.
Always be willing to walk away from anything. This principle applies in business especially but is as important in relationships and dating.
By being able to walk away you have and hold onto the power.
For more good tips visit http://www.alexcoulson.com and claim access to your Free “5 Step System” Audio Course (limited time only).
Dating Advice Tip #4 Be prepared.
Some good advice on dating is be prepared with your conversation starter and a back up story or routine.
The last thing you want to do it blow the set open, have them laughing at everything you say and running out of things to say …then what do you say?
“Ummm ….It was great meeting you girls … I have to go …”
No. This is the worst thing to do. Stay in there as long as you can and push the interaction as far as you can.
After your conversation starter have a prepared story to tell about anything. It doesn’t have to be related to your conversation starter just spit out whatever
If you keep talking they’ll probably stay, if you stop talking they’ll def leave.
Dating Advice Tip #5 Have great body language. Learn to hold interactions with strong powerful body language.
-Keep your shoulders back -Chest high, groin out, stomach in -Smile -Touch the girls as much as you can -Deepen your voice -Don’t move or talk to quickly -Don’t give the girls too much attention early on in the interaction
If it helps you should go to the gym. Not only will you feel more empowered with good body language you’ll also get more IOIs and women can approach you sometimes (don’t rely on this though but sometimes it happens)
Dating Advice Tip #6 The best advice I can give is to go out there and do it. The more you try and test in the ‘real word;’ the better you’ll become and the more proficient you’ll get.
After awhile you’ll start seeing consistent results after approaching so many women. You’ll collect 3-4 phone numbers on a single day or night. (assuming you approach at least 3-4 women that is) : )
Talk soon Alex www.alexcoulson.com
Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.
For more information and to claim access to Alex Coulson’s “5 Step System” Audio E-course for FREE (limited time only) head over to http://www.alexcoulson.com
There’s plenty of dating advice out there for men however it’s seldom you come across advice that you can actually out to some good use.
A lot of advice helps men when they IN a relationship and not how to get into one.
Some AWESOME Dating Advice is on it’s way …
Dating Advice Tip #1 Clean breath is important, don’t overlook this! The last thing a girl wants to do is be around a guys with zombie breath let a lone kiss somebody with this stench. Good oral hygiene is important and CRITICAL when it comes to first dates and going out ‘on the town’ for search of the lucky girl.
For more good tips visit http://www.alexcoulson.com and claim access to your Free “5 Step System” Audio Course (limited time only).
Dating Advice Tip #2 Dress well and don’t look like a dag/bum/forrest gump.
Women want men who dress sharp. So make sure the side burns are in check, you’re clean shaven, you have sharp cologne, clean clothing/shoes.
You will notice a lot more people paying attention to you, you’ll also get more respect. As the saying goes “a man cannot expect respect if he doesn’t respect himself”
Dress to stand out always. Don’t dress like a gigolo or ‘player’ as this has a very negative connotation to it. You should dress pimp as pimp is FUN.
Velvet jackets, snake boots, spikes hair, fake tattoos, bling bling.
Dating Advice Tip #3 Smile. This is overlooked and is important when it comes to dating advice.
If you look like you’re out to have fun and enjoy yourself then people especially women will notice this and would want to join in. They’ll prefer to hang around a guy that is the party than somebody that comes across he’s trying to “pick up” or get it on with her : )
This comes later …
The most successful guys I’ve seen with women look like they’ve known them for ages, like they’re long lost friends, they’re cracking jokes, smiling, playful hitting them and enjoying themselves.
His mindset is “he’s the party” and he’s inviting them into his reality. He’s the prize and they’re joining in with him.
If they do something which disrupts “his” party ie. Gives him challenges, acts all princessy, brings the energy down then no matter how hot she looks she’s OUT.
Always be willing to walk away from anything. This principle applies in business especially but is as important in relationships and dating.
By being able to walk away you have and hold onto the power.
For more good tips visit http://www.alexcoulson.com and claim access to your Free “5 Step System” Audio Course (limited time only).
Dating Advice Tip #4 Be prepared.
Some good advice on dating is be prepared with your conversation starter and a back up story or routine.
The last thing you want to do it blow the set open, have them laughing at everything you say and running out of things to say …then what do you say?
“Ummm ….It was great meeting you girls … I have to go …”
No. This is the worst thing to do. Stay in there as long as you can and push the interaction as far as you can.
After your conversation starter have a prepared story to tell about anything. It doesn’t have to be related to your conversation starter just spit out whatever
If you keep talking they’ll probably stay, if you stop talking they’ll def leave.
Dating Advice Tip #5 Have great body language. Learn to hold interactions with strong powerful body language.
-Keep your shoulders back -Chest high, groin out, stomach in -Smile -Touch the girls as much as you can -Deepen your voice -Don’t move or talk to quickly -Don’t give the girls too much attention early on in the interaction
If it helps you should go to the gym. Not only will you feel more empowered with good body language you’ll also get more IOIs and women can approach you sometimes (don’t rely on this though but sometimes it happens)
Dating Advice Tip #6 The best advice I can give is to go out there and do it. The more you try and test in the ‘real word;’ the better you’ll become and the more proficient you’ll get.
After awhile you’ll start seeing consistent results after approaching so many women. You’ll collect 3-4 phone numbers on a single day or night. (assuming you approach at least 3-4 women that is) : )
Talk soon Alex www.alexcoulson.com
Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.
For more information and to claim access to Alex Coulson’s “5 Step System” Audio E-course for FREE (limited time only) head over to http://www.alexcoulson.com
Tuesday, December 18, 2007
Pick Up Women- 6 Tips to Master Your Pickup Skills
Have you always wanted to be the sort of guy that girls adore? You know �" the sharp suited alpha male who seems to have his pick of the women?
Of course you have!
And you can be.
I've gathered the six traits that all great pick up artists have in common, and they're easier to emulate than you might imagine. Follow the steps outlined below and you, too, could be one of the frequently chosen ones.
1. An Appreciation of the Finer Things
Pick up artists don't just appreciate a pretty girl; they admire any person of quality and any item of beauty �" and they ensure that they're surrounded by them.
If you're still dressing like a student and living with your parents, it's time to upgrade. Invest in some well styled clothes, get a sharp new haircut and consider developing a skincare routine.
Scrap all your shabby posters and heavily stained bed linen. A seductive bachelor pad has clean lines, simple décor and no suspicious odors �" isn't it time you were in living in one?
2. Humor
Girls are always assuring us that they'd rather meet a man with a great sense of humor than a male model. And this isn't one of those clever little mind games they to play; it's true.
If you can make a woman laugh and smile she will come to associate spending time with you with feelings of happiness. But before you start practicing your knock knock jokes, bear in mind that few girls are looking for slapstick; when they say “good sense of humor” they mean an upbeat attitude when faced with adversity and a fairly quick wit at other times.
3. Physical Confidence
Pick up artists exude an air of confidence �" and a lot of this is to do with their body language. Players stand tall in the center of a room, they make eye contact with the women they're talking to and their relaxed smile is always inviting.
If you're a fan of hunching in inconspicuous corners, no girl is ever going to notice you. Adopt a more laid back, confident posture and you'll be amazed by the positive results.
4. Patience and Honesty
The truly confident man doesn't have to fool a woman into going home with him, nor does he need to apply any pressure. Don't try to trick girls into believing you're someone you're not, don't promise a future you have no intention of offering, and never try to bully a woman into doing something she isn't sure she's into.
If you take the time to get to know a girl and you treat her with respect you will soon make the right impression.
5. Conversational Skills
Do gorgeous girls leave you tongue tied? Consciously slow your speech down, adopt a low, steady tone and try to breathe with your stomach �" by calming your speech patterns you will instantly appear much more confident.
Remember that your goal is to get her interest, so don't undo all your hard work by being self-deprecating.
Charm her by showing an interest in what she's saying and asking leading questions. Have a few emergency topics on stand-by; everyone has an answer to questions like “how would you spend your lottery millions?” and “where's your dream vacation?” so keep them on reserve.
6. Female Friends
The ultimate pick up artist accessory is a female best friend. A female friend's recommendation if worth more than any number of males'; when a cute chick see another gorgeous girl spending time with you, she assumes that you're someone worth knowing.
The secret to becoming the ultimate pick up artist is to act like you deserve to be one. Show pride in yourself, your surroundings and your achievements and any woman will be proud to be seen on your arm.
Want to learn 50 WAYS for approaching, attracting and seducing women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson's Free eBook which provides 50 tips for instant dating success.
Of course you have!
And you can be.
I've gathered the six traits that all great pick up artists have in common, and they're easier to emulate than you might imagine. Follow the steps outlined below and you, too, could be one of the frequently chosen ones.
1. An Appreciation of the Finer Things
Pick up artists don't just appreciate a pretty girl; they admire any person of quality and any item of beauty �" and they ensure that they're surrounded by them.
If you're still dressing like a student and living with your parents, it's time to upgrade. Invest in some well styled clothes, get a sharp new haircut and consider developing a skincare routine.
Scrap all your shabby posters and heavily stained bed linen. A seductive bachelor pad has clean lines, simple décor and no suspicious odors �" isn't it time you were in living in one?
2. Humor
Girls are always assuring us that they'd rather meet a man with a great sense of humor than a male model. And this isn't one of those clever little mind games they to play; it's true.
If you can make a woman laugh and smile she will come to associate spending time with you with feelings of happiness. But before you start practicing your knock knock jokes, bear in mind that few girls are looking for slapstick; when they say “good sense of humor” they mean an upbeat attitude when faced with adversity and a fairly quick wit at other times.
3. Physical Confidence
Pick up artists exude an air of confidence �" and a lot of this is to do with their body language. Players stand tall in the center of a room, they make eye contact with the women they're talking to and their relaxed smile is always inviting.
If you're a fan of hunching in inconspicuous corners, no girl is ever going to notice you. Adopt a more laid back, confident posture and you'll be amazed by the positive results.
4. Patience and Honesty
The truly confident man doesn't have to fool a woman into going home with him, nor does he need to apply any pressure. Don't try to trick girls into believing you're someone you're not, don't promise a future you have no intention of offering, and never try to bully a woman into doing something she isn't sure she's into.
If you take the time to get to know a girl and you treat her with respect you will soon make the right impression.
5. Conversational Skills
Do gorgeous girls leave you tongue tied? Consciously slow your speech down, adopt a low, steady tone and try to breathe with your stomach �" by calming your speech patterns you will instantly appear much more confident.
Remember that your goal is to get her interest, so don't undo all your hard work by being self-deprecating.
Charm her by showing an interest in what she's saying and asking leading questions. Have a few emergency topics on stand-by; everyone has an answer to questions like “how would you spend your lottery millions?” and “where's your dream vacation?” so keep them on reserve.
6. Female Friends
The ultimate pick up artist accessory is a female best friend. A female friend's recommendation if worth more than any number of males'; when a cute chick see another gorgeous girl spending time with you, she assumes that you're someone worth knowing.
The secret to becoming the ultimate pick up artist is to act like you deserve to be one. Show pride in yourself, your surroundings and your achievements and any woman will be proud to be seen on your arm.
Want to learn 50 WAYS for approaching, attracting and seducing women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson's Free eBook which provides 50 tips for instant dating success.
How We Get Blown Out by Women
You are walking down the sidewalk when you see your ideal woman, total goddess, walking toward you.
Now when you think about, it seems like it might be the most natural thing in the world to genuinely go over and interact with this beautiful creature, and yet for most men that's not the case.
Quite the contrary, right?
"I'm genuinely attracted and interested in these women and yet I'm consistently terrified, terrified to approach them...What's up? What's going on here?"
This is where coming at this from an inner game perspective can make a huge difference, FAST.
A lot of women, women that we are just undeniably drawn to, are literally radiating a lot of what I call 'feminine energy'.
Yet ironically, for a lot of men this is both the source of your attraction and your contraction.
We close down in the face of her radiance because of how little capacity we have to receive or be with a lot of sensation in general.
In more common language we're getting "blown out". She's kicking a lot of feminine juju and we're getting energetically short-circuited before we even start our approach. Starting to sound familiar now?
Later on you'll realize what you would've liked to say, or the perfect joke you could've made...Yet for many if you it's as if you're not functioning, literally short-circuiting, in those moments.
Good news:
Men can proactively cultivate more presence with radiant women.
You might have to experience this directly to fully understand it, but you might have noticed that a lot of men who take to this work more naturally have practiced a lot of martial arts or yoga. They have actively cultivated the capacity to fully be with a lot of sensation and intensity without losing their center.
Whether you go out and start working on your black belt or not, I've actually found that for most of you simply becoming aware of how you close off from feeling can make a huge difference. With or without intense training, you can be with a lot more energy than you think, once you at least know to try.
Really Get This: The source of you shutting down with extraordinarily beautiful women, in those clutch moments, is you hutting down from what you're feeling!
Now, what to do about it?
You have to start by getting familiar, real cozy with the particular ways that you habitually close off from intense sensations. Your hands get clammy, knot in your stomach, you start thinking not so empowering thoughts repeatedly...?
What are the specific ways you personally shut down what you're feeling?
Start tracking the sensations in your body and the thoughts that fire off. Keep breathing deeply…because holding tight and stopping your breath are all good ways to avoid feeling.
By bringing awareness to these reactive tendencies, without trying to suppress, change or fix them, we begin to make room for them. And this is the beginning of having freedom from these reactions.
We go into more detail about this in the FREE Special Report from AMP on the Ultimate Guide to Overcoming ‘Inner Game’ Sticking Points with Women
To get it, go to: http://www.AuthenticManProgram.com/
Decker
President, Authentic Man Program
Travis Decker is co-founder and facilitator of the Authentic Man Program, committed to supporting men in having authentic, flourishing, kick-ass relationships with women. He specializes in helping men overcome their "inner game" sticking points with women. www.AuthenticManProgram.com
Now when you think about, it seems like it might be the most natural thing in the world to genuinely go over and interact with this beautiful creature, and yet for most men that's not the case.
Quite the contrary, right?
"I'm genuinely attracted and interested in these women and yet I'm consistently terrified, terrified to approach them...What's up? What's going on here?"
This is where coming at this from an inner game perspective can make a huge difference, FAST.
A lot of women, women that we are just undeniably drawn to, are literally radiating a lot of what I call 'feminine energy'.
Yet ironically, for a lot of men this is both the source of your attraction and your contraction.
We close down in the face of her radiance because of how little capacity we have to receive or be with a lot of sensation in general.
In more common language we're getting "blown out". She's kicking a lot of feminine juju and we're getting energetically short-circuited before we even start our approach. Starting to sound familiar now?
Later on you'll realize what you would've liked to say, or the perfect joke you could've made...Yet for many if you it's as if you're not functioning, literally short-circuiting, in those moments.
Good news:
Men can proactively cultivate more presence with radiant women.
You might have to experience this directly to fully understand it, but you might have noticed that a lot of men who take to this work more naturally have practiced a lot of martial arts or yoga. They have actively cultivated the capacity to fully be with a lot of sensation and intensity without losing their center.
Whether you go out and start working on your black belt or not, I've actually found that for most of you simply becoming aware of how you close off from feeling can make a huge difference. With or without intense training, you can be with a lot more energy than you think, once you at least know to try.
Really Get This: The source of you shutting down with extraordinarily beautiful women, in those clutch moments, is you hutting down from what you're feeling!
Now, what to do about it?
You have to start by getting familiar, real cozy with the particular ways that you habitually close off from intense sensations. Your hands get clammy, knot in your stomach, you start thinking not so empowering thoughts repeatedly...?
What are the specific ways you personally shut down what you're feeling?
Start tracking the sensations in your body and the thoughts that fire off. Keep breathing deeply…because holding tight and stopping your breath are all good ways to avoid feeling.
By bringing awareness to these reactive tendencies, without trying to suppress, change or fix them, we begin to make room for them. And this is the beginning of having freedom from these reactions.
We go into more detail about this in the FREE Special Report from AMP on the Ultimate Guide to Overcoming ‘Inner Game’ Sticking Points with Women
To get it, go to: http://www.AuthenticManProgram.com/
Decker
President, Authentic Man Program
Travis Decker is co-founder and facilitator of the Authentic Man Program, committed to supporting men in having authentic, flourishing, kick-ass relationships with women. He specializes in helping men overcome their "inner game" sticking points with women. www.AuthenticManProgram.com
Body Language To ATTRACT Women - 4 Tips You MUST Know
We all know that body lanaguage counts for 97% of our communication yet most of us focus on our core outer game learning techniques, lines, and one line gambits.
Is this you?
There's nothing wrong with doing that ... however if that's ALL you doing we'll need to work on this...
"Using body language to attract women" is a lot more difficult put into practice than said as it takes a few months at least to callibrate and 'unlearn' bad body language.
Have you ever seen attractive hot women around not so good looking guys?
Of course you have! so what are they doing that I'm not was what I asked myself many years ago.
Notice how the way they present themselves, the way they stand and hold themselves, how they speak to women, authoritivly, firm yet also kind and frienly like.
This is all in their body language and this includes:
-Stance; facing girls to eaglery and early on conveys "needy rapport seeking behavoir" so occasionly backturn and point your feet in another direction.
Always keep your back straight, shoulders back, chest out, groin out, stomach in (do I sound like a drill instructor) : )
-Eye contact; dont STARE as this is creepy, however domt look around and avoid eye contact, and make sure you blink. I've met guys who don't blink and it's a little off putting, I'm sure this dries your eyes out too.
-Touch the girls!; if you dont touch them then it'll convey your not comfortable touching women, women dont want this kind of guy, women want men that are comfortable around them. The trick here is to treat them like a frined ...
-Voice tonality; be LOUD, the biggest stepping stone in my game was the strenght of my voice. The louder I became I noticed I was holding my inteeractions for a lot longer.
How would you treat a mate of yours? Exactly!
It comes down to finding a balance beacsue being a total dick yelling at women won't get you laid, however being too nice and rapport seeking defintly wont get you laid (you know this already) so where is this balance you ask?
It comes down to practice and observation then more practice.
Body Language Tips #1 The first tip is to be as RELAXED as you can, imagine a sudden calm coming over you, take a deep breath and exhale over 5 seconds. If your relaxed it'll help you feel more "in the moment" and your body language will communicate this. You will also have much better and longer intereactions with women.
Remember when talking to women you've just met dont give them too much attention, keep your frame strong and upward (dont slouch), and speak from your diagphram so your voice is deep and LOUD.
Body Language Tips #2 Treat them like a mate. If your mate says something funny you would laugh and slap them on the back (gently). Why should this be any diifrent to a woman?
If you want her to feel comfortable in your presence you have to SHOW that you're comfortable by displaying you're not afraid to treat her like a buddy.
Body Language Tips #3 Take up space. Have you ever noticed that the body language of high status males is relaxed and 'sprwaling', they take up a lot of space. High stautus men are not afreaid to taking up other peoples room, they sit with their legs apart, their arms unfolded and look like they're sitting in their living room. This ideally should be the way you are sitting.
You will have to fake it until you make it.
Body Language Tips #4 SMILE and keep your body lanaguage positive. Try to keep your posture open, your arms and legs unfolded, your chin up and move slowly. Imagine you're under water ideally that's how slow you should be moving.
Talk soon!
Alex
Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.
For more information and to claim access to Alex Coulson's "5 Step System" Audio E-course for FREE (limited time only) head over to http://www.alexcoulson.com
Is this you?
There's nothing wrong with doing that ... however if that's ALL you doing we'll need to work on this...
"Using body language to attract women" is a lot more difficult put into practice than said as it takes a few months at least to callibrate and 'unlearn' bad body language.
Have you ever seen attractive hot women around not so good looking guys?
Of course you have! so what are they doing that I'm not was what I asked myself many years ago.
Notice how the way they present themselves, the way they stand and hold themselves, how they speak to women, authoritivly, firm yet also kind and frienly like.
This is all in their body language and this includes:
-Stance; facing girls to eaglery and early on conveys "needy rapport seeking behavoir" so occasionly backturn and point your feet in another direction.
Always keep your back straight, shoulders back, chest out, groin out, stomach in (do I sound like a drill instructor) : )
-Eye contact; dont STARE as this is creepy, however domt look around and avoid eye contact, and make sure you blink. I've met guys who don't blink and it's a little off putting, I'm sure this dries your eyes out too.
-Touch the girls!; if you dont touch them then it'll convey your not comfortable touching women, women dont want this kind of guy, women want men that are comfortable around them. The trick here is to treat them like a frined ...
-Voice tonality; be LOUD, the biggest stepping stone in my game was the strenght of my voice. The louder I became I noticed I was holding my inteeractions for a lot longer.
How would you treat a mate of yours? Exactly!
It comes down to finding a balance beacsue being a total dick yelling at women won't get you laid, however being too nice and rapport seeking defintly wont get you laid (you know this already) so where is this balance you ask?
It comes down to practice and observation then more practice.
Body Language Tips #1 The first tip is to be as RELAXED as you can, imagine a sudden calm coming over you, take a deep breath and exhale over 5 seconds. If your relaxed it'll help you feel more "in the moment" and your body language will communicate this. You will also have much better and longer intereactions with women.
Remember when talking to women you've just met dont give them too much attention, keep your frame strong and upward (dont slouch), and speak from your diagphram so your voice is deep and LOUD.
Body Language Tips #2 Treat them like a mate. If your mate says something funny you would laugh and slap them on the back (gently). Why should this be any diifrent to a woman?
If you want her to feel comfortable in your presence you have to SHOW that you're comfortable by displaying you're not afraid to treat her like a buddy.
Body Language Tips #3 Take up space. Have you ever noticed that the body language of high status males is relaxed and 'sprwaling', they take up a lot of space. High stautus men are not afreaid to taking up other peoples room, they sit with their legs apart, their arms unfolded and look like they're sitting in their living room. This ideally should be the way you are sitting.
You will have to fake it until you make it.
Body Language Tips #4 SMILE and keep your body lanaguage positive. Try to keep your posture open, your arms and legs unfolded, your chin up and move slowly. Imagine you're under water ideally that's how slow you should be moving.
Talk soon!
Alex
Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.
For more information and to claim access to Alex Coulson's "5 Step System" Audio E-course for FREE (limited time only) head over to http://www.alexcoulson.com
Cocky & Funny - Playfully Teasing Women
how to be cocky and funny Cocky and funny is a term coined by David Deangelo author and creator of Double Your Dating.
Cocky and funny is the foundation of what David Deangelo teaches and is simply gaming using a simple style of "insulting with a smile" then making her laugh.
Very simple yes?
However if you're just starting out in this BEWARE as your results will be mixed and varied. Be weary of the way you pronounce the lines he gives you as you can come across as arrogant.
When I first discovered how to be cocky and funny with women, I was delighted as a new wave of oppurtunities came upon me. whenever I was out in coffee shops, bars, juice stations the waitresses would soon know me by name and know I would be bussting their balls so to speak.
Here's the deal...
Cocky and funny is a great tool for demonstrating that you're not an approval-seeking, butt-kissing, nice guy.
Used right, cocky & funny will attract women and demonstrate a lot of important traits that women are looking for in a guy, such as:
Confidence. Humour. Challenge. Unpredictability. Social intelligence. Used incorrectly and women will see you as too arrogant, insecure or weird. I leave it in your ball park ... How to be cocky and funny: Tip #1 CAFE: I'll just arrive at a cafe and take a seat so the waitress comes out and before she can take my order I'll say Alex: Hi there, can I take your order? Her: haha I'm supposed to say that! Alex: Really...I've been sitting here for the last 20 minutes without any coffee and look at me I'm all dehydrated ... BOOKSTORE: I'll be walking around a bookstore and spot an attractive woman flicking through a book Alex: Hi there ..you know I read that book recently it's a fantatcis book by the way... would you like to know the ending?
If you want to learn the cocky & funny secrets that I discovered after years of trial and error in real-life situations with women, then check out Street Dating Revealed in this DVD I reveal killer tips for meeting women during the day in cafes, park benches and even on the street.
How to be cocky and funny: Tip #2 Don't be overly cocky as you can overdo this part and come across as arrogant and insecure. You need to find the right balance. If you have too much cockiness you will come across as a jerk and if you use too much "funniness" you will come across as too much of a nice guy or a funny man, women want both in men they seek so try to strike the right balance here. How to be cocky and funny Tip #3 Approach this technique from a casual point and being playful rather than being too seruois about it. Women will sense if you're trying too hard and it'll turn her off
How to be cocky and funny: Tip #4 Practice as much you can, when you're ordering your coffee Alex: Hi there what coffee do you reccomend? Her: Oh you have to try the caramel mochacino! It's new, bigger etc Alex: Hmmm sounds nice ... I'll have a flat white Her: hahaha The more you practice cocky and funny the better you'll become at it and more callibrated you will seem. This is in essnce a very powerful technique and should be the basis of all your intereactions, you should always be teasing and playfull pushing her away and pulling her back in. The more you experiemnt the better you'll get. Talk to you soon Alex www.alexcoulson.com
Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.
For more information and to claim access to Alex Coulson's "5 Step System" Audio E-course for FREE (limited time only) head over to http://www.alexcoulson.com
Cocky and funny is the foundation of what David Deangelo teaches and is simply gaming using a simple style of "insulting with a smile" then making her laugh.
Very simple yes?
However if you're just starting out in this BEWARE as your results will be mixed and varied. Be weary of the way you pronounce the lines he gives you as you can come across as arrogant.
When I first discovered how to be cocky and funny with women, I was delighted as a new wave of oppurtunities came upon me. whenever I was out in coffee shops, bars, juice stations the waitresses would soon know me by name and know I would be bussting their balls so to speak.
Here's the deal...
Cocky and funny is a great tool for demonstrating that you're not an approval-seeking, butt-kissing, nice guy.
Used right, cocky & funny will attract women and demonstrate a lot of important traits that women are looking for in a guy, such as:
Confidence. Humour. Challenge. Unpredictability. Social intelligence. Used incorrectly and women will see you as too arrogant, insecure or weird. I leave it in your ball park ... How to be cocky and funny: Tip #1 CAFE: I'll just arrive at a cafe and take a seat so the waitress comes out and before she can take my order I'll say Alex: Hi there, can I take your order? Her: haha I'm supposed to say that! Alex: Really...I've been sitting here for the last 20 minutes without any coffee and look at me I'm all dehydrated ...
If you want to learn the cocky & funny secrets that I discovered after years of trial and error in real-life situations with women, then check out Street Dating Revealed in this DVD I reveal killer tips for meeting women during the day in cafes, park benches and even on the street.
How to be cocky and funny: Tip #2 Don't be overly cocky as you can overdo this part and come across as arrogant and insecure. You need to find the right balance. If you have too much cockiness you will come across as a jerk and if you use too much "funniness" you will come across as too much of a nice guy or a funny man, women want both in men they seek so try to strike the right balance here. How to be cocky and funny Tip #3 Approach this technique from a casual point and being playful rather than being too seruois about it. Women will sense if you're trying too hard and it'll turn her off
How to be cocky and funny: Tip #4 Practice as much you can, when you're ordering your coffee Alex: Hi there what coffee do you reccomend? Her: Oh you have to try the caramel mochacino! It's new, bigger etc Alex: Hmmm sounds nice ... I'll have a flat white
Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.
For more information and to claim access to Alex Coulson's "5 Step System" Audio E-course for FREE (limited time only) head over to http://www.alexcoulson.com
Wednesday, December 12, 2007
Romantic Christmas Gift Ideas for the Special Woman in Your Life
Picking out that perfect Christmas gift for your special girl can be extremely hard. - Whether you're buying on a budget, or buying for the girl who has everything, finding something wonderful, unique, and romantic every Christmas can be a daunting task! Every man wants to see his lady's face light up when he presents her that perfect gift, but what present will do that? Is it really as hard as it seems? Of course not! The great news is that romantic and memorable Christmas gifts don't always have to come from the wallet. - But with a bit of wit, ingenuity, and some romance, you can put together a Christmas present that will make her heart melt. Here are some great ideas for romantic and unique gifts that your girl will love to receive!
Gift baskets are an age-old tradition, and while they may sound a bit cheesy, with the right personality thrown in and a hint of romance, you can make a special little bundle that will appeal to her every tastes. The best place to start, of course, is with the staples - pick out some nice chocolate candies that you know she likes. Girls love tasty, well-decorated chocolate, so pick up a box or two. Throw in some nice flowers for looks, just a few pieces of her favorite fruit for class. Now, however, is where you want to really make it shine. Personalize it just for her, and make it romantic. Write her a special love note telling her how special she is to you and tuck it into the flowers. If there is a picture of the two of you together she really likes, include it as well. Also, keep in mind her likes and dislikes - if she likes a particular restaurant or place to shop, include a gift card so that she can indulge herself. You might pick out a CD if she wants one - anything small that makes it just right for her. Top it all off with a pretty bow, and you've got yourself a winner!
If you have an even smaller budget, or you're simply looking for a nice extra something to put under the tree for her, a memory box is a great way to go. A memory box is a way to capture many of the special memories the two of you have had throughout the past year. It tells her that you remember all of the small, wonderful things you do together, and that you enjoy every moment with her. Obviously you need the perfect box, and you can find them in all shapes and sizes at your local craft store. Ideally, you'll want something pretty that she can use as a decoration if she'd like, but it doesn't have to be anything fancy. Once you've found the perfect box, it's time to fill it with all of the important stuff. Pictures are a great idea, so try to find a few that are special and will remind her of something fun the two of you did together. If you've got a few small treasures from places you've visited, you can include those. Also, try to find a few small trinkets at the store that will remind her of something special. Once you've assembled the perfect memory box, wrap it up in paper, and prepare to see her heart melt.
There's nothing more romantic than curling up on the sofa in front of a toasty fire watching a movie with your loved one. - Which is why setting up the perfect movie night gift is not only a fun present, but a romantic one as well! Start off by finding one or more movies that she either loves or has really wanted to see, and buy them. Make sure to buy her favorite movie candies as well, and a big tub of yummy popcorn! Find a soft and pretty throw blanket as well and right there you have everything you need for a snuggle on the sofa and lots of movies to watch! Of course nothing makes this more romantic than actually doing the movie night, so make sure to find a time to turn out the lights, snuggle up, and watch them!
Finally is a very unique gift idea that takes classic romance, gives it a new-age twist, and combines it with pure functionality. Would your special someone like to have one of those handy USB drives? Those little sticks that plug into your computer and are used to save files are extremely useful, portable, and make a great gift. If you think she'd like one, you need to take this opportunity to really show her you're thinking about her! Go out and buy one that would be perfect for her, but instead of simply wrapping it up, open it. Plug it into your computer, and get to work. Compile a digital scrapbook of pictures. They can be of anything, just try to find things that will make her heart melt. A good idea is to use pictures that are special to her, and ones that are old and haven't been seen in a while. Once you've gotten them all together, save them onto the flash drive, along with a specially written love note from you. Find a box for it, wrap it up, and give it to her!
A loving and romantic present doesn't have to be expensive, and often the most romantic of gifts is the one that has a little bit of wit and ingenuity and a lot of love in it. Women love gifts that make memories, or remind them of beautiful ones they've had in the past, and by keeping this in mind it really isn't hard at all to find something wonderful to give to her this holiday season. Think outside the box, find her something wonderful and unique, and make this a Christmas to remember for your lovely lady!
Cole Carson is a successful entrepreneur and internet marketer. Buy Goji Juice today and get amazing results. - Find out why everybody loves Himalayan Goji Juice.
Gift baskets are an age-old tradition, and while they may sound a bit cheesy, with the right personality thrown in and a hint of romance, you can make a special little bundle that will appeal to her every tastes. The best place to start, of course, is with the staples - pick out some nice chocolate candies that you know she likes. Girls love tasty, well-decorated chocolate, so pick up a box or two. Throw in some nice flowers for looks, just a few pieces of her favorite fruit for class. Now, however, is where you want to really make it shine. Personalize it just for her, and make it romantic. Write her a special love note telling her how special she is to you and tuck it into the flowers. If there is a picture of the two of you together she really likes, include it as well. Also, keep in mind her likes and dislikes - if she likes a particular restaurant or place to shop, include a gift card so that she can indulge herself. You might pick out a CD if she wants one - anything small that makes it just right for her. Top it all off with a pretty bow, and you've got yourself a winner!
If you have an even smaller budget, or you're simply looking for a nice extra something to put under the tree for her, a memory box is a great way to go. A memory box is a way to capture many of the special memories the two of you have had throughout the past year. It tells her that you remember all of the small, wonderful things you do together, and that you enjoy every moment with her. Obviously you need the perfect box, and you can find them in all shapes and sizes at your local craft store. Ideally, you'll want something pretty that she can use as a decoration if she'd like, but it doesn't have to be anything fancy. Once you've found the perfect box, it's time to fill it with all of the important stuff. Pictures are a great idea, so try to find a few that are special and will remind her of something fun the two of you did together. If you've got a few small treasures from places you've visited, you can include those. Also, try to find a few small trinkets at the store that will remind her of something special. Once you've assembled the perfect memory box, wrap it up in paper, and prepare to see her heart melt.
There's nothing more romantic than curling up on the sofa in front of a toasty fire watching a movie with your loved one. - Which is why setting up the perfect movie night gift is not only a fun present, but a romantic one as well! Start off by finding one or more movies that she either loves or has really wanted to see, and buy them. Make sure to buy her favorite movie candies as well, and a big tub of yummy popcorn! Find a soft and pretty throw blanket as well and right there you have everything you need for a snuggle on the sofa and lots of movies to watch! Of course nothing makes this more romantic than actually doing the movie night, so make sure to find a time to turn out the lights, snuggle up, and watch them!
Finally is a very unique gift idea that takes classic romance, gives it a new-age twist, and combines it with pure functionality. Would your special someone like to have one of those handy USB drives? Those little sticks that plug into your computer and are used to save files are extremely useful, portable, and make a great gift. If you think she'd like one, you need to take this opportunity to really show her you're thinking about her! Go out and buy one that would be perfect for her, but instead of simply wrapping it up, open it. Plug it into your computer, and get to work. Compile a digital scrapbook of pictures. They can be of anything, just try to find things that will make her heart melt. A good idea is to use pictures that are special to her, and ones that are old and haven't been seen in a while. Once you've gotten them all together, save them onto the flash drive, along with a specially written love note from you. Find a box for it, wrap it up, and give it to her!
A loving and romantic present doesn't have to be expensive, and often the most romantic of gifts is the one that has a little bit of wit and ingenuity and a lot of love in it. Women love gifts that make memories, or remind them of beautiful ones they've had in the past, and by keeping this in mind it really isn't hard at all to find something wonderful to give to her this holiday season. Think outside the box, find her something wonderful and unique, and make this a Christmas to remember for your lovely lady!
Cole Carson is a successful entrepreneur and internet marketer. Buy Goji Juice today and get amazing results. - Find out why everybody loves Himalayan Goji Juice.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)